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Poster's regret
August 27 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
You write and press send then you own it.I think we all regret sending some things.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I certainly regret two posts I wrote a few days ago, they made me come across in a way I did not intend to, but I take full responsibility for that. 60 seconds would not have been enough though. I didn't see how negative my comments were I until I woke up sober the next morning. No more drunk posting. Many here have wanted an edit button for ages though, and I'm certainly in favour of that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But again, I think in a short window only, otherwise once others have commented it could really distort a thread.
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RHP User
10 years ago
So did you have that dreaded gawd what did I write feeling and procrastonate from reading what you wrote "P
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Many here have wanted an edit button for ages though, and I'm certainly in favour of that. have asked for the Edit/Delete button on numerous occasions, if any of the mods are reading this @Meander - big hugs for the drunk posting
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RHP User
10 years ago
I rarely edit myself and that goes in real life too. It leads to interesting situations. Unfortunately one night, i didn't edit myself which ended the beginnings of what may have become a great friendship with an RHP member. Very annoying but I'm not going to watch what I say, except at work.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think most of us would have wished we didn't post something we did, but most of the time it isn't until someone has responded to it that you realise how it may have come across to others or how it reads differently to what you intended.
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Plain
10 years ago
Sometimes anger can be written in ways which make you out to be someone you are not. The really bad part in my case is that it comes out in a calculating way, whereas in face to face situations I am an emotional passionate person, the old story seeing is believing the true feelings!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
not this custom creation they're using
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'EuropianBliss' So did you have that dreaded gawd what did I write feeling Quite regularly.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'EuropianBliss' You write and press send then you own it.I think we all regret sending some things. though i have apologised when i got it wrong, or my comments hurt someone without my intent to do that. But like the lovely Miss Bliss says, you put it out you own it. and don't drink wine and post ti do not drink, I dread to think what might come out of my mouth
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RHP User
10 years ago
Like some have said, I don't regret what I post. I tend to be careful on the content - careful as in it is what I want to say. If it upsets some poor delicate ego, so bit it, that was probably the intent. But I would kill for an edit button, just to fix the occasional spelling mistake or something. I hate seeing something like that in a post of mine, it irks me no end! If the Admins are worried that someone will post something inflammatory or derogatory, have it that the post reflects that it has been edited and that you can click a button to see the original post (pre-edited). Mooka
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RHP User
10 years ago
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
If you find that you regret expressing your opinion more than once or twice....... Or find yourself excusing drunk posts on Internet forums...... then perhaps..... Internet forums are not the place to express your opinion. The words linger, the comment stays available to the world, and you better be prepared to own any consequences and swallow the medicine. Not aiming this at anyone.... we've all made mistakes.... and many have raised the eyebrow at the "I was drunk" excuse..... As EB said. Post it = Own it. .
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
I think there is merit in a "preview" option...... To give time to read a comment in posted format, prior to hitting Post. Editing after the fact would only leave the door open to trouble
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I think there is merit in a "preview" option...... To give time to read a comment in posted format, prior to hitting Post. Editing after the fact would only leave the door open to trouble DG, we often don't agree but in this instance I will doff the hat to you - brilliant idea and I hope the Admins take notice! Mooka
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' I rarely edit myself and that goes in real life too. It leads to interesting situations. Unfortunately one night, i didn't edit myself which ended the beginnings of what may have become a great friendship with an RHP member. Very annoying but I'm not going to watch what I say, except at work. Its never too late to try again Funlover. Nothing ventured nothing gained. :) I too have a problem self editing sometimes, and sometimes I just miss the cues and waltz down the wrong path altogether. I'm sure there is many people who have WTF moments after something I have said or something I have posted.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' have it that the post reflects that it has been edited and that you can click a button to see the original post (pre-edited). Mooka Love it! p.s. In case the winky face didn't give it away, my "Quite regularly" comment was a joke.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I paid up for a month to give it a go, but RHP is soooo over protective of this forum. By being that way they're stifling the actual life out of it, conversations can't take a natural progression. Every post you make has to be approved before it appears to everyone else, and if the mods have gone to bed, means your cool thought waits until tomorrow before the conversations can continue. From one point of view, I can see why as a business they do this - to stop 'guests' leaving contact details when they're meant to have to pay to be able to contact other members, and also to stop really offensive/illegal stuff coming out public - but that's what moderation is for. I say let people post freely, and if they break the rules, it can always be reported/edited/deleted/punished later by the mods. Maybe they have other reasons for doing this that I'm not aware of, but when they ask for so much money, it's a poor service imho. Most public forums allow a user to edit/delete their post if no-one has replied to it. Some allow posts to be edited forever. I know people are saying once you hit the post button you own it - but these days with touch screens, it's all too easy to accidentally hit the 'post' button by mistake.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wouldn't say I regret posting some stuff.... But I've definitely been given a different perspective by many on here on a range of discussions we've had both offline and online. I call it a "learning curve" over regret :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think facts get edited enough around here already. . And I am appreciating the idea of learning to live with my mistakes. . It's been ages since I've felt the need to ask to have anything deleted because I wish I hadn't said it. In those cases, it really is a case of better left unsaid anyway, right, lol. . RHP doesn't just delete anything though, and they've posted how they feel about adding editing features more than once, if anyone wants to look around. They like us to take responsibility for our comments. . Typos? Meah... More attention to detail required.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For the reasons you mention, I'd only advocate for a delete or edit button that was active for a minute or so.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What's happening is happening..How we are going to be about it, is an entirely another matter.
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RHP User
10 years ago
(except those fucking gramatical errors...)
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RHP User
10 years ago
grammatical*
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RHP User
10 years ago
yes I agree am edit/delete button for a minute after you post would be great. I often look back and think I came across too harsh. Gets my vote
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erotictouch4u
10 years ago
People often quote what you say with their comment so there will be disparity between your edited post and the quote in another so it will become more obvious what the change was, making things worse.Also, changing your post and having an unrelated comment from someone else afterwards without the quote would then shift the focus to them, which could be more damaging.The same applies to a delete post, where it would also be contained in another commented quote.ET xox
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have changed my view about this one. I do regret ever coming back to RHP and especially the forums I am not into being abused, so will keep my thoughts to myself from now on, and am sure that will make some very happy campers for some people. it will keep my message box clean of abuse. Those that know me feel free to message me when the reality of what I spoke of comes home to roost.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I occasionally regret postings for about 2 seconds, then just think *arrrr fuck it..!!" I don't know anyone on this site, so have no personal vendettas or emotional ties to the forum personas. I call what I read & think, not on which real life friend or enemy I wish to defend or shaft. If feelings are hurt, then so be it.....I have bigger issues than unknown feelings to worry about. But when I admire a post, or offer advice, it comes from the heart... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' Typos? Meah... More attention to detail required. Me? I didn't mention typo's and don't think I've mentioned anyone else's in a very long time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is common on other sites. A short window to correct errors would be good especially given the unintended words which autocorrect on mobile phones can throw up.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We all make mistakes and have regrets ? That's what makes us all normal in some way...
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RHP User
10 years ago
see, then the people who did this win. You are bowing down to another, only because they maybe bully you. There is always the block button you can use on people who message you in private when the messages they send are mean. Yes you read it by then and it will hurt, often. But retreating will only give them power they did it again. We are not in a war zone where we bash each other over the head for having a say......whether I like it or not.....each one can write what they want. I would not like to participate in a forum where only a handful of people are allowed to have an opinion and the rest gets booed down, or try to ridicule me in not having a say. Anyway what is this kindergarten behavior of attacks in packs anyway.....we are all individuals with different backgrounds and each of us is right and wrong, so please can we stop with this.......I call it shit total shit All my love to you all. L
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' Typos? Meah... More attention to detail required. Me? I didn't mention typo's and don't think I've mentioned anyone else's in a very long time. I was talking about my own posts Meander. I make typos all the time!... and was simply mentioning it as one of the things I might want an edit button for.
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RHP User
10 years ago
“The moving hand once having writ moves on. Nor all thy piety nor wit can lure it back to cancel half a line.” ― Omar Khayyam,Rubáiyát of Omar Khayyám. .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meah... is how meh was originally spelled Meander. Sorry for the confusion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Gotcha ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Although I fully appreciate where those in support of 'that button' are coming from, in addition to being a firm believer in being accountable for ones actions, I believe the very mistakes that affect our re-activity and/or influence a change in perspective to be, more often than not, the bestest learning experiences.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
They CAN be the best(est) learning experiences.... Not everyone chooses to learn from them, or, is capable of reflective self evaluation to consider the possibility that they can learn from them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
the self-reflection and learning occur a split-second after you press submit ... what then? Bad luck? No chance to halt the chain of events you started moments ago, before you realized how silly you were? I'd vote for the chance to halt it any day. Not for my sake - I can cop any heat about what I do. But for the sake of others when my mistake might impact badly on them. If I had a moment of realization and then a brief chance to change things, I'd definitely appreciate that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' “The moving hand once having writ moves on. Nor all thy piety nor wit can lure it back to cancel half a line.” ― Omar Khayyam,Rubáiyát of Omar Khayyám. . In a time long before computers and autocorrect.... Tall
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madotara69
10 years ago
I just read this through, before I posted it. Looks ok to me. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
unfortunatly for me whenever i post anything on these forums trying to add my two cents worth i never seem to get a response. but also no women on seem to be interested in sending me any messages or any flirts at all. then why do i even bother putting myself out there on these type of dating. seriously thinking about deleting this app if no women on here are interested in a guy like me. so sick of being single and treated like i 'm not good enough for any of ya's :( - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't post without reading & re-reading what I've written several times. That's because I'm dyslexic and it's one of the ways I ensure that what I've written is what I intended to say. So, for me, having an edit button isn't a big thing when it comes to the forums. HOWEVER... there have been so many times in real life where I would give an arm & a leg for an edit button to either modify or take back what's come out of my mouth... including secrets I've spilled or personal opinions I've shared at the wrong time or with the wrong person.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'hornyaz4u' unfortunatly for me whenever i post anything on these forums trying to add my two cents worth i never seem to get a response. but also no women on seem to be interested in sending me any messages or any flirts at all. then why do i even bother putting myself out there on these type of dating. seriously thinking about deleting this app if no women on here are interested in a guy like me. so sick of being single and treated like i 'm not good enough for any of ya's :( - Posted from rhpmobile The competition's pretty hot on here. Not a place to be if you can't handle rejection - we all get rejected. Your profile doesn't appeal to me at all. I'm sure it appeals to some, but based on the many comments from women on the forums over the years, it might not appeal to many. Some men have started threads asking for feedback on their profile and have received lots of good advice. Might be worth trying.
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RHP User
10 years ago
unfortunatly i only have access to this site via my mobile phone and don't know how to set up my own forum to find out that kind of info. so whatz the point of even trying - Posted from rhpmobile
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OPNmarriagecpl
10 years ago
I am not understanding what your post has to do with the discussion at hand? Maybe YOU should of used the Edit button 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do apply, everyone can be a keyboard warrior but it's best not to text or write what you would not have the kahunas to say directly to someone's face with out walking away with scratch marks or unwanted redness,( maybe that might be like able to some folk here , ) Anyway hope you get my drift, think then send , there are faces and feelings behind these words for a lot of people, hence why I will allways give a polite and direct answer to all messages received, unlike some people here tgat seem to be time restrained. - Posted from rhpmobile
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