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Play friend etiquette

September 08 2018

Hi everyone :) I’m fairly new to participating here and I have wondered - is it assumed that if you click with a new play friend that you will be exclusive - or do people generally have multiple play friends? I’m guessing this is something you need to be up front about in terms of expectations, but it seems like a fairly heavy discussion to have in what otherwise may be a hot encounter (or more).... - Posted from rhpmobile

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PurePeony

6 years ago

It's best to discuss things openly, especially if it is important to you. Afterall, why should it be easier to get naked and do intimate acts than have frank chats about stuff that are our deal breakers? Unfortunately, in this day and age, and especially on this site, it's hard to meet a man who would be happy with just ONE FB or FWB when they could help themselves to a smorgasbord.

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FeistyFatty

6 years ago

This between the two of you. Everyone's comfort levels and sexual needs are different. Annie is right about the smorgasbord effect - Posted from rhpmobile

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MsSuperFoxy

6 years ago

What do you mean? A coupled committed relationship (committed just to each other) or play "exclusively" as a couple with other people? IMO, until a conversation has happened with set clear boundaries, people are free to see other people. Without those clear boundaries, assumptions can be made of those expectations. Every single relationship is different. Ms Foxy

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AnnieWhichway

6 years ago

But dont be surprised that your playmate will do their own thing anyway. And when caught will spin it all around to try and make it an acceptable exception for extenuating circumstances given complicated moments of compulsive reaction to an impulsive offer of a random fuck from someone I've been seeing for a while that l forgot to tell you about that l didnt think you wanted to know about anyway......

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RHP User

6 years ago

Let people will do what they want to do. Sometimes I've played the field, sometimes just one, but whether they just see me or not is none of my business. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

6 years ago

Thank you ☺️ by exclusive I really meant just one playmate at a time, not still hunting for others lol. I think you are all correct though that the only thing one can assume is that most people here are enjoying a smorgasbord - just takes a bit of getting used to when one is new to that aspect. And communication is key (although still don’t assume you are being told the truth) Happy days ☺️ Perhaps the best advice is - don’t overthink it! - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

6 years ago

Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' But dont be surprised that your playmate will do their own thing anyway. And when caught will spin it all around to try and make it an acceptable exception for extenuating circumstances given complicated moments of compulsive reaction to an impulsive offer of a random fuck from someone I've been seeing for a while that l forgot to tell you about that l didnt think you wanted to know about anyway...... You're so right.They will do what they want regardless of any prior conversations and when questioned, will make any "misunderstanding" your fault by telling you that you overthought it. WTF.

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Supernova

6 years ago

Hahaha right 😂. Last time I checked there was about 30 women online in the entire state of Victoria to about 1000 men!! - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

6 years ago

GOLD!!! 👏 I couldn’t put it better myself. Even when it’s decided that both will be non-exclusive and certain rules and boundaries are set up regarding safety or discretion and respect, shit can and will hit the fan. 💩 My only rule has ever been don’t string me along and play me like a fool. Mean what you say, say what you mean. Parties, couples and FB are ok. But wives and girlfriends are not. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

6 years ago

....knowing that it’s “notionally” possible that I will piss 5 off somehow. Hey they’re women...whaddaya expect? *ducks and heads for cover* Laterz lovelies! 🙉🙈🙊 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

6 years ago

I think its nice to share a exculsive sexual relationship. However overtime you run the risk of becoming too intimate and may develop attachments. Tbh most of the time I feel like unless your in a actual committed relationship. Then Im free to make my own decisions on who I play with. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

6 years ago

Any ethical non-monogamous open relationship/fwb arrangement needs honesty. To what degree you are sharing the details of your other encounters is discussed in each relationship (yes even a fwb is a relationship- even if no emotional love attachment is there) My lovers know I’m dating others. They are all very busy with their lives as am I. We are not interested in being exclusive or it’s the right fit for a long term relationship. We meet when we want to. Most don’t want to know I’m seeing others. As long as when we spend the time together we give each other undivided attention and intimacy, we are fine with it. If a lover wants to know details, I am more than happy to share them.

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RHP User

6 years ago

My attitude when thinking about another person is “what would I want to know so that I can make the best decisions for myself?” Being an open book (although sometimes hard) is always the best way to enable each person to make their own best choices.

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