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Play date becoming clingy

October 22 2013

I've been playing with a married lady on a weekly basis for the past two months (with the husbands consent). Recently she has become a bit clingy, texting me 3 or 4 times a day, and yesterday she came to work my place and booked a private swim lesson with me! When we play its intense and she does boost my ego by telling me how amazing I am, blagh blagh, but I think she has crossed 'the play date line'?? I don't want to get in the middle of a marriage and the last thing I want to do is 'rock the boat', but I probably should get out?? I've met the husband, and they seem to be in a loving relationship and I've never heard her say anything untoward about him. What's the best way to deal with this 'situation'? Eject completely or just go with the flow?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I would stop seeing her immediately. Sounds like she may becoming fixated on you? Not sure, but I would cut ties now before things become too messy. JMO.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    this is why I always have a little laugh to myself when single guys say they prefer married women, because there's no chance of those women getting 'clingy' and wanting more .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Unless that was a fantasy you guys had discussed setting up I'd be considering it might be time to move on.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Nothing quite like cuming between a married couple! (but if she starts to get clingy then definately do a "Ruddy"... and zip!)

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Quit feeding her habit. Full Stop. Consent or not...There are plenty of single available women in this world to not look for fish on another mans plate. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    ...never see her more than once a fortnight, keep contact limited to once a week, and keep ground rules crystal clear. DG- Posted from rhpmobile

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    You need to nip this in the bud now. If she actually knows how to swim she's crossed a line.....you are feeling violated a little bit yes? Take her aside, gently explain it was not your intent for this to become a "regular thing" and due to some unforseen actions is now impacting on your professional life as well as personal space. That isn't what you wanted. Wish her well and exit stage left.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    BAIL   She is about to expect you to be exclusive! :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Why is everyone saying to back away from this married woman for?????Clingy to me is such a subjective word, men use it all the time much like the word nagging!!Look at your own behavior OP and take responsibility.Have you defined the boundaries with her - seems not??So what if she is married, this is solely between you and her that's it.Hiloo if you don't like the behavior stand up and say something!!!!!It always have a snigger whenever I hear guys say " She's clingy" etc etc - such Passive Aggressive behavior - dodging responsibility.OH by the way...I think deep down (some) men like a clingy woman especially when it suits them~if you know what I mean.FOXY

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quit feeding her habit. Full Stop. Consent or not...There are plenty of single available women in this world to not look for fish on another mans plate. - Posted from rhpmobile Amen brother!FOXY

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    QUOTE:I've been playing with a married lady on a weekly basis for the past two months (with the husbands consent)lol sorry gotta laugh at this one.Believe it or not...to me you have some sort of relationship with this woman.Strings or no strings...*String Theory popped into head*A weekly basis with a married woman??For you to be in this position OP - It's been encouraged by BOTH parties.*Gosh I think I am starting to sound like DG*FOXY

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Seems to be a lot of people posting comments saying they agree with me in a few topics of late.Can you all just stop it!!!Its affecting the volume of narky emails Im used to receiving.DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    a thought,have you talked to her about this?...yes it seems like she has crossed a line but what were your interactions with her like? Perhaps because she gave your ego a boost,you sent her the wrong message..seeing someone once a week for two months and maybe sharing a lot of initmacy could lead to deeper feelings .Talk to her,explain how you feel about your arrangement,and if you feel you must,end it.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    be a man a talk too her about it. Don't just bail like a wanker. That is just plain disrespectful. Don't listen too DG either. Fishing can be fun for the right people. Though I suck at fishing.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    I do hope they are not on here as a couple. How damn rude you post it in here for them to see if they are.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Of communicating with her? That's the other adult thing to do. You have sex, tahts quite adult. You've met her husband...again...that's great. But you need to talk to her about this.When she text you, do yu message her back. When she shows up somewhere. You might need to gently say...I can't really have you here and explain why.You may be like a little drug to her, but you need to find out from her by communicating as to what is going on in her head (if you can) and change some of the rules....or leave, which ever you both decide is the best thing to do.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    When playing with a married woman keep it simple by only playing with her and her hubby there ??? Cuts all the bull shit out that way...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    .......- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    keep feeding it too her , she might like to be in control , then she might feed it too you

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Some good points above. It's true that guys think women are become clingy when they are not. I don't know the content of the text messages but if she has only started sending you texts few times a day.... Maybe she is just especially horny at the moment. Did you think of that? As for booking a private swimming lesson... Maybe she likes playing some role play games or she liked the risk/public factor? You should ask her about it. If you feel uncomfortable though you do have to talk to her and potentially break it off. I am sure you wouldn't just do a runner. Right?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quit feeding her habit. Full Stop. Consent or not...There are plenty of single available women in this world to not look for fish on another mans plate. - Posted from rhpmobile again with the implied ownership ... I realise it is probably a semantic slip but it has nothing to do with the fish belonging to or being on the man's plate. The woman is the only one who needs to take her relationship with the husband into consideration ... Either way it does sounds like it is on the fast-track to messy and complicated.

  • Playful2looking

    Playful2looking

    11 years ago

    When you break up Dont let her near your shirts she is going to cut them up with a pair of sisscers. I am curious how her husband is going to react; you said he gave her consent to play with you. but I bet he doesnt know that she is texting you three or four times a day and meeting you at the pool, during working hours. I think she is going to stalk you until you become exclusive to her. FBuddies please take note of this ...draw up some guide lines. This ties in with another post can men say no to sex. Yes they should if they think the other person is looking for more then just sex. Dont play with peoples emotions just to get you end away.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    is JMO and IMO etc. jump my ovariesinsert my orange

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    In my opinion and Just my opinion. Sometimes IMHO which is in my honest opinion

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Happy to insert some oranges for you. ;-)

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    think I would become a spritza then....all fruity and bubbly.. Hang on that's my brain.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    We can find some other fruit for you too inspirit :) Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    11 years ago

    She is a good ego booster, telling you everything you want to hear..... But have you been leading her on though? If you are feeling like your suffocating get out n tell her the truth..... The more you feed the monkey, the more they want n need!

  • Playful2looking

    Playful2looking

    11 years ago

    Hows this his fault she is married and texting him 3 times a day. leading her on I dont think so surely she can be responsible for her own behaviour.She is a victim of her own lust

  • erotictouch4u

    erotictouch4u

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY'Why is everyone saying to back away from this married woman for?????Clingy to me is such a subjective word, men use it all the time much like the word nagging!!Look at your own behavior OP and take responsibility.Have you defined the boundaries with her - seems not??So what if she is married, this is solely between you and her that's it.Hiloo if you don't like the behavior stand up and say something!!!!!It always have a snigger whenever I hear guys say " She's clingy" etc etc - such Passive Aggressive behavior - dodging responsibility.OH by the way...I think deep down (some) men like a clingy woman especially when it suits them~if you know what I mean.FOXY ET xox

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Way to contradict yourself... Start one post with "RUN FORREST RUN" then end the next with "YOU WOULDN'T DO A RUNNER NOW WOULD YOU?" lol. **TCs poking the Meeka bear. Hope we don't get whacked with that butt plug...**

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hmmmm let's make a whole fruit salad!- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Beachlover1999

    Beachlover1999

    11 years ago

    All the peeps out there that find it sooo easy to delete and run have heeded the sound advice of my fella forum frolicers!!!!!! OP, communicate with spine intact is the mature respectful way to do things..... :))

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    though some very very nawty little deviously delicious mind went the step further. Fruit Salad is good.... I do love to mix it up.