M54
Profile critique
April 15 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't know the history here? Your post reads, indicating you've asked for a critique before. Forgive me if I was here and commented but I don't remember, nor can I make a comparison between your profile then and now, if that's what you were looking for? As for your current profile, no nice way to put this, the one picture only would 9 times out of 10, in itself, not get a response from me, but that decision solidifies when I see your written section about what you want, or more so, what you don't want. It's way too negative. You're looking for someone without an sti/std, well aren't we all, do you need to state that? Please don't get in touch if you're needy/possessive or still in love with an ex, please, you must see how negative this comes across, and there's more on there. You want a chick who's into ffm, along with your great list of other requirements, who looks hot and loves to wear lingerie, looking hot in said lingerie, on it goes, you and every other man on the planet I'm afraid, and nothing wrong with that, but your lack of interest in mmf or mfm indicates to me you're perhaps a taker and not a giver, particularly with the ffm request splashed all over your page. I don't actively look for ffm action, but I consider myself open or situational, but even without female on female action, I would very happily partake in fmf threesomes with another straight female, spoil the guy. But you don't seem to be up for close contact with another cock, but drive home the desire for ffm. Women look for caring, sharing, giving lovers, even for casual sex, I do. My opinion will no doubt be harsher than the general female population on here. I just can't be bothered anymore if I see early signs of take take. Many will be less harsh or less critical, I'm sure, all good, but that's my personal critique
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
And the whole written part is like a lecture sheet handout. Bullet form. You make your point but any one with initial interest would need a pen and paper to take notes to see if they are ruled out of the equation. Just be a normal person looking. What you think the ladies are going to chase you in masse? So you need to eliminate through resumes. Just meet the few that will respond to a positive description of yourself and enjoy the social interaction and take it from there. Otherwise you risk eliminating the perfect one before you get out the starting blocks. Good luck though. Nice bod.
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lovebitten
9 years ago
You sound arrogant. You may have some very lovely qualities in real life, but you are not displaying them here. Maybe take it down a notch or two? Lovebitten xox - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
9 years ago
Maybe you should try Fet. Kinky is obviously important to you. I do think it's quite negative and demanding. Some of what you've written you can leave for a conversation as you get to know someone and the people that are SITCOMS and hung up on their ex's probably won't admit that anyway. It's like saying "no psycho's" well I'm afraid 9 times out of 10 psycho's don't admit they are pyscho's Obviously have things that are important to you and you are looking for which we all do, but do they all need to be listed so harshly? You sound impatient and not interested in conversing. That's what I get from it. You have a hot bod though so I'm sure you won't have any problems generating attention. Best of luck.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for the reply. No, I hadn't used this profile check section before, rather I've been a member on RHP one way or another for about ten years. This is the first time I've bothered asking others about my profile though. My profile Is generally reflective of my RHP experience. At the time it was written I think I was maybe 7 years into the journey here and was well fed up with the few interactions that I had had on here, which without going too far into detail ended up with a mixture of betrayal, plenty of liars who said they were open to relationships but were "still in love etc etc" and in one case police intervention to make someone go away. So I figured at the time, how best to avoid this continual stream of unavailable people? Say it clearly. That said, I also found that those I met really did not meet my requirements or needs sexually or physically. You can't help what you're attracted to I believe, and, I also know very, very clearly what I like and don't like. The no MMF thing for me is very specifically a thing I do not like, tried and tested. I know this as sure as I know the sky is blue the earth is round and Donald Trump is a window licking maniac. It has nothing to do with being all take and no give. While I take your points with some gratitude I still sit here and think why not say clearly what I will and wont' do so there are no misunderstandings? At my age I don't have time to waste on people who aren't on the same page, as I'm sure none of us do. I'm here to have some fun experiences and fulfil some fantasies etc etc as i'm sure many others are also, so perhaps there is a little 'take' in amongst all that but again, I've read that many profiles on here from gals who say "you MUST be over 6ft/8inches/not hairy/rich/ etc etc etc"... so it seems listing requirements is not that abnormal? Certainly not saying any of this in an aggressive fashion, I suppose I look to what I see around me and say, ok, if its good for one why is it not good for another? so to speak.. Thanks again for the feedback, i'm still deciding whether I will keep this profile open or not.. might be time to just give the interweb a big miss!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Reflect who you are and who and what you are looking for? Then be happy with it. If not,change it. It won't appeal to everyone,it doesn't need to.Q
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inspirit
9 years ago
You sound like a twat waffle. All talk and probably no action. IMHO. Just Saying. - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
9 years ago
..and no cock pic. Your profile might reas like shit but a good perve is always a bonus. 😆 Oh and for the record.... Shsme about your bad experiences but you could always build a bridge. Ive heard these structures help. 😢 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
9 years ago
If you wrote that profile three years ago and haven't updated it since it's time to rework it. Also, it really comes down to, is it working for you? If you are finding what you like then leave it be its obviously working. If you aren't finding what you want change it up. In the end you will do whatever feels right to you.
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Missb4u
9 years ago
It seems you are one of those hung up on past experiences and ex's that you mention in your profile.
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inspirit
9 years ago
We've all been pissed at some one at some stage. His just making a statement and trying to explain his reasoning for the badly written profile.. 😉 Maybe his just not very articulate.. Have to admit though I agree with that stupid statement and the terrble formatting.. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
9 years ago
It appears you have lost CONFIDENCE in yourself. I'd wager that you have. 😇 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well.. Some things change and some remain the same. I came seeking constructive views and advice on how to improve a profile. And one maybe two of you provided that so thank you. From the rest it seems What I've ended up with is name calling, judgement and amateur psychological evaluation mixed with a tinge of nastiness. To those of you 'kind' enough to pass judgement on me as a person, Thanks for solidifying my thoughts on this site and its inhabitants. Seems my cynicism was and still is well founded. Good riddance to RHP it is. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
No one disputes the need to say what you dont want but just refine it. Get the main ones out there and fine tune during messaging. Use messaging as a tool to short list. Is it not better to have 10 interested women and short list to 1 or 2 than have 0? You dont have to explain the mmf thing. If you are not into it, you aren't. Finally, just because you've had a couple of bad experiences, dont paint everyone with the brush. We all have had experiences we prefer to forget. But we keep going forward. Dont give up. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. Love a cliche in the morning......
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inspirit
9 years ago
😂😆😜 Hehehe 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
9 years ago
Grumpy old tart springs to mind 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Stay off the Hash woman
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RHP User
9 years ago
As your profile is unaccessable, maybe updating. Just wondering though, is your pic 7+ yrs old too? You mention you havent updated for a while. Im a big believer in using current pics so as not to mislead a person if we meet. (Moreso the face/body shape pics)
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PurePeony
9 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' Reflect who you are and who and what you are looking for? Then be happy with it. If not,change it. It won't appeal to everyone,it doesn't need to.Q I find requests to improve profile write-up's a tad ... odd. You are who you are. Frankly, I'd rather one's profile stay the way it is. If a person is jaded / bitter / egotistic, etc and those are reflected clearly in their profiles, I say, let it remain so because it is what it is and they are who they are! Likewise, if all a guy wants is NSA, then let the profile remain explicit and let's not suggest ways to disguise that primal desire for NSA so that more attention / responses can be received. Exactly who are we helping here? IMO, why teach someone who's jaded / bitter / egotistic how NOT to appear jaded / bitter / egotistic? If they are that way, helping them to mask / hide that is akin to teaching a thief how to steal or teach a liar how to deceive more successfully. It's already tough sometimes to pick out the good apples from the rotten ones and if we are teaching the rotten ones how to disguise themselves as good ones so that they will be picked, then we are all shooting ourselves in the foot, no? Does anyone get my drift? PS. Sorry OP... not targeting you specifically and I haven't even read your profile. I'm just making a general statement based on all past profile critique requests.
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inspirit
9 years ago
Was I a bit hash. Back to the school of PC I go. 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
No my profile isn't updating, after this thread experience I've put in a request for it to be deleted entirely and get off this site entirely. I get judged enough in real life. I don't need more of it here. Thanks anyway.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You are right...Ive seen some of the womens profiles and they are a tad specific. Especially with looks, body condition, cock size and girth. So you have every right to state exactly what you want. You did say it was based on previous experiences and may be time for a change. Will be interesting to read your updated profile. I read one guys profile and it said Looking for.....Anyone, any shape colour, age or size. I think I prefer someone who knows what he wants and who will suit what he wants!!! We owe it to ourselves to have the right to choose.
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RHP User
9 years ago
some people come on this site to boost their ego's But everyone knows its only the fenales ego that is fed here! :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You already made your mind up to leave the site. Just wanted a last hurrah before you left. Ok then ...."hurrah" to you. See you when you reincarnate 😎
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think for those of us that choose to personalise our profiles from the templates, then we are putting ourselves and parts of our personalities into them. And they reflect our mood, wants & desires at the time they were written. If it's working for you, then keep it, and if it's not...then put some thought into where you are now and put that out into the rhp universe and see what comes back. 😊 Asking for profile critiques can be a very successful fishing expedition lol and I understand that it is difficult on here for a lot of guys to get responses to messages. I would be interested to see if contact has risen because of your post 😉 I do also find it interesting that in general it's guys that ask for profile feedback. I wonder what would happen if it was a female asking 😊 And if the answers would be quite so harsh.
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
Bummer, I wanted to read it, let me know when you've unblocked me or its able to be read please...💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
In reply to your wondering if women post a topic about their profile.... I did last yr. had the same ratio of nice v picky replies. Has to be expected from people we dont know and who dont know us.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for the answer 😊 I had been wondering x RR 💋
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inspirit
9 years ago
There's a greet n meet on tnight at the Craftsman. I remember you saying you wanted to get to one. Its in Cannington and Red balloons will e present. See you there? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
op looks like you've gone. I was about to respond to your first comment, which I thought was really good. You sound like a nice guy, your thoughts gave me some understanding of who you are and you replied calmly, difficult thing to do when you're being critiqued (for the record, ballsy move, no way I'd ask anyone to critique me lol) I was going to suggest writing more like that in your profile. Make it personal and happy/positive. Hope you'll come back with a brighter shinier profile, move forward in a positive way. If you do, make sure you have current pictures like dp said and agree with Annie there's nothing wrong with your preference for straight male play only, and to state 'no guys', lots do that, I can imagine you would get a lot of interest from men as well, but tone it down a bit and keep the rest lighter. Also agree you're better getting the initial interest first, then chatting with the person and filter from there. A lot can emerge from a conversation, which is a good thing. Helps us pair up with people we're better suited to. Anyway, new pictures (nothing wrong with the picture you had up btw just unsure whether it's current), new positive energy, surge forward and enjoy it. I'm sorry you didn't give us more time here to chat back and forth. If you reincarnate, and I hope you do, good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Deep_Purple' In reply to your wondering if women post a topic about their profile.... I did last yr. had the same ratio of nice v picky replies. Has to be expected from people we dont know and who dont know us.I don't remember that, hope I didn't pick you to bits I would never ask for a critique. I think it's a ballsy move for anyone to ask
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
There's no momentary lapse of reason that would let me post a critique request here ........ Obviously OP wasnt aware of the single male/couples self eject button (parachute supplied). Only us moles that need to ask permission😨
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ooh I didn't see it listed. I will see how I go 😊 Thanks for the invite 💋
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inspirit
9 years ago
Just an impromptu. Do come along.. Always a good night - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
9 years ago
I wish I could provide a constructive critique to your profile. When I clicked on it, it was unavailable to view. Have you blocked me or just made the profile unavailable? There are a lot of topics in the forum in getting a profile more attractive to your target market. It seems the others before me have given you some tips on improving your profile, harsh as some may have been. But take them in a constructive way. Specially the points about being positive and giving, sounding less jaded. Wishing you the best.
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Missb4u
9 years ago
Posted a critique my profile thread before. Quite recently actually. I felt it was fair and welcomed the feedback. It was interesting to get others opinions on how it is perceived as that's important when aiming for a certain audience.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
had the right audience. No men posted in his thread. But Mytime thought it was his time. Bye Bye.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think Elvis has left the building. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
😳😳😳😳😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi I -touch-myself,its Steve,.I read with interest your advice on a guys negative profile,great informative comments.Could I ask a favour,could you could give me a bit of advice on my profile as it dosent get much response no matter how many times I change it...?Steve
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sweetgem
9 years ago
To know that this thread is still open and running while Elvis has already left the building 😋 Or perhaps he hasn't, but chose to not replying anymore? I might make a new thread and ask for critiques on my profile too since many people like to do so 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
9 years ago
You're just deliciously gorgeous, don't change a thing
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi. God, are you sure you want my advice? I still feel bad having no doubt contributed to the op leaving. I really hope he's started another profile 😃 i'll message you, check your inbox later in the day 😃
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sweetgem
9 years ago
I won't dare to compete with the gents in the queue 😛 Just been silly.....oooops 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Wetlips4u
9 years ago
Fact finding mission me thinks to prove to yourself what a knob you know you are......
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RHP User
9 years ago
Because we're in the majority here, which is not the desirable side to be on...it's not really surprising more men ask for a profile critique than women do. As I've noticed over 2+ years.I've occasionally considered it myself...but then I remember, I'd just be feeding my ego and do I really need that..?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Funkinkypleasure' Hi I -touch-myself,its Steve,.I read with interest your advice on a guys negative profile,great informative comments.Could I ask a favour,could you could give me a bit of advice on my profile as it dosent get much response no matter how many times I change it...?Steve No need to change anything with your profile IMHO I think it's perfect. You have your preferred age range from 40-65 which I think is very realistic, you've filled out all the stats which is a big gripe of mine normally, makes it so much easier when it's all filled out and the written part is concise but nice and respectful, hinting at the devil within Perfect Your sexual preferences I would imagine would appeal to a wider group of people. Your pictures are great. Just now comes down to the numbers game and politely messaging, noting the requirements/desires of the individual on their profile, but yeah, it's all great, just keep at it, the right people will come along
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RHP User
9 years ago
sorry to hijack your post mytime15.... i_touch_myself_2 had it right and was eloquent in her feedback... you asked for it so act on it is what i suggest... @inspirit you made me guffaw with your posts! Thats a posh laugh out loud! Not that im posh, but your dismissals such as twat waffle, no cock pic - we love a perve etc... were first class. good on ya, if you want a perve, visit mine... i look forward to an equally hilarious critique ;-) Shiny x
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