M35
Percentage of Cheating ?
January 15 2015
Comments
-
Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Your scenarios contain a lot of "if"s. At 25, and single..... these IFs are pretty small. Given a few more years, and a couple of deeply committed relationships under your belt.... those IFs can feel a lot larger. Its noble that you have faith in yourself that you are faithful.... it really is.But,... as you say, you don't have a lot of experience with it at your age. With luck.... you stay that way, and temptation is not something you will need to deal with. Choose wisely, and "cheat-proof" yourself and your long term relationships before you both decide to enter one.
-
Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Never say never, people change, relationships change, needs and wants change, they do what they do, for whatever reasons. As long as it isn't effecting me then I'd prefer to stay out of it.....💋
-
RHP User
10 years ago
It's just rude to sneak in the back door without my knowledge :-p
-
RHP User
10 years ago
I've cheated in every serious relationship I've ever been in. And hated myself for it. But after having spent a year or so exploring on RHP, I've realised that I'm not hard wired for traditional monogamy. For me, being a 'hot wife' would be a dream come true: I'd love to be in a committed LTR with a man who would let me have sex with other men every so often. He would be with me while I was doing it... either watching or (even better) joining in. Nothing better than MFM or MMF in my opinion :) Much love, Elle xx
-
RHP User
10 years ago
If you wish to be monogamous then you need to find someone who is committed to that ideal too.In a Swedish study they found a monogamy gene,but few men have it,and no women. Xx Freya
-
Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Very mature for a 25yr old male to say this... Life is full of twists & turns, ups & downs... It is unrealistic to say you will never cheat on your partner as sometimes things do just happen, however maybe you are one of the original gentlemen who respect & love with need of another. It is so much more fun when you can include your partner in sex with others - lots of fun!! You will meet ppl in your life that you will instantly click with, that will be a strong connection - it's all in the the 4 letter word - life x - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
10 years ago
But cheating can have a few different meanings in a relationship and monogamy is hard sometimes. As Freya says, monogamy is a choice and shouldn't be a societal imposition. For many, it can be bloody hard work and sometimes expectations, particularly in long term relationships can lead to disappointment. Flirty x
-
RHP User
10 years ago
"Things just happen"? Seriously? Only if you are open to them, in my opinion.
-
RHP User
10 years ago
To many people do it with clouded minds If you feel the need to cheat then your relationship has issues & if you go through with it, then youve closed the door. The couple that plays together stays together. Trust is something that bonds, once it is lost its near impossible to get back....honest & open communication before hand is the only way to go imho Having someone flirt with you has a feel good factor about it, sharing that with your partner through pillow talk etc is so much fun & can open a path & scenarios that you may never have thought possible. Having a partner that is desireable to others makes you appreciate what you have & you will see them in a different light that life & complacency may have dulled over time....so if your partner comes home & says "I had a really cute guy put the make on me today & to be honest I loved it" dont let the intial jealousy turn to anger, instead turn it into hunger & passion for her & reap the rewards For me having a hotwife is the spice of life & a gift that keeps on giving...hotwives rule
-
RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Elle67' I've cheated in every serious relationship I've ever been in. And hated myself for it. But after having spent a year or so exploring on RHP, I've realised that I'm not hard wired for traditional monogamy. For me, being a 'hot wife' would be a dream come true: I'd love to be in a committed LTR with a man who would let me have sex with other men every so often. He would be with me while I was doing it... either watching or (even better) joining in. Nothing better than MFM or MMF in my opinion :) Much love, Elle xx Love your outlook Elle, I totally agree it would be so amazing to find yourself in a LTR where both party's are on that page, It may not suit everyone but IMO that's the dream and one of the my reasons for being here..
-
RHP User
10 years ago
Would a Sex at Dawn thread be worthwhile to discuss such concepts ?
-
Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Things happen..... but choices make them happen. DG
-
RHP User
10 years ago
I cheated on a partner about 5 years ago. The reasons are not important. Cheating sucks and is not good for the soul, its stressful and leaves you full of guilt. You have to lie and guard everything you say. The relationship ended from my side as I could not deal with the double life and all the crap associated with it. She never found out and never will, some say i should have told her, but that is just being cruel and would have served no purpose at all but to inflict pointless pain. Some people are cheaters, they will always be so, they are proud of it and need the world to find out, all but the one that they manipulate and lie to. Cheaters are not to be trusted, if they can deal with the stress and the lies without the guilt, you can not trust them for anything at all. Selfish needs above all else and dam the consequences. OP don't even try it, its not a path you want to venture down, not only will you hurt others, you will suffer as well. I learnt my lesson the hard way and will not go down that path again. If you feel you need to expand you sexual horizons and the person you are with does not share that need then time to move on rather than lie and deceive. There are plenty of women that are polyamorous and if you can deal with them playing than you will be able to as well. Last thing, I see you have put Very discrete on your profile for who you are looking for, you are already in the cheaters circle, I am betting you hide you profile from your partner, so the deception is already at work. Will you close down your profile and forget it? I don't think so. In my view, and a good chance your partners view, you are already cheating! now the question is are you suffering any guilt, for your sake i hope so.
-
Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Blindman.... Im prepared to take his profile at face value.... he says he's single.... ok. So... perhaps the "VERY discreet" reference was merely to project an image that he can be trusted. And if so.... by who? Attached women? Then ... if thats a yes........ facilitating a cheater is just as bad as being one. 2c
-
RHP User
10 years ago
Is not always because of a partner in the background BM :) you are right, so often it is (and I detest it)... but discretion is hugely important to me for reasons relating to my career and other areas of my life, and I am as single as they come. I imagine this is true for others on here, also. OP I think it's great you're asking these questions, and I fully respect your position. Everyone is right, you are young and life has a strange way of turning out unexpectedly, and there are many reasons why people cheat. For my part though, I think cheating is always a choice... and it's devastating. Whether within this scene or outside it. It's not ok. Nothing about betrayal is ok. Monogamy, polygamy, swinging... all of these are valid choices which couples make together, openly and honestly. There's no right or wrong, just finding what works for each couple. But cheating is a whole other ballgame. Lots of people do it, and lots of people get hurt. Hold onto your values. You are on the right track.
-
Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Meander you are right - after I read your reply I thought yep - things just dont happen - you have a choice and I agree with you... Shesays - you have my 100% respect - well written and so very very true...
-
RHP User
10 years ago
These responses are awesome and exactly the type of discussions I would of liked to elaborate on at the time of this thought!! I guess life is filled with things that happen unexpectedly and spontaneous things do spark a certain vibe of interest and stimulation.. the ultimate factor is the choice itself.. The circumstances and the nature of how this came about in ones life will depend whether it's right or wrong.. But I'm all for communication within a relationship, I couldn't do it without her knowing. As for singles, discretion takes a totally different role then couples.. I've been confronted with the opportunities before and just couldn't.. Although I am an open minded being, I stand by what feels right.. and when I do find myself in a LTR and the playgrounds are considered I'll feel a little more comfy with it thanks to all the responses here along with the further discussions/experience/understanding that will come with my life's path.. Shesays - you're words are so well written wow !! They certainly Never cease to amaze and never lack value and knowledge !! Marvellous mind !! Cheers again everyone J - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
10 years ago
My LTR spans 18 yrs thus far, with this year panning out to be our most adventurous sexually, think it takes all types to cheat and not just the sneaky, there are varied reasons people do what they do, ultimately it comes back to being about them, not their relationship or the sin..... We all have animal instincts, desires... It's how WE choose to act on them...
-
RHP User
10 years ago
Is an artificial constraint, it is like wearing a straight jacket with your pink bits out. And then you get an itch there instead of your nose, and the only relief you get is to bump into someone in the sexual loony bin so you can rub pink bits to ease that itch. Some people even believe that thinking about another person and sex is unfaithful, ask any one that got caught on a computer with their fly undone or a sexy text. to my mind its a stupid concept that keeps people unhappy and causes them to cheat. Sex has more power than a heat seeking missile. Wars have been fought, murders committed and other shit because of its power, your only one little human do not let the sexual Salem police fuck up your future. monogamy is an illusion that has been designed to keep people in their place. Too much sex is dangerous, people get more bent out of shape if you cheat than if you shot someone.
-
RHP User
10 years ago
At least I think its different. I am single so the cheating part doesn't really apply but I have a girlfriend who visits me from across the country from time to time. We get along incredibly but professional interests keep us on opposite sides of the country. However, when she is here, we love to spend time at the swingers club, or with people we have met there, or at parties held by people we met. I get my pleasure from seeing her getting pleasure. If she did it behind my back, that would trigger the same response in me that it does in anyone else but while it is a mutually agreed upon relationship, it is really awesome. I wont go into details here but I don't mind relating some stories by pm. I just get such a high from this that the thought of me doing something with someone else just never enters my head. She is a friend, not a partner per se, but what we have is incredible. Just too long between drinks...
-
RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with silk peach, we as a species are not designed for monogamy. It is only cheating if the other partner has not given permission, in which case it is very wrong as it can lead to the partner feeling worthless, as if you dont want them, and generally f%ck their self worth in a big way. Setting ground rules up front and negotiation as to what is acceptable is a far better way to go about it.
-
RHP User
10 years ago
How does a poly relationship sound?
Boards
-
Hot Topics
Topics: 14361 Comments: 120840
-
Girls Ask
Topics: 1355 Comments: 14709
-
Guys Ask
Topics: 2425 Comments: 17234
-
Couples' Corner
Topics: 2405 Comments: 12737
-
Swingers Lifestyle
Topics: 794 Comments: 5154
-
Fetish & Fantasy
Topics: 1148 Comments: 6957
-
Hot Travel
Topics: 622 Comments: 2145
-
LGBT
Topics: 156 Comments: 1150
Forum help
-
Something related with that
-
Going somewhere & want to hook up?
-
Hasn't that topic been posted before?
RHP's popular dating tool
-
Where the heck did that topic go?
Discover what RHP is doing offline
-
RHP member's RL secrets
reply
like
Share