Pressure on straight women..

April 08 2018

I'm curious as to why it is almost EXPECTED that women in group play or swinging are bi or bi-curious? I understand that I'm in the small minority on here who is 100% straight but I am not going to pretend to be something I'm not. I will always be true to myself! I am far from biphobic and have many lesbian friends in my inner circle. I'm just not remotely attracted to females, I love cock. I would NEVER expect males I play with to be bi, even though I find guy on guy action very hot. What's happened to the respect and acceptance of others that is often implied in the lifestyle?

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  • swingalingson

    swingalingson

    7 years ago

    No forces you to do anything. Ultimate swinging is no expections. Just be blunt and say "NO! " you dont have to explain to no one nothing. Just say. "Sorry I Love the COCK". Respect that or im out! Plenty of men here in WA that can give ya the DOODLE and respect if your straight that is okay. Why waste playtime when rules have been set out from the start later going over things again.

  • SugarSugar69

    SugarSugar69

    7 years ago

    I'm hearing you loud and clear. You clearly state you are straight in you're profile. I think when it comes to group play it's just expected that woman will get it on. Or maybe in the heat of the moment you will change you're mind which is completely wrong. The issue I'm having is males instantly think I'm going to jump and organise a threesome because I'm bi. Hell NO! Make it know well in advance no girl on girl anything will be happening. If someone tries to change you're mind. Block them. Respect is really hard to find in this scene these days. It's so wrong. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    You are under the same pressure that makes too many couples say the woman is bi, curious, experimental so that they fit into the scene. Truth is, many do it to fit in. No different to most of the guys saying they are straight when in fact they are not. We should just be ourselves, be polite to each others preferences and leave judgements to the trip home in the car after the event( joking)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Don't people ask before joining in any more? Or, and here's a wild suggestion, wait to be invited? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Mrs D is as straight as they could be, she tried it the first time we swung but didn’t enjoy it. Loves cock with a passion. She has been pressured to do girl on girl by the male of a couple each time we’ve played with couples. I can say the parties we’ve been to have been much more respectful of preferences and there was very little girl on girl happening even though all the women were supposedly bi or curious. So yes I agree that it’s expected for women to be bi, but bi men might as well have leprosy if they admit it. Mr D - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Eiliethiya

    Eiliethiya

    7 years ago

    As I'm in the same boat. When I go anywhere where couples & swinging etc is involved I feel like I should apologize for not wanting to play with other women..like I'm the odd one out. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Rlee552

    Rlee552

    7 years ago

    Sounds like you are hanging out with the wrong people. The vast majority of people I have run into and of the no judgment, no expectations mindset. There is so much pleasure to be had and there should never be any pressure to be someone who you are not.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    And have been told by a couple of Mr in couples that a night with them and the Mrs will "convert" me. The only 3somes Im interested in are 2 guys and me, I find women very beautiful but Im not sexually attracted to them.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    7 years ago

    I’m going to cite sexism here, on a devils advocate platform Because.... IF the one absolute is that you always have the right and opportunity to say “no”... ..... does it really matter whether you say it to a man or a woman?!! 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Want_2_play_xxx

    Want_2_play_xxx

    7 years ago

    We have noticed over the time many of the couples profiles do say the girl is bi, but when play starts it quickly becomes obvious that they are not. Not sure if the couples put this in there just to attract more people. In our experience we just like honesty, that way those awkward moments are avoided- for both parties. 99% of the experiences we have had everyone has been very respectful- providing everyone knows where they stand. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Want_2_play_xxx

    Want_2_play_xxx

    7 years ago

    We have noticed over the time many of the couples profiles do say the girl is bi, but when play starts it quickly becomes obvious that they are not. Not sure if the couples put this in there just to attract more people. In our experience we just like honesty, that way those awkward moments are avoided- for both parties. 99% of the experiences we have had everyone has been very respectful- providing everyone knows where they stand. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Im not bi curious or whatever else......im not straight either......im just a playful woman but im always gonna be a cock lover i really dont care what i play with but i play hard with whoever im with im hard to manage unless you know the secret to me...... everyone myst stay to themselves and never feel pressured - Posted from rhpmobile

  • HotNightsGC

    HotNightsGC

    7 years ago

    Whether you’re straight or bi should already be established and agreed upon before any meeting. Anyone who pressures you during a meet up to do things your aren’t into, isn’t the right person/couple for you. Pre meet talk is underrated. It doesn’t have to be very long, but it does need to be honest and transparent. Then there’s no excuse for boundaries to be crossed. I think a lot of women participate in bi curious activity for the sake of their partners. There’s an undertone that women think that pleasing the male partner is more important. Actually, it should be the opposite. If a woman is happy and relaxed, she’s usually more likely to try new things. At the end of the day, It’s your experience. If you feel uncomfortable, shut it down and move on to better playmates. Ms HNP. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    OP Honey, I hear ya sister! I am bi comfortable and do enjoy the tender soft lips of a woman’s kiss...maybe 4 times in my life. There was one woman who wpisnone of my best friends who I found deeply alluring but the idea of eating pussy was just never my thing... Seeing my lover lose his fucking mind however, is. This little cock hound will kiss lips and play with boobies, not because I find them desirable but because I yearn for my lovers totally fucking swept up response. I hope that doesn’t make me something that I’m not, you e given food for thought.

  • compressor

    compressor

    7 years ago

    sugarsugar69 I love and agree with what you are saying

  • egr2please69

    egr2please69

    7 years ago

    Who cares what anyone else thinks or tries to get you to do. Sister all you need to do is use your big girl voice and say "no thanks, not for me". If anyone takes you to task you are in the wrong crowd as others have said. Like everything in life, be true to yourself and be the best 'you' you can be. That's all anybody with any inkling of decency and respect would want from you. The other alternative is just get dressed and leave, never to return. I'm sure there are plenty of people willing to share with you who have the necessary mindset for you all to enjoy a wonderful experience together. If you don't i'm morecthan happy to come visit you and treat you with the respect you deserve 😊😘 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Its this pressure and from what we have read from numerous profiles on all the sites around that its almost compulsory for the F to be Bi. I feel for hubby though because I'm extremely uncomfortable around other women naked and the thought of being the odd one out makes me stick to MFM. Just happy that hubby is amazing and loves to see me enjoy myself :)

  • Gr8distraction

    Gr8distraction

    7 years ago

    Its every guys fantasy to see two woman together.Its every guys fantasy to encourage you into a FFM threesomeGuaranteed, Most couples looking for a female playmate is driven by the guy....I said most ok.Looking/watching/seeing, and not actually doing can be different of course , but good for you , for being you. If its not what you are comfortable with. How many people do you know that willingly, go out of their way to do things they don't want, or feel comfortable to do?Yeah....You guessed it. So............What made you post this topic up?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Hi all, I understand what you’re saying and a lot of the time the ‘bi or bi curious’ we see on profiles ends up being complete rubbish. Being very bi myself (the Lady), it is exceptionally unusual to find bi women in couples. A lot of the time the terms are used for ‘advertising only’ or the women are only into kissing for the thrill it gives their partner. I love it when profile tells you if partners are straight because it sets boundaries immediately and makes things very clear about expectations on the girl play front. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Bazingal

    Bazingal

    7 years ago

    Sorry to hear you have had some less than desirable experiences. From the sounds of your well written post you are a strong woman that knows what you want, kudos 😊 To the comments able women pretending to be bi for their partners; I haven't come across that. The bi women I have met are all very open about what they are looking for which involves a variety of things, with or without their partners. And just because two women are bi it doesn't mean they will have sex together, there still has to be attraction for them to play together. Well, that's been my experience over the years. Baz x

  • MrsCharlieTango

    MrsCharlieTango

    7 years ago

    We played last night with 2 other couples. And as a straight women with the 2 bi girls I felt very pressured. I don’t mind a bit of kissing every now and then if the girl is attractive to me but that’s about it. I felt extremely off put when one of the girls asked if she could kiss me and I replied “I’m not really into girls” and the other one (who we had played with before) said “I sucked your pussy last time I didn’t hear you complain” I felt like telling her the truth that I didn’t enjoy one moment of that and it was actually a turn off but I didn’t want to ruin the party vibe. And then because I didn’t want to ruin the vibe I felt I had to awkwardly kiss this girl while the guys all just stood and watched. Why couldn’t I just say no and kiss a guy instead. I need to grow a pair 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    As many have said, maybe your with the wrong crowd. I love cock. But will occasionally play with a female and enjoy it. But I would only play with a female when I'm with a partner. Hence why id never consider myself Bi. Bi curious doesn't even describe me as I am no longer curious. Ive tried it, enjoyed it but not enough to just play female on female. Be brave, say No, if they don't understand then time to stop play and move on. After all a man would have no problems saying no to another man if they were not interested so why should you.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    We have struggled to meet a bi woman in a couple situation. Have had what was described above where the husband swears black and blue his wife is bi but she isn’t remotely lol. I think the guys use it as bait to meet other women. If you are straight you are entitled to say no Myself I desire the softness of another woman for myself

  • Hottie1

    Hottie1

    7 years ago

    Instead of being confronted by women who say they are bi sexual or open to play, simply to please a man. For me, I really do need a woman who is bisexual because many experiences (not all) where there isn’t that complete openness I’m often left wanting or not really enjoying the play. Or the situation arises where it’s more hetero play with male and female (singular) rather than a true threesome. I find either be in or be out, this half arsed attempt at being with another woman is more frustrating than pleasureable, IMO. Mary xx

  • compressor

    compressor

    7 years ago

    Stay true to who you are and think you are great to stand for what you believe

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    It’s worse when the husband says his wife loves women but when you meet she isn’t Males fantasy not hers

  • Cheekybum111

    Cheekybum111

    7 years ago

    Agree there are very few true bi women in couples! you think unicorns are rare try being a unicorn looking for a true bi women within a couple . Been here two months and have only found one! Would never pressure a straight women ! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    7 years ago

    ALL women are bi.... Sexual or polar.... 🤭🤭 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    7 years ago

    I'm going to call you on that, because I would call out any other forumite who said it. Not cool... on many levels 👎

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    7 years ago

    It was a risky one .... ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • ladylover

    ladylover

    7 years ago

    Being bi, I've never really felt this pressure. I think being bi is more socially acceptable for women than for men though, so that might have something to do with it.

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    7 years ago

    Hehehehe they both sound the same 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • ArdentMissy

    ArdentMissy

    6 years ago

    Being a VERY straight woman, who has made it VERY clear in the past, and they still try and convert me, I feel that the straight woman is the true unicorn, especially on here where most couples profiles are put up by men. When in a couples situation and the woman finds out that you're straight, the lights immediately go off. It's so frustrating. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • eurotwous

    eurotwous

    6 years ago

    Str8 couples unite! Being straight as nails,we have had our share of bi- pressure and rejection mostly coming from bi-wannabees.Our impression some ladies want to do it to please their male partner,there are of course genuinly bisexual gals,but they usually state that in their profile. Good, no BS cpls are hard to find,good str8 cpls are even harder to come by. Feel free to knock on our door.Cheers

  • HarleyQandMrO

    HarleyQandMrO

    6 years ago

    Unfortunately, it is assumed that if you are a swinging couple then the female is in to women, or that all women are bi. I think its a fantasy for a lot of people and conclusions are jumped to. I am bi and love women and happily play with girls, what i dont do is play with men, again it is assumed that because i am in a swingers environment i must be into it and it can sometimes upset the males when i say no, - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Mrs here, doesn't define herself either way. Experimental is a useful term. I'm mostly straight. Love, love, love cock.I rarely see couples or single women on here stating they are straight. On our first meet with a couple who were very experienced and we were complete newbies, the female asked me "are you bi?" I felt it was a test and when I told her that I'd had no experience with women, but was open to experiment, she went really cold on me and we never saw that couple again. It made me feel really bad, like I'd failed the swinging test. I've since had some awesome experiences with women, some were to fulfill my own curiosity and some were to provide excitement for my partner and her partner. Some women I've really enjoyed kissing, because they kiss like a guy, with passion and emphasis, others have been too soft...and then there's boobs, which are awesome! I've had women go down on me and it was meh and I've given women pleasure, which I've really enjoyed. I don't think that makes me bi, just adventurous with the right people. Half the fun is in the giving of pleasure. Ideally we would love to meet couples that are just the same, comfortable with being adventurous, but with no pressure attached. Just enjoy the moments as they evolve. I hope more women can be honest about what they want and not have other people make them feel bad for it.