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Profiles - The Flip Side - Profile Dilemma's

January 16 2019

I want to start by saying I acknowledge that, unfortunately, fake profiles are an occurrence online all too often. I would also like to add that people play games in RL too. Apart from the risks to peoples safety, it can, of course, leave many feeling betrayed, wary and angry..I have been pondering the following well before last year..I have seen many topics about fake profiles and pics with many feeling pissed off some choosing to follow the reporting guidelines (your prerogative) whether they've been on the receiving end of such deceit or not..Having experienced the above, i.e., that people believed my profile and pics were fake which neither were, causing me to feel a lot of angst. It was the second time I have had that experience online which was quite some years ago, I felt the same angst that time as well, definitely not pleasant circumstances to be in and of course quite challenging to verify you aren't fake when you don't know anyone in RL..The angst caused me to become so wary that I changed the way I've set up my profile including no pics.On a side note, I liked the way my profile was; it took me ages before I felt it was fine to me, I enjoyed the challenge of being creative with my pics too. I was pleased with what I achieved. As most of you know I have been here since 2014; it wasn't until 2017 that I started to feel more comfortable on RHP..Now I am pondering with regards to what other people felt/experienced in the same circumstances I found myself in both online and maybe a similar situation in RL too?.I am wondering if those on the other side of the coin think it's ok to throw out stuff in writing, ie: comments, etc. without absolute proof or facts as to on the off chance that someone is fake? (No doubt some are.).One of the consequences of not having 100% proof is others join in, I have seen it many a time in the virtual world and I know I'm not the only one, of course, it happens in the real world too..⭐ On a positive note some food for thought maybe a conscious rethink could be an excellent place to head toward.⭐🌞

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OkeyDoke45

6 years ago

I find it disheartening when a couple posts a topic and the same people do the whole ''are you sure you're not just a single male?" routine. Out of the couples that send me messages, a small percentage I am definitely iffy about as to whether it's just a bloke posing. Out of the rest - the ones that put the time and effort into an exchange and don't ask for pics or dirty chat straight up - they could still be just a bloke looking to get his jollies or it could be the real thing. Most times it simply ends up with the messages petering out to nothing, or ghosting when a meet has been arranged, so it's hard to find out. It is hard not to go down the ''once bitten twice shy'' path. I give every message a chance, but at the slightest whiff of it being a setup I'm done.

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RHP User

6 years ago

More than one profile.Aunty Edna was a fun role play for me..2012..most people knew it was just a bit of fun and it was no secret that it was me..probably couldn't do it these days. Hugs Q xx

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RHP User

6 years ago

There have been huge stoushes over the years as to who is real ,(everyone is real of course unless you are a robot) but the question is how many times can you really be you? Does having multiple profiles allow someone to explore different aspects of their persona? But sometimes it's hard to completely change your writing style and the way you express yourself.Personally I just confuse myself:) Sometimes couples have their individual profiles as well as their couples profile.That seems to be acceptable. Hugs Q xx

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Lullah

6 years ago

about who was real on here it wasn't until being on here for almost 4 years and after remaining pretty quiet not posting often. I did end up gaining some confidence and began posting a bit more, then out of the blue my profile was questioned. I ended up at shit creak without a paddle. I agree that there have been some huge stouches about who is real on here, I've certaintly watched that happen, I wasn't a part of it. Quoting 'Qefenta3' There have been huge stoushes over the years as to who is real ,(everyone is real of course unless you are a robot) but the question is how many times can you really be you? Does having multiple profiles allow someone to explore different aspects of their persona? But sometimes it's hard to completely change your writing style and the way you express yourself.Personally I just confuse myself:) Sometimes couples have their individual profiles as well as their couples profile.That seems to be acceptable. Hugs Q xx

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RHP User

6 years ago

Quoting 'Qefenta3' There have been huge stoushes over the years as to who is real ,(everyone is real of course unless you are a robot) but the question is how many times can you really be you? Does having multiple profiles allow someone to explore different aspects of their persona? But sometimes it's hard to completely change your writing style and the way you express yourself.Personally I just confuse myself:) Sometimes couples have their individual profiles as well as their couples profile.That seems to be acceptable. Hugs Q xx As a physical person involved with 2 profiles on here, your post seems very matter of fact. Life is not black and white. Never was, never will be. The desire to Express one true self overrides remotely observed opinions. I make no apologies for being involved with a multiple listing. I assure you, my other half doesnt either in her usual way. Mental illness is real to those that have it. Those that consider themselves as normal just havnt come to terms with themselves.

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Lullah

6 years ago

profile name says a lot, I can imagine it would have been fun as you said role playing with that profile. Dame Edna comes to mind reading your post lol purple hair rinse etc Quoting 'Qefenta3' More than one profile.Aunty Edna was a fun role play for me..2012..most people knew it was just a bit of fun and it was no secret that it was me..probably couldn't do it these days. Hugs Q xx

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