M53
Please help
May 16 2021
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MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
Many come here for different things. You are not alone. So what, you have "attached" or "unattached"on your profile. A shag is a shag to a married man, right? You can't offer stability or emotional connections, just physical. However in your case (an others), it is your situation that many frown upon here, because you state you are being honest you are attached (without your wifes consent). Yet, at the same time you are not being honest to one very important person in your life, your wife. That is deceitful and not respectful. You've actually removed her choice and disregarded her, NO. So if you ignore her no, will you do that to others? You put "unattached", wise people will sniff that out because your behavour will indicate red flags. Your chances are slim here, unless you become a bull or find another woman in the same situation as you or better still just go to a brothel. Be warned, The Minister of Finance might question the missing budget funds. Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
4 years ago
It's okay for an attached female to be here because they are in demand. And the sisterhood protects them. Whereas men are just after a notch on the belt. Sleaze bags..... That's life. Haven't you learnt yet? Women are always right. They are perfect. They need to be treated with respect. Equal rights......yeah nah....double standards... Lol. Life is interesting,......
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Phoenix_Rising
4 years ago
It’s not ok for either, maybe the men who accept the cheating women just have lower standards so they choose to accept it more.
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SpicyKale
4 years ago
Keep true to yourself, or as Foxy mentioned people will sniff you out because after a while on here you get to know the types of behaviour that indicates less than honest intentions. Personally it’s a hard no for either sex if they’re married and don’t have a note from the other half. As Annie mentioned supply and demand has a lot to do with why a lot will look the other way.... hypocritical? Most definitely! A lot of couples do a lot of work together to get to the stage of navigating ethical non monogamy and don’t deal with married singles that are cheating overly well. Good luck
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squrting
4 years ago
Me and my wife as been married for 20 years and when ever we chat with someone on RHP we up date him or her on the chat and we think that makes it easier in the marriage so please guys trust your partner
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jessica__rabbit
4 years ago
I'm not sure who you asked regarding that consensus. Do you mean that most men would meet a cheating woman however women wouldn't meet a cheating guy? How did you form the opinion that it's ok for one gender and not the other? As for people looking for "attached" on their profile - that does not at all mean they are open to cheaters. It's a swinging site, attached can include ENM, poly, open, group play, swap etc. That is not at all the same as looking for a "discreet affair". If you're messaging women who don't say they're open to affairs then expect to cop backlash. What's worse is getting messages from cheaters even when you state in your profile that you want nothing to do with cheating. So yes, expect to cop it if you refuse to read or respect boundaries in people's profiles.
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BeccyBec
4 years ago
It's not ok for either. Hope that helps.
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RHP User
4 years ago
As long as you’re upfront about it on here it’s nobody else’s business. Should be a non judgmental place
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RHP User
4 years ago
Hey mate. I won't judge your situation. The ladies have done that, and I don't disagree with their points. But moving past that, at least you're honest in your profile / situation. Best to be honest above all. But sir, the profile needs a total re-think. "MeNeedMore" sounds like a ravenous lad at the Sizzler buffet at hungover brunch. If you only offer a woman sex on here, do understand she has thousands of those options - attached sex is more complicated than from a single male. Where's the passion in your profile? I can't speak for women that would say "yes" to your situation, but I would think they would be more keen on some kind of (this will sound cheesy) romantic connection, wine, laughs, love-making that you miss out on (and the passion and orgasms you are looking to give - this is not all about you)... like a European sort of romance vs. a shag by an attached lad looking to release. I think your profile exhibits the latter when you need to massage it to the former. Best of luck.
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FireJuggler
4 years ago
You will get judged by people, that is just a fact of life. Everyone on here has their own story or reasons for being here, the same as everyone on here will have their own standards on what is acceptable or not. I don't think it is more accepted that a woman is on here cheating, it is probably more to do with the numbers of men on here compared to women. Go into the chat room at anytime and you will see that if there are 5 women in there it is probably a good day! My option though, I do feel for you being in a sexless marriage can be a difficult thing to deal with. The emotional side from the lack of intimacy does hurt both genders. My advice to you is figure out what you actually want and be prepared for any mental anguish or consequences that you may put yourself though. Hope whatever you are after works out for you.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Mare I don’t think it’s ok for either gender, unfortunately alot blokes don’t have the same level of scruples ( a shag is a shag is a shag) so married women who cheat seem to be more “accepted” Speaking from experience being in a sexless and totally lacking in intimacy marriage is bloody tough. I never strayed for over 20 years until I was no longer wanted. My advice to you is deal with your relationship first one way or another before going down the murky road of cheating
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MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
Am curious OP, what would happen if you met another in the same situation as yourself and got an STD from them? Would you be honest and tell your wife or keep that dishonesty to yourself? 🤔🤔🤔 Ms Foxy
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Freaky_Fun
4 years ago
I do love the attached profiles that say they're "respectful". To everyone else except the person that matters maybe.
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RHP User
4 years ago
This is an interesting for lots of reasons. Are you ASSUMING that it’s more acceptable for women to be dishonest in their relationships, OR do you have data to back this? For many of us (women), CONSENT is the biggest thing in our sexual journeys and adventures. And if a married man is having sex with women and his wife/partner doesn’t know, then her consent has been ignored/removed. (Absolutely the same situation exists for married women, obvs!). But as women, our consent is undermined or ignored far more often than men in our society. So a cheating husband comes with more than just the guilt of sleeping with another woman man. 🥺 And the fact that a lot of women have caveats in their profile saying “No Married Men”, and STILL get messages from cheaters, is pretty disheartening. And tiring.
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kinkyArtisan
4 years ago
Im in the same boat, she dosnt hate sex at all,, but she is too fussy in who we meet, so we agreed Ican play alone
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RHP User
4 years ago
Er..its not 🤷♂️
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FrequentFlyers
4 years ago
I am perplexed by the number of people who judge others on this site when they themselves are hiding from being judged in the ‘conventional’ world!! What a hypocritical standpoint. Agree??
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gazpacho
4 years ago
Lol. Well, men should know better. Women are easily seduced. You know this.
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RHP User
4 years ago
In my opinion you shouldn't worry about those who judge you for the choices you make. At least you are honest about your situation which I think is very admirable. What you should look for is someone in the same situation as yourself. You do you boo 👍🏼🙏🏽 Ps: your actual question, its a numbers game. Women just have it easier on this site, in most aspects 💁🏼♀️
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RHP User
4 years ago
You need to expand on the 'what you're looking for' section of your profile. I can't speak for all women, but I'm thinking that a high proportion of women don't want to be viewed purely as sex objects or sex workers. Women don't want the emotional vomit either, the usual story of "poor little me, i'm not getting sex at home, etc etc etc." We've all heard that one before, and if we had a buck for each time we've heard it, we'd be on a 5 star cruise or buy a Ferrari. When a man whines about their home situation, women automatically think, 'then do something about it'. Why burden women with that? What do you expect the woman you want to score with, to do with that information? It's certainly not an aphrodisiac. There are plenty of women who are in a similar situation with their partners/husbands, and who will also indulge. So maybe you need to look there, but in any case, your profile needs work.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Most men isn't single either
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nightingale8
4 years ago
Just because things happen (like women cheaters getting by ok) doesn’t mean the populous approve of it. Have met men who will happily meet and enjoy cheating women but in the same breath say they “hate cheaters!” People are funny like that.
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RHP User
4 years ago
I have met you now, and I must say, people are very quick to judge, this is a sex site I assume, we are all here to for the pleasures of the body...Or are We! Not to pass judgement on how a profile is configured, it is called talking to the person in this case typing and finding out the substance behind the profile, not everyone has the ability to put a wiz bang impress me profile together and also that does not say that cleverly written profile will have a person of substance behind it , but I guess if your words are not full of Impressive Stuff then the standard is Set and opinions are formed ..... So Wrong! Your a very nice human being and I think you are a thoughtful person with a kind heart who has consideration for other persons. Touche! Cheers .
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N4November
4 years ago
Married men equals drama to me. Why would I bother? They can’t be open and available lovers by definition they are attached or married and I just find cheaters as an unattractive personality trait! There are some awesome people on here so Im just not interested, guy or girl.
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sweetnsensual
4 years ago
Sorry to hear of your situation. We woke up and had sex this morning. Whilst we enjoy sex with others we still love sex together. Maybe go to marriage counselling or see a sexologist if there is one up there. MisJif off here is amazing and i know does consults by Zoom so maybe look at employing her skills. It sounds like you still love your partner so be open and honest before it all ends in tears.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Attached that are cheating come with too many negatives. They cant meet in public for an initial coffee meet. They cant share a meal in a restaurant. They cant meet at nights or weekends. They cant answer the phone. They cant spend more than their work lunch break with you. They cant host. They cant spend a night withyou. So what's appealing for a single woman about that?
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dimples4fun67
4 years ago
So many judges If ya not getting it at home and try to sort it out Well good on you .... selfish wife and you have your needs too. At least your honest . Longs as not hurting anyone and being discreet why not.
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RHP User
3 years ago
I don't think it makes a difference and only becomes an issue when you'd approach women who have unattached on their profiles. I don't understand why a woman who has 'attached or unattached' on her profile would make it an issue. I'm thinking there is more to it than what you're saying. I think if your home sex life is becoming an issue, it's something that needs sorting at some point or another. It's not for a woman (on here, or wherever) to sort it for you or somehow be dumped with the shit, but it seems that men always do this dumping on women about their home sex life. We don't really want to know about it, we've heard the same old story zillions of times before and in our mind, it doesn't really stack up. Because really, if it was all so nightmarish, it would be dealt with.
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