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Partnership
January 23 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not looking for a life partner, just partners in sin.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you suggesting that people who use as you say 'vanilla dating sites' are boring sexually? Most of the women I have dated have been through meeting socially, or through friends and generally offline. Some have been incredibly sexual, adventurous women into pretty much everything I proposed to them. Conversely I have met women on RHP etc who have been as sexually adventurous and exciting as a box of hammers. I don't think it matters where or how you meet, the sexual connection between two people will largely depend on the connection, trust, attraction and other environmental factors such as upbringing, social attitudes, values, social circles, life experience etc. Sites like RHP fundamentally exist as a short cut or short circuit to those who seek particular sexual experiences without necessarily requiring a 'relationship'. It doesn't exclude meeting someone and having a committed relationship just as 'vanilla sites don't exclude meeting someone and having exciting, adventurous sex
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fit73' Are you suggesting that people who use as you say 'vanilla dating sites' are boring sexually? Most of the women I have dated have been through meeting socially, or through friends and generally offline. Some have been incredibly sexual, adventurous women into pretty much everything I proposed to them. Conversely I have met women on RHP etc who have been as sexually adventurous and exciting as a box of hammers. I don't think it matters where or how you meet, the sexual connection between two people will largely depend on the connection, trust, attraction and other environmental factors such as upbringing, social attitudes, values, social circles, life experience etc. Sites like RHP fundamentally exist as a short cut or short circuit to those who seek particular sexual experiences without necessarily requiring a 'relationship'. It doesn't exclude meeting someone and having a committed relationship just as 'vanilla sites don't exclude meeting someone and having exciting, adventurous sex However, I think the question is directed more to those who would never consider the possibility of forming a relationship with someone from RHP because it's 'just a sex site'.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Miss Litonya.....You're neglecting the fact that the majority of blokes in here who make up the (overwhelming) majority of members..... ...... already have a partner. She just doesn't know they're in here looking for others. lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
I enjoy the swinging life style, I am polyamorous, and I am bisexual, most people on vanilla sites are not into these things, nor do the understand them. I am not on RHP to find sex, I am here to find like minded people that understand me and accept my life style rather than judge me as morally corrupt which seems to be what many people presume when you say you are a BI swinger. I am not here to find a relationship, as much as I do not go out and socialise to find a partner, but I am always open to find someone special no matter where I am. Vanilla sites are for people looking for relationships. RHP is more about people seeking like minded people. I don't know what other guys are here for.
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
If I could find a partner in RHP for a long term relationship, that would be ideal, as I would already have an idea of her sexual preferences (as I can read the profile), as apposed to finding out the long way with someone on a Vanilla site. However, in my limited experience here, it appears most of the woman on RHP are not looking for long term relationships, or are Bi, or have strap-ons, (which I have no interest in). There appears to be very few looking for a long term (straight) relationship, and even fewer in my area. These factors mean the likelihood of me meeting a long term partner on RHP in my area very slim. Most Woman on Vanilla sites though are generally looking for a long term relationship, there's the difference. (Still not too many in my area, but them's the brakes :-)
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madotara69
10 years ago
Probably only those who feel uncomfortable with this. As too the attached men seeking sex with "women only" on the side and without their partner knowing (but more than she likely does anyway) Bi men, not so so for this reasoning in my fruit loop head. (another dimension to the meanings here now) Respectfully. I don't believe 90% of women lose their sexual desire in a relationship, maybe sexual interest. I mention often being the partners best friend as well lover and it seems the two need to become one for a healthy active sexual relationship for eva even, friendship covers the down times. If a bloke can't keep his partner sexually wanting, then I personally can't see how he would tickle other women's desires. It is not about turning up having a root, then fuck off on the prowl that will do much fantastic of anything for anyone. I understand there would be the "wait until you have walked a mile in these shoes" rebuttal and some blokes may think I am a cock sucker for raining on the glory. Fair enough. Think that is why so many attached men find themselves on a site like this looking for a quick fuck and so many women know that is all it would likely be. It kind of stands out that way from reading here over the time. And I don't hold much faith in the amount of attached men claiming they have the wife's permission to open play, "fuck off and root some woman if she will have you, good luck Romeo" is not really permission, its a sign. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
yes you got what I mean. So is there are difference in female/ male attitude to this? I found being on dating sites fucking boring, and the bottom line is always sex anyway.....so I can't understand that "males" single males make this finding a partner such a big deal on here. I know no one who is or has this mindset will replay because women would not take it lightly. So also my question is, are women more liberal thinkers when it involves partnership?
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6exxy
10 years ago
I don't think so. I'm not on any other site and hoping to find someone here. ☺️
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been here many years and I have heard lots of theories thrown around. From the fact that men think RHP women are too easy, or they actually want a good girl to present to their family which they can't find on RHP, to men thinking that RHP women are too adventurous and will never be satisfied with one man, that women are more open to risking their heart whereas men who have been hurt before do not open up easily to women anymore, etc. Or, may I suggest something? That most guys are pretty simply... errr I mean practical. If they want a long term relationship they go to a site where they know women are also looking for long term relationships. It would make sense, no? I suppose they figure that most women on RHP are only looking for casual friendships or sex and adventure, they are not looking to settle down with a husband. At the end of the day, if magic happens it will happen where ever you may meet. Personally I think that women come to RHP for adventure and to push their sexual boundaries, but they tire of it much sooner than men do and start to want something more meaningful, we just need to find a man that is in the same mind set really.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' I enjoy the swinging life style, I am polyamorous, and I am bisexual, most people on vanilla sites are not into these things, nor do the understand them. I am not on RHP to find sex, I am here to find like minded people that understand me and accept my life style rather than judge me as morally corrupt which seems to be what many people presume when you say you are a BI swinger. I am not here to find a relationship, as much as I do not go out and socialise to find a partner, but I am always open to find someone special no matter where I am. Vanilla sites are for people looking for relationships. RHP is more about people seeking like minded people. I don't know what other guys are here for. But Blindman..... seeking likeminded people..... for what purpose? A chat?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do women and men really think in different ways?Yes and no. We think in different ways not so much in how we think, but more as to what we prioritize. Especially in regard to sex where biological needs have shaped how we think of sex over the millions of years since we climbed down from the trees. Women are more tuned to the emotional needs associated with sex, men more so on the act it's self. This is at the primal level, the motivational system that drives us. We have our human cognitive ability that sets us apart from the rest of life. We share how we reason, the inner dialog, "I think there for I am" is the same between men and women. Wouldn’t it be logical to find a partner through RHP and not a vanilla side?I see many people that are frantically searching for partnership. Humans are highly socialized and we do not cope with isolation and loneliness very well. Most people are trained to think of partnership as pair bonding, one man one woman together. They do not seek a partner to get sex, they seek a partner to avoid loneliness, to be socially bonded. This is more powerful than the need for sex, Many, both men and women require only that a prospective partner show similar interest in each other to be acceptable as a partner. Where that is found , RHP, vanilla sites, or at church on Sundays is irrelevant. The logic I guess is for one to spread the bet and increase the odds of success Hmmm I am pondering this thought for a while.Why is this so?...I don’t know is it more prominent in the older generation or in all males, they look for a partner on the “Vanilla dating sites?In my thinking, as males so often complain they have not enough sex in their relationship, wouldn’t it be making sense to find a partner through RHP?The reason to have a partner is not sex, it is the human condition to be social, it is so powerful that we disregard sex when partnerships are established, only then when we are comfortable, when we have removed the need to not be alone do we start to want more. It would make more sense to find someone via RHP as it has a more open and frank expression of sex. But loneliness overrides all logic And are women more liberal when it comes to a partner and where they find one?I do not think so, I think women are generally more conservative. Social networking sites like RHP and the thousands of the social networking site attract particular qualities. RHP attracts people, men and women that are much more liberal in regard to sex than the general population. Biologically women have much more to invest in a partnership when considering the creation and ongoing support of children. This is part of how we (men/women) differ in our biological motivation to have sex. Women tend to safer and stable partners. Hmm, I don’t understand the two way thinking which males have......do you think when you find a woman on say E Harmony she is more material for a partnership???EHarmony is marketed to more conservative people. How men consider women on these sites is different from person to person. I am too different from the average male to have any clue what they want. I would give them the benefit of intelligence and would thus assume that they weigh each individual on their own merit. I personally would not draw any conclusion as to what type of person someone is based on what site they are on. Here on RHP their are very plain conservative women, to wild liberated women. I actualy find most women here on RHP to be to conservative for my liking Again I don’t understand.....wouldn’t it be much more logical to have a partner where the sex is wonderful and the personal side fits, and all this trouble with the sex is already dealt with?Yes it would. My parents where very liberal and I was told from very young. I should never marry anyone until I have lived together (including the sex). While at the same time the community we lived in said sex was only after marriage. My parent did not marry till I was 18 years old. they where public shamed and the target of much misunderstanding, especially from the strong religious values that infected the community. Sex is a minor part of a relationship, but if the sexual needs are mis matched frustration will develop and undermine the unity that is important in a relationship. Hmmm tell me you males out there, why is there such two way mindset to find a partner?I dont know of you have much evidence to say that this is a general rule or true. For some maybe, for most I do not think so, but I do not get along with most straight males so it is hard for me to know.
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
I hear what you are saying. Each to their own. Maybe people go on vanilla sites because it may be safe and they may be embarrassed to go on sites like rhp.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meeka... I would also add that the ratios here allow most women to set "their standards" at an amazingly high level, which is their right... Some fielding offers from amazing physical specimens... But, after the jading process has run its course there doesn't seem to be any resetting of their standards, which again is their right... But as we've seen in recent threads "I'm not happy with the men I'm attracting..." Also meeka, most people in here have the attention spans of gnats... That's men and women... The grass always looks nicer in the next paddock... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
If the magic/spark is there, it won't matter where or how you have met.....💋 HP, if the grass is greener in the other paddocks, it's because it's been covered in bullshit..... Oh and my standards/preferences aren't changing for anyone, I like what I like.....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
I saw a doco, about 10 years ago, I can't recall the title or the specific topic other than sex, relationships and sexuality... One of the subjects was a guy in his late 60s, lonely and frustrated about his inability to find someone special... Back in the day, (He actually recalled the day, date and time... :) ie "7:45 Friday 27th June 1971, I arrived at the mansion..." It seems that he got invited to Hugh Hefners pad one weekend, and managed to behave like a (polite) pig in a strawberry patch lol... It seems that he had his 15 minutes of fame... And he plowed his way through a host of calendar girls over the course of that weekend... Good on him right ? The problem was that he'd hardly had sex since !!!! He was a seemingly totally average guy, who had 3 days of sex with women who in his eyes were the ultimate woman... And that became his standard !!! If a woman wasn't pin up material it was "no thanks..." Even at the age of 60+ the only type of women he was sexually interested in was pin up girls in their 20s... And that is his right, but what a fool he has been... He has missed so many beautiful women, sexually and as potential life partners, all because he has unrealistic expectations... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think I get it lol I hope. I's a funny thing this thinking.........having such a liberal mind.....I believe 100% I have one.....for me its double standards....but what do I know I am not a male. I like the men on RHP, I am really lucky with what I attract......and it hasn't sparked yet.....or I am not telling the truth it spark a little bit with someone at the moment. And really sex feels so much better. But I could have smashed his face in as he said I am not a woman for a relationship because I am on RHP......I called him and asshole. LOl no we still seeing each other he is a strange one.........total strange to my thinking.....I must be nuts, I like him. I be frank I like RHP and I would rather find someone on here then Eharmony because the male I find on here, I believe I could talk about sex freely and that's what I like, I talk a lot about sex because its something what interest me a lot. Thank you for your input, and I admire the couples who have found each other or are still together and open and honest with each other in what they desire in sex. Sex is such an important part in our well being for all humans not only the pretty or able once, for all of us. Sex an Love be with you. L
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Well who can blame him really, I'm into Pin up girls too.... I think the thing for me is that I actually don't have a type, I like lots of different things and it's more about a package than a particular look in someone. But yes I'm fussy as to what package appeals to me.....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
You said something so profound, the funny thing is we are what we are....and some peopel eat only with their eyes and other with their soul. I med this male on here and believe me his photo was just awful, from his photo and he had only one photo on his profile, I should have not even spoken to him a second time, but something kept me persisting. After a long time we med for Lunch and I was really surprised how nice he looked in the flesh....I said why did you show such a terrible photo you look nice, his answer was I hate taking photo from myself. We got on very well and have med up now for a couple of times and I tell you I like him a lot. He has a nice figure for a 59 year old man his face is a bit raged and sun damaged he has not much hair anymore lol sorry now I laugh, still there is something what makes me buzz now when he touches me. Lol I follow my instinct my gut feeling and it just said invite this one. So yes when I would have not followed this gut feeling and only looked at his awful photos I would have missed out on a very sensual, kissable, hug able sexy male. Ohh he love my ass and I get each time the most beautiful lotion-ed butt massage anyone can have.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Litonya... Oh what a feeling huh ? :) No problems there lovinit... Consider this... When I fired up my profile here 2 years ago, I set my "looking for" as 35-55... For me 10 years+/- is usually the type of woman and person that I'm going to get along with... But hang on, I've just rolled over 48 !! My "looking for" should also roll over to 38-58, should it not ? How many of us have not changed that part of our profile in years ? And yet, we constantly get reminded that we shouldn't message a woman if we are not within her "looking for" demographic... Personally, if you have a upper limit of 45 I'd normally still say hi... Applying my personal test of "would she talk to me in the real world, or would she judge my appearance and character as being too old for her ?" But being RHP invariably it's not the person it's the age or other "ticked boxes" that count... Congratulations for your new personal connection Litonya, it's a sensational feeling isn't it ? The woman I'm seeing is so unlike any woman I've ever been involved with, which has bought challenges and rewards... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
the challenges we face when these type of humans walk on our path. lol ooh God help us.......lol I say each connection we embrace because we feel good about them is a positive.....and I am at the moment feeling it.:) Why, I have no fucking clue.....he is a grumpy shit lol lol still he touches me and I am vibrating lol. I believe it is also I let myself have feelings and this is wonderful I am so full of it at the moment
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RHP User
10 years ago
I liked what you have written, your comments to my questions. It makes sense, thank you. Mischievous.....you are so often so negative in your writing, why? Did you have bad experiences on RHP?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ok have not heard this yet......hmmm, I thought many women on here are open for a longer then one night stand 'ship" Ok, hmmm, it’s nice to hear your side, I will ponder that. I am on RHP, I think 3 years ( I have forgotten0, it’s a beautiful world which opened to me. I wouldn't mind now being with somebody a bit longer, what longer means is more than a night. Still I found this is as with everything you don't know will you click or not until you had a bit of a sex romp, which is very important to me. I don't wait for nothing anymore, each day could be my last one, who knows, so I look, meet, think and when my gut says yes have sex, naturally the other has to say yes too, I will have sex. Then after you know you like to see each other again or not.....I will not close myself off from feelings, which I find many do, because of past hurt. Loving is so precious to me that I am not really afraid of any feelings I experience with a man. I am impulsive, intensive and powerful. Gosh life love sex is soo wonderful.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm coming to the end of a relationship and I've been thinking that I'll probably avoid a relationship again unless.... My sexuality is a huge part of my personality, and it also makes up a huge (not all) part of any relationship I'm in. I'm naturally sensual and passionate so when I get someone I'm hot for...WHOOAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRR!! Anyway, because of this, I'm starting to think I might have a better chance at finding my kinda woman here. I'm not generally one for bullshit and glossing, I want a real human to grow and interact and create a sexual dynasty with, not a trophy to possess and adorn me or my ego. Does this help Litonya?
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are open minded people,closed minded people,clothed minded people ,unclothed minded people,kinky,straight,and all the different permutations in between...but humans are amazing,they can learn change and grow...who you are today,is not necessarily who you were yesterday or who you will be tomorrow.xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' There are open minded people,closed minded people,clothed minded people ,unclothed minded people,kinky,straight,and all the different permutations in between...but humans are amazing,they can learn change and grow...who you are today,is not necessarily who you were yesterday or who you will be tomorrow.xxFreya ...a leopard never changes its spots. I have a friend who joined RHP on my recommendation she doesn't come here any more because she believes it's nothing more than a pick up joint and she's looking for a long term partnership.
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RHP User
10 years ago
that's also beautiful honest what you said. Thank you. And when you live and state this kind of relationship to your chosen partner then I say you are on the right track.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Freya, good point.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'Blindman67' I enjoy the swinging life style, I am polyamorous, and I am bisexual, most people on vanilla sites are not into these things, nor do the understand them. I am not on RHP to find sex, I am here to find like minded people that understand me and accept my life style rather than judge me as morally corrupt which seems to be what many people presume when you say you are a BI swinger. I am not here to find a relationship, as much as I do not go out and socialise to find a partner, but I am always open to find someone special no matter where I am. Vanilla sites are for people looking for relationships. RHP is more about people seeking like minded people. I don't know what other guys are here for. But Blindman..... seeking likeminded people..... for what purpose? A chat? Friendship.. and RHP has given me many friends which I value much more than any random fuck.
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RHP User
10 years ago
that's a mindset I appreciate.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have you been getting into the happy tonic, your posts over the last few days have taken on a very happy and playful spirit If so don't stop..
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' I liked what you have written, your comments to my questions. It makes sense, thank you. Mischievous.....you are so often so negative in your writing, why? Did you have bad experiences on RHP? Im not sure how you see me asking a question...., as negative. I was merely curious as a result of Blindmans comment... to learn his.... objectives.... for investing his time in here seeking those likeminded people. And he answered it..... with a little passive aggression thrown in lol DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Seems to me that men do not come to RHP to find any sort of friendship unless it is of a sexual nature whereas women seem to find lots of friendships and friends amongst the other women here which I know is unexpected when they join up, but women seem to pursue friendships whereas men don't.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Seems to me that men do not come to RHP to find any sort of friendship unless it is of a sexual nature whereas women seem to find lots of friendships and friends amongst the other women here which I know is unexpected when they join up, but women seem to pursue friendships whereas men don't. and woman have friendships with men to. I wonder if the same men would consider the woman a friend or just a fuck buddy? It would be interesting to know if a man on rhp that has had the same fuck buddy for 6 months or more would consider her a friend...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Friends for years, with many girls I have met on RHP. Some I have played with most not. I enjoy their company and I guess they enjoy mine or I would not be invited to hang or go out with them. They are all in the swinging scene to varying degrees (Why I like RHP) and I like being with friends when going to clubs or parties. I find women are much more enjoyable and interesting company than the majority of guys. Not all guys (me) have to fuck every thing that moves. When out.If they meet some guy they like, I make it clear that she is free as that is a bit of an issue with guys not making a move because they think she/they is/are with me. I am not one to be held by to much social convention and if a friend likes someone but unsure how to make the first move I am more than happy to help with introductions. In the clubs there can be some very pushy guys that do not seem to understand what no means, but when that "NO! she is not interested." comes from a guy they always understand and back off.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Firstly, I think most people on here would be open minded to finding different sorts of things on here, be it sex, friends only, friends with benefits, a relationship etc. I would say a lot of people are looking for many things, or more correctly, happy with anything until something more serious comes along. Or, many others have just got out of something serious, and are now seeking something casual. Of those, it seems that often they seperated as they weren't compatible on the more intimate levels. This is the case with someone I know, she said it took her "a marriage" to find out her true sexual self. Yes, on here you are free to reveal your true sexual self, if you know what it is. Some people are still exploring things, trying to work it out. (Maybe you are always a work in progress). So if you do connect on a serious level, those intimate details are already dealt with. You have asked: "Wouldn’t it be logical to find a partner through RHP and not a vanilla site?" Yes, it is logical, but it is more difficult, at least for a male, as on vanilla sites it is easier to appeal to a larger audience, and women are not as flooded with correspondence and 'potentials'. Those on vanilla sites may or may not be more interested in committment, or sex, but seem to be more likely to be flexible in who/what they are looking for. This is because there appears to be more people looking for someone special, not just for someone convenient. Or, to put it another way, those on vanilla sites seem to be more flexible on the "boxes" they want ticked. On RHP, they can often be very very specific, down to body dimensions etc. As for my experience, I have had a relationship, and that was from a "vanilla" site, and was long distance (from her perspective anyway, 1 hour travel). And it was the distance that was one of the problems, but not lack of sexual chemistry or openness about it (but I wasn't exploring swinging then). But I don't regret any of it, and would do it all again (meet from a vanilla site), as the good memories are worth it and are stronger than any of my more recent experiences. "Are women more liberal when it comes to a partner and where they find one?". Probably, if by where you mean 'by what means', not as in 'location'. Some women and some men (including myself) are on both general and adult sites (not really a fan of the term vanilla, it can come across as a little derogatory). Personally, I would be more than happy with a relationship from RHP or other adult site. Would it be more likely to work out? Maybe, maybe not. Would the sex be better, probably. Am I more likely to find one? Probably not. So being on multiple sites, and kinds of sites, is a way of "casting a wider net". But then, you will ask, would I prefer a relationship off say RHP? Yes, of course, for all the reasons you suggest. But, as it's less likely, I will continue to look everywhere I can.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There's the little doozy about what to put on your adult/RHP profile if you're looking for a long-term partnership. If you put something like that, you may lose yourself the opportunity for other, more casual experiences you would like, as some women have had negative experiences with men who have become attached or emotional either very quickly, or at all, when it was supposed to be just casual. And I've been told quite bluntly on the forums in the past, when I 've mentioned I could be open to finding love, that I'm on the WRONG SITE. So, if you omit this from your profile, you will also risk not attracting the kind you want. If you have a range of things you are looking for, you might be seen (by those you are looking for) as "not knowing what you want", or not being "relationship material". So, in any case, unless you are very very lucky, you're screwed. Or, more correctly, not screwed.
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' Ok have not heard this yet......hmmm, I thought many women on here are open for a longer then one night stand 'ship" Ok, hmmm, it’s nice to hear your side, I will ponder that. It appears you do not believe me' however, around 80% of the woman on this site (from what I can see anyway), are a "Guest" and have the following standard line in their profile ... "I am Looking For a 'friend with benefits' and nothing more. " This to me does not say they are looking for a relationship. If they are they should change their profile. That tells me that only around 20% of the woman (only an estimate) are looking for a relationship; whereas, closer to 100% on the vanilla site are looking for a long term relationship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I thank you for this report. See from my thinking there cannot be anything more complicated then this two way stream thinking in relationship or any other meetings I am more a person who is not expecting anything and then it will come or not. Thank you for writing how difficult it can be for a male. For sure my thinking comes from a female point and is only when I think about it, half the truth. Ohh shit why it is so difficult..... To just be, flow on the waves of sensual bliss and when you want more express it and don't make judgements about the other because he is in his world of thought and feelings. We deny our self so much beautiful sensuality only because we think it could be deeper than just a fuck.....isn't this the most exciting feeling to have more than a fuck ,connect and be................how long it will be shouldn't matter. I am riding on such a wave at the moment, as I said I am very intense, and I think I scare this beautiful man totally, yes he is back the third time and will be loved and kissed and bombarded with many words, and he will be out of his comfort zone, that's just it, its new it’s exciting its thrilling. I am nothing he has ever had; I am round loud confident talk a storm giggly for my "old" age and love SEX. And I will get sooo much tender care kisses fucks hugs and a bit of words, when he can get a word in, lol. I don't know how long it will be, we give each other something beautiful and time should not count, nor the thought is will be over one day. We should just enjoy this moments of excitants and utter sensuality. I will, because our lives are different, we are older we are set in our ways, we have a life outside our weekends with each other, I don't know would we be ever able to share this anyway. The play gets intense and sooo wow each time we meet. Ohh yes he is on RHP and yes he has another playmate, and yes I am a tiny bit jealous......................fuck this feeling, why do we even get it. And he is the same he will not spell it out like I am, but he ask me how I med this weekend. Lol So my lovely, lovely Peeps, it is a pleasure to write all this down, and get your feedback, you are all such beautiful people for me. And ohh I am reading........... SEX AT DAWN.....who has read it, what a powerful insightful book, I can’t get stop reading.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am not looking for a lifetime partner to take "seriously" but just a man or men that I am attracted to and with whom I can be romantic and intimate. I don't need all the "possessiveness, jealously and envy" that can occur when a man considers himself a "partner" and not just a FWB. I just want to have "fun" times without the hassle. I agree with Freya79 in this : "...but humans are amazing,they can learn change and grow...who you are today,is not necessarily who you were yesterday or who you will be tomorrow." I am one of the above people and I don't mind "changing" in order to "grow". I want to explore my sexuality and find my "limits". I am certainly not, metaphorically speaking, the same woman who joined RHP 15 months ago. I am constantly "changing" in my values and expectations , and I feel that it is a good thing. All I know is that I want to experience things "sexually" with a man or men that I am most attracted to and this may be due to me having a "sheltered" life and "traditional" thoughts about sex for many years. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
you come from a total different thought pattern than a single person. You are one of the "lucky" once. You have both......a study partner who is also understanding you need more freedom to explore your sensual sexual part, and I believe you are giving your partner the same freedom, as I can see you are a couple on RHP. That's just perfect. When we could all find this, I mean the one who like to live this lifestyle many more couples would stay together and not part, unfortunately this lifestyle is still very much hidden and secret and often looked at a bad marriage/partnership, and also not for everyone.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think that for a woman on RHP hoping to find a partner is more realistic than it is for guys. I'm open to the possibility on here, but the imbalance of males and females makes the prospect of that happening far less likely. If you look at a site like eHarmony or the like, the information an tailoring of a profile is about many other aspects of a person.... RHP focuses (and rightly so) on the sexual aspects of a person. From eHarmony, RSVP or the like I may find someone who shares my ideals and goals for life, then need to explore the sexual side of the relationship... on RHP and other such sites, I may find someone who share my sexual interests then have to find out it we share common goals, and ideals. The question therefore remains.... is it better to base a relationship on sex or other shared aspects of life (not that either types of sites exlude the other). As an average middle age guy it is hard enough to meet women on RHP, due to the choice woman have on here, the expectation that I would be fortunate enough to meet and that progress, to be honest is not something I have though to be a realistic expectation for this site. On other sites the ratios are more in a mans favour. Just my thoughts and experience!
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RHP User
10 years ago
then the complains most men have about not having enough sex in a relationship or marriage is not mostly the breakup reason?? I have the wrong information. So what you saying is, most men would be happy in a relationship and really SEX or the luck of it is not the important aspect? And why do men out wight women on RHP? Again my question.....wouldn't it make more sense to find a sexual compatible person and the other little things fall into place, then the other way around?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been on and off this site for a few years now as well. I have had a look at most sites out there and because I have an excellent memory (usually) it is amazing the amount of men on this site (and others of its ilk) claiming that they only want NSA sex and the same guys (normally using the same pics) are also on the vanilla site claiming that they are over being single, they are looking for love and happy ever after with all the bells and whistles.To me it makes perfect sense to be looking on a site like this for your partner. At least you can get your kinks right without having to stray from the possible futuristic marriage bed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
This country still supports a double standard,The Whore vs Madonna debate...Men will choose to marry the Madonna but then want her to be uber sexual,surprised when she is the same in and out of the bedroom...so that is why they are here for sex and on E Harmony looking for love xxFreya
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' This country still supports a double standard,The Whore vs Madonna debate...Men will choose to marry the Madonna but then want her to be uber sexual,surprised when she is the same in and out of the bedroom...so that is why they are here for sex and on E Harmony looking for love xxFreya I can not speak for other men, but for myself you are completely wrong. (and I believe I am just an average guy). I am not on here just for sex, and e-harmony for love. (be great if I could get it) To me it is more logical to find your perfect partner on RHP where you have a good idea you are sexually compatible. However, based on the ratio of men to women on RHP that is unlikely, especially where I live. I suspect a lot of guys would love the sexual experiences if they could meet women on this site for that purpose, and also be open to a relationship if all things were right. I am not myself, (and not sure if other guys are), so prudish and shallow to only want a relationship with a woman from a E-harmony type site and just want sex from the RHP site. Personally, I would love to meet some compatible women on RHP for fun and friendship, and if I was lucky enough to meet someone that I was long term relationship wise compatible with, GREAT.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am Dating through dating websites, and am only here to fulfil my lust and intimacy needs, IM not ruling out that I may find love on here, but I think its highly doubtful as there could always be the the niggling thought in the back of my mind attached to any insecurities that I have, that there is always a better guy in most aspects than myself on sites like these, right here for the picking, and In my Opiniunm on RHP, most contact revolves around visual sexual attraction, before mental and emotional and personality have a chance to play a part. I know the same could be said for dating sites, and maybe Ive just convinced myself that I can relax and trust in someone more from a dating sight, as they have a view and mindset of a future with a family and children, and not just fantastic sex.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
So even men believe in fairy tales, interesting..... At the end of the day it's about compatiblity - attraction, physically, intellectually and sexually. I think if you can find that in here then that's excellent. But for those who think that they couldn't possible find a partner from a more sexual site, wouldn't able to trust them, they're to easy, they have had multiple lovers, whatever... Don't then come complaining in here if you only find half of it on a vanilla site and then you find yourself back in here when all your sexual needs are not being met....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would say most people are here to meet new people and try new sexual experiences so entering to a monogamous relationship would go against their main reason for being a member in the first place. That said I've met a few people on the site that I feel I'm compatible enough to have a relationship with so I'm sure you can find what you're looking for and in the meantime enjoy the ride... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am so happy you expressed what I believe still many males carry in their thoughts about women who are on here can't be trusted in a " normal monogamous relationship" It's so interesting, I had a talk with my son yesterday and he said the biggest fear males have is they think their dick is not the biggest the women has had, that's the biggest fear. Again you are young and you still believe in Fairy tales and you have to find out how it is.......the statics are not very promising to have a partner to the end of your life and she/he is has never cheated. TN trust......what is trust.....?? Can anybody really say when the end is near they have stayed with one women or one men and never straight......I don't believe this would be more then a handful of marriages should we find out about the truth.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi. I think I hit wrong button, anyway I was saying that guys are not as simple as thought by women, most guys say they want bulk sex from randoms but as you get older, sex, compatible sex with someone you have a connection with is far better an if they are on same wave length sexually then all the better. I think it is easier for women to pick up or choose on these sites, I personally feel the power is in the women's hands on here, an if they want bulk hook ups then fair enough. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Lovinit28' So even men believe in fairy tales, interesting..... At the end of the day it's about compatiblity - attraction, physically, intellectually and sexually. I think if you can find that in here then that's excellent. But for those who think that they couldn't possible find a partner from a more sexual site, wouldn't able to trust them, they're to easy, they have had multiple lovers, whatever... Don't then come complaining in here if you only find half of it on a vanilla site and then you find yourself back in here when all your sexual needs are not being met....💋 Well put, and I agree about compatibility, I guess I want to meet someone with their own kinks, but havent had their eyes fully opened to a lot of what I have experienced, so I could share and teach and lead them along this path of discovery, but still have them untouched by the darker elements of this lifestyle, the pain and lies and deceitfullness .'I have had so much fun in RHP over the years, and made many friends, but Ive also had a lot of people I was close to hurt, through cheating or being cheated on.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' I am so happy you expressed what I believe still many males carry in their thoughts about women who are on here can't be trusted in a " normal monogamous relationship" It's so interesting, I had a talk with my son yesterday and he said the biggest fear males have is they think their dick is not the biggest the women has had, that's the biggest fear. Again you are young and you still believe in Fairy tales and you have to find out how it is.......the statics are not very promising to have a partner to the end of your life and she/he is has never cheated. TN trust......what is trust.....?? Can anybody really say when the end is near they have stayed with one women or one men and never straight......I don't believe this would be more then a handful of marriages should we find out about the truth. Im Not sure if Im ready to face the fact that Ill die alone and without a family yet haha, but all we can do is try to find love where we can :p ( does this mean Im a hypocrite? ), as For Trust, if your honest with someone here, with your intentions and feelings, and its reciprocated, then I think thats a perfect example of trust, but trust in anything more than sex or a friends with benefits arrangement, is a whole different ballgame, a much higher level, and its all encompassing. I have had FWB's on here that I havent shared my deepest darkest kinks and fanatasies with, and Im sure with one or two, Ill probabaly take them to the grave haha, but not telling someone every thought and detail that makes you you, isnt lying, and therefore shouldnt affect that trust.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
And what you don't think that there are other people in here that are looking for that also and just because we are people in here that we've all experienced all there is to explore and find. I started my journey as an extremely vanilla woman, yes I've had experiences that I wouldn't have ever dreamed off, met some absolutely wonderful people, but ultimately would love to find that one person to share it all with, to go exploring with and experience things with. I guess what I'm saying is just because I'm in here, doesn't mean I'm not worthy of a loving, committed relationship, that I would cheat on a partner, that I'm untrustworthy, it doesn't mean I'd sexual more Promiscuous than a vanilla woman or that I do or will sleep with anyone that I across paths with. But what it does mean that I'm open minded, sexual woman who isn't afaird to ask for what she wants...... I wish you all the luck in world in find what it is you are looking for, but I think you'll find that vanilla people cheat too......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lovinit28
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Litonya.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm also having trouble with the idea that because we're on RHP that we're somehow morally bankrupt. Maybe that's not what you meant TN, but that's how it appears....
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RHP User
10 years ago
ingrained in us, we women are not to be trusted when free sexually. What a shame.......its no bodies fault, because this underlying thought is so deep in our thinking it will take generations to change, should we ever change our thinking.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I found a partner on a sex site, I wasn't looking for one, it just happened, as it does. Wouldn't have it any other way, and yes we will play as a couple when we are ready. I met women on vanilla sites with heathy appetites too but too many had no appetite for sex at all, just looking for a lapdog.I think it's eminently sensible if sex is important to you, as for trusting sexually free women ? Would you trust a sexually repressed one ? Or a sexually free man ? pmsl.I don't relate trust to sexual freedom it's more individual than that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lovinit, I know what your saying, and I see where your going with this, but I think I may have not made myself clear.I did mention cheating furthur up there, but I was trying to explain trust based on my own insecurities of not being cheated on, but of me being happy in a relationship, and then my partner finding someone better and leaving me. She wouldnt haveto cheat to do this, and I couldnt be angry with her for staying true to herself and not settling for less, I wouldnt settle for someone, so I could never expect someone else to. But on places like RHP, there is such a wide and wonderful range of different people on here, all with their own special little qualities, there could be a niggling thought in there of "did I give this person enough of a chance"or "am I settling down when the love of my life could be just around the next bend". I think the life outside any online sites, be them dating or otherwise, may have a greater range of people matched to you, but infinitely less accessible, and less chance of knowing more about someone before a face to face meeting, where normal you get to know someone and grow together. Hopefully that clears that up Simple, and Litonya, I think its men as well as women that have that label.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree, but I also believe that there are progressive men out there that are comfortable enough and confident enough in themselves who embrace sexually open minded women who like a bit of adventure. I know because I have met a few of them. The men like TN, no offensive dude, but they do not have the confidence or belief in themselves, and they don't believe that they can truly capture a woman's heart and fulfill her sexually which is the underlying problem. After all that is what jealousy is, the fact that you are unsure of yourself. Keep looking everyone. You will eventually stumble of a perfect match or two when you least expect it.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Yes I do understand what you are saying, but if you always have that nagging thing in your head "am I settling" then it's going to always be there regardless of where you find a partner. Gosh you could walk past someone in the street, meet someone through a friend or through work, that could be the love of your life. It's all got to do with compatabilty across the board, like Meeka said on the first page, if the magic is there its there.... Trust me I'm all for getting to know people, I just find the people in here, more open and honest than a lot of other people I've met..... Anyway, it doesn't really matter as long as you are being true to yourself.....💋
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Quoting 'TactileNomad' Quoting 'Litonya' I am so happy you expressed what I believe still many males carry in their thoughts about women who are on here can't be trusted in a " normal monogamous relationship" It's so interesting, I had a talk with my son yesterday and he said the biggest fear males have is they think their dick is not the biggest the women has had, that's the biggest fear. Again you are young and you still believe in Fairy tales and you have to find out how it is.......the statics are not very promising to have a partner to the end of your life and she/he is has never cheated. TN trust......what is trust.....?? Can anybody really say when the end is near they have stayed with one women or one men and never straight......I don't believe this would be more then a handful of marriages should we find out about the truth. Im Not sure if Im ready to face the fact that Ill die alone and without a family yet haha, but all we can do is try to find love where we can :p ( does this mean Im a hypocrite? ), as For Trust, if your honest with someone here, with your intentions and feelings, and its reciprocated, then I think thats a perfect example of trust, but trust in anything more than sex or a friends with benefits arrangement, is a whole different ballgame, a much higher level, and its all encompassing. I have had FWB's on here that I havent shared my deepest darkest kinks and fanatasies with, and Im sure with one or two, Ill probabaly take them to the grave haha, but not telling someone every thought and detail that makes you you, isnt lying, and therefore shouldnt affect that trust. You say you seek love in one instant then find yourself in another comment here to satisfy your sexual urges but none of the women here are worthy of a relationship because they are apparently untrustworthy because of YOUR insecurities. What about the woman you meet here who shares all the values you want in a person on a vanilla site as well as your sexual ones who feels the same way about you because you've already said it yourself in not so many words. While you're wooing Miss Vanilla you'll satisfy your urges here with one of us. Gee thanks!! I'm looking for love, a relationship like so many others. I'm on fucking eHarmony (only recent) and I tell you what it's the bullshittest site, you get matches from people you wouldn't touch with a barge pole and who are totally not appropriate. So I find myself back here where men and women are supposedly more honest with each other. And then there's the guys like you mate who trash us all because we dare to have the right to explore, have an opinion, are honest, have meaningful friendships and yes possibly some of us want a lifelong commitment. BUT NOT WITH JUST ANYONE especially any man with such a jaded, small minded, presumptuous mindset. You don't know everyone here, neither do I; but until someone does something to hurt me or prove they're disingenuine I'm prepared to give that person the benefit of the doubt. Are there guys here better than you in many ways yes, there are. Same as there are women here better than me. I don't want to fuck around, I may not want to swing either with a partner but actually mean something to them above all others. But lets get this straight: I'm certainly no less a lady than the woman you love and admire most in your life just be cause I'm on this site hoping to meet someone I can connect with on all levels not just horizontal, so think about that for a moment. I am no loose whore. But thank you for generalising, you'll now be filed with the rest of the superiority complex wankers that frequent our little corner of purgatory
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have hear that eharmony has a very shallow pool. Have you seen the ads? Those women are the most annoying twats and the blokes stand there next to them like a pair of dogs balls. Hideous!! I heard that they won't accept divorcees. How did you get accepted?
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On_Safari
10 years ago
And yes they discriminate against separated people. OOPS but get this, there's a heap of men there with kids which would mean they've been married/de facto, seperated or divorced right....so did they all lie to get accepted too? And yes the adds are annoying and so are the 500 questions they throw at you about how you feel about gay relationships, pre-marital sex, where would you like to get married? Beach, church or garden? crap. The best thing about it though seems to be the very comprehensive psychological profile they did on me and you get your very own "BOOK OF YOU" which for all accounts was very accurate including my bad points and gave tips on how to improve them and ho others may perceive them. Now of all the approaches I've had that got to message phase I've been complimented on my honesty, thought and thorough approach to my profile when am I any different? Then they start with the sex talk, like WTF!! How they end up with the prissy twats on the adds I don't know. To be fair I've met a man there, he is in Lovinit's words "divine" and thinks I'm amazing (sigh) but I think I'm too broken for this Meeks.....he wants to be close and it scares me,,,,,I keep thinking every man is just like the married ones I've been with long term or the ones here that approach and carry on with the "but the is a sex site" shit and think you're a free root. So there's another epiphony for you RHP men who generalise about us RHP women. After a while you make us distrust alot of men, even the potentially good ones or you make us friend basket them/you because you can't seriously want more than NSA or a quick tumble right? Your profiles nearly ALL state looking for NSA Stepping away from the keyboard........NOW.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just take it slowly, if he is right for you he will be okay with taking it slow. Shame you can't close your emails because getting messages from the blokes here is not what you want right now. Be like me, just here for the forums.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Indi... Don't forget that tarred rhp brush paints both sexes in this place... Not to mention what the vanillas think of us ! Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... Ps talking about hoes, the ONLY person I've ever called a hoe in this place is stir, no other man, and certainly no woman.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Just take it slowly, if he is right for you he will be okay with taking it slow. Shame you can't close your emails because getting messages from the blokes here is not what you want right now. Be like me, just here for the forums. Lol I figured opening with the "I'm looking for a relationship" line would keep most away from me. Thanks xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yep worked a treat for me. "I would consider something more for the right person" LMAO. Funny how all those guys who don't know how to read a profile managed to read that line. My emails dropped to 1 or 2 a week I think.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wow, I really didn't know by my sharing my own thoughts on here, that I was trashing other people, offending other people and putting noses out of joint. I guess its my fault for thinking this was an open and free forum to discuss how we feel and what we believe haha, silly me. ""And then there's the guys like you mate who trash us all because we dare to have the right to explore, have an opinion, are honest, have meaningful friendships and yes possibly some of us want a lifelong commitment. BUT NOT WITH JUST ANYONEespecially any man with such a jaded, small minded, presumptuous mindset. You don't know everyone here, neither do I; but until someone does something to hurt me or prove they're disingenuine I'm prepared to give that person the benefit of the doubt. Are there guys here better than you in many ways yes, there are. Same as there are women here better than me. I don't want to fuck around, I may not want to swing either with a partner but actually mean something to them above all others. But lets get this straight: I'm certainly no less a lady than the woman you love and admire most in your life just be cause I'm on this site hoping to meet someone I can connect with on all levels not just horizontal, so think about that for a moment. I am no loose whore. But thank you for generalising, you'll now be filed with the rest of the superiority complex wankers that frequent our little corner of purgatory " But cheers for this, it was a learning experience, next time a forum thread like this takes my interest, Ill remember that even being honest can you make you a target, and so I wont bother sharing, or asking questions, or being as openminded as so many people claim to be, and in the next breath flinging out derogatory insults PS. Sorry to all the nice guys that I have just cockblocked by making women jaded against them, it wasn't my intention :(
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RHP User
10 years ago
I put Eharmony only as a guide in her, I had no idea Eharmony works like this, I have never been on there side. Still went on other similar sides and I found it is bullshit because the bottom line is still always sex. So for me as a to the point woman RHP is so far the best. The young man which has been in my eyes very honest is really to be congratulated because he said openly what I think many males think. Yes it is a two way fucking shit, and only we free women can show them they are full of Bull. I am want more from men then just a one nighter but sometimes that's all there is because you just don't feel it, and that's from both sides. We can't make someone come back......and yes we should ban this NSA....bullshit word. I am single 17 years, and this in a way doesn't bother me still I am ready to have someone more steady, and maybe I found him, time will tell. I will not put myself under stress and think Ohh my god how long will it last, it will last as long as it lasts FULL STOP. Please Safari don't be sad......don't give up.....there are beautiful open minded men on here......yes its a minefield.....and we get emotional killed sometimes, but males too. To stay on this RHP site because as someone said YOU ARE WORTH IT, and who know who is waiting in the search engine for you. I have something which I copied from a movie I write it in the next message.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Yep worked a treat for me. "I would consider something more for the right person" LMAO. Funny how all those guys who don't know how to read a profile managed to read that line. My emails dropped to 1 or 2 a week I think. It has the same affect for me, even though I put it right at the bottom :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is also True, the person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing. All we know about the future is, does it will be different. But perhaps what we fear is that it will be the same. So we must celebrate the changes because as somebody wants said, everything will be alright at the end, and if it is not alright than Trust me its not the end. I so much love this saying because it gives me a liftoff each time I have a fearful moment about my LOVE LIFE. To all the brave free thinking women.......stay as you are.....Love L
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I'm not sad really just ..... disillusioned. Been doing it on my own 3yrs now (ex-Lover aside) I don't need a man but I sure would like to have a good one someday. A Keeper. I often find it strange though how nany of us go on with the hype of being so sexually free and mature and say shit like don't get attached, just looking for fun and only interested in NSA sex but will admit in weaker more genuine moments either online or off that we do in fact want someone special in our lives to feel the exact same way about us. Everybody's doing it alright, let's not chide ourselves 😃 ~ Indy
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RHP User
10 years ago
yes we do, as we are humans and as humans we need to have companionship. To many people are scared of it. I feel much more during sex when i am attached in a way, and attached this word is not really the right word. Again to many people have said women are this or that. I can fuck without my heart and soul, PFFF I can who can't???? its a mindset nothing else, however I choose not to because it feel sooooooooooooo much better and my body is more in tune with me. Why should I fuck randomly, I am not a cold blooded being. I would love a "love" partner,maybe I found him we will see, he is more afraid then me, but I will not put myself under stress on how long I think it could last or not, it will last as long as it will. Maybe that's my fear after losing my husband....but that's another discussion we could have.
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RHP User
10 years ago
sentiments Indi and litonya, I couldn't agree more, hugs to you both and anyone else who's able to be honest with themselves and the world... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I still don't get the line of thinking on here that RHP (and the people on here) are somehow more sexually liberated/open than people on other dating sites or in the general population. To call them vanilla even?? that' s a huge generalisation to make and in my experience, simply not true. To limit finding a potential partner to a particular dating site or type of dating site, or to a particular social interaction to me shows a limiting belief in a particular person. It also indicates self sabotage. If you are not open to meeting people through different avenues, different sites, different places, different interactions, then you have a limiting belief about relationships in general and in your ability to find and be in a healthy relationship in my humble opinion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am looking for long term.but everyone say I'm in a wrong site.then I say.surely they got one that are same what I'm looking? I'm patients.never know.😂😂i don't know if i look for younger or older.which ever as long that is the same mind set😊😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I better change my profile.that I'm looking for long term relationship.thanks single guy4u - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Adult sites like RHP do not hold a mandate on people who happen to be sexually open, broadminded or even adventurous. And it certainly doesn't mean adult sites hold a higher concentration of experienced or knowledgable people. Adult sites do, though, attract people who think that the normal expectations, standards and tolerances that people have in the world beyond do not apply because to them its just a sex site. The false-lure of easy sex means that they hold the expectation that they can say what they want, do what they want, and people have no reason to reject them for that behaviour and sex will flow like wine. People in here.... are people out there too. DG
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fit73' I still don't get the line of thinking on here that RHP (and the people on here) are somehow more sexually liberated/open than people on other dating sites or in the general population. To call them vanilla even?? that' s a huge generalisation to make and in my experience, simply not true. To limit finding a potential partner to a particular dating site or type of dating site, or to a particular social interaction to me shows a limiting belief in a particular person. It also indicates self sabotage. If you are not open to meeting people through different avenues, different sites, different places, different interactions, then you have a limiting belief about relationships in general and in your ability to find and be in a healthy relationship in my humble opinion. BUT I like to meet random people everywhere and do. It's all a networking opportunity nd a smile or kind word to someone in passing costs nothing but coulkd mean the world to them. Litonya I think the word to use instead of attached is connected. Hugs to you TactileNomad ~ Indy
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RHP User
10 years ago
The term 'getting away with' suggests doing something wrong.........I don't get that mentality. Do you feel shameful or wrong for discussing your sex life openly with friends or other acquaintances? If you hide aspects of yourself then it suggests there is internal shame going on. Our whole society is based around guilt and shame from the moment we are born. The only way to rid yourself of shame is to peel back the layers and expose your real self gradually. The other way is to open up to new opportunities and new ways of doing things without limiting beliefs about sex, relationships, meeting people etc. The people who come on here and claim that other dating sites are vanilla are no different to the people on those sites who claim that everyone on RHP is a lying, cheating, sex crazed dirtbag. Both are limiting beliefs and just buy into the whole shaming and stereotyping mantra which is so fucking boring in life. I actually met a girl off one of the 'vanilla' dating sites and the first date went so well that it went for 8 hours and we ended up at her place with my cock in her arse (excuse my directness). Now I'm certain there was nothing in her profile that suggested she enjoyed anal on the first date, but it happened. We dated for several months. Why do people on here (or anywhere else) even feel the need to write things in the profile like (i'm happy for NSA or a relationship if the right guy comes along). When I read that in a profile it basically suggests 'I actually want a relationship, but i'm terrified to acknowledge that I want one, so I will tell guys i'm also happy with NSA so I don't scare them away and by doing that I might snare a good one that comes along'. Limiting beliefs are just that.......acknowledge your own truths and shame and work toward peeling the layers back
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fit73' The term 'getting away with' suggests doing something wrong.........I don't get that mentality. Do you feel shameful or wrong for discussing your sex life openly with friends or other acquaintances? If you hide aspects of yourself then it suggests there is internal shame going on. Our whole society is based around guilt and shame from the moment we are born. The only way to rid yourself of shame is to peel back the layers and expose your real self gradually. The other way is to open up to new opportunities and new ways of doing things without limiting beliefs about sex, relationships, meeting people etc. The people who come on here and claim that other dating sites are vanilla are no different to the people on those sites who claim that everyone on RHP is a lying, cheating, sex crazed dirtbag. Both are limiting beliefs and just buy into the whole shaming and stereotyping mantra which is so fucking boring in life. I actually met a girl off one of the 'vanilla' dating sites and the first date went so well that it went for 8 hours and we ended up at her place with my cock in her arse (excuse my directness). Now I'm certain there was nothing in her profile that suggested she enjoyed anal on the first date, but it happened. We dated for several months. Why do people on here (or anywhere else) even feel the need to write things in the profile like (i'm happy for NSA or a relationship if the right guy comes along). When I read that in a profile it basically suggests 'I actually want a relationship, but i'm terrified to acknowledge that I want one, so I will tell guys i'm also happy with NSA so I don't scare them away and by doing that I might snare a good one that comes along'. Limiting beliefs are just that.......acknowledge your own truths and shame and work toward peeling the layers back I've not been ashamed of discussing my sex life, hopes or aspirations just haven't met any takers that I actually want to explore them with but that's another topic. Then again there are others here who just say or agree with what they have to to make themselves look good or ingratiate themselves to get laid and call it their opinion. lol NB: That comment is certainly not directed at you nor the OP, cheers
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't quote from my iPad so have cut and paste the following from your post Start Quote - Why do people on here (or anywhere else) even feel the need to write things in the profile like (i'm happy for NSA or a relationship if the right guy comes along). When I read that in a profile it basically suggests 'I actually want a relationship, but i'm terrified to acknowledge that I want one - End Quote When I read that in a profile it says to me that person is open minded, it suggests they want to meet new people and based on the meeting they may decide they are happy to have sex, with no strings attached, or they may decide they'd like a more traditional partner type relationship with that person, if they are the right guy for them I.e. their vision of relationship material. Or they may decide on something in between NSA and full on relationship. Such a statement makes perfect sense to me, it's quite normal to say you do not know what you want with a particular person until you meet that person, and I appreciate the honesty of such statements. BTW I agree with your sentiments about not assuming anything about the people you meet on RHP or other dating sites. There's every reason why a perfect soulmate and lifetime partner could be found on RHP, or a perfect NSA or some strings attached sexual partner could be found on rsvp. Life has a way of surprising us, which is way cool.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am too busy to fully reply but can I say. What complete bollocks. Of course people are happy to casually date and when the right person comes along they are happy for that too. The fact that they say that means they are not sated to admit it. And unfortunately I can't discuss with my family about my lover and sexual activities. They would never understand. My friends don't even understand. How can you talk about threesomes, numerous lovers, groups sex, bisexual sex, etc. To be honest I don't say things to a lot of people more for their sake. Sick of getting the Bambi in the headlights look when I talk about stuff. Just taking to friends tonight, who have known me for 20 years and he was saying that a famous Aussie actor is gay even though he has been married for ever. I said maybe he is bisexual no my friend insisted he is gay. I said why would they wife put up with that, it's bloody ridiculous if anything he would be bi. And my friend says, oh like women like bi-men and it would be a turn on to see your husband fuck another man. Guess what I said. Fuck yeah that is hot as. Of course he didn't know whether to take me seriously or not. Jesus..... Doesn't he know me at all. Lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
How can you te your family your lover is married and in an open relationship for instance. And I am not ashamed of my sexuality and sex life at all, but I am a realist. Some thins are just too much for people to take in. Like my comment above, I still have girlfriends expressing shock that I like bi men, after all these years. When I say it was hot X fuck Y in the butt.... One friends they wouldn't have actually been doing that, how do you know. Errr because I just told you I was standing right next on them Watching. They just can not process it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Shouldn't be typing drivel at 2am... Sorry! Lol.
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madotara69
10 years ago
People are still trying to adapt to your sexuality in here, bahahahaha :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Still Meeka many "friends" of us have many thoughts and never express them, until you start, that's my experience.I don't have many good friends but they know what I do and how I think, and one of the couple is very religious. I think I shocked them at times with my conversations. Or at work, like yesterday some of the pretty young women was complaining she has no sex at the moment, I don't know but you know sometimes sex just comes up, and some married women made a comment too. And I said we should put a chart up and write how often we have sex in a month. you should have seen the horror on their faces.....I said you know sex is actually healthy, all looked at me like I am from the moon, however the giggles didn't stop. Then I said you should have a minimum of 7 a week so you are on a great emotional level and for you married people this is so easy for you to reach this goal, ohh that got them going, one guy said please stop L from talking about sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Neuro science says they definitely do...men's brains are bigger,but women's brains tend to process more efficiently.Researchers found that when they tested men and women for social intelligence,...the subjects had to read the expression in a pair of eyes,women had no difficulty where as most men struggled...you can do this test online....when it came to spacial testing...reading maps for instance,men were far more adept on average...xxFreya
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LifeUnscripted
10 years ago
Wow, this has been a fascinating thread. I think I am different from a lot of the guys on here. My marriage is going nowhere, but if I was in the dating pool again I would completely want to meet and fall in love with someone who is open sexually, who is open to an open marriage, and who is sex positive. I am far far far more likely to find that in a place like this than on a regular vanilla dating site. Women in the lifestyle are assertive, know what they want, they are comfortable with their sexuality, and they are just lots of fun. Wouldn't want to marry a vanilla woman. - Posted from rhpmobile
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gazpacho
10 years ago
People on those sites are much the same, surely? They're adults.... Adults finding people they want to fuck. Perhaps people on those other sites don't put it the same way I do, but my candour changes nothing about their motivations. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dam Gaz,I thought you said vanilla slice..I love a vanilla slice,or a slice of vanilla 😜xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
ok another one. I am quite happy I found a person from RHP he knows and I know.....I believe the odds are good because we don't have to pretend anything. He has a person which he knew longer then me, and I think that's fine as long as when he is with me he spends the time with me "fully", his attention are totally with me, the rest I only care a tiny little bit....that's the truth and nothing but the truth. And how is sex....just wonderful. Just what I like, just wow. I don't have to hang from the chandelier, I don't have to do acrobatic with my old body, he loves my big ass and can oil it for hours, who wouldn't enjoy this bliss.....and kisses ohh my God can this man kiss......I don't want to ever wear clothes when he is around. You know what RHP peeps.....I am at the moment in sensual heaven. I am lucky I only see him every second week, otherwise I would forget to go to work. My fuck, sex is so good. From the bottom of my sexy heart WOW. L
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' ok another one. I am quite happy I found a person from RHP he knows and I know.....I believe the odds are good because we don't have to pretend anything. He has a person which he knew longer then me, and I think that's fine as long as when he is with me he spends the time with me "fully", his attention are totally with me, the rest I only care a tiny little bit....that's the truth and nothing but the truth. And how is sex....just wonderful. Just what I like, just wow. I don't have to hang from the chandelier, I don't have to do acrobatic with my old body, he loves my big ass and can oil it for hours, who wouldn't enjoy this bliss.....and kisses ohh my God can this man kiss......I don't want to ever wear clothes when he is around. You know what RHP peeps.....I am at the moment in sensual heaven. I am lucky I only see him every second week, otherwise I would forget to go to work. My fuck, sex is so good. From the bottom of my sexy heart WOW. L Happy for you Litonya, it couldn't happen to a nicer person
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