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RHP User
8 years ago
For me it does. Am married to a much older guy and he has said all along the day will come when he can't keep up so is best I am just open and either take casual lovers or have a FWB or three to keep me happy and is agreed will always be total open.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are some on the forum who have spoken about their poly lives, and it sounds pretty bloody hot. Not sure how my future relationship will play out, but it certainly won't be monogamous, and I won't be controlled, as in same room crap, he will have to be very open, very kinky and very non-controlling. We are all individuals, we don't own others, and I think non-monogamy is the only way to go to maintain a healthy satisfying sex life. Poly isn't just allowing it to happen, it's being turned on by it, comfortable and happy the partner is being satisfied, which usually ends in hot sex between the two following meeting others. Win win really, how could that be a bad thing? Sounds perfect to me 😉
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boxestotick
8 years ago
When the kids leave home. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
like any relationship, they can work or they can fail. Communication and transparency are a major key to them being successful. Im a Solo Poly, in a loving partnership with a family, I have been blessed with them for 18 months now.
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inspirit
8 years ago
Simply.....Yes - Posted from rhpmobile
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megz85g
8 years ago
Currently no, it's not working for hubby and me. In that he wants poly, I want more casual and we are really butting heads on it and it's causing a lot of issues - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry to hear that. Can you expand a bit? Does poly have to be, or is it usually, with one other ongoing/regular partner. Can it not be different partners as you say you would prefer? A regular other partner I suppose fits poly, but to find that third person, some casual encounters would need to happen anyway, I would liken it to test driving lol Knowing how hard it is to find 'gems' I call them, with poly, does your partner have to approve as well? 20 questions here 😀 I just found your comment interesting
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with the comments above. Didnt work in my last relationship, hence why i am here looking for casual fun. It gets very messy if both parties are not on the same page. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think you need to look up polyamory because your talking about something different. From the web "There is a common misconception that a polyamorous relationship is really no different from an open-relationship agreement: one committed couple, with some lighthearted fun on the side. But the word “polyamory,” by definition, means loving more than one."
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RHP User
8 years ago
Does your husband want a girlfriend?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I can see that you have alluded to that in your question to Meg. Sorry about that. But that is the interesting thing about poly people. Just because a person believes that you can be in love or committed to more than one person doesn't necessarily mean that person is into kink, group sex or swings. They may not even really approve of casual sex either I suppose.
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megz85g
8 years ago
We both just seem to have differing opinions on what is 'appropriate ' in terms of seeing other people. To be it is mostly physical, of course I like to get to know people, go for dinner etc, but keep it pretty casual, no commitment. He is wanting set date nights, more of a gf/bf type of relationship, a lot more involved than I am comfortable with. - Posted from rhpmobile
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megz85g
8 years ago
**to me it is - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes thanks for clarifying/explaining that, I did go a bit off track with that, and thanks megz I now understand your situation. Still I like the idea of this, to have love with two people, to have access to them both, the intensity of that, really appeals to me. The only part I would have a problem with is having to be in two 'almost monogamous' relationships. That's not realistic for me, I know I will always control that myself, I will never allow a man to tell me who I can or can't see, wouldn't even ask lol 😇 Mary, I've said before, I want to be you. Shame I couldn't do Thursdays haha but you have your cake and you eat it too 😀😉 all that delicious icing 😋 Open, poly, whatever, as long as we satisfy our needs along the way, I'm in 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
You don't sound poly and I would sit him down fast. There's no point pulling punches here. If he wants more than you're comfortable with as your husband first and before all this (I imagine?), your comfort and trust level should be maintained. It's great that you're talking openly though. 👍🏼 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's about finding other loveable poly-genuine people that can ride the wave with you. I used to pursue it but am aware I've all but dropped the notion for myself. I felt like I was in a tumble dryer at times. No matter how many (or few) people you allow yourself to love at a time, you still only have so much to give others (and time to find true connection). Then there's your lover's loves'... Like anyone, one big hit to the heart and you may find yourself unavailable to anyone new for a while. - Posted from rhpmobile
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megz85g
8 years ago
I'm not into poly, have nothing against it for others but I do not want it in my own relationship, but I am trying my best to come to compromises to make him happy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You owe it to yourself to make YOU happy. If he wants something youre not comfortable with, then its not a good situation for you xx
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Two_Tarts
8 years ago
We have seen a number of people try the poly relationship thing on one level or another. While there must be situations where this works for some people, our observations are that it has not worked long term for most of the people we have seen try. It seems to us that whether it takes weeks, months, or years, it ends with at least one (if not all) of the people involved feeling very abandoned and unhappy. Like lovely Longest has said, everyone has only just so much love and time to give and the more people you share it with the less each person gets of that pie. It might be great for the person that regards themselves as Poly and gets to indulge in sincerely loving and connecting in a relationship with more than one person, but maybe they get their fill at the expense of short changing all of the people they love? We do sincerely love and adore many of our RHP friends, but while we might indulge with them fully on the occasional date night we do that from a swingers perspective. It is a special event with special friends and it means a lot to us, but no matter how much we adore them there are no equals in the relationship stakes and if ever there is a choice we always put each other first and we expect our friends will do the same with their partner too. Neither of us has enough spare love that we can afford to share it for more than the occasional night.... and we would not want to short change our friends, or each other, by suggesting we could manage a serious second relationship. Congratulations to anyone who can manage satisfying Poly relationships. Our only hope is that their partners should be equally happy, satisfied, and fulfilled. Enjoy! Xxx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm lovely! Shines fingernails on her blouse. 😊😊😊 Well said enigmatic Tarts, the other bit too! 😋 LL_D 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
many get it wrong with basic human mistakes. you make it limited by boxing yourself in. Ie, in the post by Two_tarts (forgive me if I am reading it wrong in my interpretation.) I see this post in particular working on several things poly people call the Escalator, Hierarchy and basically thinking that each relationship has to be all encompassing like a monogamous relationship. This is where much goes wrong. I speak to my loves on Facebook regularly, but I only see them when I can each fortnight, I will never live with them, I will never merge my life totally with theirs, I have complete compersion for them and their choices. Every poly relationship is so vastly different in its level of what you develop the relationship to be and look like. The basics are always going to be, its either for you or its not, it doesn't have to fit a box, communication, transparency and love. We dont love one child, we dont love on family member, we dont love one book, a single food and much more, and we love them in so many different ways, this is the same for our lovers and partners. We can love them in any way that works for us at the time. Its not limited, its not encompassing. Its broad, diverse and a very freeing process.
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CuriousInPerth02
7 years ago
We are very new to the scene but have decided we definitely lean towards polyamorous by definition, not in to one night stands or hook ups with randoms, don't get me wrong, they can be fun, just not for us. We prefer a deeper connection than just the physical. I don't believe for a moment we have a finite amount of love, the following quote I think is just perfect... “To think for one minute the human mind or the human heart has the ability to love multiple family members , and not have the capacity to feel love for multiple people , in my opinion, is to think foolishly,” he said. “We love family, friends, animals, thoughts, phrases, places, theories…” he hesitated and shook his head. “We love none of them any more or less than the other. Love, in my heart, is love. We tell ourselves it’s different when we think we’ve met the one . Nonetheless, it’s simply love, and we reserve hope by telling ourselves the love is special or more abundant than our previous or current loves. Me? I say bullshit,” - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'CuriousInPerth02' We are very new to the scene but have decided we definitely lean towards polyamorous by definition, not in to one night stands or hook ups with randoms, don't get me wrong, they can be fun, just not for us. We prefer a deeper connection than just the physical. I don't believe for a moment we have a finite amount of love, the following quote I think is just perfect... “To think for one minute the human mind or the human heart has the ability to love multiple family members , and not have the capacity to feel love for multiple people , in my opinion, is to think foolishly,” he said. “We love family, friends, animals, thoughts, phrases, places, theories…” he hesitated and shook his head. “We love none of them any more or less than the other. Love, in my heart, is love. We tell ourselves it’s different when we think we’ve met the one . Nonetheless, it’s simply love, and we reserve hope by telling ourselves the love is special or more abundant than our previous or current loves. Me? I say bullshit,” - Posted from rhpmobile and to give the quote the credit it deserves and for copyright... its from the Author Scott Hildreth
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RHP User
7 years ago
I would think it would be hard for them to have a higher failure rate than monogamous relationships.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Perfectly summed up what it is and is not for me ;)
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