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Perhaps this is why your success rate is low?

November 22 2020

Recently returned to RHP seeking some quality company, preferably with a single man. I am taking things slow this time round, because I truly want quality over quantity. As usual, I get some good messages, not so good messages, to plain messages with just cock shots and nothing else, not even a word in the message! As I understand that this is a sex site, it is still no different than any of the adult clubs in the real world, where you must approach a complete stranger with proper manners and the right attitude! I doubt that if you approach a woman at a club without asking her nicely, she would be happy to let you touch her, let alone to have sex with her! Therefore, maybe look at how your compose your messages, and put in some efforts to write a proper message instead of the plain "do you want to fuck" one liner! And please, don't be surprised if you send a tasteless message and don't get a reply back!

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RHP User

4 years ago

And safety seems to have gone out the window. Men don’t have time for a public meet..... it’s disrespectful to ignore a woman’s concerns and it’s rude to say you don’t have time to discuss what each person likes and doesn’t agree to before moving to the bedroom. That’s where the fun begins, watching each other’s faces and learning what turns your prospective partner on.

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jessica__rabbit

4 years ago

Preaching to the choir!! "Nice tits" doesn't bode well either. Neither does being an abusive **** when someone says they're not interested. I generally take the time to reply to those messages - with the same amount of courtesy and respect I receive, if not more 😂😂

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RHP User

4 years ago

I for one have never sent a “wanna fuck?” Message, I have however tried to compose thoughtful messages, messages complimenting the receiver on their profile etc etc. The end result is out of hundreds of messages (seems like that many) I’ve probably had less than a dozen replies and 99.9% of those are in the negative. So now I just don’t bother. 🤷‍♂️

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TheGentleTouch69

4 years ago

Welcome back, hopefully you find what you are looking for!

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Mischeviouslad

4 years ago

Well said Sweetgem If someone doesn't have the decency, and authenticity to respect you (and themselves!) by communicating in a manner that portrays they recognize you are a human being.... then theyre just selfishly viewing yiu as a hole to masturbate inside of

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MsSuperFoxy

4 years ago

Welcome back. Ms Foxy

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sweetnsensual

4 years ago

As for a coupkle we still get messages from guys saying crude things which just gets them blocked. What we have found is people that reply crudely are different when you are standing ion front of them. We had a couple send really crude messages to us and then get cranky when we didnt fall at their feet but met them at a social event and they were lovely to talk to. We are thinking it was just the guy messaging as we couldnt imagine it was her as she was gorgeous and charming. I think guys forget their manners and thi nk its just open slather. Hope your journey goes well and you dont meet too many time wasters!

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Kama_Sutra

4 years ago

good point..

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PhunnyGuy

4 years ago

I too try to be respectful & thoughtful with my messages, but like 8 inch, just keep getting, sorry your not my type. I would not send a message unless I matched what you were looking for! It’s frustrating & I am also considering not renewing. Rant over. Cheers lovely people.

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MelbCplupforfun

4 years ago

perhaps flirt parties etc (social/no play) where people from the lifestyle get to mingle are also good options for people to meet and potentially find their respective fantasies?

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boobsandbusted

4 years ago

Hiya ,sweet gem ,XX hope your well

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Bikenut

4 years ago

Getting a response even just a thanks but no thanks would be nice. It seems a thing called courtesy has gone out the window from the first messages to not bothering to reply. Maybe I am one of the last gentlemen around that still believes a lady should be treated with respect

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AnnieWhichway

4 years ago

Welcome back Sweetgem! Agree with you. I've been out of the frey for many months. A few approaches made me dip the toe. Faark me. The usual separated guys unable to show their face, unable to do public meets unable to reply to a reply to their initial message. Same shit, different year. Men are so disappointing. Just buy a good vibrator. Apart from the battery component, you won't be disappointed.....

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RHP User

4 years ago

I do my best to be interesting and polite, give an actual introduction - touch on some common interests with a bit of naughty cheeky banter with the offer of face on request, which I've never refused. Meeting up in public would be fantastic, even if nothing else happened the interactions are worth it. No idea why other guys cannot be bothered putting the effort in. Maybe sick of lack of results?

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