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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  You're not getting anywhere with your profile, but you have 12 friends? real friends or just people who accepted? I recognise a few of those as ones I got spammed with requests from and never even a real message from them. That aside, give yourself a public picture - it doesn't need to be a face pic, but when your message comes up it surely blends into a gazillion other "no picture, no profile" folks who've messaged. I think your actual profile text reads OK, though I'd tone down the "I'm a real man with rough hands" chest beating, we get it. And if your profile shows up in a search, why would someone click it when its a whole grid of pictures? The only ones who really click on blank profiles are the hordes or desperate guys who even message blank female profiles professing undying love. Give yourself a chance to stand out and get a photo there.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  With S. I think your profile sounds fine. Take the time to spell check though. Cut and paste into word and spell check, then paste it back, takes a few minutes. Even if you say that you're not good with words, at least take the time and effort to get it right as much as possible on the profile. I think some women would like to be able to supplement and compliment your traits. If you're looking for an FWB, it's good that you've been upfront about writing, but physical is what counts. Also what you say and how you make a woman feel counts! I wrote in my profile: no photo = no response. If you want girls to contact you, words don't mean anything, if we are on here for physical attraction. S is also correct in saying that your "no photo profile" does not stand out in search/browse. I flick straight past them. Take the time to take some photos. The more different, nice ones, the better (different locations, body parts, angles - no dick pics is good until you get to know the chick). I think the "real man with rough hands" might attract some ladies, but yeah what do you mean by real man? That could mean a lot of things. Well you've posted here so we know you're not fake. Most women can judge for themselves what traits make up a real man and what it means to them. Maybe they should find out and to meet up. The rest is just trial and error. I updated my profile soooooo many times, I think the admin is sick of me - "not her again, just approve!" Hahaha :P but I did because there were things I found that annoyed me along the way. If a guy is to get me, he has to read all my profile and not do what annoys me. The good ones have no problem with that because I'm clear with what I want. But for guys, they are more laid back with less words. Think, what makes you unique. Since you posted here, goes to show you care and a little time and effort can go a long way if it means something to you :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Definitely a photo, even if it's your hands making something. No public photos are a put off. And I'd take out the sentence "So if your after a soft smooth hand thats not me" because you made it clear in the paragraph above. It's great that you've explained something about yourself. You've said you're not the best with writing and grammar and there's nothing wrong with that. But does that mean you're not into a lot of message exchange? Or just that you're being upfront? If it's because you're 'not into endless messages' which a lot of people have on their profile, maybe say something like - you'd prefer to get to know people face to face. How does a woman know what you're looking for if you don't? I'd fill that out a little more apart from the sentence that says you don't like your time wasted. And finally - your honesty is great and I wouldn't change what you've selected unless your status does actually change - but being a smoker puts a lot of people off now these days. Just a personal preference that's been discussed a lot.

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  MrPlayful

  8 years ago

  I'm a filthy smoker too... I don't normally bother contacting people who's profiles say they are a non-smoker, and if a non-smoker contacts me I always just let them know in my first reply just to get it out there in case they didn't see it in my profile. I think it just saves a lot of time and being upfront about it seems to be well received.

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  DynamicCouple36

  8 years ago

  We would suggest that you remove all reference to your belief that only real men have rough calloused hands etc, as this comes across and being a bit aggro, perhaps arrogant and generally dismissive of any male that does not have rough hands and or works in a white collar professional office role. Having rough calloused hands does not make you a man. But then that is our opinion. You also need to realise that males, on this site, outnumber females more than 100 to 1, and you are therefore up against a lot of other males. Most females/couples also get dozens of messages a day and after a while it just becomes too much effort to answer them all and to explain why one is not interested, only to then face a barrage of abuse. It is easier to simply ignore & forget. Personally for us to even consider meeting with another male his profile would need to show us that he is educated, intelligent, well groomed, respectful and capable of intellectually stimulating conversation. That is the calibre of MAN that we would consider meeting and engaging with. Your profile wording, in our opinion, might lessen your chances of a positive response. However there are more than likely some women on here that might enjoy a rough and tough, salt of the earth kind of man who can run his leathery calloused hands over their delicate flesh. It takes all types to make the world go round. Consider putting up some nice profile photos, perhaps of your arms & hands (which you clearly think are your greatest assets ) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  DynamicCouple36

  8 years ago

  Where on this site does it list the number of profiles? And then break it down into single females / males/couples? All we can see is that currently it says that there are 3,300 online now, but cant find where it breaks it down into male/female etc. We would however hazard a guess and that is to say that this site, just like most sites and swingers clubs, is geared towards making money from primarily males, and that the carrot / bait used is the promise of sex. It would make sense therefore that they over inflate the number of "female" profiles and put more emphasis on figures that show more numbers of females being available and looking for males. How many of the females are real females and not males posing as females? How many of the females are not scammers? How many of the females are not fake profiles? If we look at the demographics of the chat room - on average there are 20 male profiles to just 1 or 1 female profiles. And then around 4-5 couples profiles, in which those on webcam only show a male masturbating.... Perhaps its not 100 to 1 , perhaps it is more, but it could be less. All that we can say, without a doubt, is that males are in the majority on this site and that because of this, competition is steep.

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  MrPlayful

  8 years ago

  On the website, click on that bit where it shows there are 3,300 people online. It then breaks it down into men, women and couples. I've just found this myself, curious as you were where to find the information. As surprising as it is, I would have thought you were closer to being on the money, the stats show that Summer is correct. If only it broke it down to how many of those ladies and couples are actually men lol. These statistics do though show the amplification effect of the imbalance.

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  Chippy2010

  8 years ago

  Thank you to each and everyone on that has taken the time to view my profile and provide feed back to me, i have taken the time to read all the feed back that you have left and taken it all onboard. i have made a few amendments to the about me text changes should be up for view in a few hours, the next thing one of you point out was the age and being deceptive my birthday was a week or so ago and at the time i wrote the about me text the age being 27 was true and accurate at the time the age on the profile being that my birthday just passed auto up dated to me being 28 witch is also true and accurate i have amended this age in my text. But can not see how anyone would thing it was deceptive when you have no control over the age display on the site. the next task i have is to find a Profile photo that does not give away who i am, i have seen a few people on here as members that would i rather not have know that i am on here for professional reasons, once again i thank you all for taking the time to view and respond with you feed back and advise.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  However while I am really bored with these sorts of topics I will suggest one thing. Why not send a copy of your messages/replies to some of the "friends" you have on here and ask them what you are doing wrong. They are you Friends after all and surely would want to help you.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  @Chippy, take it out of your text. If you decide to have a break from the site, just update. The age will auto update as you have birthdays. It's unnecessary to put age in text. Everybody's issue resolved!! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  That sounds so good, positive and more reflective of your strengths! Still easy-going and chilled, yet you've been firm with time constraints and what/who you are. I hope you get some real action ;) ;) nudge nudge - Posted from rhpmobile

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