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People who go silent

March 07 2016

So we have been on RHP now for about 6 months and have been having a really amazing time here!! Unfortunately though we've noticed a rather irksome trend... Perhaps you all can shed some light on it for us! Why, after chatting/pic swapping and then arranging a meet, do so many people just cut all communication? They don't text or message to say they aren't interested anymore and they don't answer when asked directly. Nor do they block you. Surely honestly is the policy? We try to always be upfront with people. Noone likes to be rejected or to do the rejecting, but surely a simple, polite message isn't too much to ask? What have been your experiences?!

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RHP User

9 years ago

yeah it sucks but i guess no reply is a reply in itself :/ i tend to assume they are playing without permission and have chickened out or are just picture collectors / like the thrill of getting someone to agree.. or they just don't have the guts to say what they really think

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soretongue

9 years ago

You are young padawan n have much to learn in the "pie" 😛 Unfortunately it happens from time to time, moreso online. Don't let it put u off the next experience 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

except not after setting up a meet...wtf is with that?? But I find I get really busy with an interest that I immerse myself into it so deeply I lose reality.....I guess it becomes an obsession...and if you ask my lover she'd use my dual battery system design as an example of this lol....or stuff has popped up with the kids... I realise I sound like I'm saying that these people aren't a priority in my life, and that I've lost interest....but I assure you in my position, it's unintentional. - Posted from rhpmobile

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AnnieWhichway

9 years ago

They were taught by their mother " if you cant say anything nice, dont say anything" I know at times messaging with someone has been going along nicely. All the right words etc. Then you manage to prise the face shot out of them....... Head like a twisted sandshoe...... Annie disappearing like ghost into the mist.....

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RHP User

9 years ago

I have to say we've been guilty of going silent on people, this has been down to a combination of not liking there face pics, being swamped, being really busy or on occasion couples being really pushy with us, if we arrange a meet tho we'll aways try and attend and leave plenty of notice if we have to cancel - Posted from rhpmobile

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MrMechanic

9 years ago

Many times, even after meets that just didn't go well.The lady that suddenly doubled in size compared to pics, then dry humped my wood when I kissed her goodbye after a coffee meet.The lady whos age jumped 5 years during the course of the first message and then her pics seemed to add another 5 years to that.The single lady who, during negotiating the were and when of sex suddenly starts talking to hubby she never mentioned on the intercom.The lady with 7 children she lived with who wanted me to have sex with here with here 7 kids in the house.The lady who clearly sounded like a chain smoker on the phone.The very young lady who wanted me to perform every sex act in the book on her so long as she can stay at my place when she comes to town every month for the weekends from interstate, as much as Id like to I'm not a motel and if I was I wouldn't be taking sex for payment. There are more like the above.What could I say to them that would upset them less than just not continuing any dialogue with them.I'm not going to say hurtful shit to people just to beat my chest and proclaim myself honest john.They all moved on pretty quickly anyway.

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lovman8

9 years ago

Quoting 'Summer_solstice' On and on. And I do appreaciate directness, but some us a looking for someone to go "on and on!"Not silently though!

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RHP User

9 years ago

We all understand what silence means. It means they've lost interest and don't want to tell you why. Not worth worrying about. Next...

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RHP User

9 years ago

I'm a moment by moment person. Sometimes I'm distracted, sometimes I've decided they bore me or they're asking too much. Like other commenters its rare I reply to someone that doesn't take my fancy for whatever reason. Why invite hate mail? We protect ourselves in the ways we need to. There are plenty who ditch me too. It's cool, the right people come along in time, with patience. I wouldn't bother asking for an explanation. Having said all that I'd never be a no show. That's really inconsiderate. I do value a persons time and potential child juggling efforts. One thing about playing with couples is that you have to understand they'll often put their relationship before you. In mine, if something's going wrong with us Intend to cut everything extracurricular until we've settled down. - Posted from rhpmobile

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sweetgem

9 years ago

Got stood up for a face to face meeting once and have had numerous disappear-without-a-trace scenarios. I have also done the silent disappearance in messages when all a man wanted to chat about is to see when he can fuck me! Recently, I exchanged a couple of messages with a man on here when in his second message, he ignored a simple non-sexual related question that I asked and went straight to mention that he loved sex so much, was horny as and would do anything I want! I was not impressed and was so tempted to write back and say "great, let's have dinner at the ARIA first and then we could pump each other's brains out after that" 😝 Well, he did say he would do anything I want, right? 😛 But of course, I wouldn't be stupid to waste anymore of my own time, so I went for the silent disappearance instead 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

There is just nothing left to say.Silence is a conversation in itself xxFreya

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rupamohan

9 years ago

I will start with assumption that you have some confirmation these are real people. By real I mean at least you have confirmation gender is genuine. Many consider silence as perfect polite answer to a stranger, however it is bit unusual to get this kind of answer after reasonable interaction. Try to remember did you notice any pattern? Is it only happening after you share something in particular? If there is something that you share bit late and is a serious deal breaker for some or they expect it to be known upfront. They should have still replied NO unless it is too gross for them and putting so much off that they don't want to respond. Having said this you will never know the real answer unless they tell you. If you are already having fun just ignore your curiosity.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Fucking rude if you ask us! what makes it even more feral is when they accept a friend's request only never to be heard from again, take your friends request and fuck off!!🆗 yes sounds harsh but then again minority ruins it for the majority❗😂😜 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

I assume they are either lying about something or have lost interest. If they dont have the gutts to be honest i dont want to f@ck with them anyway x - Posted from rhpmobile

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Service_man

9 years ago

I have been in couple of situations like this and it had me wondering has anything happened to the lady. Initially I fretted because one lady did get very sick just before a date and I found out later she nearly died. What I am experiencing at present is Dates with several women -not for sex on first date. For instance we organise a date which seem to go well and she rings me a day or so later and is all keen. I ring a day later and overnight its gone reall cold -sorry cant talk now -cant meet until Easter and keep in touch.I wouldhave prefered if she told me I have changed my mind etc and just not into you. On another occasion I was at her home and thing progressed to bedroom and after 2hrs of going down on her and a fat lip due to her cumming and thrusting I had to leave for an appointment. Well I got a kiss on the cheek goodbye and went home on cloud nine. Called her next morning to tell her I really enjoyed last night and when can we meet again. Got told don't want to see me again because she was not my priority. I told her up front I was separated and Iwas living apart and working toward divorce and my wife aproves of me having a FWB but in her mind I was still not suitable.

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RHP User

9 years ago

This happens... For gods sake have some balls and own up to the fact that you're not interested/ busy/sexual chemistry isn't there/had a better offer... Whatever the reason is say it. Don't hide behind silence, the other person you're dealing with is actually a human being who deserves the common courtesy of knowing. - Posted from rhpmobile

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