RHP

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Playing the percentages and getting caught out.........

January 04 2012

I would be interested in peoples thoughts on having multiple people "on the go" at various stages of the Message, Chat, Coffee, Drinks, Play continuum and how do you handle it.A lot of guys message lots of girls and hope to get one or two replies, sometimes you can get more than you can handle ( rarely), but because the %'s are so low of actually converting the contact into play, you keep all of the possibles on the go.It can then become a logistical nightmare trying to keep all of the balls in the air and not upset anyone, but obviously you cannot play with them all. A lot fall by the wayside, but sometimes you can end up with a problem.So how do you all manage it especially the girls who would have far more issues with overwhelming replies than the guys?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    It is very difficult to find a permanent play friend. Most play twice, maybe three times and then no more. I have found that the majority are not looking for permanent and move on to the next fairly fast. Hence the need to keep things turning over. It is great when you can and do find one or two regular friends. No I dont have any difficulty. It is often a long time before I can met anyone so therefore most drop by the wayside long before I meet them anyway. Those I am lucky enough to meet I tend to keep as friends for years.

  • RHP

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    13 years ago

    I think you have to be smart That....and no one actually cares who else you are seeing because this is a sex site not a romance/life partner site and they are seeing 5 other guys.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    we thought that until or unless you are in a mutually exclusive relationship.... you couldnt be 'caught out' by a casual friend, as that negates the whole 'casual' idea......clever time management can absolutely mean that you can be seeing, meeting, and screwing a number of people, without anyone being aware of any other in your life......

  • lil_bit_rusty

    lil_bit_rusty

    13 years ago

    I can understand where you're coming from OP, it's only happened to me twice and I had an understanding partner/fwb at those times who encouraged me to do it. I guess tact and discretion are to be used very, very wisely if any of them are looking for a "one person at a time" type relationship.I really don't recommend lying to anyone. It just ruins it for everyone. .For me communication is paramount and I'll be honest with people even if it means it's likely they won't want to have any further contact with me. .I'm interested in meeting, playing and hopefully forming friendships with a number of people. I'd like to think that if there were to ever be some overlap that the people I'm with would be understanding and accepting, as I would be of it occurring for them. I'll even consider a monogamous relationship for someone I really, really like. However that doesn't mean I can't still talk to other people and meet for a chat.Though I've missed some opportunities due to my stance, I consider the people I've met to be worth the "price" of rejection I paid for my honesty. .Besides, I'd be too worried of messing up, offending one or all of them and missing out.True, the same can happen with the way I wish to do it too but I feel better about being honest like that..Good luck!.CheersRusty

  • wannabyummymummy

    wannabyummymummy

    13 years ago

    As previously stated this is a sex site more so than a 'dating' site so I think the expectation of most people is that they are not exclusive here so it stands to reason that I will be chatting to more than one person at a time and those people will be chatting to more than just me. However I do think you have to be descrete about it so as to never make the person feel like second chop. Be respectful and honest and there shouldn't be an issue like you say most will fall by the wayside before you even meet and of the ones you do meet you may not play with them all either. Have fun, WBYM

  • RHP

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    13 years ago

    Use a diary.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    How in the hell can your neck and that simple "Princess" necklace be such a damn turn on? | I think he needs to use Outlook on his laptop to keep track of things.

  • RHP

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    13 years ago

    On the flip side of this, bad management of it can be incredibly annoying. I tend to place a lot of stock in manners and social courtesies. Who I talk to and sleep with is my business and whatever anyone else does is there business provided its not impacting or hurting anyone else. I was supposed to meet a woman last week for a drink near her place after I'd finished dinner with my little sister. Following the plan, I heard nothing back, then received an sms several days later saying something like "sorry, met a couple that afternoon and just kept going". I've no issues with that. But really, is it that hard to shoot me a text saying "I'm sorry but I can't make it tonight"??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ...hand ball or any other indoor sports involving balls and taking a good licking if you win? | Quoting 'Chasing_Chilli' Excel Spreadsheet | Excel...lent. Spread the sheets and book me in? | | Arrest, book, and take me into custody...and don't forget the handcuffs.

  • RHP

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    13 years ago

    Quoting 'MistressT' Use a diary.

  • RHP

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    13 years ago

    That is actually waiting to be claimed, well more like waiting to be gifted Quoting 'Chasing_Midnight' How in the hell can your neck and that simple "Princess" necklace be such a damn turn on? | I think he needs to use Outlook on his laptop to keep track of things.

  • RHP

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    13 years ago

    Quoting 'goodgrlzsayplz' I think you have to be smart That....and no one actually cares who else you are seeing because this is a sex site not a romance/life partner site and they are seeing 5 other guys.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'MistressT' Use a diary.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'Chasing_Anal' Excel SpreadsheetChilli xxKeep your balls in the air long enough and something will eventually give them a lick