M41
Profile in Process: Feel free to assist.
April 14 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well worded profile but.....i would shorten it up abit...sometimes the less said the better!...dont overthink it just keep it simple ie the part about deep and meaningfull into the wee hours...its to early for that at this stage of the game. Remember you havnt met a potential interest yet in person so i would leave that out...some women will think ugghh...bit to much to early. Youre on the right track bro but yea...snip some bits off...keep it simple!
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madotara69
8 years ago
you have been verified, so it looks like Jimmy is working back late tonight earning some overtime, he is saving up for a new hat, your on a roll Sherlock, off with a flying start and you can rub that one out, it's unlikely Jimmy will verify your pics tonight as he does not have the hat for that yet. You have only listed in the 'Seeking:' section...'Woman'.... you are either not being entirely honest with yourself or you don't know it yet, however on a positive note, you spelt her with a capital, well thought out as you surely are 'out of the pot and into the fire' Mado Mado Tara xx
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Sherlock_H
8 years ago
Thanks Mado, I've updated the profile to reflect my verification. Do pass my thanks on to Jimmy, and perhaps I can pitch in for the hat. At present, I'm pretty happy to talk to one woman at a time, but I suppose that might change over time. I might look at submitting a few more pictures in the next few hours, so that they can all be sorted in one go. Thanks again for the feedback. S.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well Sherlock... A little positive reinforcement here. Congratulations on a well written profile. So refreshing! I wish you well on your search. KH
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm sorry but vision is absolutely essential for me
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
To read Everything and Nothing in its entirety. Then you'll know us. Report back in a month after the 5000 posts
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Sherlock_H
8 years ago
That's a great point, Meander. What was intended as encouragement can easily be read as arrogance. I'll change it to something a little more suggestive, and then see if anything better comes to mind over the course of today.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wouldn't hurt to add a picture of you smiling, your photos to me seem a bit serious, good luck 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sherlock_H
8 years ago
Thanks Kaye, that's some good feedback, and I'll have to dig around and see what I have in my camera reel. I actually have a neurological spinal condition, which leaves me in chronic pain. So a clenched jaw is pretty much the norm. I guess I have a resting bitch face. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sherlock_H
8 years ago
My photos were approved this morning by an apparently never sleeping admin. So there's that problem fixed. Heh. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sherlock_H
8 years ago
I get what you mean by suggesting that some parts of the profile are "too long" or possibly too intense too early. That's actually a calculated gambit on my part, in that the kind of person I enjoy getting to know would relish a short read, rather than be turned off by it. But I might revisit this point in a bit and see if the gambit paid off or not. Thanks, and sorry I missed your post before now! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's not appealing to me at all. Sorry, but your pictures are dark and don't show you properly. Leave the arty look out and just stand in front of the mirror, take clear and bright pictures, look happy in some or most that show your face. I suppose it depends on your target audience but might be more suited for a literary equal or with similar taste. I hadn't heard of the author you mention, I don't read fiction, except for the odd bit on the forum here 😉 specific examples just cuts down your pool of potential interested parties even further. It's hard enough for men on here without doing that. You also tell us to have something we're passionate about? Your choice of wording right there would be a no thanks from me. I don't like being told to, or expected to behave in a certain way. A better way to word it would be to say you like people who are passionate, or passionate about something, slightly different meanings there, both could be included. On a positive note, you sound bright happy and friendly, and interesting, yes interesting does appeal to me, though music is more appealing to me than literature, it reflects you and who you are. Just food for thought re potentially having too much information in a profile 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Sherlock_H' I get what you mean by suggesting that some parts of the profile are "too long" or possibly too intense too early. That's actually a calculated gambit on my part, in that the kind of person I enjoy getting to know would relish a short read, rather than be turned off by it. I'm fully aware that my profile doesn't appeal to everyone, and many would consider it too long, but that's not a negative for me. It weeds out a lot of people that I wouldn't be compatible with (yeah I still get messages from people who obviously haven't got past the pictures but that's part and parcel of being a woman on here). You'll never be what everyone wants, and I know in my case I don't want to be. I like longer profiles, I find them much more interesting than the majority who have the standard few lines with the word 'fun' mentioned about 20 times.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I dont think there is any such thing as a perfect proflie...the key is just be yourself!...Luck Dragon makes some good points also but its allways good to leave alittle mystery about yourself...i personally would put at least another 5 or so pics up of yourself. Some serious-some humorous....but all in all it is well written...good luck Sherlock!
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Sherlock_H
8 years ago
Thanks everyone, for both the constructive criticism, and the negative and positive feedback. It sounds like I've got my profile fairly well tweaked to appeal to the types of women I'd like to meet. On another note, I've noticed "necessary criteria" and "deal breakers" (if not always verbatim) on someone's as many as every second or third women's profile I read. With that in mind, as long as the needs are few and reasonable (or appealing), I think they're a great way of managing expectations in the initial encounters and beyond. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Congratulations on the pics - dark and brooding can be thought provoking. Enjoy your time and I am sure your profile will garner the response you desire. Be well! KH x
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RHP User
8 years ago
You mention being highly sexual in your thoughts then go on to suggest you want a night of intellectual conversation with someone worthy of a Nobel Peace prize. I also always notice and ponder the "separated " status. To me that suggests you may still hold a candle there, or are not ready to move on. I agree with the others, it is certainly up there as a great profile, but as you did ask I would suggest simplifying it a bit(so you dont turn off the likes of itm2 who may be perfect for you down the line but needs to be sexually stimulated first), then opening up more once initial attraction has been established. Best of luck and enjoy your journey! MsU x - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
8 years ago
Good profile. We all know sex begins with the mind, of course for those of us who appreciate a good intellectual conversation. Photos are great too. Pagan comes to mind. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with some of your thoughts, but re the separated status, my thought on that is that it's honest/accurate. I displayed mine as separated until the divorce came through, because I felt it would have been dishonest to show it any other way, certainly not because I hadn't moved on or was still holding a candle. Isn't it marital status? I don't see how being separated equals still holding a flame? Then again, in RL if I'm asked my marital status 'are you married?' and I say I'm divorced, the standard response is 'I'm so sorry' lol what are they sorry about? 😀😉 like someone died, the natural assumption is that men leave their wives, cheat whatever. Quite comical really, after correcting them, I have a giggle to myself 😃 The op has his status correctly shown, as it should be IMO and for me at least, it doesn't suggest anything, other than his current marital status 😃
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Sherlock_H
8 years ago
Thanks ITM2, that's roughly what I had in mind when I selected my status. To call myself "single" seems dishonest, yes. But I'm sure as hell not in a marriage at the moment, nor am I seeing anyone or in a relationship. I'm sure I can look forward to all the "Oh no I'm so sorry" stuff soon enough. But better to keep things accurate as possible.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Honesty will get you a long way, trust me, from where I sit, I haven't seen very much of it 😉
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
..........!
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
..........!
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Least only a double this time. Obviously not used to this country broad band situation.Get me back to civilization. Hair dryers.....?....Toilets that flush........Sexy guys..........
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
A hot shower. Got one?Be right over........
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RHP User
8 years ago
Do tell? Are you expressing approval of the op's restricted pic? I can't see it 😢
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
No. Lol. Just sounds too good to be true. Easter time......The second rising
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inspirit
8 years ago
I really don't get it. I class myself as single because I am. Sure I'm not divorced yet but I'm technically single. I actually dislike the term. What if I had a new partner and living in sin and I still wasn't divorced from the ex. Am I still classed as separated? Stupid label. It's just - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's a good point, not one I'd considered. Some never get divorced. Mine was quicker than the speed of light 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
What sounds too good to be true? Are you having a go at me?
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RHP User
8 years ago
One topic welcoming new people, all nice as pie, then the passive aggressive digs, if you have something to say, just say it 😃
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
No wasn't having a go at all
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'sting2050' dont overthink it just keep it simple ie the part about deep and meaningfull into the wee hours...its to early for that at this stage of the game. One of the things I love about this site is how unique we all are, and how one person's 'turn off' can be another person's 'turn on'. OP, there is a lot to love about your profile, but this was the line that had me swooning.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' I really don't get it. I class myself as single because I am. Sure I'm not divorced yet but I'm technically single. I actually dislike the term. What if I had a new partner and living in sin and I still wasn't divorced from the ex. Am I still classed as separated? Stupid label. It's just - Posted from rhpmobileAgree a with Inspirit. I'm separated legally. I'm mentally and physically single. Neither of us want to divorce as who wants to marry a third time. We are best friends, though some people have an issue with that and can't get their head around it. (flips the bird...) Then there is the divorce label. What purpose does that serve. If you are divorced, you are single........
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have a different take on the divorce label, I like it because although they are of course single, it tells me a bit about them, perhaps because they've been married and/or had kids already, I then consider they've ticked that box and are now free to pursue more focused sexual needs/wants. But for me, the age I pursue has an influence on that mindset. Labels sometimes have their place but it's up to the individual how they want to display their status 😃
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