Polyamory

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  We have had a long term relationship previously which was just comfortable and everything felt right, so yes we would say that we have thought about it.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  We would love it to happen so far it's been hard to find the right person. Would you say your relationship was equal? As in each person had a fair voice or were you as the couple making most of the decisions? I dont think I'm using the right words to what i actually mean here :/

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I enjoyed a poly relationship for about 2 years. It is an incredible experience but requires a level of emotional intelligence from all involved. We were also public about it and many of our friends had a real struggle with the relationship. Being a guy with two female partners is an interesting challenge, not so much within the relationship but from others and the "oh you lucky bastard" comments that you get over very quickly. These are people you love dearly and others cheapening it does start to get to you and you wish they all grew up. Communication between us all was really important and knowing when we or one of us just needed space. Financially it is great as the disposable income and economy of scale is almost perfect and really had us wondering why it wasn't more accepted with today's expensive cost of living. When one of us decided to leave the relationship it was really hard on the two of us that remained and our grief was just as painful as in a normal break up. It took us some work to ensure we didn't take it out on each other as well but rather be supportive. The remaining relationship though just didn't work as a couple as the change in dynamics was just too great and we ended up going our separate ways about a year later. We still stay in contact though and share a friendship bond that would not otherwise exist. It was a great experience and now 15 years older I would be happy to do it again. I think being more mature it would be a very different experience. Back then there was also a social group who would connect once a month or so and were all in poly relationships. It was also important to them that this was not swinging as the focus was the relationship and not sex. Thanks for the post, some warm fond memories came flooding back.

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  twowithnolimits

  11 years ago

  Yes when i was younger, spent about a year in one. There is a lot of "emotional management" (and yes physical demands placed on the bloke lol). Not everyone approved but that is always going to be the case with anyone or any relationship. Eventually the girls became competitive and the good vibe was lost when i ultimately married one and lost touch with the other as she left town. Would i rule out doing it again, no, things are what they are at the time but be prepared to work hard, keeping two happy and the relationship balanced is hard.

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  music74

  10 years ago

  Comforting to read peoples experiences in this, both open and honest.as I read things do work out, and we as people wont change our thoughts on what and where we are prepared to discover.

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