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Paying for it - sign of desperation or discernment

April 27 2014

I read a post which said that men who can't get it, pay for it. I'm interested in what others think on this. I've done a bit of reading and seems professional women paying for sex is on the rise for various reasons but one is that it comes without baggage or dramas. I also think that paying for it is not a sign of desperation and men who do see prostitutes are not always your old sleazy types or only the domain of married men seeking something on the side. So what say you? Someone that pays for it, desperation or discerning?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I get to chat to a lot of the girls who work at a brothel and they get all sorts. Plenty of their patrons are guys who are short on time and would prefer to have some relief without the fuss. Considering what it costs to go out on a proper date with no guarantee of sex, it seems like a viable option. There is also the issue of hygiene, you know professional women are using safe sex practices and get screened regularly unlike those you pick up in a club/pub/website etc. As far as women using men professionally, I think the ratio is far different but on the rise, yes.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Women and men providing a service to people that want it. We pay to get our car washed even though we can do it ourselves. Why not pay for sex? I don't have a problem with it. I kind of have a problem with people that do have a problem with it lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    honestly, its actually a more financially better option than going for a lapdance at the strippers or something.....how many thousands of millions get thrown at dancers for little to no physical gain. I was in Hawaii once, went to a strip joint and from memory it was like $500 US for this hour long champagne show ..... what the hell they did in a champagne show I wasn't even going to venture but im reasonably certain you weren't going to get what u are hoping for. As opposed to like $200 for an hour with a pro for an all access pass who would do a striptease type fantasy. Is it desperate, not really you are just cutting out the fluff that you need to go through to get to the end result. Chatting up a woman at the bar or something, buying drinks and dinner maybe. In the end you are "paying" already either way you go whether it be in money or time or both. one just costs a little more but is more direct and to the point.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    People have many reasons for visiting prostitutes, not necessarily all sex related. Can it be legalized alread?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If the sex worker has been forced into prostitution....there are 30 million slaves in the world....many children are sex slaves.....there is also under age prostitution in Australia,that is what I object to.xx Q

  • Violetincredible

    Violetincredible

    11 years ago

    I have. And I don't see myself as desperate. It was a fantasy. It's convenient and the paying for it is an exchange of power as you exchange money.. I find just that part erotic in its own right. Xxviolet

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'd like to see it made a more legitimate industry with a union and more protection for the workers, their rights, their health and their safety.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Not particularly a fan myself but I have plenty of mates who enjoy the parlours regularly and the majority of them have partners with no shortage of sex. I believe it's the variety that they enjoy with the discretion assured.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have seen a male escort. My partner and I found it to be a safer option. It is not illegal in Victoria. The service was registered and has a very good reputation.Search Global Escorts. I didn't feel desperate as I know if I wanted to I could pick up a guy for sex but I didn't want to do that.I wanted to be with someone who was professional and was there to meet my needs. The gentleman I saw has been an escort for over 8 years and it was personally a great experience.It is very expensive and it did take me a while to get my head around paying for it. However you get what you pay for. I know from talking to the Manager that demand has increased over the years, especially from couples. Box.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'arkangel1978' honestly, its actually a more financially better option than going for a lapdance at the strippers or something.....how many thousands of millions get thrown at dancers for little to no physical gain. I was in Hawaii once, went to a strip joint and from memory it was like $500 US for this hour long champagne show ..... what the hell they did in a champagne show I wasn't even going to venture but im reasonably certain you weren't going to get what u are hoping for. As opposed to like $200 for an hour with a pro for an all access pass who would do a striptease type fantasy. Is it desperate, not really you are just cutting out the fluff that you need to go through to get to the end result. Chatting up a woman at the bar or something, buying drinks and dinner maybe. In the end you are "paying" already either way you go whether it be in money or time or both. one just costs a little more but is more direct and to the point. a free for all though, the girls can pick who they want and they are under no obligation to do anything they don't want to do even though you are paying for it. I have heard a few guys complain about them because, 'just like real women' they are boring.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    It was a fantasy of mine, to get my Husband to go and experience it & then return home and tell me all about it and re-enact it on me. Hes done this a few times now because I love the pleasure/pain from it, then he suggested I go so I could see and have my own experience and even though I wasnt that interested, I did it anyway....interesting it was Mrs_AJ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You need to go into my ink/tattoo thread and tell me all about your ones! Mrs_AJ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Are no longer that blue eyed blonde putting here self through law school. It's women for third world countries. Paying off a debt or sold buy the family.

  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    11 years ago

    As long as its consensual from both parties then why not. And agree that it should be legalised to make it safe for everyone. For couples as a valid way of introducing a safer partner into the bedroom (sti and emotional connection) or for couples in a still loving relationship but where one partner has shut up shop. The other partner can get a leave pass to visit a sex worker every so often and get those needs met but not be cheating. If can be a valid option for many people being single or in a couple. If heard of many people seeing loosing virginity to a sex worker instead of a drunken random. Can be a way for an experienced sex worker to help you relax an enjoy the first time. So I think, yes sex workers provide a legitimate service and should not be shunned and shammed the way they are in modern society.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    And would pay again i mean either way its gunna cost ya hahaha the amount will depend on you , your choices your decisions and dont be ashamed or embarressed after all it is the oldest profession in our world !!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    We've paid for it as a couple, because she wanted to try bi sex (this was before we got a girl on RHP), and she gets off on watching me have sex with other women. Neither of us have a problem with the idea of (voluntary) prostitution and liked the no-fuss and we-get-what-we-pay-for aspect of it. Last time she didn't even join in... just watched me fuck the woman, and took a few private pictures. Then immediately after when we were alone, we had sex. So a good time was had by all :-) I think her reasons are a bit like Mrs_AJ with "the pleasure/pain from it". She is jealous watching me do it, but the jealousy just makes her want me both physically (a LOT) and emotionally. Personally, I like the variety. A new body is always hot.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Makes sense to me that any under pressure business woman or man can seek some sort of release without the worry of all the other stuff . Mutual sex without the attached emotion cant be a bad thing ? If I had my way, I'd change the old way of thinking and replace it with a sex without commitment option . Meaning if you need to pay for it , it comes without shame much the same as a massage. Gotta love the attitudes of NaturalNaughty and MrandMrsAJ... couples useing the services of the ladies to enhance their relationships and turning their jealousys into positives.. How good is that.. ?

  • Dryphuz

    Dryphuz

    11 years ago

    about a couple where the woman was time poor. So she went and found her man a prostitute to visit regularly. They didn't stop having sex, she just found someone else she was comfortable with so she could temper any urges he may have to cheat. I think the regulation of the industry has made it less taboo here. People have begun to drop prudishness and accept that sex is often part of a healthy mental lifestyle. And in a time poor society, like we have now, prostitution is simply another useful service like parking garages and vending machines. As to those who can't get it paying for it, well it depends on what they need. A prostitute is useless if what you're after is a connection and shared emotion that comes with a relationship. Therefore for many people its no solution at any price.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    My boyfriend has paid for it. In fact, we both have!! I recall the time when we were wanting to pay for some sex together so I could say "I paid" however because I was there we were offered heaps of free sexual thrills but I kept saying... NO, I want to pay! lol In the end we paid for a couple to give us a live sex show and we joined in. I have no problem with my boyfriend getting sexy massages or blow jobs. I find the stories super hot and sexy. I've had plenty of lapdances, in fact we both have. I see no issue because you have to pay for it. We go to couples massages places and pay. I love seeing guys in the waiting room look at us and are not sure what to think!! I think we are safer sexually in these situations than picking up a casual f**k.