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Profile views from unmatched members

January 16 2015

Hello all couples! Couple of questions. We are a MF couple seeking other MF couples or females, as a lot of MF couples are. We have noticed a lot of single men checking out our profile. Is that because they search as if they are a couple or female searching for us (a couple), instead of searching as a single guy? I'm not sure how we would come up in a search otherwise ie. as a matched result from a man seeking couples search. Does this annoy anybody or is it considered rude or just plain pervy? Just a harmless curiosity to see what's happening in the whole swinging scene or something more akin to collecting pictures for the spank bank? It really hasn't bothered us much until the same single male member racks up twenty or more views without any communique or even a 'try my luck' cheeky message or flirt. C'mon mate, it's not like we're unaware. Obviously if it's annoying to a member they can just block the other member but that's not what we're asking. Is this the reason so many of you state that contact from single men (who are not what you are after) will be blocked? Do you block someone who does not fit what you are looking for immediately, knowing that they have represented themselves as somebody you are, just to see your profile? Does this happen to other couples FF, MM or in fact any other group? Do you ever do this yourself? Just wanted to get some thoughts and opinions on the phenomenon. Thanks in advance,Kim and Tim

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Our sugestion: relax :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    do I have a hot missus??? Yes. Enough said!! As simple desires said, take it as complimentary as what's wrong with a harmless perv?? Now where's my tissues?? I need to clean off that load 😜😜 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Everyone checks out my profile, men , women and couples. I take it as a compliment, until I get messages from those I'm not looking for wanting to meet up. In that case I can only assume they either haven't read or chose to disrespect my profile. Nothing wrong with looking though, I think. Would you think it was rude if Kim turned a few heads while out and about? Welcome and have fun!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    as to why people check out profiles that don't match the others seeking criteria...if someone does it more than once a day I usually send them a message,a simple "you rang" ...they either respond with an answer as to why or they stop..,but it really doesn't bother me too much...getting messages from people who don't match your seeking criteria can be more annoying ,but if you regularly contribute to the forums some of those messages will relate to that...as indeed will the profile views...If someone's post interests me I will look at their profile because I want to know "Who said that!"😀...I also chose not to be in stealth mode .. If I am looking at you,you will know it,so OP.you never really know who are all the people looking at you 😘xxFreya

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    10 years ago

    You are both good looking and no doubt have heads turning when you are out in everyday life anyway, so here won't be any different. Take it as a compliment.

  • Taleros

    Taleros

    10 years ago

    Single guys don't need to search as if they are a couple or single lady to see couples, even those couples who aren't looking for single guys. When using the search function the "looking for me" option is not ticked by default so the search will result in whatever parameters the guy sets, and not account for what others are looking for. So if a single guy uses the search to search for "single male" looking for "couples" then it will show all couples, whereas if he ticked the "looking for me" box as well then it wouldn't show all the couples who aren't looking for single men in their preference settings. As for people checking out our profile even if they don't match what we're looking for, it's no problem for us. All they are doing is looking at that point, which there is no real harm in, and if they're enjoying the photos we had fun taking then so be it. If people who then message us when they clearly don't fit what we state we are looking for then there might be issues.

  • MysteryMr

    MysteryMr

    10 years ago

    There are a number of reasons they are looking at your profile which doesn't involve searching. Mobile AppWhen using the Mobile App you are displayed people who are close by, but you can't see if they are looking for single guys. The only way to find out is to click on the profile to view the details. So I am now viewing couples profiles who are not looking for me. My time wasted, and a confused couple thinking single guys are searching for them. My view - Usability Issue with the App. Forum Posts.Scan down this page and tell me who the posters are looking for. Opps RHP didn't make that available here. I decide I like the sound of the person posting on the forum and click on their profile to see more about them. It could be a single girl or a couple. Again until I get to the profile I don't know if they are looking for a single guy or not. These are just a couple of examples. I'm sure you'll see more if you look closer at how Chat and the Hot Pics sections work. Not everyone is doing a dodgy search, and the issue isn't limited to single guys looking at couples profiles.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Thanks for your feedback guys. Much appreciated. Kim and Tim

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'MysteryMr' There are a number of reasons they are looking at your profile which doesn't involve searching. Mobile AppWhen using the Mobile App you are displayed people who are close by, but you can't see if they are looking for single guys. The only way to find out is to click on the profile to view the details. So I am now viewing couples profiles who are not looking for me. My time wasted, and a confused couple thinking single guys are searching for them. My view - Usability Issue with the App. Forum Posts.Scan down this page and tell me who the posters are looking for. Opps RHP didn't make that available here. I decide I like the sound of the person posting on the forum and click on their profile to see more about them. It could be a single girl or a couple. Again until I get to the profile I don't know if they are looking for a single guy or not. These are just a couple of examples. I'm sure you'll see more if you look closer at how Chat and the Hot Pics sections work. Not everyone is doing a dodgy search, and the issue isn't limited to single guys looking at couples profiles. Great points. Thank you. Kim and Tim

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I've never been given a reason that I thought warranted it. After all, no one is going to jump through the laptopscreen and do anything that makes me feel decisively uncomfortable. I get probably a couple of people every day or two view my profile, that I can see….and at least 50% of my weekly viewersare men….and of those men, probably 90% are not straight men…judging by their profile pics and names, anyway. I usually have a peek back at female profiles, but not the men….there's no point in showing false encouragement from my part…despite my curiosity in anyone who's curious about me. But most importantly, no one has ever done anything that I would consider offensive or rude. Looking is just….looking.I do it on the street. But not like a lecher, of course. Like the lady above with the funky shoes said, I take it as a compliment too. Why wouldn't I? It's not like I know I get checked out that much, that I've become blasé about it. Sighhh….ho hum. Look all you like boys…but no touching! .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I suppose that we could be classed as being guilty of doing this as well. Our reason for looking at non matching profiles is because we were looking at the profiles of the people who were going to be attending the meet and greet in Sydney tonight. We are glad that we looked, because although they might not be a match to what we are currently seeking, they seem to be great people that we would like to meet for a drink.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    if people dont check profiles out they wont know what your seeking ,,,,besides curiosity is a natural human thing ,,,,,i have my ,what i call my stalkers ,,,,,some been checking me out for yrs ,,,,,a few times a day as well ,,,they never message or flirt me ,,,just check my pic out ,,,,,they harmless n i feel flattered to have them in a kinda funny way ,,,putting up a profile on here is like running an ad in a newspaper ,,,people are going to read it ,,,just relax n enjoy the new found attention ,,,xxxxxxxx catherine ,,,

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    Kim's not a bad sort Tim, there is bound to be a few fellows that admire a little pocket rocket, not to mention the few fellows that admire a 6,1" gym junky with big feet It might not be Kim they are perving on. Mado Tara xx

  • MysteryMr

    MysteryMr

    10 years ago

    kimtim1 - I really wanted to click on your profile to see who I was responding too.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    the need to block. People put up profiles. People look at profiles. What's the harm? It's like saying that when you're out at a club you only want people looking at you if they match what you want. Problem is, people look if you match what they want. Again, what's the harm? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    When out and about I'm a club (years ago) a guy wanted to fight me because I checked his lady out (I just looked at her never said a word or touched her) I said isn't it better a guy looks at your good looking lady ? Rather then not at all... If a guys looking it means your a lucky man/fella with a good looking lady... He settled down after that to the point I had a 3 way that night with them odd I know lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Mado I'm always checking you out ;) never tarra ;) Burning love you would be amazed how many times I've been blocked on a simple first view of a sexy lady (couples profile) by the way girl ur sexy as hell ;),,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Thanks for all the points of view. Like we said it hasn't bothered us much until it's like twenty plus times without even a hello. We consider ourselves pretty relaxed to be honest, just had a few questions. Appreciate all the opinions on the subject. Just wanted some points of view from more experienced forum members. Some good points. Thank you again. Kimtim.

  • 6exxy

    6exxy

    10 years ago

    You don't know until you look and read people's criteria.

  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    10 years ago

    Many reasons OP but I can assure you MOST are not seeking your attention but it is your choice you want to notice them. Also I am not sure the mobile app allows random search?? Sometimes i scroll profiles in mobile app.It lets us view about half the profiles that will not have any interest both ways. If I scroll for few minutes I may pass same profile 10 times. I won't even notice it.

  • Dryphuz

    Dryphuz

    10 years ago

    every profile view i get is from couples, even though thats not what i'm looking for. Personally i dont care who looks at my profile or why. But i do wonder why they chose to look.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    All the points have been made by the others. I enjoy reading peoples profiles, especially some on this forum as they are well written and quite inspiring. Ok so time to check you both out now.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Thanks for making me laugh out load on a tired Sunday morning! Time to check you out now!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Even though couples might put "looking for couples" in their seeking parameters, many I've found also leave open the possibility of single men or women, if you actually read through the full text of their profile. (Although they're more than capable of finding men and women themselves). I assume if they state this publicly in their text on their RHP profile, but not their seeking box, that this means they are still open to messages from men, and perhaps want to limit the number of enquiries they get. Otherwise, it would make more sense to just omit that part altogether, and search for any men they want privately on their own. However, you will never know about these profiles unless you look at (and read) ALL couple's (and women's) profiles. ALSO, the "looking for me" box will eliminate matches based on a single year difference in age seeking criteria, something I imagine wouldn't worry most people. So apologies in advance if I've viewed your profile, I look at everyone *just in case*, and as I can't remember everyone I've viewed (especially if you change your main picture), I will probably view you more than once. (I'll work it out once I look of course). ... Single men on the other hand have the opposite problem with... oh wait... hang on... I have an alert. Someone viewed my profile. WOOHOO! (Throws party)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Gunna look to piss you off, but found something better to do.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    by posting this Forum Topic, you have caused more Members to look at you ? I just did. By the way, I am a woman and not a man but I bet that you've already guessed that. I agree with Missb72. You are both good looking . Amy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Knows single men are the scum of the dating world, pestering women in plague proportions, despised at swinging clubs, reviled at free beaches everywhere. Wallow in your coupledom while it lasts and prey it never happens to you.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    They just wanna see your...... .... large feet. hahahaha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I check out couples searching for couples from time to time. I have actually met with more couples (looking for guys but been flooded with single guys so took it off their profile) that way than from generic search for couples looking for single males. Lots of couples don't list it but are still looking, I only message or flirt if it is mentioned in their profile however and search specific criteria that is likely to include these couples. I do also have a female friend I play with occasionally and we have been looking for a couple to join, perhaps they are in that same boat as well! My point being, there could be a wide range of reasons they are looking other than a perve. Whoaa x