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Pics of BOTH for couples!!
February 10 2015
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LifeUnscripted
10 years ago
It is so frustrating for us, and especially Mrs LifeUnscripted, when there are only pics of the female half, or maybe one old fuzzy pic of someone that might be the guy if you squint. ;) Mrs is bi, so she loves looking at the ladies as well, but she also likes men, and if he is not her cup of tea, it is likely not going to work. Guys.....man up! Post some pics, good ones! We will see you later anyway, wouldn't you rather us not be negatively surprised? If we don't like the look of you in your pics, then we are unlikely to like the look of you in real life, and then that was a wasted meet and greet. Mr LifeUnscripted would rather the other couple know exactly what he looks like. We only want to meet with those who are enthusiastic, not rolling the dice. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
This was something we, as a couple, decided on from the start. As we were looking through profiles of couples we were amazed at how many only showed pics of the lady. We are here as a couple and like to present as such.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I totally agree! The number of "couples" who only have a pic of the female partner is really irritating. I avoid them because it feels as though both partners in the relationship aren't equally respected. And when the male partner has created and written on the profile page but only his female partner is pictured, it feels like he's pimping her out her something.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Agree it's annoying and will usually end up with that profile being overlooked. This is not "wife swapping" - that's the mindset I get from profiles with just photos of the woman - but a mixed doubles match so really need to get an idea of both partners as Mrs HnH is very particular in her tastes!
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Taleros
10 years ago
We've just not been able to understand it as when dealing with other couples the ladies are still predominantly interested in the guy, even when they are bi unless they are specifically seeking FF play only, so how are they supposed to start a sense of any attraction when there is nothing there of the guy? We realise that exact thing, and so we've made sure to have some shots up of Mr Taleros in the public galleries, which we hope are the kinds of shots people would like to see of the guy. There could be a number of reasons for why the disproportionate number of photos of her, though whether you think those reasons well enough is another story. We get that it is fun for a guy to take photos of his sexy lady who he loves, but it isn't too hard to hand the camera over to her once in a while. If you're camera shy, well them, one of the best ways to get over it is to actually have your photo taken so you can get used to it, and just fake it until you make it. Perhaps you aren't "hot" looking, but attractiveness in looks is based upon opion, and some things you can change and some you can't, but own what you have and the person you are. Choose angles and shots that highlight a positive feature, perhaps one your partner likes if you can't pick one yourself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are times when it is all shot of the male too.This makes me wonder if the female is actually that keen. When I sepias of just he female, I am also turned off. It is a couple profile, then I feel it should be couple pics
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RHP User
10 years ago
the male must be butt ugly if they hide him from view lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sexism is alive and well - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is the button we click. If it's a couple profile.. umm. hello... show both Please :) Hugs Mr K - Posted from rhpmobile
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m3bmw
10 years ago
100% Nothing disappoints us after finding out the guy has either lied about size/ age/ looks after the Mrs has gotten her hopes up. C'mon guys, at least have some good face shots in your private gallery!
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's very annoying to say the least. We might not be super models but at least we don't hide anything :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
clearly people value discretion but a recent and discrete photo of each person should be easy enough - unless you have something to hide misters
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RHP User
10 years ago
If it's a couple profile and all of the public photos are only the female, it's pretty obvious what's going on. Why waste everyone's time? Far better to be up front and honest. If you can't be honest at the very beginning, why would anyone trust you to be honest and respect established boundaries later on?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Often or not I find the same pictures in different profiles ? Either as couple or another single
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WhispersAndMoans
10 years ago
Because we started this looking for a male to join and the couple stuff has only evolved recently (as in playing with couples). Time to head over and add a few more male half ones. Tomorrow maybe....
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RHP User
10 years ago
We agree with this for the couples side of things if you look at our profile we have got both
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RHP User
10 years ago
Couldn't agree more with the comments here. We know that as a couple seeking another couple there has to be that magical four way connection before any other connections, and we appreciate that often this doesn't eventuate, but at least we have full disclosure from the beginning. Actually now that we have been here for a while, if we are contacted or if we click on a profile and there isn't both depicted visually either initially or in their PG then we assume that they are time wasters, not genuine, have something to hide or are oxygen thieves. Discretion and or the need to be "Private" because of what ever reason is EXACTLY what a PG is for... Simples :) PS The oxygen thingie is a bit harsh but you catch our drift.....Her bad!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love the look of the ladies but I really want to see the man too ... it amazes me that there are not more pics of the guys. Why? C'mon ladies, get the guys pics up on your couple profile :-) (Miss)
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Taby_DK
10 years ago
We have body pics of us both on our public profile but only I have face photo's public. Mr has his face photos in our Private Gallery and this is because he is the face of his business and he doesn't want it public on RHP where one of his clients could recognise him. Where as I don't circulate the same circles as him and so I can have a face pic public isn't as big an issue. But I agree its amazing how many couples don't even have face pics of themselves anywhere on their profile even in their PG! This is super frustrating! Taby
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh more complaints about how to present a profile. Don't judge a book by its cover is always a handy bit of wisdom to carry in the back of the mind. To make assumptions will only be detrimental to your own interests while viewing profiles. If he or she is shy that does not mean they are horribly unfuckabley disfigured due to a bell ringing accident, it just means the image is not there and the missing one to famous and good looking to be on public display. I am part of a few couples profiles with different people and have never put up recognizable images of any of us. We all still maintain our individual profiles and only use the couple profile for joint hunting expeditions. And to just mess with people, the cute body in a dress in not always hers. I gave up on looking at couples profiles years ago, it much easier to go out and meet couples in real life than on RHP. One night in a club you can meet several nice couples, know all about both of them, rather than the forever it takes to just get to meet a RJP couple, only to find out they are not at all like their profile.
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RHP User
10 years ago
we needed to chime in on this as well. Mrs gets very disheartened when she gets no eye candy and little to no sense of what a guy looks like. It's a fuzzy something in the background or a dick shot. Really guys? C'mon. For us, it sets up a tone that maybe the guy really isn't all that confident in himself... Which is very unattractive. That or arrogant. Either way, it doesn't get things headed in the right direction. Doesn't have to be a ton of pics, just a few to get the whole picture... And yes, the WHOLE picture, as in the whole body. Not to derail the thread, but on topic of pics... Something other than 37 close-up pics of genitals is also much appreciated. The idea here is to actually meet, right? Full disclosure up front and nobody gets disappointed. Ever buy a car second hand and show up to see it, only to find out it's been terribly misrepresented? Same thing folks. We're gonna see the goods, so just be honest and transparent from the get go.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It may surprise you to know that many people do not put much emphases on looks. I have found those that do to be very far from interesting. I also find that they are more likely to be less than great between the sheets, though I am not completely sure why. If I suspect that someone contacting me is of the personality type that puts attractiveness first I enjoy showing images of me that are specifically unflattering. In most cases I will not get any reply which is much easier than having to say, sorry but you don't float my boat. If someone is still interested after seeing me at my worst, they are most defiantly worth knowing. I have never asked for someones images in the 7 years using sites like this, and have met many without knowing what they look like. Attractive people fixated on looks will put their images up and you will go for those profiles, interesting people who do not give a dam and don't do much in the way of photos, will be avoided by you. The shame is that many are very attractive and you are missing out.
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RHP User
10 years ago
yes, many people don't emphasise looks. They are generally called ugly. Too bad you think attractive people are uninteresting. We haven't found that to be the case. When my wife and I met, physical attraction was something that caused us to be interested. From there, we loved what we heard and experienced. Looks can gain attention, but the mind and heart hold it. Sure, plenty of attractive people may fail once they grab attention, but then again so do many "ugly" people. At parties I don't see the most attractive gravitating toward the least attractive. We simply are up front about our preferences. You appear to be quite judgemental about attractive people. I have my own thoughts as to why that is, but will keep them to myself. So you can go on presenting yourself as better than all of us who give a damn about the way we look, and subsequently the way others we wish to share ourselves look. Thank you for pointing yourself out so all of us "shallow" folks know who to avoid. We are very content with "missing out" on those without enough self confidence to disclose who they really are up front.
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LifeUnscripted
10 years ago
I really would love to say that looks have nothing to do with it, and anyone could fit into what we are looking for. But the reality is we are looking for friends with benefits, and the benefits are important. We also don't have a lot of time to waste. It is important to us that there is a 4 way attraction, or else it is just not going to work. That said, it isn't as cut and dried and horrible as that might sound, lol. We have also learned through the years doing this that personality, in person spark and connection and confidence can make a huge difference. Someone you might not have given a second glance to can end up being incredibly sexy once you meet them and get to know them a bit. In order to get there though there has to at least be potential for attraction. The bottom line though is that you can generally tell from a good picture if there really is going to be that potential. And we have been through a few meet and greets where people either didn't look like their profile pics (generally a lot older or other changes) or the guy didn't have good pics and it ends up the guy is just not going to be attractive to Mrs LifeUnscripted. If we had clear good pics of both people, then we can save us all a lot of time. Again, people....you don't want people to be disappointed when they meet you. Anyone can see looking at our pics that Mr LifeUnscripted not a ripped Adonis with a six pack and massive biceps. (Mrs LifeUnscripted is on the other hand perfection in flesh. ;) ) We want potential new lovers to want to meet us because of who we are, not who we have fooled them into thinking we are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dimeshreds
10 years ago
When I see only one side of the couples profile I tend to think it is a fake profile. If it is just the girl I wonder where they got the pic from and if it is just the guy I think this is a single guy trying to get some extra attention. Couples I love to see pics of you in action, give me a good hard cock in a wet pussy pic and I am on board to join. I am not shy though so I guess different strokes for different folks.
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Quoting 'AZOZCouple' yes, many people don't emphasise looks. They are generally called ugly. Too bad you think attractive people are uninteresting. We haven't found that to be the case. When my wife and I met, physical attraction was something that caused us to be interested. From there, we loved what we heard and experienced. Looks can gain attention, but the mind and heart hold it. Sure, plenty of attractive people may fail once they grab attention, but then again so do many "ugly" people. At parties I don't see the most attractive gravitating toward the least attractive. We simply are up front about our preferences. You appear to be quite judgemental about attractive people. I have my own thoughts as to why that is, but will keep them to myself. So you can go on presenting yourself as better than all of us who give a damn about the way we look, and subsequently the way others we wish to share ourselves look. Thank you for pointing yourself out so all of us "shallow" folks know who to avoid. We are very content with "missing out" on those without enough self confidence to disclose who they really are up front. Good lord. Not entirely sure about the statement I have highlighted in red. Also..... So your assertion is that for you as a couple, physical attraction is only related to attractiveness? I'm having trouble following your argument.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wonder if guys do it as they think their partner is going to receive more attention and bring in more people for flirts or messages. Maybe they don't see it from a chicks perspective, Yes I would love to see a clear face pic, whether or not in a private pg I need to see their face for both guy & girl. On the flip side I have had couples message me & when I have asked to see the pic of the guy, have messaged back even though I don't float that way as a rule I was more attracted to her than him. Perhaps that is a reason why these guys aren't putting up pics of themselves????
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RHP User
10 years ago
yes the opening statement sounds a bit harsh, but PC and sugar coating things is not my strong point. Yes, attractiveness creates physical attraction for us. If you are asking about an "energy" a person gives off then yes, that matters. However for us, I cannot say an unattractive person who does not look after their physical body has ever given off an attractive "vibe" to me. We do lots of things to look after our bodies and do so for us... The we way it makes us feel. That in turn sets up at least an element of our energy which we subconsciously project. We then are likely to connect with others on that plane. Some call it shallow I suppose. Don't really care. Label it however you like. We are visual creatures, us humans. Denial of that is denial of a part of who you are, and that is unattractive to us.
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AsingleguyWA
10 years ago
... and with out some idea of both sides of a "couple" how can you know? Now we all know that pictures do not tell the whole story ... but at least that gives an idea. Both of us like to make sure that both are attractive (in whatever way that works) ... he is straight and she enjoys being bi ... however as we have both said - if the other parties are not attractive to both then you are hardly going to enjoy watching (which we do) the other having some fun with third parties! Maybe it is shallow ... but that's just what we think. And that's our 2c worth! :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'AZOZCouple' yes the opening statement sounds a bit harsh, but PC and sugar coating things is not my strong point. Yes, attractiveness creates physical attraction for us. If you are asking about an "energy" a person gives off then yes, that matters. However for us, I cannot say an unattractive person who does not look after their physical body has ever given off an attractive "vibe" to me. We do lots of things to look after our bodies and do so for us... The we way it makes us feel. That in turn sets up at least an element of our energy which we subconsciously project. We then are likely to connect with others on that plane. Some call it shallow I suppose. Don't really care. Label it however you like. We are visual creatures, us humans. Denial of that is denial of a part of who you are, and that is unattractive to us. Well I hope that you change your view for time stops for no one and if you only have beauty to generate attraction and desire who will you love when all that is only a distant memory. Will you be loving in the past or can you live now into the future. We are far from visual creatures, we have rather poor vision when compared to most animals. But rather we are creatures of ascetics, we have art and beauty, it is unique and sets us apart from all other life. We do not require vision to know beauty and we can find beauty in every thing if we are open to the possibility. I happen to know a few blind swinging couples, and it is very interesting when watching couples with your attitude find them selves unable to rely on visual beauty to generate attraction. I wonder how you would feel in a blind swingers party?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Clearly that is all you ever want to hear, Blindman. You are right, you're always right and yours is the only true and correct viewpoint. The rest of us inferior mortals will have to somehow get by in the bliss of our ignorance.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Far from correct. Including eyesight and use of auto spell correct as "But rather we are creatures of ascetics" Should be "But rather we are creatures of aesthetics" and to completely change the meaning of what i said. Oops. Don't get offended this is debate not argument, I present my view, you present yours. I try to match the tone of who I reply to as I assume what can be dealt out can be taken in return. Though the question still stands.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It always starts as a visual attraction for me. Be it seeing pics on here, or at a club/bar geez even the supermarket!! So in going back to this thread topic.., something that has rang alarm bells when contacting couples and they open the pg, is when the pics of the mrs are taken by someone else, but the guys pics are selfies in the mirror. Why couldnt the wife take them? Makes me wonder if wifey even knows about being on a couples profile. Just a bit weird for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But we really need to update our pics and profile...will get onto it when we return from holiday. Been thinking bout it for awhile now. Time to update.
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horneycouplewa
10 years ago
We are new to all this and I'm confused...I have come across a few profiles that only show usually a female body shot but yet THEY state if you don't have a face pic we won't reply. I am missing something or are they being a little hypocritical. Are they the ones that want to do the selecting ? idk
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RHP User
10 years ago
We are in this together. That's it, really. x T&S
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RHP User
10 years ago
i hear your argument, however it appears you are not reading or hearing mine. I never said Beauty was all that mattered... I said it serves as a catalyst. From there the rest of the nature of a person holds or releases a person's attention. I have met plenty of very physically attractive people whom I have no interest in due to their personality. I know plenty of physically unattractive people I think are wonderful. But we aren't looking for incredible depth here. Physical attraction, in this context, is the primary. A connection on some level to make it fun and interesting is also preferred, but we are soul mates and not seeking partners for life outside our marriage. As for how WE would feel at a blind swinger party.... I don't know. We still have our sight, so our own preferences and desires aren't going to change. Not sure your point with that question. Taking care of oneself is manifested in the physical form, whether that person can see themselves or not. It FEELS good to look after yourself. I have known blind people, and like the rest of us, they have their own definition of beauty and attractiveness. The 2 I knew cared how they looked... Took good care of themselves, dressed well, etc. The mind's eye is an amazing thing. You seem quite determine to paint us with a broad stroke... As shallow and uncaring of people. I enjoy a decent debate, but the tone of your argument comes across as very judgemental and self-righteous.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Total agree with you all. Good for the goose good for the gander. Or some thing like that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am definitely going to take some more pics of him and post them in our private gallery, as like some couples on here, my man's face is his business and what he does on here is no one's business, so his pics (up to date) are in our private gallery. We did think that people much prefer to look at pics of a woman rather than a man, I don't really like a couple's profile where most of the pics are of the man, being bisexual I do love the look of a woman, but I also do like to look at the man too, just not a whole heap of him (blushing). I think some of the couple's profiles on here are just the man using his wife's(?) pics to get his rocks off, but that soons become pretty obvious when she is never around to chat. I have loved chatting to the real couple's on here, there are just so many nice ones (tongue out). Sandy x
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not the only single guy who's posting to the thread but I feel compelled to throw in my bit of copper. I am looking not only for female playmates on RHP but male too. I'm not gay, not bisexual, but I've played enough to know that I don't have to be to be able to enjoy a threesome or more-some playtime. You get plenty of energy from the people around you, whatever the level of involvement. I have face pics in my private album because I'm not interested in being fronted by a someone I know from a different context about being on here. Been there, done that, changed my phone number and almost had to change jobs. I have a pic so people know what my build is like. I am not athletic and I know that that counts for a lot with many of us. Rules of the game. But even as a single guy, I like to see both partners of a couple in pics on the couples profile. Cock pics I can do without, unless that's your thing and need people to know how they measure up. I don't need to see faces, so edit or crop away. They don't even have to be nude. I'd just like to see both people. I don't think it's too much to ask.
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chevtrek
10 years ago
I started my profile as a single so they don't allow pics of the girlseven though profile says attached.Blame RHP.
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abab1
10 years ago
People do what they want to do, reveal what they want to reveal and hold back what the want to hold back. Insisting on it what you want them to doesn't make you more appealing.We hold large private parties, people that are too demanding on their profile or in the initial stages of chatting are usually the problem people at parties so we don't invite them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have to assume the guy was not sexy or would just be watching or playing in the corner. If you are to join in...put up a pic - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
We agree! It is disappointing to see profiles where the pics are all of her. It can be awkward to ask for pics of him and then get a reply that he needs to be more discrete because of his job...aren't we all in that boat? Blindman67 has an interesting point and we are tempted to try picking up others at a night club.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is all a marketing exercise. She is both the more attractive and more photogenic of the two. Therefore her pics are in the public gallery. If you wish to know or see more, then ask. Pretty simple really.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wanting to put a toe in the water but often put off by only seeing one half of the potential play couple. I understand people's need to be private etc, Isn't that what private pics are for?
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blackbig
10 years ago
I can understand the frustration of not having photos of the potential lover not displayed or even worse having incorrect photos displayed. Physical attraction is a vital factor for me to decide if would love to meet. It has worked tremendously well so far. The eyes, face and body tells you all. As I hate time wasting, the people I have met have been just as I thought ...except for one couple. I only need the photo of the lady to make the decision.The male part has no relevance for me, as I am heterosexual, who don't mind been watched or invited in a threesome session. I would certainly want to see photos of the potential lover, to save my time and their time 😍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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glennannie
10 years ago
As it seems impossible to meet people off here. We have plenty of pics of both and still no joy. Listed in date finder a few times now(along with the usual messages sent)and no interest at all. We're not that old or ugly are we 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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