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Phone calls
February 12 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is for texts, emails and to exchange photos. For everyone! I loathe talking on the phone, it's awkward with strangers anyway. I only speak to my family and very close friends on the phone. And only when they call me. I am a listener not a talker... And I hate siting their for hours listening to someone else. :-/- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Phone calls are to be discouraged at all costs!! :P- Posted from rhpmobile
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Lifes_great
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Phone calls are to be discouraged at all costs!! :P- Posted from rhpmobile Wish there were more people like you Meeka! Although if we're both listners...might be a quiet night
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RHP User
12 years ago
I much prefer to talk to someone on the phone and hear a voice, rather than reading words on a tiny screen. Can't say I find talking to strangers awkward, although sometimes it takes a little probing to find some common ground.I s'pose you could say I love to give aural.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sometimes I'm in the mood for a real life chat but must be after kids have gone to bed. I sit in my front paddock, glass of wine in hand and will gasbag for hours. (yes, GB and Manly, and sometimes lying on the trampoline looking at the stars).
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not a fan at all unless there is a real, normal, every day life connection. With all the crazies in this world I prefer to keep my number private.
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RHP User
12 years ago
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jensta
12 years ago
Would Never meet anyone without talking to them on the phone Unlike txts & emails on the phone you can really get their personality hear a voice the way someone presents them self
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Is for texts, emails and to exchange photos. For everyone! I loathe talking on the phone, it's awkward with strangers anyway. I only speak to my family and very close friends on the phone. And only when they call me. I am a listener not a talker... And I hate siting their for hours listening to someone else. :-/- Posted from rhpmobile I had a similar "discussion" with someone about this very issue and they just didn't understand it.What really turned me off was calling the next day after meeting (give me space to think please...) then a text that same night to chat on the phone at 10pm (what happened to phone etiquette... with people you know it doesn't matter)Then more texts about meeting, a call at 7:30am, then another text as I couldn't answer, then when I did text back, an immediate phone call, then a text about hiding behind texts!! WTF?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just to organise a meeting, or after we become lovers on a regular basis I am to busy to be taking call after call from anyone, and I have my phone on silent most of the time anyway. texts are ok , if they are not ten thousand of those suckers and if I say no to you, then thats the end of the conversation for us both. had the late night or early morning thing that is why i turn my phone off its a good tool to sort out the tools I would never meet anyone on text only, as it could be a child , nor do i send nudie pictures to anyone I have not met again it could be an underaged person. talk to me on the phone like a grown up, apart from that if your voice does not do it for me then no point in meeting.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm so glad there are others on here similar to me! I have no idea why, but I loathe using the phone, in fact I would almost go as far as to say it's a phobia - which now that Mrs SinS has difficulty with speaking on the phone due to a medical condition, has really had me out of my comfort zone. I've done many things over the years to try and destroy the phobia - even going so far as taking a technical support job that was 90% phone work. I managed...but never ever got past the uncomfortable stage. Strangely enough, the only person I have ever even wanted to talk to on the phone is Mrs SinS (even really struggle talking to family) and even though she struggles to talk on the phone we probably chat half a dozen times a day. At the heart of it I guess I am basically shy. I laugh it off and just say it's just typical English reserve.... but it really shits me sometimes! lolHere's the rub though, I'm happy to chat over email or any form of messaging, and seem to have no problems talking to complete strangers in intimate settings. And have absolutely no qualms in getting my kit off when there is some fun there for the taking ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
We don't progress to meeting, unless there's been phone calls. Never done so,, and don't see ever doing so. It's just one of the ways we get a feel for 'people'...,. If we cant chat over the relative safety of a phone, how ever could we chat 'face to face'? Call us old-fashioned, but thats how we roll....- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm very careful with giving out my number. Having said that, several people on this very forum have been trusted with it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unless someone is willing to spend the time sending a few messages to see if we are all heading in the same direction, there is no way they are getting our number, and anybody that asks for it straight away is most likely ignored and forgotten
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RHP User
12 years ago
I DESPISE talking on the phone. I'm at a complete loss without the visual cues of in-person communication (where I'm witty and charming and debonair,) or the opportunity to reflect and consider what I write (where words are my bitch.)Catch me on the phone though (if I pick up) and I'm an awkward, stammering mess. It's just a different skillset that I have absolutely no interest in developing.You're lucky to get me on the phone if you're my mother. You've got next to no chance if we've not met yet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi! Kinkstersinc Thanks fior the topic:) Personally I find Phonecalls arranged at a specific time for just chat Connecting with a Guy more Intensely on all levels before we meet is a must be it on the phone or web chat .A phone chat not phone sex can tell me about a Guy in 5mins that will either Interest me more to meet or give me reason to not take it any further.. Text doesn't do it for me at all ...There's not the emotion and intimacy that phone chat has.. Whatever works is the way to go for us all..Cheers Lu :)
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LemonDance
12 years ago
I hate giving out my phone number as I've had my share of crazy stalker dudes in the past. If I can meet without exchanging numbers first, I will, or only if the meeting in imminent!!I've teenagers with amazing hearing when at home, and can only take emergency phone calls at work so my phone chat time is very limited.... It is internet "dating" anyway right?Lem x
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's a must for me to hear what a person sounds like. I like articulate men, and if the person on the other end cannot string a sentence together, then he has no chance, ( unless he's godlike ). I also prefer to call them on a landline, that way if I don't like the sound of him hopefully he won't see my number. I loathe constant text messages, drives me nuts ( showing her age here ) so don't like giving out my mobile number. One guy a few weeks ago was texting me at 7 am, I am never up before ten, so he got a flea in his ear!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I ALWAYS use a phone call as a screening measure.If someone cant engage in decent conversation and banter..... in real time during a phone call... my view is, theyre really going to struggle when the additional factor of visual communication in person comes into play.Cant talk? Wont talk?Wont go any further... but thanks for your time.DG Interesting yo say that DG, as I am completely opposite. I find the phone is difficult to understand people because I lack those visual cues given by body language. I often don't know whether the person is joking or serious without the visual cues so I come across as a socially awkward penguin on the phone because the emotional context of the conversation is a bit of a mystery to me. I get anxious and quiet because I take longer to process and to respond to a phone conversation (unless it's a work phone call or organising phone call where there is a clear point to it), which makes me seem stupid and then I get anxious that the person thinks I'm an idiot. In face to face meetings, I am often the absolutely completely fantastically opposite to my phone manner because I can much more easily determine the atmosphere of the conversation.My take is simple, I would like a text before someone calls me to let me know they want to chat on the phone. I work all odd hours and can't always take a call at times other people can. That way I can text back with the time I can return the call. When on the phone, unless it's to organise something, I don't really want to speak. All of my friends know that if I call them, it's most likely an emergency.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love a chat! It has been said that I could talk underwater with a mouth full of marbles! I haven't tried but it's possibly accurate. Love staying in touch through texting too. I'm too busy to always respond immediately but do keep up a banter with a few friends throughout the day. I'm also a bit careful about to whom I give my number. Someone I met recently has a 'pie-phone' forcontacting peeps from here and a regular phone for friends and family and work. A good idea,
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RHP User
12 years ago
I really dont like talking on the phone, even with friends and family the call has its purpose and then its "BYE, love you too!".. However, I/we will not meet anyone without at least a very quick phone call, simply just to hear a female voice at the other end. If people wont speak on the phone, we wont meet, simple. Having said that, we arranged a simple prepaid phone for me to use for this purpose, that way my real number remains protected from loons:) Msfun
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RHP User
12 years ago
its as much a screening process as well. i get more out of a 5 minute phone call than the exchange of 100 emails from keyboard heroines. if you feel compromised relativbe to calling and having your numbers up for consumption, easy fix, call my number and hide yours when you do so. der.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I’m fine talking on the phone once I know someone, but before I have met them, I fear the dreaded awkward silence. Just the thought that “Oh god he’s about to ring” sends my tummy into knots. It’s funny, professionally I can speak with anyone on the phone as I’m confident and I know my stuff, but personally, I become shy and almost need to make dot points on paper in case of silence. I am protective of my phone number as it’s my real phone, not a fark phone.
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RHP User
12 years ago
talking on the phone,phone Queen me.I always want to talk to someone before I agree to meet them.There have been people whose profiles have certainly not matched their phone conversation so we don't meet. I am also a very aural person and while I have never orgasmed just from a voice I have come ...no pun intended...very,very close.Some voices,sounds can and do piut me in an altered state,perhaps my brain is wired for sound....I am also an experienced phone whisperer,phones love me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's such a great part of human interaction... I'm very aural ;)But it's usually not a pre-requisite, it's more some icing on the cake.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is kept on silent most of the time... Before any meet and greet I do like to have a phone chat to organise...I can normally tell if person genuine or not by tone of voice.. conversation is kept short and sweet.. :) I also like BLOCK buttons..I have used it on a few occasions... :) Foxy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I'm gonna go against the grain here :-) I prefer the personal contact of a phone call. I love to hear someone's voice; the tone, the sincerity (or not!), the empathy, the humour etc. A ten minute call will tell me so much more about a person than a bunch of online messages or texts. In fact for me personally it's the deciding factor and will tell me if I want to meet a person or not. KK xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hate talking on the phone. I'd much rather use a meet as a screening tool, and then you get to see what they look like as well.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I rarely talk on the phone, even when I was married. If I can't fit what I need in a text message ill call. Since starting online dating I made the decision that I'd have a second phone, cheap <$50 and nasty pre-paid, I'd use that phone to screen the crazies, and if I copped a stalker I could ditch the phone and tell any other contacts that I've simply changed my number. Easy as that. I've gone through 3 phones in just under 3 years. Also it's easier to keep my lives separate, if I don't wanna be disturbed I can turn off the naughty phone and my contacts know that I'm busy. There are very rare exceptions who are genuine friends as well so they get my real number.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Is for texts, emails and to exchange photos. For everyone! I loathe talking on the phone, it's awkward with strangers anyway. I only speak to my family and very close friends on the phone. And only when they call me. I am a listener not a talker... And I hate siting their for hours listening to someone else. :-/- Posted from rhpmobile Other than the safety side of things and potential to cause problems down the track. I prefer texting as well, not as quick on my feet when trying to chat with a "stranger on the phone" and yes the body language and everything is so much more fun in person. Sometimes incessant phone calls and texting can kill the moment.....what's that saying Keep It Simple Stoopid.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I feel that there may be an attraction with someone via emailing I would rather progress to meeting for a drink or coffee to establish if their is a physical connection. I don't have issues chatting on the phone; I do dislike long phone conversations. I prefer to meet with friends for a chat, in fact I quite often do not pick up my phone. :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
...is like a fingerprint to a forensic pathologist and tells more in a few moments than all the typing, text or 2 dimensional images ever will. Sure, I know some people who become very bashful or giggly on the phone (translate that to absolutely delicious in my mind) or for whatever reason even if they are high-profile business people seem to lack self-confidence...something that is not at all uncommon. I assimilate everything from words to images to voices...it shapes in singularity. talking is a must. *lol*...I guess you could run around slapping Post-It notes on peoples foreheads but I'd rather talk, iPhone now has a new app called 'Do Not Disturb' so even better if you don't want to be disturbed day or night.*wanders over to the thread about Phone Sex*Let me guess, PowerPoint and whiteboard on MSN...no thanks.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been several dates where there was no phone converstion beforehand, and I found it didn't make a difference. Maybe it just doesn't add anything to my intuition.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am a pretty chirpy person ,but in saying that i know not to harass people.More than happy to chat on the phone ,but i can understand women not wanting to ,with all the looney's out there.Should make an app like when you ring up telsta...."you have been placed in a queue and will be answered by the next available operator,press 1 if your a stalker,2 if your a looney and 3 if your just plane CrAzY"hehe just messing
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RHP User
12 years ago
...butt butt butt? Quoting 'Ms_Devious'Maybe it just doesn't add anything to my intuition. Not all of us have the benefit of discussing great Walt Whitman quotes about assing strangers......at Rotary Club.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' I hate talking on the phone. I'd much rather use a meet as a screening tool, and then you get to see what they look like as well. I'm not a fan of phone calls. These days our mobiles numbers are like our license numbers. I rather meet and pick your bones then And leave the place and time to the lady choosing to give her the security...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would always prefer to have a phone number (confirmed) as some kind of reassurance that they can be tracked down in case of a scam.
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RHP User
12 years ago
No stupid misunderstandings or lame arse excuses. I've discovered on more than one occasion, people say all sorts of strange unbelievable crap in txt messages. I'd rather people just spoke to me and were honest. Or at least allowed me to reassure them I was being the same, I hate feeling misrepresented.. Wishing someone well and moving on is so much more sincere with your voice.I also find someones voice and the way they talk a very big part of "sexy". No seriously, it's really important to me. ~smiles~I should put my hand up and say I was guilty of ringing some one quite late a few weeks ago. But we'd been swapping messages here that night. Then she txt saying she wanted to chat after I sent her my number.. So of course I called her. ~grins~
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RHP User
12 years ago
DLD: I can quote Walt.. and many other poets... BUT, I didn't get the phone number to do it on :) Mind you.. I would probably call the person by the wrong name anyway.. So. the problem with the written form of communication is: The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ, Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit, Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line, Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it. Speaking on the phone leaves us some flexibility to side stepping "Faux Pas"Of course... it does mean we can make things worse. *shrug*
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thinking about it i realized that;If you have some "honest" pic's of someone you're going to have a fairly good idea of what they are like physically.A short phone conversation will tick a bunch of other boxes. Hey if you're connecting the phone conversation my even last longer.Then you get on your bike, in your car, on the train and look for that drink. Pre-filtering done.If you can't think of stuff to say on the phone, what makes you think you have something to say when you meet someone in person? "Hi, your fingers look dirtier than I imagined they'd be"... ~rolls eyes~I've actually edited my profile to reflect my desire to hear someone’s voice. Of course if you're looking for hookups with random souls for sex, then I guess none of that really matters. Maybe you could ring someone and ask them to "pant and moan" a little to see if you think they'll be a turn on? ~laughs~I think the hardest thing for me to accept, over the last two months, is has been these women who were once happy to answer the phone suddenly only wanting to communicate with txts. The lack of trust this displays, is disheartening..~sigh~
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jensta
12 years ago
One or two message if theres genuine Interest why wouldn't you talk on the Phone everyone whinges about time wasters ... Right? Getting on the phone saves time in a matters of minutes ... you will know if its worth Meeting Thats the way I roll ... My life is too Busy for ping pong MSG's
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sometimes NOT talking is good.... ONE time at band camp.... Remember IRC? (is that still happening??) Been a regular on a certain chat channel for awhile.. and there was a girl who came and went.. but never showed any interest in me at all... I mean.. quite the opposite. One night she pops in.. and messaged me.. "Want an adventure?" "Sure" "Come pick me up on your Harley" and gave me an address and time. WOW.. is all I can say about that episode. No REAL names exchanged, no details.. just good raw sex, out in the open where it supposed to be..
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RHP User
12 years ago
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