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Profile refreshment
September 11 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
only if they have removed previously non attractive statements from their profile or changed it from a template profile to a real profile- then I may think again.
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RHP User
8 years ago
CT O just completely redid my profile..must be Spring😈 Q
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inspirit
8 years ago
Im just to slack.... and nope on others profiles. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yep.... to keeping pics new and updated. You might not think you've changed, but believe me, that 3 yr old pic makes you look a lot different if we meet in person. Keep them update to show what you look like currently. And to your question about changing your mind, yes I've done that. When I first got on here, I wasn't as confident or sure of myself, so I declined meeting a lovely guy because he had a few validations and the women were hotties. So I told him I didn't think I was compatable or what he was actually looking for,due to the other women's profiles I had checked out. 6 months later he contacted me again and I was a lot more confident and pie"street wise".... And it was a great hookup. **note: this doesn't mean that women want to be bombarded with messages from guys that we have already said we aren't compatable to. Just sayin....
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RHP User
8 years ago
I also like to see updated pics. When I was active on here I was changing my profile wording all the time, refining it. I'm not a wordsmith so it took me awhile to feel that I portrayed the essence of who I was and what I was looking for. If somebody's profile is working for them I don't see the need to change it. I would only change my mind if negative statements were reworded or a template profile was properly filled in. On vanilla dating sites, I have seen profiles with the same pics and info for three years. I always wonder why they don't change their profiles when they are so obviously not working for them!
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social_suicide
8 years ago
Every profile that starts with "hi we are a couple", or "hi I'm a man seeking other fun people" and the classic, " I've been told I'm good looking but you can be the judge of that", and "I admit that I'm a sexual animal and cant get enough" all need refreshing. Private galleries need to be reasonably up to date.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...thanks for the reminder, it's time to update a sentence or two. But that's about it really, getting it right the first time...read "honest"...shouldn't need much more than that, physical changes notwithstanding.
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RHP User
8 years ago
If I'm actively seeking then an updated profile is a must. As for photos.....I've just swapped my main one to one I've previously used ( hate being photographed, and can't do selfies) and the amount of messages from men I've already spoken too and said no to is unreal. The messages all read as if theve never messaged me before. So updating a profile only works if someone reads it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'jennifer102' If I'm actively seeking then an updated profile is a must. As for photos.....I've just swapped my main one to one I've previously used ( hate being photographed, and can't do selfies) and the amount of messages from men I've already spoken too and said no to is unreal. The messages all read as if theve never messaged me before. So updating a profile only works if someone reads it. ...it's just crazy, Jen. I've heard this sort of story before, but it's like men and women are a different species in this world, the responses to our actions here are so different. Crazy..
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RHP User
8 years ago
just adding - photos I update regularly though.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'jennifer102' If I'm actively seeking then an updated profile is a must. As for photos.....I've just swapped my main one to one I've previously used ( hate being photographed, and can't do selfies) and the amount of messages from men I've already spoken too and said no to is unreal. The messages all read as if theve never messaged me before. So updating a profile only works if someone reads it. it may be that the men you describe have selected your profile on the basis of a new/updated photo, thinking it was a new profile. If they have not taken notice of your profile name, they may simply not realise they have contacted you previously. (I have not done this myself, but I can see how it might occur).
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RHP User
8 years ago
As we go through life, our wants and needs change so our profile should be kept up to date accordingly. The same with pictures. Got a haircut or change your hair colour? Make sure there's a picture that shows you as you are.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
... as things change , but I'm probally the worlds worse. Not because I'm lazy, it's just that I forget to do it . This is a healthy reminder and I will definately do it . If I don't forget. ? See what I mean ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I tend to change the "Looking for" section sporadically, when what I'm looking for changes. So it serves a purpose because it tells people (who make it to the words sections) what I'm looking for. Or version b) I can refer people who ask what I'm looking for, back to my profile :s Making changes must show to listed people as views go up shortly after changes have been made. Profile pics? Well, when I wear an outfit for an event, and someone who can't make it, asks what I'm wearing :) Current pic was taken on Saturday night. Face pics are all in the last year. As are all but 2 of my other pics. I've seen a number of profiles suddenly single after first joining and people listed as attached. I wonder if that is because they just got divorced :s New people tend to be templated for a while, so if they change their profile, it will definitely change my view of them.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Drives me crazy! I take photos of myself now as much as I hate it, it's awkward trying to get a body part, I'm critical etc. But now I have photos of myself whereas I never took photos previously. Put a new one up every six months people! Wording and preference wise as long as it suits my circumstances - wants and needs I won't change it. The ones that make me giggle are where they live in Brisbane for instance but say they love a daily run on Bondi Beach.
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Limited_Editionx
8 years ago
As I've gone through different phases of sexual development/growth I've changed my profile to match the headspace I am in at that particular time... I have other friends who have never changed it... But maybe they haven't changed the space they are in. Photo wise I just love taking photos and this is the only place i can really show anyone my pics so they change regularly just because it's fun lol Hope you are all having a great Monday 🙈😳 XxMiss L. Ed.
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Missb4u
8 years ago
I update my photos regularly. I tweak the wording occasionally but only when I change my mind what I'm looking for.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm fairly happy with my profile right now, and can't see any significant changes coming up soon.The main profile piccie is a keeper but the PG is likely to get updated soon.Template profiles do nothing for me, which is a shame because my demographic really shouldn't be too fussy. I wouldn't want to price myself off the market. In a previous RHP incarnation I used to check out the new members RHP said were "looking for me" and if they were template and had too many "ask me's" I'd block them. I think I was up to about 50 by the time I pulled the pin.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ontology' Quoting 'jennifer102' If I'm actively seeking then an updated profile is a must. As for photos.....I've just swapped my main one to one I've previously used ( hate being photographed, and can't do selfies) and the amount of messages from men I've already spoken too and said no to is unreal. The messages all read as if theve never messaged me before. So updating a profile only works if someone reads it. it may be that the men you describe have selected your profile on the basis of a new/updated photo, thinking it was a new profile. If they have not this myself, but I can see how it might occur). omg I've had a few things like that happen, and embarrassed to say there was one guy I thought I might have had sex with, but i wasn't sure does that mean I've been on here too long On another site, I got a message from a hot young thang. I remembered him, with good reason, but he didn't remember me. The reason I remembered him was because he was a no show on CHRISTMAS DAY I left my family to go meet this guy, drove all the way out the other side of the city, and he fell off the radar, didn't ever hear from him again, until about a year later when he sent that message, not recalling the previous communication of course. It was a nice conversation. I was nice about it, just said these things happen, he apologised and still expressed interest in seeing me, but I declined. All good though, we parted friends
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RHP User
8 years ago
back on topic, I checked out a guy who came through on my feed and I was thinking about hitting on him, until I read his about me section, he stated something about his pictures being up to date, all in the last 10 years?? And this was a guy in I think his 30's. Do they honestly believe they look the same?
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rupamohan
8 years ago
There are at least two reason to update profile. a) Your profile has to follow any changes in you that should be known to others.b) If you are getting undesired response. It can mean profile is being misread or lacks sufficient information. Update may help.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'd like to be confident that I'm interacting with the very person as shown on profile!.... I would change almost ad soon as you yourself know what changes and relevance are current to your profile... just saying...😝
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