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Polyamorous...........sister wife situations. What does the forum think?.

August 30 2015

Hello everyone, We wanted to raise this as a topic to see where the mood is for this type of life style situation. We consider ourselves to be a very open......in love and into each other couple. We have started to entertain/consider a polyamorous/sister wife arrangement. At this stage live in or live out are both real options......it depends on each individual circumstance. We think the situation and lifestyle might fit a divorced lady looking for friendship and openness with both a male and a female.....no receipt or lies about being married or in an open relationship. Or possibly an open female wanting to bond with a like minded couple. We are interested to gauge the opinions of the forum and also interested in contacting persons that this lifestyle might interest. C and M xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    But I'm not saying it's wrong. Everyone has different situations and needs and I believe we all do what suits us and fulfills our needs. If this is what you're looking for, and you find someone to suit what you're looking for and is looking for you, as long as no one gets hurt and all parties involved are happy, go for it. I hope you find the right one. 😃 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • CumOnRound

    CumOnRound

    9 years ago

    we have often discussed the idea of a mutual "girlfriend" or ongoing playmate for the comfort and companionship factor. However, I have always found reading about poly relationships fascinating, though that is not how far we would take it. If you are keen then like anything communication is key... And think of al the opportunities and possibilities. On another forum recently (not RHP) a guy was talking about the fact that both of his partners were pregnant... Oh lord the hormones!!!! But he also talked about the many upsides and downs and the intricacies involved. and I was surprised at the number of people that commented, comparing their own poly relationships and associated experiences - So many and so varied! I say if that's what you want go for it and all the best :) Mrs - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    In a polyamory us relationship, whilst we are now still friends, we did one main thing wrong and that was we didnt all put down our wants/needs/rules etc. A few things surprised the other lady in what she was feeling and certain public engagements went a bit awry due to not doing our lists. I know three couples who have very successful poly relationships, two for over 10 yrs. You should read up on the lifestyle in fetlife.com

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Is The Ethical Slut by Eason and Hardy...they pretty much look at all the pitfalls and talk from experience..you can actually get it from your local library...😝xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I am exploring with this myself... I have met some lovely people that I am talking and interacting with on a regular basis. I Good reading for sure, the book Freya recommended and More Than Two by franklin veaux and eve rickert. as everyone will tell you, communication is the biggest key, complete transparency. If you have to hide anything, in my opinion then it wont work, and or causes unnecessary discourse. There is much to read on the web, and fetlife is a good resource.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    It's always adding...... another woman. For who, I wonder. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Are you that far removed that you haven't seen the women with multiple men? or the families who have equal numbers in the genders? there is also polysingle - single person having meaningful relationships with multiple others of either gender triad whether male primary or female primary quad with any combination, with all playing or only some playing and group with any combination and all of these combinations do all of it with complete awareness of one another at all times its not always about the one male, and its certainly not about being greedy..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' It's always adding...... another woman. For who, I wonder. - Posted from rhpmobile Yeah, how common would it be for an extra man to live in, fuck yeah, that would seriously be a dream come true for me

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    where polygamy is lawful, I asked a man in front of his girlfriend 'after marrying her, how many more wives will you get?' His girlfriend piped up and said 'One man, one wife!!!'. He pulled me aside and said, man to man, 'One wife enough. More wives...' and lifted his hands to his head to imitate the effects of a very bad headache 😀

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I suggest a quick google search on Polyandry then, just because we dont see it, doesnt mean its not there or minimal.. especially when a woman gets branded a slut for it, and a man just gets fist bumped..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Wasn't the actor Jack Thompson in this type of relationship with two sisters? Don't know if its still working for them..... It's common practice in China for a guy to have a wife/family etc and a girlfriend or two on the side. Its slightly different however, in that he buys the girlfriend, (20,000RMB/$5000) sets her up in a separate apartment, and pays her rent and a small wage. Only the businessmen can afford this, but all parties involved know about it.The wife has no say. If he losses interest, or cannot afford the lifestyle any longer he simply passes the girl off to another, and it starts again. I find this situation appauling on a number of levels.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Not for me but it works for many different tribes and races. I do not really know much about it but I would presume those involved would have to be very open, completely honest and completely comfortable within themselves for it to work. Might have to take a trip to the library and have a squiz at the books mentioned

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    9 years ago

    It does work for some People..I understand the community bonding, the uniting of people, the gifting etc however it's the "brainwashing/abuse" in some cultures I will never ever understand (mainly FLDS - Keep Sweet). I found this on the net Which is rather interesting.. Buddhism does not recognise marriage as a sacrament, but some Buddhist states recognised plural marriage, such as Thailand, Tibet, Sri Lanka. It is still legal in Burma and Tibet. Muslim men can have up to 4 wives but they are required to deal with their wives "justly" Karaite Jews can have more than 1 wife, but rarely do because Exodus 21:10 means that a man can only take a second wife if he is capable of maintaining the same level of marital duties due to his first wife; the marital duties are 1) food, 2) clothing, and 3) sexual gratification. Mormons are permitted to take more than 1 wife.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    9 years ago

    Foxtel had a series (Called Sister Wives) about a man and his three wives. Was very interesting, fascinating and very educational. I think it's up to series 4 or maybe 5. Ms Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    9 years ago

    Some cultures..why is it we hear of men with more than one partner but never hear of women???.... I'd could do that. Now to find willing partners and a good block of land to build my Dream home. Just like Mr Hefner. 😎 Foxy

  • Smilingwithfun

    Smilingwithfun

    9 years ago

    Why do we only hear of men with several women, not the reverse. Probably the same reason that there are 20 men to one woman on here.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Sometimes a man will "marry" two sisters or a woman will marry two brothers..It's mainly about property..xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    It's the woman in the relationship who wants another woman around for companionship, whereas the blokes less readily want another bloke around just to chat to.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Hmmm, would beat going to the gym every evening....on the other hand, Im sure its not all plain sailing, there must be times when jealousy rears its head and there are insecurities. I couldnt do it personally. I knew one woman who put up with it as she was scared she would lose her husband. So yes, it obviously works for some people but I also think some of the motives are selfish.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    The trio I am most familiar with is/was CouplesInt. They used to run a swingers club and it was Leesa, who had hubby and a younger boyfriend. They posted a lot in the forums and seemed very happy together. Peachy

  • neapolitan_guy

    neapolitan_guy

    9 years ago

    There was a tele show Big Love that went for a few seasons. From this l thought the idea of three women and a guy living together married, in a large yet separated home was interesting. The highest level of honesty, acceptance and patience required. Yes it's tv and a script yet still l found the concept and story interesting and my first look at such a lifestyle. Would take special people to really live together in such a way, though the rewards would be special to because of the types of interaction would be higher perhaps. Being about connection and interaction and obviously emotions like jealously have to be removed but why couldn't a woman choose to live with more then one guy. Like Spirit Phoenix said "a woman gets branded a slut for it, and a man just gets fist bumped" l don't get that double standard for any choice women make. Would it not be fwb on the highest degree. And the bottom line is whatever makes people happiest. Cheers

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    9 years ago

    yes...I remember! Be a few years now.. They had a club in Brisbane, called CI or Couples Inc. Something like that. I think?? Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    They were a big part of the site for a while including having a room of their own in the chat rooms. xxx

  • 0h0y0nicba

    0h0y0nicba

    9 years ago

    Polygamy is a case of too many wives and monogamy is the same!