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Profile age range and how do you choose it?
June 13 2016
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LeMerovingien
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Though I've had lovers who were 28 and 29, anything below that is a no-go zone.My lower age limit can stretch by a year or two, maybe three, but no more. My reason: I honestly could not be sexually attracted to anyone young enough to be my child. As for the higher age range: Well, because I want it that way. Does your reason still apply if you look 30 ? *increases age on profile* Fortunately for those of us younger than ~32 there is no need to state that reason unless you happen to be a proud paedophile... in which case enjoy your jail cell! I think my higher age range is based on a similar idea although I have less of an issue with it.
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PurePeony
9 years ago
... but I've been flexible. I think I'm more flexible upwards (ie. 55 and above) but less flexible with the other end of the scale (38 would be the lower limit). With the upper age range, there are men who still look like hot studmuffins at 55+ and they take my breath away; and then there are those who are out of shape and who dress and look sloppy, with clothes that are circa 1970's and earlier. :P I am extremely visual, as you can probably infer by now. ;) I suppose a huge turn-on for me is life experience, a wide range of interest, and intelligence - not just the IQ, but especially the EQ! The hope is that men in that age range are comfortable conversing in a wide range of topics, no holds barred; are more emotionally sorted out and can communicate openly. Hopefully by that age range, a man would have learnt to resolve conflicts and misunderstandings should they arise, and know how to treat a lady with respect. Emphasis on the word, "Hopefully"! LOL!!! :P Once a man manages to intrigue me and catch my attention on an intellectual level, that is when I start to feel frisky! From past experience, men in their 40's and 50's are GOLD and DIAMONDS in my sight. :D Exclusion Clause : All the Peter Pan's and the Narcissists, regardless of age, aren't attractive to me. :P Right Age, Wrong Mentality - No Go.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I often wish the choices weren't in such large increments, I chose my cut offs because I had to draw the line somewhere and I dont want someone young enough to be my brother or old enough to be my father. I will generally only go 2 to 3 years both when it comes to younger or older than my limits but these are exceptions to the rule, in fact I've only broken it twice once for older and once for younger. I tend to find too much younger & I can't relate to them and older , it can depend on the persons mindset - some people are old before their time and that doesn't do it for me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...female and breathing is a start. Ta-da... finally a male on this site that admits it! Anyway, age is a numerical quant that is used to measure the passage of time... not experience nor emotional interaction let alone a common differentiator like a shared sense of humour. Amazing is a state of mind... hopefully one day I'll get to live in that state! Until then there are other much more valid ways to sort 'em all out. Best.....
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'd have said 33 if I was trying to sneak one under the radar but haven't been able to see your profile for while. You're not doing that ''Curious Case of Benjamin Button'' thing...are ya? ''Oh bother'' said Pooh. I just go wandering in the woods with Eeyore. *grins* ... imagine being young enough not to recall any of these without Google? Best....
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aussian43
9 years ago
My first meeting on here was with a lady 10 years my senior which opened my eyes. I widened my age range after that, age does not define how sexy a lady is, or how interesting she may be to talk to. I extended it the other way as well, though I doubt many 18 year old's would be interested in me. I can only hope ;) Of course I have no kids, that seems to be a common issue especially with ladies, who are turned off by the thought of being with someone the same age as their child. If you are outside their specified range and you think you might have a chance, message them anyway. The worst that could happen is you are blocked and become the fodder for a post on here about people showing no respect by ignoring their requirements.
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LeMerovingien
9 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' I'd have said 33 if I was trying to sneak one under the radar but haven't been able to see your profile for while. You're not doing that ''Curious Case of Benjamin Button'' thing...are ya? ''Oh bother'' said Pooh. I just go wandering in the woods with Eeyore. *grins* ... imagine being young enough not to recall any of these without Google? Best.... Google has always existed, what do you mean? *skynet intensifies*
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RHP User
9 years ago
is based on the age that the majority of men who are both physically and intellectually attractive to me, and who have a certain level of emotional maturity, fall into. It's not set in stone but it's quite rare that someone outside that range would tick all my boxes.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, I'm fussy and yes it is very difficult to even find a guy in that age range who ticks all the boxes. The last one ticked two of them but unfortunately had the emotional maturity of a dung beetle
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' ...but unfortunately had the emotional maturity of a dung beetle ... as I was the one that met his younger sister. There is no such thing as an acquired taste for 30 day old wine poured from a cardboard box. Best...... always.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Half my age plus 7
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Yes, I'm fussy and yes it is very difficult to even find a guy in that age range who ticks all the boxes. The last one ticked two of them but unfortunately had the emotional maturity of a dung beetle That's a shame about the last one. But at least he would have taken out the garbage for you in the morning. Rolled up. In a big ball...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Our age prefs are set where they are because we *most* often are attracted to people in that bracket. Having said that, we've both had lovers who were more than 10 years older, and within 5 years younger than our 25-40 setting. *Actual* people are more important than artificial boundaries. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ive become less flexible with my age preference the longer I've been on here. One reason being, I just couldn't have sex with someone thats young enough to be my son....I really wanted to be like Ivy and say my brother but....😂 Also theres just something about a man in his fifties. That is of course if they have their life sorted 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've selected from 18. Long as your legal, you're good to go
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sweetgem
9 years ago
I was actively seeking company, I wanted to list my age preference as 37-47, but RHP didn't allow that, unless I stated it in the content section. So, I was "forced" to choose 35-45 as my default listing 😋 I am never attracted to men who are younger than me, even if it's only 1 or 2 years younger. To date, I have not yet met a man, who is younger than me, but is emotionally mature enough to match with my level of maturity (due to their lack of life experiences), and emotional maturity is an attraction to me. As for the older age range, well, 10 years older than me is my strict cut off! I had made exceptions for the older end a couple of times in the past, but they were a disappointment in some areas and did not prove me wrong for being strict with my age preference! Besides, some of my uncles are in their early 50s, so it feels weird to me to get intimate with men in their 50s! Therefore, no thanks to the exception for both ends of age range. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry, I'd a long day yesterday and most likely should have been off the keyboard and off to bed! OP - The reference should have read more along the lines of having memories things from the past that a younger person may have to use ''Goggle'' to understand. Not having a go at all... but by example, Google itself was not ever around when I first sat down in front of an online computer, founded in the late 90's I believe. Summer - Yes, that's the one. I was just teasing a bit about a reference to you age that was substantially less than what you 've posted here. You'd look great at any age and I'm sure other women in their 20's or 30's would be envious. Grab another espresso then off to see what today holds. ...all good.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I look at age on profiles and its generally part of my vetting process. But if Im at a party/venue, I never ask someones age 😳
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RHP User
9 years ago
Experience tells us we like guys between 30-50 that are Bi, they seem to have a bit of everything and we stick to that age range. Under 30 just does not do it for her and over 50 is getting close to her Dad's age.Women on the other hand tend not to behave like guys and we have a more fluid age range although generally if they are under Mrs Adelaide's age we tend to be less inclined to give chase.
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RHP User
9 years ago
As far as your question about whether we are flexible, no, my upper age limit I never go to, not for a very long time. So even though I have it selected at 45, I never go over 40, did once or twice last year, but not for me. I will one day, always try to keep an open mind and occasionally (not very often) hit on a guy over 40 but it rarely does it for me. Definitely 20's is my preferred age 'decade' lol young, fresh, enthusiastic, attentive, not arrogant, yummy mmm what else, oh yes, they get off with sexual confidence. So that would be my preference and the sexually mature guys I've been with have been early to mid 20's, go figure. Some things don't improve with age 😊 either got it or you haven't, or if you haven't you'll always learn and grow sexually, regardless of your age. The day I stop learning, I'll hang up my pussy I reckon 😂😂😂
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RHP User
9 years ago
Forgot few months ago there was a guy over 40, slight tweak to my last comment
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm with you. For me it's about connections , not numbers.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It depends. In a club it's about the connection, body language, a look in their eye and nothing really to do with age. But on dating sites it's more about what we may have in common or what I know I am attracted too, which is older men. I like being seduced and I find that older confident men are much better at that then their younger counterparts. I also find men fill out when they get a bit older which I find more manly and attractive - not into the boy band look. So, to answer your question, no hard limits but I do know I usually go for men older than me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Anyone can put whatever age they want on their profile. Doesn't mean its true. Often in the past there have been topics raised in the fora about people lying about their age. Mostly reducing their age to fit certain age preference searches. Some people look much younger than their real age and others haven't aged gracefully at all. My profile age is accurate. My age preference is chosen because I'm not here just for sex (shock, horror!!!). Having things in common such as life experiences makes conversations and connection much easier and more genuine. Am I age flexible with preferences? Not really ... on occasion there have been exceptions but that is extremely rare. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
We have 30-55 as an age range so as that's about 15 below and 10 above, quite a big range. There is also flexibility in that as it really depends on the person(s). But we would not go down as low as 22 as we have children around that age, awkward! Mr D
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RHP User
9 years ago
So true. I concur with what you had to say. Out in the real world it's more about attraction , eye contact , personality etc. If I see someone I'm attracted to I'm not thinking of age , it's more about the chemistry.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I also agree with your take on dating sites, the weight of some criteria's can be quite daunting . More of a turn off than anything.
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
My age range is between 30 to 50, because that's my preference. I would go a couple of years either side if I was attracted enough to the person as a whole. Anyone younger than that I would struggle, that's to close to my children's ages, that's something I just can't seem to get my head around and it's my own rule. 💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
You just want me. I can tell. (Just jokes 😄)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Don't you just hate it when they beg. 😏
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Lifes_great
9 years ago
It's more pertinent for women to have an age range given that they are inundated with messages and flirts. I personally have no age range just more personal preferences that might attract me to someone which would be regardless of age. I'm pretty sure I'm not going to receive any messages from someone under 40 as we are at different stages of life looking for different things. As far as an upper limit goes well beauty all comes from the mind and heart....so it's open ended. In my case it's more...'can they handle being with me' rather than me handle being with them. Hard to find someone who wants a 48 yr old that acts like a 25 yr old....I'm a special boy!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' Anyone can put whatever age they want on their profile. Doesn't mean its true. Often in the past there have been topics raised in the fora about people lying about their age. Mostly reducing their age to fit certain age preference searches. Some people look much younger than their real age and others haven't aged gracefully at all. My profile age is accurate. My age preference is chosen because I'm not here just for sex (shock, horror!!!). Having things in common such as life experiences makes conversations and connection much easier and more genuine. Am I age flexible with preferences? Not really ... on occasion there have been exceptions but that is extremely rare. LG there isn't a day goes by I don't have that exact same thought. The amount of women who are 'apparently' 10 years, or sometimes 20 years, younger than me, are in fact not. I can tell by looking at them, same as men. Not sure who they think they're fooling. Even with a teeny bit of their face or hair, I can still tell, I have a special talent And it's usually those ones who make fun of women our age. One in particular is so obvious it's ridiculous. But that's not you and I. You don't have to justify your choices. Honesty and integrity, along with a healthy dose of sexy, will beat the fakes any day
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Katkat
9 years ago
Definitely they are more fun to be with, relax & not arrogant at all. Full of stamina to last all night long or keep up to me 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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zzzyyyxxx
9 years ago
we find the idea of hooking up with kids same age as our kids a bit.... awkward. But hey each to there own...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Another 26 year-old first saying I'm wrong, he does meet my all requirements, then doing the whole "You're not giving younger guys a chance, whaaaa!" All. The. Bloody. Time. Terrible. The things you have to deal with here, Summer. I feel for you... .......
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sometimes its about not wanting to publicly admit that they would hook up with someone so much younger than themselves. What people say in public and what people do in private are often very different. If you see a profile you like, I encourage you to give it a crack, you really don't have much to lose. They will either be flattered or you will give them something trivial to complainbrag about in this thread.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' Don't you just hate it when they beg. 😏 she rolls over and plays dead while he sits up and begs
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'CandyDelicious' Don't you just hate it when they beg. 😏 Yup, begging, whining and arguing is so mature I'm sure to change my mind. Quoting 'Koolgrey' Quoting 'Summersolstice' Terrible. The things you have to deal with here, Summer. I feel for you... ....... Seriously, getting that response at least every other day gets old (pun intended), especially when nearly a quarter of guys rejected for being too you young then respond with a nice dig, if not actual abuse. That's terrible, yes. They will be the first ones to approach you at a meet & greet and then you can say no to their face.So many times we have rejected the advances of people only to be approached by them at a venue or a party, i have a great memory and i'm quite happy to tell them in front of everyone what a dick they are.
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I see age limit 18 - 99 it just raises alarm bells for me. Pretty much screams I will hit anything that will let me at it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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LeMerovingien
9 years ago
Wow, I wasn't expecting quite so many responses. Don't mind me though, I'm going to keep lurking in my thread and stashing the knowledge away for future reference. Carry on *dissapears*
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RHP User
9 years ago
To me this means you are more interested in people much older than you for play if their lower limit is 25. I would imagine younger people have a limit which you would meet. Do you look at profiles closer to your own age or mostly older? If so, why, what is the appeal? LG
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LeMerovingien
9 years ago
I'm not too fussy with age. There's a distinct lack of people my age on here (that have more than a template profile, pics and are verified) and even those only slightly older tend to have 25 as their lower limit. I look at profiles that appeal to me regardless of age (to a point) and a well written profile with suggestive photos (rather than nudes, keep those in your PGs!) will catch my attention more than a pussy shot with template lines.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I just did a quick search of women seeking men with their profile age 20-30. The first 20 women's profiles I clicked on had a search preference age of 18-99 and only 3 were searching for either men aged 25 or 30+. Seems many younger women have virtually no age restrictions meaning so unless you specifically are looking for older women/couples, you shouldn't have a problem finding someone into 22 year olds. How do you feel about young women having 18-99 as their search preference? Does that raise alarms for you? Some people have suggested it raises a red flag for them. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Amos... You just want me ... I can tell.. ( Just jokes 😊 ) I don't just want you , my body aches for you.. you you .. hunk o spunky woman you.. 😜 👍
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LeMerovingien
9 years ago
Searching for 18-25 matching me with photos around my area and verified gives me 23 results. Of those most haven't used the site in a very long time and of the others I'll message only a handful due to the others having red flags of some kind (I'm quite picky). I don't think I've had a single response from the one's I've sent messages to that fit this category whether that's because they never come online or aren't interested I'm not sure. Now if I increase the age range to 18-45/50 I get quite a few more results I'm willing to message since there is 6x the range in age and this site has a lot of people in their 30s/40s and I tend to get more responses from this. I think I originaly posted thinking more of couples than single women, searching the same settings gives me only 6 results for couples. I find a lot of the the ones near my age are looking for a dom or fit individual (of which I don't think I'm either) and a lot of the older ones have 25 as a minimum age despite looking like a good match. While this was the initial direction I was hoping to take the thread I think reworking the title just before I posted (without really changing the content) has taken the thread in a more interesting direction since it's relevant to everyone and not just me. My red flags are usually not physical but 18-99 is definitely one of them. Most things that show they don't care to flesh out their profile are red flags to me such as "ask me" in every category and template lines. Most of this is to weed out any fakes since I usually take a fair bit of effort to send a message relevant to who I'm messaging. So while the older ones do tend to reply and match what I'm looking for more often, I'm not exclusively looking for them. If I was looking for a relationship I wouldn't consider anyone much older than 28 but that doesn't really apply in this case.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' My personal experience, btw. Not speaking for others. Fair call, fair call....I appreciate it's not all peaches and cream for a woman on here.But seriously now( Me, that is.. ), what have these experiences taught you? Not to reply at all to messages outside of your age preferences? That's probably what I'd do were I an attractive woman here. Play deaf and dumb..
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'CarparkLiaisons' When I see age limit 18 - 99 it just raises alarm bells for me. Pretty much screams I will hit anything that will let me at it. - Posted from rhpmobile I did too at first. But now I consider that they may be more open minded than me.Or they just couldn't be bothered with the profile details...
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RHP User
9 years ago
...here, we have some idea of people's ages and operate somewhat within those parameters...mine are (shit...can't remember...30-55?)...and the women from RHP with whom I've been intimate with since joining two months ago have all been in their 40s...by way of comparison, in the real-world the women with whom I've been intimate have ranged from 20 to 59...why the difference? In the real-world the Gods of lust strike instantly and we do their bidding without a second thought. My two bob's worth
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' I just did a quick search of women seeking men with their profile age 20-30. The first 20 women's profiles I clicked on had a search preference age of 18-99 and only 3 were searching for either men aged 25 or 30+. Seems many younger women have virtually no age restrictions meaning so unless you specifically are looking for older women/couples, you shouldn't have a problem finding someone into 22 year olds. How do you feel about young women having 18-99 as their search preference? Does that raise alarms for you? Some people have suggested it raises a red flag for them. LG all it says to me is they're open minded, most definitely doesn't say they'll take anything. I'm confused why you would think that. That's the same as saying because my age preference is 18-45, I'd take anything in that age range? Of course I wouldn't. I don't see how an age range affects how fussy people are. I respect the choices other people make with age preference, but equally, some respect has to be shown for the people who are genuinely open minded and want to explore and grow sexually, not restricting themselves to those kind of hard barriers. If doors are firmly wedged shut, you can miss out on amazing experiences, that's my take anyway. My doors are never firmly wedged shut, always slightly ajar
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langton11
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' As far as your question about whether we are flexible, no, my upper age limit I never go to, not for a very long time. So even though I have it selected at 45, I never go over 40, did once or twice last year, but not for me.See, I knew I was too old for you
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RHP User
9 years ago
Great response. Thanks. Always interesting to see how others are finding the site. I was so surprised at seeing so many 18-99 search preferences for younger women and as you mentioned I also started to think that maybe they were fakes as most didn't have pics or were full of "ask me" Makes sense why you would ask about lower age limit preferences. Wish you all the best in your searches. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
OP has answered the question about red flags nicely. I didn't say 18-99 preferences raised a red flag for me.... just a comment that was made by other posters and I directed it, in context to the OP. Each to their own, I have no judgement on the issue. As stated earlier I have my own preferences and the reason why. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Haha well there you see is a perfect example of how the door is always slightly ajar, re my other post. My door would be ajar for you, what am I saying, it'd be flung wide open mmm 😉😜👌
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RHP User
9 years ago
I responded nicely to your comment today and it didn't appear. I was on the mobile and was struggling to get a signal. I only just realised it didn't show on here. All good basically, I just said that I like it when guys leave the age open, obviously for me, that suits my preference for younger partners, but not just that, It's an indication of how open sexually they are, many come to embrace the woman's body, regardless of age/size/race, they just love to be with women who are comfortable with themselves sexually. My best lovers have been in their 20's and I know I've said that before, and had critics, I don't care, it's a fact that those guys were my best and the memory of them I'll take with me. And many or most of them wouldn't have considered being with someone as old as me. So If they'd stuck to an upper age limit of 45 rigidly and never strayed outside that, and I'm not talking just with me, other women as well, gaining different experiences with each woman, through which they grow and open up more, well that was the crux of my point. I wasn't having a go at you but it's only natural when you highlight a point and ask a question, even though you made reference to others asking the same, that it would appear you reflected the same thoughts? That's fine if you do, you don't have to agree with me. But that was how I read your comment, right or wrong, was just giving my thoughts on it
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LeMerovingien
8 years ago
So if you type in a number into your "looking for" section then you can choose every age from 18-99 and aren't restricted to the steps you're given by the drop-down menu. Thank me later.
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LeMerovingien
8 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'LeMerovingien' So if you type in a number into your "looking for" section then you can choose every age from 18-99 and aren't restricted to the steps you're given by the drop-down menu. Thank me later. I learned something today. The magic number is slowly creeping downwards, all part of my devious plan.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'LeMerovingien' Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'LeMerovingien' So if you type in a number into your "looking for" section then you can choose every age from 18-99 and aren't restricted to the steps you're given by the drop-down menu. Thank me later. I learned something today. The magic number is slowly creeping downwards, all part of my devious plan. Your upper age limit is 50, your choice and fine of course, but do be aware there are a lot of women in their early 40's who are really my age some without pictures in their 30's who I suspect are my age. Take each woman as you see them, don't necessarily believe the age they state, if it matters to you. I know of a few women who cut their real age by 10 years, interesting fact
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Quoting 'Lifes_great' It's more pertinent for women to have an age range given that they are inundated with messages and flirts. I personally have no age range just more personal preferences that might attract me to someone which would be regardless of age. I'm pretty sure I'm not going to receive any messages from someone under 40 as we are at different stages of life looking for different things. As far as an upper limit goes well beauty all comes from the mind and heart....so it's open ended. In my case it's more...'can they handle being with me' rather than me handle being with them. Hard to find someone who wants a 48 yr old that acts like a 25 yr old....I'm a special boy!
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