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Partner playing away for weekend.
February 07 2021
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MindSweeper
4 years ago
Just to be clear I see myself as a Stag so im not looking for, nor would I tolerate and humiliation. I just want to see my partner completely fulfilled sexually, as that turns me on to the max.
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Kokoflamingo
4 years ago
You might be playing with fire.........her feelings for this guy might be reignited. Why not look for another guy closer to home if its just the thought of her being with someone else that turns you on? If a partner admitted he had feelings for a play friend I doubt id be sending him off for a weekend with that person. Or maybe that risk is a thrill for you?
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FeistyFatty
4 years ago
Wow. This sounds fraught with danger. Way too many red flags for this little duck. Tread carefully.... both of you🤞🙏
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Phoenix_Rising
4 years ago
Will you be ok if you send her interstate and she doesn’t come back? It’s a very real possibility..
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nightingale8
4 years ago
What’s wrong with feelings? As long as she’s committed to you and the family, and can separate that new relationship energy from what she really values (I assume that’s you and the family) you’ll be ok. Seems like she’s already aware. It all comes down to the communication and support in your relationship. And of course she’s got to want this dynamic and do it on her terms. Relationships are built not found. Personally when I really, really connect with someone I fall a little bit in love. It’s that whole enveloped feeling so much I can lose my words altogether. That’s the amazing part about sex that it can do that. Enjoy.
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MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
Just for the record, it's not me. But happy to be sent away to be devowed. 🤣 Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
4 years ago
Hi Wolf My first involvement in swinging was 30+ years ago. And wow, the amount of busted and bruised relationships I've seen since.... It's an all too familiar thing of being all so confident of being in control of the relationship amidst the perils of the lifestyle. Such is what l read in your responses to the OP. You are not really asking the question because you are only accepting affirmation of your fantasy and ignoring any possibility of failure. Good luck though and hope l don't see the bitter follow up post later this year where your wife sailed of into the sunset and you are having trouble getting a root as a single male. Just saying, don't ignore some of the good advice in here, just because you have a hard on
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EarthQueen
4 years ago
I think you need to be careful. You state you only play as a couple and have had only one experience in a MFM with a friend. Why not just explore playing more as a couple first before considering sending her somewhere else? This is all new to you so kind of worth moving slowly yeah? She's already voiced her concerns to you which is great. She say she thinks she could play without "Falling in love totally?". This seems like a risk to take and kind of tempting her to fall for him more? I would stick with your base agreement for now and keep taking baby steps in your exploration together.
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Hotwivesclub
4 years ago
I feel qualified to reply. I think starting out the emotions are confusing for both parties. What's wise and fun is limiting play to one off meets until you both understand the dynamic you're creating. Hotwives need to build up a level of emotional protection IMO especially when you're playing with some of the hottest most charming guys out there. If and when you're ready for her to play solo don't be afraid to ask for video. On your/her phone/camera. Also safety protocols for solo play are very important. Hotwiving is a fun niche for couples whose dynamic is suited. As I said before when you start out emotions can be confusing so play things safe until you have more of a bearing about what's working for you.
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RHP User
4 years ago
I call BS
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Sawadee
4 years ago
We ' Mrs Sawadee and myself have played the hotwife experience twice , but never would we consider solo play... Too many variations to consider including safety ...
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2EssesExploring
4 years ago
We had an experience where I (Mr) joined another couple. There was immediate fireworks and attraction between me and the lady. So much so that she realised what she was missing. I loved the fireworks but both her and I and Mrs S knew we couldn’t continue as it would have ended badly. We are quite cerebral with sex so we do need to feel a deep attraction and desire to enjoy play but it can’t pass a certain threshold as there’s just too much to lose for us together but also there’s bound to always be one loser and we dont want to hurt anyone else either. The fantasy is great but some fantasies are better left untouched.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Why a whole weekend? Really they’d spent a few hours of that having sex the rest, what? Romance? Cuddling, sleeping entwined, talking, going out to eat, bonding, laughing, holding hands? Recipe for romantic feelings to likely bloom. Why not just ‘play dates’ with someone local where she comes home after and goes to bed with you.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Perfectly worded. Looking for trouble
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BeccyBec
4 years ago
That would be a big no for me. If I started to develop any feelings for a guy I was meeting it would need to be called to an instant, gear grinding halt. I think yo u would be chasing her off to another relationship if you went ahead. Back up a little, cool your heels and find other men.
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Sawadee
4 years ago
Whats the saying ... Play with fire ' you will get burnt.. Dont do anything you cant undo ?
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MindSweeper
4 years ago
I feel more deeply connected to Foxy than ever.
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Mrs_Deep_Love
4 years ago
Unlike other posters, I don't see an issue with this situation. Hubby and I lean towards polyamoury. I hope for my husband that he develops feelings for women he is involved with. I believe you can have 'many loves' with each love being special and different. I have a wonderful male friend in the lifestyle. He lives in NQ with his beautiful wife. I have feelings for him, feel attached to him, love his company and care deeply for him. We haven't slept together for a long time but maintain a closeness. A friendship that is forbidden in monogamous world. I am grateful to my husband that our marriage allows such meaningful friendships to be part of our lives. Perhaps you should research polyamoury? For us love is not something to be scared of or to run away from.
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Mrs_Deep_Love
4 years ago
Plus the 'reclaim' sex is likely to be pretty fucking hot when she comes back to you.
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Byron2Bay
4 years ago
I find it fascinating how different people can be. I don't think there's any one answer that fits all people. Even so, I am surprised by how many people here try to disconnect feelings from sex. And yet we have to be constantly watching out for our lovers which includes both our partners and the people we meet. As someone earlier said, feelings can be confusing when you are use to traditional life and then you open up to include others. If nothing else, the oxytocin of great sex stimulates love feelings. It's short lived and confusing, and certainly different from the qualities of true love. You have to have good communication. No subject can't be discussed in safety. It's a shared adventure even when you aren't in the same room... not that you want or need all the gory details, but you have to be able to share your feelings. And of course, you need to be pretty solid together to be solid apart.
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Justdoingstuff
4 years ago
If you have both discussed lots of possible outcomes and you both want it it is up to you to decide. We are both polyamorous so we understand feelings develop, it is how you act on them that matters. Both of us have loved and love other people, that love is different for each person. If you are thinking this is more how you guys are leaning look into it a bit more. Then communicate with each other about it all, then communicate some more, and then some more, and when you think you have done enough communicating, then do some more.
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JindaleeCpl
4 years ago
This is an interesting thread. The dangers outlined by other posters are certainly real, but they come with the territory. It is natural to develop feelings for others. It happens all the time in vanilla life, so swinging and hotwifing are no different. In fact, feelings are amplified by the intimate nature of the act. But that is not a bad thing - we swing and hotwife because it turns us on. My wife loves being a hotwife when she is with guys she likes. After more than two decades of sporadic hotwifing, there are quite a few guys she developed feelings for and that always made the encounters more exciting. It is also most likely that you (as a stag cuckold) will derive more pleasure and excitement when you know she really likes the guy. But as always, you do need to be careful. Going away for a weekend with a lover is a very intense and intimate act that may overload the senses and warp the judgement. We have always preferred the "one-nighters" for that reason. It may also be best if she tries a few more guys - for variety :) I hope you enjoy the hotwife ride!
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2filthyones
4 years ago
Sound hot as hell. As long as you both want it and have a deep trusting relationship then fuck yeah!
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RHP User
4 years ago
The fact that she can simply fall for someone over sexual intercourse basically states not to continue on with this fantasy stuff, otherwise you're both heading down a bit of a selfish path.
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MindSweeper
4 years ago
All systems are go. If you're interested I'll let you know how it goes. If not enjoy.
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MindSweeper
4 years ago
It was great. We all loved it, us it sparked a deeper level of communication about sex from my wonderful partner, Foxy.
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JohnAnn2227
4 years ago
We think you are risking too much. Your wife has already admitted to having feelings after one play date (and you were there) so how do you think she will go just one on on for a weekend? We have always had the rule that if feelings start to form then that guy or girl have to go. Our marriage is always first and extra lovers are just passion and excitement. Be careful!
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