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People who look after themselves...
October 14 2014
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Good point, meander. I also wonder..... where all the closed-minded people must be.... and where all the boundaries are, and does everyone dig in the dirt. Everyone in here claims to be open minded, is down to earth, and has supernatural abilities to push other peoples boundaries. Sounds like a list of requirements for a fencing contractor. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd prefer to include myself with the company of people who look after others .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Cos nobody else sure is:-) xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
In my experience it tends to be in line with people who hit the gym often or are naturally thin thanks to epic genetics they take for granted ;)
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Hottie1
10 years ago
I don't know why but I often interpret that as I take good physical care of myself, as in, I go to the gym and work out and like other athletic looking people - which is all well and good. I walk 3 -4 times a week ( varies between 20-35 Kms per week) and do 2 personal training sessions a week. I will never have an athletic body! I also wax every 4 weeks, manicure and pedicure every 2-3 weeks and cut and colour my hair every 6-8 weeks. I am complemented constantly on the way I look after myself and also smell good :) I am exceptionally groomed but will never be what a lot of people want on here because I'm a size 12-14 at my best ;) I'm very lucky to be loved by an exceptional man and lusted after by a couple of very beautiful RHP men. Im at a stage now where I like who I am, scars and all. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is also that it means people who are lean/fit. Not necessarily obsessively so, but enough that they don't have excess fat and they're physically active. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
So I'm neither lean nor fit, and I never go to the gym. According to the last three posts I don't take care of myself?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would say you take care of yourself :) It's just that when people write it on their profiles I interpret it to specifically mean gym fit.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
OK... let me translate between the lines... _________________________________________________________________They DONT want to appear abrasive... but.... they really want to say "no fatties"
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Circe
10 years ago
And more about grooming and hygiene but also being healthy. Also about diet and excersise. I'd argue that if you're not eating healthily and keeping reasonably active then you're probably not really looking after yourself. Those who drink a lot are not looking after themselves. Grooming is a big thing, I've seen people show up to meet and greets and they clearly don't take a great deal of care with how they present themselves.
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RHP User
10 years ago
because I'm not ready for the nursing home. It's shorthand. Problem is, I'm sure it means something a little different to everyone. Like, I don't smoke, I don't drink much, I have less than a litre of Coke a day. Or I exercise obsessionally, only eat organic quinoa, drink soy milk and only smoke Japanese whalers. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
No more meet and greets for me xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
You really must stop reading The Three Billy Goats Gruff...what's hiding under that bridge just ain't a good role model Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' OK... let me translate between the lines... _________________________________________________________________They DONT want to appear abrasive... but.... they really want to say "no fatties" That's what I suspected too. However, a recent comment by another poster mentioned people who look after themselves no matter what their body shape, and it got me wondering. So, I'll ask again: Overweight = Not looking after yourself?
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Circe
10 years ago
I hear from some reliable sources that you are the epitome of style and grace... We've certainly never been in the same place, you and I. Unfortunately...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your sauces are most unreliable,big but lean and toned, fibbers:-) xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
As someone who has used that term; Yes. When I suggest that we look after ourselves we mean that we are reasonably fit, we exercise regularly (not gym junkies but regular exercise) and eat healthy. It may sound superficial but while we are looking for friends we are also looking for people we can find sexually attractive. So no, this does not include people who are overweight. And for us this also includes smoking. And to the aguywithrespect; sorry but genetics has very little to do with this. Exercise and good food. Not barbie and ken; just make the best of the body you were given.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You hit the nail on the head.
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RHP User
10 years ago
what he meant by that as he looked quite buff and toned and figured he expected the same. He could clearly see my pics and that I am not by any means lean but he explained like MissBB that it pertained more to presenting well, personal hygiene and not being a couch potato, someone who is active but not necessarily at the gym. I sort of figured it mean't being a fitness fanatic too.
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BradSydney
10 years ago
Of course it means they don't want someone my body shape, and that's fine, I don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me. Actually I find it useful because I value personality and laughter above looks, so for me it eliminates people who I wouldn't connect with in any case. People that think it is only about a 'good' body are not people I would want to spend time with. I have met ladies and couple of various shapes, heights and nationalities and the human interaction is a big part of the enjoyment. I find it funny to see some of the young buff guys post on here and moan that they can't meet anyone. Well if I can meet a reasonable number of people (I am not trying to fill a phone book I must hasten to add!) then it comes down to personality. Oh and punctuation, don't forget the punctuation..... Brad
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RHP User
10 years ago
Purely opinion. Much like asking what your favourite colour is. Mine is blue. Does that change anything? No. Conclusion, there is no conclusion just opinion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Take care of yourself, look after yourself, take pride in your appearance. To me doesn't mean it is weight related.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MissBlissBomb' And more about grooming and hygiene but also being healthy. Also about diet and excersise. I'd argue that if you're not eating healthily and keeping reasonably active then you're probably not really looking after yourself. Those who drink a lot are not looking after themselves. Grooming is a big thing, I've seen people show up to meet and greets and they clearly don't take a great deal of care with how they present themselves.
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RHP User
10 years ago
well i dont live with mum ! So i look after myself .:-)) Miss Meander i would look after you also :-)) For a while anyway :-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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lovman8
10 years ago
I do my own cooking and washing and shower occassionally..... Does that count?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mrs D has no libido...women aren't fighting over me so I look after myself...wanker that I am
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RHP User
10 years ago
To me it means looking after your health and keeping young in mind and spirit. And taking pride in your appearance. All of the women who post on the forums look after themselves, that's plain to see.
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RHP User
10 years ago
is basically what they are trying to say without saying it. I wish RHP had a filter for things like that so we didnt have to flick through all the lean gym people chasing their dopplegangers to find someone to msg for fun.
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6exxy
10 years ago
Active not necessarily the gym, eat healthy but does not have to be fanatical, a little fat never killed anybody that's for sure, presents with thought class and style, confident in their own skin and loves good company with intelligent conversation. Meander you are hardly a couch potato you gorgeous thang! 😏
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I think I finally look the way I'm kinda supposed to but fat and 96kg I still got plenty of attention and was probably in some ways hotter. Sexy is an attitude not the body perfect. Looks help but if you have nothing deeper to offer by way of intellect or personality what else have you got? I dated a man once, and I think his words go for both sexes. Good Lord I'm quoting him again!! "Young girls are great to look at and fun to talk to for about the first 5 minutes. After that they've got nothing. Give me a real grown woman anyday." Looks, intelligence regardless of sex/age/physical attributes and what is or is not considered "beautuful, fit or healthy" lay in the eyes of the beholder. There is no rhyme or reason to it, it just is. Attitude counts for about 70-80% of a person's attractiveness, the rest is just smoke and mirrors. I mean once that hot, sexy hunk of gorgeousness opens his/her mouth and degrades, is arrogant, mean spirited or just dumb as dogshit I'll find that unkempt person who didn't dress well for the meet and greet a bit more interesting. Wouldn't you? 😳
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Being good to yourself and liking yourself as a person. Cliche' but If you don't like you who else is going to? Personal hygiene is a must though, just saying 👍
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RHP User
10 years ago
lovely reply............X
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RHP User
10 years ago
Here I sit, on the couch stuffing ice cream and cookies into my chipmunk cheeks. I walk every day, but that is to the fridge and back to the couch.my pits are hairy and I am not sure but I might have tucked the fluffy dog under My arm and not sure if it's still there, every now and again I hear muffled barking. Forget the Brazilian, I need a complete south America. I smoke cigars, and eat garlic like grapes. My fart s however smell like crushed rose petals, a bitter disappointment to guys like coops. My hair, eagles nets in it, along with some finches, a possum and three rats, one of them is pregnant. My blue overall are fifty percent grease and the rest is comprised of dried cum. I like that as it is like starch and needs no ironing. Well off to valley in the hogs. Suuuuuuuuuuueeeeeeeeeeee.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Fantastic question Meander........ Well, I think I look after myself, my skin, my hair, my nails, my teeth, I am clean, I dress well, I go walking, I eat reasonably well, my mind is fresh, friendly and open. The doctor tells me I'm healthy, when I go for my check ups. Is my body perfect? God no, as DG put it I'm a fatty, god bless us fatties.... I'm 45, I've had 5 babies, I've mistreated it, abused it and geez I've had some fun doing it. Bottom line is if someone doesn't like me for me, all of me, lumps and bumps, boobs and bum, they're probably not worthy of me anyway, it's their loss not mine, because I'm so much more than a body....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I take care of myself, I'm fit and active. I'm well groomed and I have a decent sense of style. All that being said, when I see on a profile that someone wants someone who 'takes care of' or 'looks after' themselves, it puts me off. The definition is too broad and open to interpretation and I'm not going to ask someone if it's ok if I have a large arse because I still walk everyday and shave my legs. I think DG has it spot on, it means 'no fatties' which is actually a glaring insight into the person if they believe that extra weight equals a lack of caring for oneself. Another reason it puts me off....
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RHP User
10 years ago
when this is what it means I am ready for the scrapheap. I am not size 6 no long slender legs not sporty...................ohh and a tummy....fuck that's it.....I am a goner. No men will even look at my pictures :( because I am classified in today's world as a FATTY, with no self respect, style or self control.................gosh what NOW. I have to count myself lucky.......praise be the LORD......:) there are FATTY lovers...................what a degrading word this is.....FATTY.......what a label......society gives people......no wonder some got to get mental. Lucky there are all kinds of people out there with all kinds of tastes......and no I am not dirty smelly AND I look after myself in the mental department without popping pills and I eat good food. LOLOL lucky for my kinda males who love a big ass I have one.......lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'inthekiss' Forget the Brazilian, I need a complete south America. I just choked on my biscuit!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Take care of yourself, look after yourself, take pride in your appearance. To me doesn't mean it is weight related. My profile says I look after my appearance. I'm not fit, but a healthy weight and size for my height. I try to drink plenty of water and stay away from too many processed foods.I keep my body clean, shaved and waxed, my hair dyed and my nails pretty. When meeting people I make an effort, put some make-up on make sure I smell good. I personally don't think it's weight related either. Like on Safari said, I think it's about liking yourself. I believe the people who don't are the ones much more likely to "let themselves go".
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I think that's what people who specify that you must take care of yourself mean. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
And it is only my opinion...... That most people that put that in their profile are referring to as DG said "fatties" which is ok, because that's their preference. For me it's about what most people have stated "taking pride in themselves." I defiantly like someone to be clean, dress well, smell nice and have a healthy outlook on life, these traits are far more appealing and important to me than someone that has a little extra weight on them....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
.. but not to the point of extremes.. I work hard , I walk and run whenever time allows. I eat fairly well and I feel healthy. I dont think of others who dont take the time to do these things as any lessor person. Its my choice to look after myself the way I always have. I think I mention in my profile that I look after myself. If that puts someone off ' thats their problem not mine. I dont expect everyone to be the same and I wouldnt reject someone because their choice of lifestyle was different to mine . In fact 99% of women I know are normal everyday ppl enjoying life.. Some overweight , some too skinny.. makes no diference to me, as long as they take time to be clean and tidy....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Madmanx' As someone who has used that term; Yes. When I suggest that we look after ourselves we mean that we are reasonably fit, we exercise regularly (not gym junkies but regular exercise) and eat healthy. It may sound superficial but while we are looking for friends we are also looking for people we can find sexually attractive. So no, this does not include people who are overweight. And for us this also includes smoking. And to the aguywithrespect; sorry but genetics has very little to do with this. Exercise and good food. Not barbie and ken; just make the best of the body you were given. You're making the common, incorrect assumption that weight is influenced only by exercise and food. Genetics can actually play quite a significant role in body weight and shape. Some people can eat crappy food, rarely exercise, and still be slim even though they are probably not fit at all. Others can exercise regularly, eat well, and be quite fit but they are still a larger size simply because of their inherent body makeup. It's entirely your prerogative to have a personal preference for a particular body type but it's a mistake to assume if you're going exclusively for slimmer people that they will always be fit and healthy, or that people carrying extra weight can't have a healthy lifestyle. Much of the time when I read that statement in profiles it's in a context where you can tell that they are directly or indirectly relating it to weight, but sometimes it seems to be more generally about overall lifestyle and grooming / personal hygiene. I do always wonder though, if there are people on here with less than acceptable personal hygiene are they going to be self-aware of that fact...so would they read that in someone's profile and think, "ah crap, only one shower a week, can't remember when I last brushed my teeth, and months worth of dirt under my fingernails so that counts me out!!"?
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Plain
10 years ago
How vain they are, opinionated, egotistical, fashion conscious, there,s a whole bunch of things that they can find wrong with you, but the main one is objecting to portly people. I guess I am out then!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think it's different for different people. As long as you treat others with respect. Tell others the truth and what your after. You can't go wrong. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
That is exactly what they mean it has nothing to do with diet or grooming on all dating site it means just one thing I WANT SOMEONE WITH A HOT BODY they just don't want someone abusing them for saying no average or fat people thanks
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
For us, if one looks after oneself / takes care of ones body one considers the following important for oneself:- 1.Dont smoke 2.Dont do drugs 3.Drink only in moderation 4.Eat healthy food. 5.Watch ones weight 6.Watch ones health 7.Personal hygiene & grooming 8.Get some exercise 9.Practise safe sex / infection control - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Thank you, mwah. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
means you realise that you only get one body and that it is the temple if your soul. Give it nutrition, relaxation, and action that it/you love (find an activity you enjoy).It's about being healthy and fit NOT skinny or muscley. We are attracted to the glow of health. It is not superficial, it is natural. - Posted from rhpmobile
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Agree - an over utlised term applied in numerous, varying, and yes - contradictory contexts. Its become "cliche". Do people always apply cliches appropriately? That term for me means physically & mentally healthy & balanced. As such I purposefully avoid using that term as i find it draws almost the opposite. Further, I do find sexy ladies with delicious curves very very attractive & Lordy me id not want to scare even one of them off by using a cliche. SAx
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
I think.... its just an odd ting to say in a profile. If you have a preference for body type A, and you receive contact by someone who doesnt match that..... you can always politely decline. Perhaps, theyre simply trying to make a comment about themselves, more than a comment about others.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You say in your profile you're looking for Charlize Theron. Jokingly I'm sure, but I think it gives a clear indication of the type of woman you are attracted to physically. I could imagine women not looking anything like her seeing a message there and/or feeling intimidated. Just me wondering, and feel free to ignore, but curious if anyone has asked about it before?
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Not one has mentioned it. They're way more interested in the dinosaur..... which by the way, is not representative of the kind of woman I am attracted to ;-) If someone is going to take the Charlize reference so seriously, they're not going to reply to my message.... and are unlikely to be the kind of woman I'm interested in so perhaps it's an effective screening mechanism for the overly serious or those with self esteem problems. Pop quiz.... do you think Charlize is attractive?! Would you go for her even though she's straight and has a different physique to you? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Most guys are looking for Charlize or some incarnation of a fantasy woman. Whether you have the confidence to approach said fantasy girl is another question. As far as the question goes, I can only go on appearances. If I look at a profile that shows a lady is bigger than my tastes fun too, I don't contact them. If their hobbies are TV and movies, they're probably not my type (unless it's SciFi they're watching). There are many things I can work on, in a physical sense, to be even more attractive to the opposite sex but I don't want to overwhelm them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was recently contacted by a very fit and good looking local man in his late forties.He asked me if I would be happy to chat.I replied that yes I would be happy to chat but that I was really just here for the forums and rarely met anyone.He then asked me to tell him my age and body type because if we were to match in that area then he would be happy to chat...so no fat conversations for him :-) xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Not one has mentioned it. They're way more interested in the dinosaur..... which by the way, is not representative of the kind of woman I am attracted to ;-) Pop quiz.... do you think Charlize is attractive?! Would you go for her even though she's straight and has a different physique to you? I was just curious. No, Charlize does nothing for me, I much prefer dark-haired women. I like her height though!
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RHP User
10 years ago
On a couples' profile: "And (without sounding too shallow) No Fatties or Hairy types!" Using the word Fatty is name calling in my book, and not ok. I do appreciate their honesty though and the fact that they've just shown me they're not for me.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
You're all woman and that comes with your level of maturity and wisdom. Fat with brains and attitude Lady 😊
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On_Safari
10 years ago
😥 now I know!! 😩
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' On a couples' profile: "And (without sounding too shallow) No Fatties or Hairy types!" Using the word Fatty is name calling in my book, and not ok. I do appreciate their honesty though and the fact that they've just shown me they're not for me. I'd rather someone who's blunt like this than someone who says they're chasing someone who "looks after themselves". At least they're being honest and not hiding behind political correctness. Its for this reason we specify no gym junkies in our profile. Nothing in common with them and much prefer people into other pursuits in life. Each to their own.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ThreesomeCupl'I'd rather someone who's blunt like this than someone who says they're chasing someone who "looks after themselves". At least they're being honest and not hiding behind political correctness. Its for this reason we specify no gym junkies in our profile. Nothing in common with them and much prefer people into other pursuits in life. Each to their own. There's being honest and there's being rude. They could have said they are not into fat/overweight/obese people. Calling people by a "title" like that (that includes the term "gym rats" in your profile for me) I just don't find very respectful.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Each to their own. If people are gonna take offence to being called gym rats then we have serious first world problems. Thats how my gymgoing friends refer to themselves so I assumed it was common vernacular. Sorry if it offended you. But like it or not, society is full of labels and puts everyone in nice little categories. Its the way of the world. No disrespect meant.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think with RHP it is kind of impossible to critique how people pick who they want to sleep with. You can have a cry about women/men (in particular women, due to the M:F ratio) only wanting hot bodies, but in the end if the position of power was switched chances are (i.e. on average) you'd do exactly the same. And at the end of the day - you have to respect peoples choices and opinion. It is sex after all. You can't get offended, because that isn't how life works, and it is especially not how adult dating sites work.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think there's a bit of a difference between finding something not very respectful and being offended. The latter takes a looooot more than that.
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Says more about us than anything else! 'fatties or rats' are always pejorative in meaning and I don't believe it is required. You are trying to attract people here and the first point of contact is your profile, take the time to specify what you are after without the perjorative language. The only way I see 'fat ' in a positive light is when referring to a playmates cock, the fatter the better as far as I'm concerned ;) Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
too many people are just here to find fault.
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RHP User
10 years ago
lots. I make sure that I have plenty of Nutella in the pantry, a shelf full of Agatha Christie's I've read a million times but never remember who dunnit, and plenty of paint. I could do with more batteries though, just sayin'.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The term pejorative, thanks ag4mg92!
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RHP User
10 years ago
You guys are absolutely gorgeous and not only in looks but character, you should have no worries about what people think of you, I feel lucky to have you as friends xxxx
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SoSoPretty
10 years ago
I usually take it as someone who cares of their body and their health. I don't think it necessarily means "no overweight people", but more along the lines of looking like you're in good health. Which is subjective because it will be different for each person. Everyone is different, so everyone will find different body types, personalities, etc attractive. I know a lot of people like to think looks don't matter and someone should like for your personality. However, that's the first thing someone will notice before they actually converse with you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't recollect seeing mention of medical advice being included as a way of looking after yourself pap smears for the girls DRE's for the boys, blood tests for all. Whatever it takes don't forget about regular check ups, they become more important as time goes by. That's digital rectal examination...for the prostate A finger up the bum or possible cancer...it's your choice
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RHP User
10 years ago
The feeling's mutual.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would argue the two are very much interlinked.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love interlinked penii! Wait, penes. Penises. All of the above!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Get real people . People who look after themselves = we don't want fat people pure and simple . Because the people on this site really are that shallow .
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would take it to mean, that they are seeking people who will present well and take care in their apperance. I'd look at their own profile pictures and take that as the lead. Because what they are probably saying; this is us, and we are looking for similar.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Doodle, twinky, anaconda, slayer of all worlds, turnip, calipo, red rocket, steven. All great penis names. Fyi everyone. Hope I sprinkled a little wisdom on your day.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Turnip? Really???? Anaconda, though.....
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UndaCoverMiss
10 years ago
It really is a broad statement, that leaves it open to the individuals interpretation. My opinion why some people (not all) put this on their profile is due to the fact they don't have the ability to write what they are really thinking. It is used as a polite front/cover up.I drink, I smoke, stay up late and eat when and what I feel (I don't go to the gym either) but I can still put in my profile that I look after myself and that is because I don't have someone here that looks after me, 'I do'. So in short I don't write that because it seems that it is interpreted as being physically (gym etc) active with the body to match.I say spell it, say what you really mean, because if they don't like you for who you are and what you look like then they obviously aren't worth the time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But consider myself ample still, i do not exercise, am far from fit, drink too much beer, smoke yet eat healthy...I do not fall in the category of "looking after myself". i am not large yet I'm not small and petite, i don't care about my size or if you do so I don't hide it. A few guys have tried to make contact with me where their profile stats "fit girls only" or "no big people" so I completely ignore them...deny, deny, deny. I consider myself very open minded and push my own seeking criteria because you just never know, but that's just a bit too far for my likings. Yes it is good that they clearly state what they want straight out, but come on guys is that all that really matters? What is a hot body with a ugly heart? (Yes stolen) we all have the same woodworks maybe you should take a look at yourself first... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's a good question. Some people may 'look after' themselves in some respects but not others. E.g they may go to them gym everyday, but perhaps they don't wash and go to the std clinic everyday too. Or perhaps they're physically in shape, smell like cherry blossom, eat healthy but are completely psychotic and need a trip to see the psychiatrist? Who knows? I hate the gym far too many many people who talk training. I train outside in nature, all weathers. Perhaps I'm not looking after myself as I could get struck by lightening or fall off the cliffs into the ocean. Then I might smell fishy! More looking after myself points lost....Damnit! X
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RHP User
10 years ago
We are all deeply shallow in some respects,I could care less about body shape ,its not that I don't appreciate a rockin' hot bod,but that I am more interested in who you are as a person...and I find a lazy mind to be extremely unattractive....I just lurve a jolly good cerebral workout.... flex those leetle grey cells people:-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
love a phat brain.. they is well fit...David Beckham
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RHP User
10 years ago
Judging by some of these comments I don't look after myself at all :/ haha. It's always daunting when I see that in a profile (looking for people who look after themselves) because I see it as the gym workout types. Im not physically fat. But neither am I a toned buff gym goer at all and never have been haha. But my hygiene is really schmick. And I was probably lucky with genetics to be tall tanned and slim. Thats the physical side of looking after yourself I guess. Which I feel I dont fit that requisite. Even if my image may portrey otherwise. But some of you see it other ways which is refreshing, maybe nieve but refreshing haha. Anyway, different horses for different courses ? Thats the saying right haha?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Interesting topic. I train in powerlifting, MMA and BJJ, so my core and stamina are rarely equalled, even at 32 my endurance is off the chain. I do have a bit of padding, probably due to a love of pizza. I'm confident, to a degree, but I am wary of the whole "looks after themselves" thing, because, despite being much fitter than even the above average, I'm also carrying a bit of extra weight. I don't want to sound like a douche, but I have had no problems in the interest department, whether my beard, tattoos, job or general demeanour factor in, I'm not sure. But I will say that I'm not a model and previous experience as "the fat kid" makes me second guess whether I should be considering myself as "someone who looks after themselves".
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
So we prefer non smokers, with good hygiene, and nice teeth, all these things are part of looking after your self. A gym fit body is no substitute for a sound mind.
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RHP User
10 years ago
People judge based on appearance despite what most people want to believe. The pecking order is no different here than anywhere else. Sure there may be a few exceptions to the rule but you'll find in most cases those with the rocking bods will be looking for like in eturn. Its the way of the world people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
People who "look after themselves" would hopefully refer to them being clean and hygeinic .. practise a safe lifestyle and are at least moderately healthy .. and also who take pride in their appearance .
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RHP User
10 years ago
perceptions perceptions
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bianca_dd
10 years ago
........and my kids and my ex and do all my own washing, cleaning, shopping, ironing oh where does it end?
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SacralChakra
10 years ago
But I didn't for a long time. Now, although I train, play or coach for 10 hours a week but I've still got a mummy tummy and a lumpy ass... But I have muscles under there and a ton of stamina. I eat healthy, don't drink or smoke and use organic body products. I just wish I had a clue through my 30's...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi Meander, Generally speaking, "looking after yourself" means they "workout" Just because you do not doesn't mean that there aren't men who will be attracted to you. Your lifestyle will suit many men regardless of your weight or smoking status. Personality and confidence in yourself is the most attractive thing. So if you take care of yourself mentally, you are doing well.Mrs E xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ok, yes I'm 6 foot 6 and hit the gym almost daily and have that fireman calendar body. I've also been head hunted by Google so intellectually great. I must admit I get the occasional good looking lady check me out - and have been called huge by more than one lady. So I guess I can say I fit the very narrow view of "looking after myself" But for me looks aren't everything. I must admit the most sexiest thing is a lady who knows how to have fun on the dance floor and express herself. That type of openness and confidence for me really translates well to the bedroom. So in terms of "looking after oneself" I think staying active and keeping a positive, confident view on life is most important. And I think Frank Sinatra summed it up well, "I like dating intelligent women because I hate staring contests". The mind is the best foreplay and the body is only decoration to it :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Looking after yourself means clean, tidy, nails clipped, hair manicured/waxed/shaved some self respect in what you look like nothing to do with a Gym or body size... big is also beautiful, smell sweet and smile is looking after yourself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have "look after yourself" written on my profile and mine means people similar to me I.e. eats mostly healthy, exercises (I only go twice a week so am not a gym junky), non-smoker, good hygiene, dresses nicely. I am not perfect, I am a size 12 with wobbly bits, a butt and don't have a flat stomach and I certainly don't expect perfection from other people but I do expect people to at least look after themselves...I do have to agree that personality usually wins over looks! I have met and played with some lovely people in the past who were overweight but it was their personality that I was attracted to :) I suppose it does not really matter how you word things in your profile because everyone will interpret it differently based on their own understanding and experience so I personally wouldn't take it off my profile as that is my preference :) xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Walking is also exercise, so is being outdoors in the sun kicking a ball with your kids...I don't expect people to go to the gym and be all buff ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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