RHP

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Perserverance

April 02 2018

There has been many a post where women complain about guys not being communicative in their messages. But how many guys out there start chatting to women with great gusto, only to gradually get reduced quality in the responses to them? Reduced to one line answers after carefully typing out a nice big paragraph to them? Do you plod along with grit? Or do you throw the white flag and stop trying? Does your pride say enough is enough or does dick say "keep going, there's a chance". Last few times its happened to me I've just given up. Questioning if the woman is chatting to 10 guys at the same time. Can't even remember your name let alone have the courtesy to say " not interested thanks" Perhaps you are number 2 backup or sadly number 6. I was questioning myself if the scenario was perhaps my frustration and she was really interested in me but was bad at communication. Worth perserverance maybe. But then l realised, my other half Annie does it all the time to guys. Light bulb moment. We are getting played big time.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    ...with the enormous imbalance of males to females, it might not be anything you're doing at all. Ever see a kid in a toy store with an unlimited budget? It's a bit like that and without being discourteous to any of the ladies on this site, well could be the first time in a long time they've gotten much attention. So hang in there... It's like getting drunk in a pub too for some of the guys. Women that might be a 6 suddenly turn into a 9 and damn if "the girls all get prettier at closin' time" isn't the truth. Last call lads...time to pick up your glasses! Grog googles don't count! Thanks, Mickey Gilley...you don't know how true those lyrics really are at 3:00 a.m. 🤓⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    7 years ago

    If you’re attempting to talk to a lady in a bar, and her body language has her turning away from you, she’s not that interested.... If the responses she gives online are just as cold, you don’t need to be a brain surgeon to figure out she’s not that into you.... To me it’s the same response.... If it turns out that she WAS interested....let it be HER issue...you gave her the opportunity, and SHE chose to dismiss it in her responses. As it’s been said before, someone that’s interested, will move mountains, just to spend time with you.... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Gr8distraction

    Gr8distraction

    7 years ago

    You're trying to understand women?Forget it........Don't even think about it.......You'll loose that game in a heartbeat, real fast. Particularly on sites like this. Oh, and just another tip. If theres a wrong way to take something, a woman will generally find it

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Women who are only a 6 or less will keep talking to you because we're grateful for the attention. Bahahahaha

  • Gr8distraction

    Gr8distraction

    7 years ago

    Never a truer word said. Thats one reason, but don't for a second think your a 6 or less. You are the best person you are. There is no one else like you, you are the only you on the planet.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    "My heroes have always been cowboys" Opppps that's Willie! Or was Waylon? No matter, it's just music and I'll play the songs I like. Sing your own song, OP...be yourself! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • precious142

    precious142

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' "My heroes have always been cowboys" Opppps that's Willie! Or was Waylon? No matter, it's just music and I'll play the songs I like. Sing your own song, OP...be yourself! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile Shame I don't have Tina's legs but love her song....its a good pick me up!!!!

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    7 years ago

    Where else in life are you rewarded for throwing in the towel 😊 The real question here, is.... how engaging are your messages and how highly do you value your own self. Those two elements usually define how people respond to you 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    7 years ago

    With one sentence messages. I like to think I am more interesting thanone sentence sooooooo, it is a quick next for me. Tho when you're messaging 'mates', totally acceptable. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    This one's going around in my head now to the tune of Gn'R's "Patience." "All we need is just a little perseverance.."

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Call me if you're serious about getting "bored". You're the rock, I'm the drill. Let's doooooo it! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Most of my first messages are a few paragraphs long. Maybe it is possible to be too long. Not sure, a profile view and a no reply is an obvious response yes, but without feedback from anyone not interested, you don't know if it's anything you can possibly change or improve for next time. So you could be persevering, but in the wrong way (shrugs). - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    How the fuck do you write a couple of paragraphs about a complete stranger or strangers!? I really struggle to write more than a few lines especially if the profile in question is very limited in content. This is probably why I perform a lot better in real life than I do online and why most of my meet ups from here have been when the other party has initiated things.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'inspirit' With one sentence messages. I like to think I am more interesting thanone sentence sooooooo, it is a quick next for me. Tho when you're messaging 'mates', totally acceptable. - Posted from rhpmobile Thing with most males, messages from females can be a little light on the ground, there is usually no next at the time

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Where else in life are you rewarded for throwing in the towel 😊 The real question here, is.... how engaging are your messages and how highly do you value your own self. Those two elements usually define how people respond to you 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile No need to worry about the quality of my messages. Lol. It's not my first rodeo

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    "Memes" here.. BUT.. I had an AWESOME one dropped online to me the other day.. "Don't try to understand Women... Women Understand Women... and they HATE each other" That is warning enough for me.. I have a lot to do with women.. always have.. hope I always do...BUT.......I will NEVER try to understand them..

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    7 years ago

    I think the trick is to find what each woman likes what, as each woman is different. You either feel it or don't. Sometimes I like a paragraph other times I don't. Sometimes I'll reply a few sentences other times just a few words. It doesn't mean I'm not into them or don't want to follow up. Its how i am feeling at that time of reply. If I wasn't all that keen, I wouldn't reply. Ms Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    7 years ago

    If a woman is talking to 10 guys (which she can if she wants too) and she replies to your messages. That's a good sign. Is it not? Ms Foxy

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'The_Envoy' No need to worry about the quality of my messages. Lol. It's not my first rodeo You say that But... you also felt suitably frustrated enough to draft this topic, seeking an answer. So I direct back to where I said... "... how engaging are your messages and how highly do you value your own self." Giddy up, cowboy

  • deepestpurple

    deepestpurple

    7 years ago

    I've always strived to make the process fun. Attempting to find someone to have sex with you on the internet is such a low probability exercise that there needs to be other pay offs or it will become frustrating and boring and this will reflect in my messages and give a negative impression of me. If I am not enjoying an interaction I cease to interact, I would assume that it comes across as desperate to do otherwise. I think you have been right to just give up when the other person isn't making an effort. They probably have lost interest or are losing it. Continuing to do what you've been doing is unlikely to reverse this outcome. There's a better (but still small) chance that moving on might arouse some interest but mostly it allows you direct your efforts towards finding someone/something else who is interesting and interested.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'The_Envoy' No need to worry about the quality of my messages. Lol. It's not my first rodeo You say that But... you also felt suitably frustrated enough to draft this topic, seeking an answer. So I direct back to where I said... "... how engaging are your messages and how highly do you value your own self." Giddy up, cowboy Actually l wasn't seeking an answer as such. More highlighting probably what we as single guys already know, at least most of us, that we will get strung along with others as standbys whilst the quality is directed to someone else. The only answer l was chasing was how long do others persevere for the chase. Me, I'm not desperate and l will give quite quickly. My energy is best directed at other avenues.As far as engaging messages, trust me, I'm good at the game .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'deepest___purple' I've always strived to make the process fun. Attempting to find someone to have sex with you on the internet is such a low probability exercise that there needs to be other pay offs or it will become frustrating and boring and this will reflect in my messages and give a negative impression of me. If I am not enjoying an interaction I cease to interact, I would assume that it comes across as desperate to do otherwise. I think you have been right to just give up when the other person isn't making an effort. They probably have lost interest or are losing it. Continuing to do what you've been doing is unlikely to reverse this outcome. There's a better (but still small) chance that moving on might arouse some interest but mostly it allows you direct your efforts towards finding someone/something else who is interesting and interested. Yes I attempt to make the process fun for myself as well. Every once in a while I'll message the hottest girl I can find on here and make accusations of her having sex with farm yard animals just purely so I can imagine the look on her face when she reads it :)

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    7 years ago

    Any time someone has to use the phrase “trust me”....... lol If your ‘game’ was so good.... you’d not have used words such as frustration, or persevere, in a topic which was important enough to you to write in such detail...... when we ‘already know’ But anyway 😎 Ride along - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Look we all know that there are far more many women than men here and as far as messaging goes each person is different. The one that sends short replies may actually just be that sort of person so I stick with it until conversation completely wanes. Besides I like to chat and that is a bonus for me as replies can be few and far between. All in all I believe, be you, be happy and accept what is.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Well my messaging attributes wasn't really the topic of the OP. I've managed to engage you in the discussion though, off topic and all. Clip clip, clip clop

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Bollocks! Guys are the master at this,... not women!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I was discussing with a work colleague who has experienced an old friend from 25 years ago suddenly make contact on FB. He apparently had a massive crush on her back in the day. Well, they have been having some catch up chat via messenger. Now four mornings in a row he has messaged her a good morning which she finds weird. Maybe because I mentioned he probably is looking at his huge morning wood as he writes to her (hahaha), anyway, she hasn’t replied at all, yet he still keeps trying. Why do blokes do that? If you havent had a reply to the second or third attempt. Why continue on? He ended up ringing her and she had to tell him over the phone that she feels he is over stepping boundaries. They are both married and she is quite vanilla btw. Seems weird to me. I send one message and if no response, I dont try again.

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    7 years ago

    Who's got the time or energy for 10? Unless I guess if you were organising a gang bang? The only time when I was messaging more than 2 guys at once to organise sex was when I first joined and was like a deer in a headlight and didn't know how to be assertive. Honestly it just made me feel like a player. If I'm into someone and he is within my reach my attention is (mainly) focused on him. I think most women want a sexy connection. If they don't get it quickly they lose interest. Its pretty much that simple. Maybe we are a bit fussy. But for me theres attraction first and then chemistry. If the chemistry isn't there in the chat there's no point continuing. But I usually just say I'm not feeling it. If theres no spark in the chat you're not going to move forward? How would the sex be? My guess is boring as a stale biscuit?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'Gr8distraction' Never a truer word said. Thats one reason, but don't for a second think your a 6 or less. You are the best person you are. There is no one else like you, you are the only you on the planet. In response to It's like getting drunk in a pub too for some of the guys. Women that might be a 6 suddenly turn into a 9 and damn if "the girls all get prettier at closin' time" isn't the truth. Cos we all like being scored. and yes, that's more sarcasm

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I don't even attempt to message if there's no content as I haven't finished my degree in extra sensory projection yet..... However, if I do it usually contains a reference to something in their profile, a greeting and introduction with my name.... If I receive just an answer to the question only then I don't reply as she's surely not interested or just too rude if she can't return the favour.... not sure if it's right for everyone but it's right for me. A score in the looks department is diminished with many things as the initial attraction of what my eyes see only lasts a short while - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Well, I guess this means DG has perseverance. 😜

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Assuming she's got at least a half decently filled out profile... 1. Her basic details can be compared with yours for some things in common. 2. Her interest list may say something. 3. Her description about herself. 4. Her description about who she is looking for, even if brief. 5. If she mentions anything about the site and/or her current situation (ie, newbie [also a given if profile is new], exploring, experienced etc). Easily 5 sentences and or query questions for a first message response without much trying just there.