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Philophobia
September 21 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
But after I read of your definition, I am pretty sure I know one that does. A male. I am sure this is real condition but I think in the case of the male I know this is a choice due to previous hurt and he is not prepared to go there again. A shame. Imagine a life with no love and even he would admit he is missing something in his life no matter how full it is . "Love - what if it does not work out, ah.... but what if it does ?"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Interesting.. I can't say i am Philophobic, no.. I don't think so anyway
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been giving this a lot of thought over the last couple of years. I think there might be an element of that in me. My last few girlfriends have both been amazing, beautiful women who I get on with really well, but in both cases part of me knew I wasn't going to fall in love with them from the outset. In that same period there was a woman I did develop strong feelings for, but avoided pushing beyond the friend stage with, despite pretty obvious chemistry. Of course I had plenty of sensible reasons for this. She's someone I work with a lot, there's a pretty big age gap yadda yadda yadda... but I do wonder whether at the heart of it is a fear of the complications and stresses, and yeah, even vulnerabilities, that being completely in love can bring. The last woman I was completely in love with, I broke up with about four years ago. It was a mutual decision, and a very hard one that took us quite a while to properly implement. It was based ultimately on the fact that we both wanted and were pursuing very different kinds of lives for ourselves, and the compromises to stay together would have made us unhappy. Were in fact making us unhappy. My life (and I'm a full time single father, so this stuff does impact in a very real way) became very chaotic and difficult in that period, and pulling myself out of the pain of the breakup was a long and hard process. So yeah, I've come to think that maybe i am a bit philophobic. Despite the fact I still covet the sensation and crave the release of being totally exposed and vulnerable to a woman... It's a conundrum. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
No way... I do it all the time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love love, just not right this minute.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Love obsessives and love avoidances...those who avoid love. Personally I believe it boils down to unresolved deep childhood psychological issues and traumas. Well that's what I've been taught and studied. As for being single to me that's a choice in my life right now, with an open heart (notice I said HEART not heat lolz) Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sometimes if someone has been hurt too many times then they feel that they can't trust themselves or another.Falling in love can be a choice ....if they think there is a danger of that happening and they associate that feeling with hurt and pain,they will move on ....So maybe not a fear of love,but a fear of pain.....perhaps that is why many people seek NSA ...no emotional strings,because that is a'comfort zone.....If you are looking for love,I doubt that RHP is the most likely place to find it...a cornucopia of other delights just not love.xxQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Irrational about it. 😎 Personally, i enjoy who I am more when I'm single.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
I'm sure we don't mind it either way...... Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
The thought of being in love does make me feel sick. If anyone tries to get too close I run for the hills :). It's nice to think its possible......I just don't see it happening.Being "In Like" is good enough for me.
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PL1963
10 years ago
I once truly loved my Ex, for the 1st 10yrs, we were soulmates, we then began to turn into different people, she no longer shared my vision for our future, got pregnant "accidently on purpose". The rest is history. Due to not having many sexual partners in life, I now roam the rocky road of FWB, I adore ladies, I thrive on companionship and sensual sex, but if I feel I'm starting to fall for somebody, their No will be in my book to be reviewed in 5-6yrs time and I'll walk. By then I will have met a lot of ppl, sorted out my life and be ready to settle. This may sound selfish, I'm sure a No of the ladies I keep, will be attached, the good ones always are, but it is how I deal with what has happened to my life. I did what society expected of me for 45yrs and just got "shit in my face", I now do what is right for myself and my Son. I will lift this self imposed "embargo" off my head when it is the right time to do it, perhaps I will meet a very special lady in 2yrs? I've found this type of thing to be reasonably common in people of my age group. A friend I caught up with from High School, met her Husband and only sex partner within mths of when I met my Ex, and we split up within mths of each other. She is very much like me, out there sampling life and the ppl in it, I doubt she will settle down again, perhaps we may settle down together in yrs to come, who knows? Cheers P.L.
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6exxy
10 years ago
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