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Profile Pics as Click Baits
May 24 2016
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' "So, when you see an attractive picture, do you actually pause and read up on the profile before going further?" Always, and it annoys the hell out of me that the majority people who initiate contact with me don't do the same. cheeky
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RHP User
9 years ago
If I see an attractive pic I always read the profile. Sometimes we are very different in what we are looking for so it saves wasting time. But some guys dont seem to read profiles, I have "Not looking at present" on mine but I still get messages asking to meet up. Ive been talking to guys who have looked at boob or pussy profile pics and initiated a meet only to have a big disappointment. "She didnt look as Id imagined her to look" or "She was married!" "She smoked like a chimney" etc. Thats what Tinder is for?
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Travel_Bug
9 years ago
Please don't lump all us guys into the one-eyed monster/knuckle-dragger category. I'm sure there are a few women that see a picture and don't read profiles as well, but I think I can safely say that men are a thousand-fold (or million-fold) worse. I won't mention any names - that's a subject that I don't want to 'Touch'! I could get blocked ... again. Of course an attractive picture catches the eye but I'll always check the profile. If it's the only picture (public or private), I'll move on because I'll assume it's been 'borrowed'. Also if the profile is all 'ask me' or the generic phrases, I'll move on too. I'll only send someone a message or a flirt if I don't meet their criteria for two reasons. Either I'm just outside what they're after (I'm 41 and their cutoff is 40 - hey it doesn't say physical age and I'm definitely not that old mentally!). The other reason is to purely pay a complement with no expectation of a response let along anything else. As for types of profile pics, they reflect two things - the image that you want to project and the fish you're trying to catch (they are your 'bait' after all). So don't feel that you have to compete with others and put up pics of boobs, buns and other parts that only your gynecologist or playmate should see, just be yourself. You've got some pics that suggest but don't reveal, and that leaves the rest to a guys (or girls) imagination. That is just as appealing as letting it all hang out too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Not even kidding! Guy from VIC sent me a message this afternoon with his mobile number, as he wanted to meet up tonight. I told him to hang on while I jumped in a cab. I get that sort of thing quite often. And then there's all the two or three word messages...or the contacts from profiles with no pics at all, or from smokers, or from attached guys, or all of the above, despite what I say about these things in my profile (yes, I do realise my profile is long....it's a good weeder-outer ). And yes, I always read profiles because I'm a picky bitch and a whilst a hot pic alone might be a nice distraction for a few seconds it isn't enough for me to seriously consider taking the party outside my imagination
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Katkat
9 years ago
Most guys are not attention to detail if they see the photo & they like you they will just send a message without even reading your profile, state you are located & what you're looking for. Some men are horny fuckers they want to see sexy naked photos it's what gears them up you do realise this is a fuck site right? Everyone wants sex, sex, sex & more fucking sex. But each & everyone has their own needs & desire. So my suggestion is if they don't meet your criteria just ignore them till someone appears more appealing to you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I like showing my pussy, is it just me I haven't noticed a difference in messaging since I did add more explicit shots, but I'm all about sex anyway, so different to most no doubt, all good. My old profile spiel was incredible long so couldn't really blame them if they fell asleep before the end When I'm looking, I inspect the pictures first, closely, that's usually where the problems start, trying to pick the fake or really old pictures. Kinda like a 'Where's Wally' to try and find the real profile owner in amongst the pictures But then I do look at all the stats and about me etc and take the whole lot into account. I've become more suspicious over time, with the pictures and lying about age. High percentage of people lie on here so it can become a bit tedious. Not to worry, still happy days
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Not even kidding! Guy from VIC sent me a message this afternoon with his mobile number, as he wanted to meet up tonight. I told him to hang on while I jumped in a cab. bwahaha. since you are driving furiously down melbourne way, drop by and have a drink with Annie and I.
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
but always, read the ladies profile. Just common courtesy to see who / what she desires. Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
Lily, I always read profiles. But then..I like to read and write.Is a profile pic enough to get me to send a message to a woman?Yeah, of course! I sent a message last night to compliment a woman on a fabulous profile pic. Granted, I know of her from the Forums...but it was rather excellent photo that I thought deserved immediate recognition. This instant messaging is so fast, why not chat as though the person is sitting across from me. But yes...when I'm flicking through profiles and pics of people I have no inkling of whatsoever...so not forumites then...I'll definitely have a good peruse of all their profile. I think the photo's come secondary then to picturing a person.And in the past, just pretty pictures haven't been enough of a background to message someone with the intention to meet.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I NEVER flirt.and seldom message...Sometimes, I see SOMETHING in a photo... a smile.. a look.. a background...THEN I do a profile read... THEN I will do a message, IF it constitutes one.. but, NOT to "Hit on" the person, but merely comment on whatever I saw/read.
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' I NEVER flirt.and seldom message...Sometimes, I see SOMETHING in a photo... a smile.. a look.. a background...THEN I do a profile read... THEN I will do a message, IF it constitutes one.. but, NOT to "Hit on" the person, but merely comment on whatever I saw/read. You are one of the minority in that approach. Nice to know.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
read them. At least as far as orientation and looks. Shallow bitch i am. My traffic always goes up when my arse is up. Ive had a couple of guys not knowing i was a Tranny. Shocked maybe when they got my album. Must have just thought i was a bit homely looking. So hit up the hard up bitch. Easy picking.......She'll be gagging for it
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RHP User
9 years ago
What a person's profile contains is important to me. Just as it's important to me that people read my profile before sending me a message.
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0z_boy
9 years ago
A picture is worth a thousand words :P 🏃💨
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RHP User
9 years ago
... Intellectually gratified. A profile pic is only the introduction. If the rest doesn't appeal then there's no point getting in touch. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Or the ones that message with," I know that your profile states that Im out of your preferred age range, but I thought I would message you anyway"... Why bother being spacific in your written word? Or you reply to a message with a "no thank you", like I did this week, only to be met with,"well youre still here looking so you cant afford to be too fussy you know!!" Haha.
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Dryphuz
9 years ago
Never harass. Do unto others... the problem is people think this website is for sluts (male and female varieties) rather than sexual people, which is entirely different. take me. I hardly date and have had few partners, but the relationships are always very sexually charged. An attractive picture is more likely to get me in to have a read though. Whether that's a nudie or just a face shot.
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RHP User
9 years ago
The profile pic is usually what draws me in, in the first instance, and due to my circumstances I will read the profile, If what they are looking for is "unattached" then I will move on, or check the age bracket etc, I think why waste someones time and fill up their in box if I dont fit the bill, but in saying that too I do like reading the profiles that are detailed, very interesting to say the least since I'm no wordsmith. Luke - Posted from rhpmobile
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aussian43
9 years ago
A nice picture (especially of a lovely set of boobs) will often get me having a look for more. But I always read the profile before initiating contact. I don't see the point in wasting the time of either of us if there is a mismatch. I might still send a message even if I think I have no chance with such a sexy lady, but if the profile says something along the lines of no attached men, I don't bother. Plus when crafting the message, I try and address any specific desires they may have. It always pays to read the profile anyway. How many couples out there have men listed in their looking for criteria, yet state in the description that they are not looking for single men? Of course, living far outside of a capital city, the number of potential matches is fairly low. I might send a message to a new member every few weeks.
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'Lord__Flashheart' Please don't lump all us guys into the one-eyed monster/knuckle-dragger category. I'm sure there are a few women that see a picture and don't read profiles as well, but I think I can safely say that men are a thousand-fold (or million-fold) worse. I won't mention any names - that's a subject that I don't want to 'Touch'! I could get blocked ... again. Don't worry. I don't. If you read my OP above, you would see that I said that " in my experience, a lot if not the majority of men and couples who message or send me flirts do not even bother to read my profile to see if they match the criteria of people I want to meet." It would be profoundly wrong (and stupid) for me to make a blanket approach on that. It may be localize to just the men who contact me and not necessarily the same attitude across the board of your gender. hence I qualified my comment as per my experience. But not losing sleep about it. Maybe the people of the forum, a sliver of the RHP population, are different and have a higher sense of awareness. Most of the people who contact me without reading my profile are those who do not read the forum. So the forum definitely instill some sense of decorum and etiquette in our lovely RHP community. Thanks for the post.
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I like showing my pussy, is it just me I haven't noticed a difference in messaging since I did add more explicit shots, but I'm all about sex anyway, so different to most no doubt, all good. My old profile spiel was incredible long so couldn't really blame them if they fell asleep before the end When I'm looking, I inspect the pictures first, closely, that's usually where the problems start, trying to pick the fake or really old pictures. Kinda like a 'Where's Wally' to try and find the real profile owner in amongst the pictures But then I do look at all the stats and about me etc and take the whole lot into account. I've become more suspicious over time, with the pictures and lying about age. High percentage of people lie on here so it can become a bit tedious. Not to worry, still happy days Not meaning to degrade you or anything. Please feel free to display any part of your body in any way you feel comfortable. hey, you are the master of your domain. Go for it. I think it takes a brave and sharing woman to show their most intimate parts on public, for the public to scrutinize. If you are enjoying it and you are getting the results you desire, well why not, eh? More power to you! Re. Where Wally - more like 'Where's Willy' for some pics?
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Seachange
9 years ago
You must be talking to the male equivalent of Dory. Have you seen the movie 50 First Date? Deja vu?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Profile pictures are there to get your attention, visual stimulation starts the process before we move on to read the profile and see if they are looking for us. Unfortunately some couples & single males treat flirting & messaging as a numbers game, if they flirt/message enough people at least one person may show interest, very rarely is it females who do this.
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'usrightnow' We have only been on here a couple of months now, however, we have a routine we follow. We usually only view other profiles once they have viewed us twice. We look at the stated ages of the couple or woman, then decide if we want to view them. We make a joint decision, although Mrs. urn. has final say. We then read and reread the profile and only then do we decide of we're going to view their pictures. Sometimes we do, sometimes we don't. There have been plenty of threads on the problems with people who don't respect the rhp community and lie about age or have fake or old photos, so they have the least weight when we view profiles. For us, as a result, the written profile is very important and guides our decisions prior to return messages. As Guest members still, we are unable to message, so only reply to those that message us, again, once we make a combined decision to do so. Likewise with Flirts, we make a decision to reply to those sent to us. A few we do, many we don't. Yet to send any ourselves. We are staggered at the number of people who seem incapable of reading or believe they are a special exception. And interesting to see single men return time and again to our profile. Heads up boys, we're not looking for you. Excellent topic lilyorchid. Mr. urn. on behalf of us. Being a couple, you are not immune to the trigger-happy people (mainly males?) who flirt with you without reading your profile. Nice to get a perspective from couples. Thanks for that. Btw, as a point of curiosity, do the men contact you because of Mrs URN or you as a couple? Just curious. Thanks again.
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RHP User
9 years ago
are you suggesting that I just look at the pretty pictures Who me? No, I'd never do that
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RHP User
9 years ago
Im a shallow little creature, and focus on the pics as my first point of interest. Im also happy to get the puppies out in my public profile (obviously, because one has popped out now 😝) i dont feel that my boobs are a very intimate part of my body, plus I kinda like them. You wont see my nekid arse on here though. Even in pg. thats kept for those special people who I may become intimate with. Heres something funny( strange funny, not the haha kind) Im on another site with no profile pic (they are in my pg) and I recieve just as much contact by messages and flirts as I do on here. That would deffinately be the fact that Im female as Im assuming men or couples would have better productivity with pics on show
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RHP User
9 years ago
But we usually check the age limits and seeking part too. In fact if anything a hot, fit profile pic will usually have the opposite effect as we find these ppl tend to be seeking same and so don't usually waste a message or either persons time. This is usually confirmed when you do read the blurb, so one such pic can have the same effect in that we don't read the profile and move on.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Re: those that read the Forum. I am the opposite. The only times that I have messaged someone, without reading the profile first, was via the forums. So it was really just a spinoff chat, one on one, that was not intended to be any form of pickup attempt. Ironically, a couple of times when I read their profile after sending, I had echoed what they had written...to the point of being spooky. Otherwise, I always read the profile and often, yes, the pic will prompt me to send a message. Sometimes it is just to compliment them on a good pic, sometimes it is to give a newbie some advice, like read this and that in the forums to make the best of their RHP experience and to protect themselves. I have messaged a few advising that they might consider changing their pic to avoid an overload of "undesirables". One of which blocked me and then took my advise a week later. And that's Ok. Others responded thanking me for the tips, as they found then very useful, and that was that. All good. Happy to help. Re: 2 way street. I have had a few messages asking questions that are clearly outlined in my profile...indicating that they didn't read it. And quite a few messages from men looking to hook up. It has prompted me to review my profile to see why. As always, I reply in a respectful manner and wish them all the best. Re: Dory....LMAO
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lovman8
9 years ago
I like to read the profile, as its gives some insight into personality and attitude which are just as (may be even more) important as looks for me. Having said that looks aren't important I still want to encourage you ladies to keep showing all those beautiful breasts and luscious looking pink bits!!!
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Seachange
9 years ago
So much for my theory above "Maybe the people of the forum, a sliver of the RHP population, are different and have a higher sense of awareness. Most of the people who contact me without reading my profile are those who do not read the forum. So the forum definitely instill some sense of decorum and etiquette in our lovely RHP community. When I just received a flirt from a married man who wants to hook up when my profile definitely says no married or attached men and that I do not respond to flirts.... Really? Don't hold your breath for a reply.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Someone that's hell bent on getting noticed.....will.. With whatever means necessary to them.... Up to us as individuals how we respond......IF we choose to respond. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Re: "Well out there goes my Forumites' theory" Were you referring to my post? If so, my point may have been lost. I didn't look at the profile first because it was irrelevant. It was just some off line chat, between forum friends, with "some sense of decorum and etiquette" coming from someone that is "different and have a higher sense of awareness". I completely agree with your Forumites theory. Which is why I have been inclined to direct some newbie ladies to the forums. I am convinced that the forums are beyond the mental capacity of the "undesirables" and are a safe place to chat without any expectations of anything other than that.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you're missing it, you're a shit shot lmfao :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'SNAG4XTC' Re: "Well out there goes my Forumites' theory" Were you referring to my post? If so, my point may have been lost. I didn't look at the profile first because it was irrelevant. It was just some off line chat, between forum friends, with "some sense of decorum and etiquette" coming from someone that is "different and have a higher sense of awareness". I completely agree with your Forumites theory. Which is why I have been inclined to direct some newbie ladies to the forums. I am convinced that the forums are beyond the mental capacity of the "undesirables" and are a safe place to chat without any expectations of anything other than that. No not you. Can't see why you would think it was about you, so you should not worry. I have no issues with sending a message to some forumites over some posts the submitted on some threads or so. Not a hook-up message but an off line chat. Just an extension of discussing a point in their posts. And why not. So there...
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SexySmart50
9 years ago
I want to add to what some people have touched on here- the assumption that everyone on RHP is looking for a hookup or casual sex. I have had guys be blatantly rude to me because I did not want to go straight to their house for sex! My profile clearly says this is not what I'm looking for. Things like " you do realize it's a hookup site?" "Why are you in this site?" ( I've also been told my username was misleading - so sue me!) I explain to them that this site is whatever you want it to be. For some it's a dating site of sorts , others it's for sex- and that's fine. But I get sick of being insulted because I won't drop everything and meet a complete stranger in an unknown location for sex!! Regardless of what people are looking for, safety is paramount! So I'm all for reading profiles- TWICE!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I tend to respond to the profile details rather than photo details. Therefor, having a photo or photos does not influence whether I make contact or not.
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RHP User
9 years ago
A sexy photo is enticing particularly if there is an air of mystery to it, something to engage the imagination and draw you in. Then I'm lured into reading the profile and checking the details to see if there could be compatibility and a connection. Personally (Mr D) I can get a bit numb to close up pussy/cock/action photo's one after the other, much the same way that porn can become boring with overuse. These profiles are more likely to be passed over as my impression is that they want to skip the getting to know each other stage and get straight into it. However Mrs D is wired differently and is a sucker for a muscly body shot and cock shots. She did learn recently when meeting a guy for a pre-meet drink that she needs to read the profile fully and check all the details as even though she had seen all his photos and chatted for a week or two she missed the very important statistic of his height. Lets just say that she's not a racehorse so really didn't want a jockey mounting her, lesson learnt. Mr D
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would say at least 90% of the messages I receive are from guys who haven't read my profile. They never make any reference to anything Ive written. And then theres the flirts!! I clearly state I will not respond and still they keep coming 🙄 I had a profile on here a while back and it was just the generic pre written one. The number of guys who sent "loved your profile..." thats an automatic delete from me!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Gee, I sound a bit grumpy...its been awhile 😛💏 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I might like to say. That I understand women get alot more attention then guys on here. But how many guys get postive reinforced reply or even a reply? If a person takes the time the time to read a profile the response if you ever recive one seldomly is personalised even if is an okay, little own a rejection. A little effort for the peoeple who put in effort would go along way to keeping or raising the standards. Regardless if you want to proceed with contact or not. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
i get messages from people all the time whose profiles say "smoking is a deal breaker". when it is in our profile that I am a light smoker. we always read profiles at least once before we contact or respond,would be nice to get same in return. for all those with "smoking is a deal breaker"on their profile I would just like to say they have just discovered lung cancer is NOT contagious and smokers don"t have leprosy.Also, I can keep my cigarette smoke away from you, but do you even try to keep your filthy car exhaust away from me?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I received one rejection that was so good that I had to reply to thank her for it. "I wish i was attracted to you...what you say sounds like just what im after. good luck with your search xxx". It may have been a template reply...I don't know. But it is good. It sort of envelopes a definite No in a compliment and completes the package with a string of positivity.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'leeleigh' Gee, I sound a bit grumpy...its been awhile 😛💏 - Posted from rhpmobile It's the exclamation marks. Best used sparingly...
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