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Permanent Relationship or NSA only???

May 14 2014

Hi All, I am new to this site (and forum) and have spent much more time on "traditional dating sites". I hope that term isn't derogatory, I just mean 'Non-adult' type sites. I am open to having a NSA relationship with a lady, that's why I'm here, but at the same time, I am still fond of the idea of finding a lady with whom I connect and where we both 'click' and have something special that may become a permanent relationship. I say as much in my profile and have had a couple of ladies show interest, as I said, I am open to a NSA relationship for the moment, also. My question is simply, "Is this the type of site where I might find someone who is possibly looking for the same thing"?. I have used the non-adult 'Dating Sites' and have had a few very satisfying relationships and all is OK, but I have found on a couple of occasions, lately, that the process involved in those sites (liking someone's profile, online chatting, emailing, phone calls, finally meeting, three or four dates... then, at which time it's OK to begin talking about "THE SEX"... LOL. It seems to me that the process, although thorough and honest etc, can sometimes end up with all things seeming fine and going well, until you find that you're not compatible sexually... This may simply mean, different ideas, likes and dislikes... I'm not what I think is too 'kinky'. I'm basically into whatever the lady is pleased by ("My joy is in the giving"... is my 'heading'), and not into B&D, SM or Peeing etc. Just a couple of harmless likes that most ladies find very common and will accommodate even if it's not their 'thing'. So, I suppose the big question is... Am I in the right place? Or should I just stick to the NSA approach and use non-adult 'Dating sites' for the permanent relationship? (Obviously, once in a permanent relationship, I wouldn't be into NSA. There would be no need, for me. One interesting Lady with normal sexual drives and ideals is fine and will always suit me?I know it's a little 'obscure' a question, but comments are welcome from anywhere... Thank you

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RHP User

11 years ago

Welcome to the forums :) I think there are a lot of people out there looking for the same thing, especially women. What you write is precisely the same thing I am looking for. I was on traditional dating sites too and I got fed up with guys pissing in my pocket just to get their dicks wet anyway. It cuts the bullshit and I can still look and maybe find someone compatible. I think the fact that you are open to more displays that you are not damaged by previous relationships, you are not afraid of wanting more and that you understand that us women are valuable in your life and not just good for one thing. Whether you have more luck on here than other sites, I am not sure but I think you will find more sexually liberated women here, generally speaking but I know that some guys are still not having any luck. It may be their tactics though, so many just want sex.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I just read your profile, I think it is a little lengthy and although it is good, it is too much information. You need to save some stuff for the date! I would cull the holiday bit otherwise you are going to be open to gold diggers looking for a free ride, take someone who deserves it and also the bit about your employment :)

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Mischeviouslad

11 years ago

Anything is possible :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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On_Safari

11 years ago

Everyone is looking for that something specific and some of them may be looking for the same things as you but not with you. It's all a learning curve. And welcome to the sandpit. ~ Indagine On Safari

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RHP User

11 years ago

Mate.... Irrespective what site you use.... You get out what you put into it..... Same with relationships....if you're looking for NSA then just tell the woman upfront...be on the front foot and say "I'm just looking to casually date for now. But I don't want a different date each weekend." Instead of going through the motions like you say in order to achieve your destination.... Know what you want....period!!! - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

I appreciate all your comments... Thank you so much for the experienced view on things. Especially ralf74... I thought it was a bit long, but I always have had the habit of giving too much info... It's early days, of course... So I'll tweak it a bit and I'll see how things go. After all, I have had a few ladies interested in talking and possibly meeting and one has said she is a little tired of the NSA and would like to consider something permanent... So... Here I go. Thanks Again, people...

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RHP User

11 years ago

Compared to this rhp dating site are crap IMO and sleazy as ralf74 said they just want sex ... I personally would stick to this site and you will meet some wonderful women :) ...as others has mentioned RhP gets people talking about what they want straight off the bat .... I have met some wonderful guys and indirectly some women who some had/ have become good friends or on going lovers.. Enjoy is all I will say :) X - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

I met my x husband in a pub and he turned out to be a huge loony lol - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Quoting 'RunAwayJoinCircz' Gotta be in it to win it, just be SINCERE and let fate have It's way! Just be aware there are plenty of loonies on here and out there.....but if you're anything like me that's more of a turn-on anyway ;D takes one to know one :)

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RHP User

11 years ago

Thanks again Everyone... I have already found just on the Forums that people are very friendly and helpful. Something you don't get on the 'Traditional Dating' sites... If they have a forum at all. I am well aware and careful of the fact that there are 'loonies', but they are everywhere,. I've come across (not literally... hehe) my share on the other sites over the years. As someone said, everything is up front here (sex wise) from the beginning, because of the nature of the site. That's why I originally got the idea to try an Ad, so that I didn't have to go through weeks (or a couple of months getting to that point with someone and then finding 'one of the important parts of a relationship' was an area in which we didn't have much or anything in common. So, it seems the right choice for the moment... I've had contact with a few very interesting and possibly "right" ladies. And I already have an idea of what they like and don't like because of their profiles and even some elaboration in a message. I think it was a good decision... Thanks.

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RHP User

11 years ago

"That's why I originally got the idea to try an Ad, "... The internet must've dropped out or something, as this last word should read "Adult Site"

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RHP User

11 years ago

I think you're in the perfect place - a normal dating site pretends that sex doesn't exist - here, you get to actually just be open and honest about what you want. You go on dates - you click socially, but it doesn't work in bed, then because it started with an honest position, then at worst you've wasted a couple of hours of your life and at best, possibly made a new friend. But for a relationship to work, you've got to click in and out of the bedroom - just one of the two isn't enough long term. So then can you get that with NSA? In my opinion - yes! In fact, more likely. You come at it from a more open and honest position, but also if you start with NSA, then you also start with no pressure and expectations. If something grows from that on both sides, then you know its real. Just remember - you go in NSA, it means NSA - so don't go in with expectations that its more than that - don't force it and nature will take its course if its meant to

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