M55
Polyamory
October 07 2008
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RHP User
16 years ago
Here is our 2 cents. Bryan and I had a girlfriend for a few years..it was hot as... And we had a boyfriend....pretty much done it all... But we have been on the scene for some 17 years so you can imagine there is not a lot we havent done or experienced...Just very selective that is all.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Polyamory, the next step up from swinging, though not to be confused with Polygamy. Personally i don't have a problem with people engaging in it. Given that Polyamory has a big focus on relationship as well as sex, whereas swinging has its focus on recreational sex, the time and emotional and perhaps monetary demands would be huge, i have been curious about it for a long time, but alas don't have that kind of free time to do justice to two ladies or another guy. Sad to see that this poor girl was being flamed for her curiosity, apparently there are lots of narrow minded people about!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah this doesn't come up very often - suprisingly. Seems society as a whole is very protective of monogamy. You can play and do whatever you like but everyone likes to feel like they are "special" (read exclusive) to someone. I have been thinking for quite some time that I would be very interested in challenging my own feelings of insecurity and jealousy and try something like polyamory. (Of course I'm only interested in a MFF/FMF relationship lol).
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RHP User
16 years ago
we would love to have her!
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RHP User
16 years ago
CI... and i loved everyone minute of it, haha
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RHP User
16 years ago
Whatever floats your boat we say ,while it is not for us as we have 2 kids and explaining it to them would be impossible if not immoral. We had friends who lived with another and somehow they wanted this new girl to have his baby . It was all a little bit too weird when they tried to find out if they could get married. As i said whatever floats your boat,but bringing a kid into this world open to confusion and ridicule from others is just not right. We love each other dearly and love the "OUR" time we have so polyamory is not quite our thing . We are both allowed b/f or g/f but choose not to have the complications .
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't really understand why anyone would want to have relationships any other way. We've both been involved in this more than once, but unfortunately find it hard to find someone who is a good enough 'fit' to last long term with us now.... For me, its simply a matter of needs. I need women, and I need men. And my other half has other needs of his own that also can't exist in the one person. So it stands to reason that we both need more than one person to be satisfied. Until then, swinging serves that purpose well enough to keep from becoming overly frustrated. Lol.... nadi xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have had a oh so brief experience that was unfortunately ruined by a clash of personalities. Which is of course the most important thing in this sort of situation. I have no problem with it, infact i think it can create a bond that is stronger than a couples, but, its easier to match a couple than a "tripple". As far as being accepted by the world in general, who gives a fuck, be happy. Its very sad to see people get shafted by uninformed, inexperienced and most likely sexually frustrated morons. mutual consent is what its all about. PD
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twowithnolimits
16 years ago
Have been there in the past when i was younger lived with two women, both gf's, one became my wife ...for a while anyways lol life is dynamic and hard and fast rules are just one persons way of tryig to impose their viewpoint on another polyamory is no better or worse than any other situation and i really wish people would leave others alone!! Paul
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twowithnolimits
16 years ago
About 78% of human societies are polygynous, in which some men marry more than one wife. Only 22% of societies are strictly monogamous. Almost no modern societies are polyandrous, in which one woman marries several husbands (although such societies have existed historically in the Canary Islands, the Himalayas, the Canadian Arctic, and possibly other places). Only 3% of mammal species in general are monogamous, although at least 15% of primate species are. In historical terms, it is monogamy that is in need of explanation, not polygamy. — Janet Bennion, Women of Principle (1998) AND If one ever needed a good argument for the practice of polygamy, then it seems researchers have found one. The University of Sheffield has found that men in polygamous cultures live 12% longer than those from non-polygamous cultures. The research has been published in the New Scientist magazine and is based on a survey of older men from 140 polygamous cultures and those from 49 monogamous cultures. The findings do not get into much debate about the "why", but rather leaves it open to possible social and genetic factors. COME ON GUYS WHO DOESNT WANT TO LIVE LONGER
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twowithnolimits
16 years ago
oh btw secret, who is the poor girl and where was the post? as we have both been there perhaps we can post in her support.... P&n
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is something that interests me. I would love to find one couple to be "my couple' iykwim? I wouldn't want to live with them or anything that extreme, but I would like to have a couple and just be with them - that's it. Does that make sense? Is it still classed as polyamory if you don't live with them etc?
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think the primary objective of polyamory is to love multiple people at once. It probably doesn't matter if you're actually living with them, or even having sex with them. It's all to do with the emotional connection. Does that make any sense?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Has been around for ages, and there are even a couple on youtube who have a polyamory relationship with another female, and another couple with another male, its bound by the rules of trust, unconditional trust (and a few std tests too) and i am a believer that it can work,,,, my fiancee loves (in a very real sense, she loves both intimately and spiritually) me and her best girl friend of many years. and we enjoy the threesomes we have, but i dont think that step of moving in on a permanent basis and living with us is going to happen. but it could work,,,, people say they are open minded but are still morally bound in some way, unfortunetly you find that here....
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