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Profiles - What is the first thing you look at?
March 09 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
As far as attraction goes, I'm a visual creature first. Which is appropriate, as I'm not speaking with them in person here. If I'm not attracted to their face first...and it's the neck up that stimulates my interest most...I lose that interest rapidly.I certainly admire the many combinations of bone structure, skin, hair lips, eyes, and brows over close-ups of breasts or thighs.I'll still peruse a written profile if that primary photo doesn't interest me...but more out of curiosity than desire.And female forum personalities catch my interest when they change their profile pics too...particularly if it's a new one...or if they are just rotating existing photos. I think it's because after a while I have formed an inkling of the mind behind the face, the gentle smirk, the arched back or the high heeled ankle and so on.And their more fascinating for that.Contributing to these forums has practical benefits too, then.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Always look at the vision, I'm shallow. Actually, there's not much else that I care about. Helps if they are mixed or other race, I favour that, but not a deal breaker either way. There are a few nationalities however that are a definite no, based on experience, not for me. I love middle eastern, various european, German, the U.S. and Canada have some horny ones too, fucking my way around the world hmm as far as deal breakers, it's usually lack of pictures, or those pictures where they look like an ex con lol or a current one 😯
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RHP User
9 years ago
But I go to the interests section first, then the other data! Like you Taby, I'm not looking for size, I like my men average in length and don't mind girth :) I look for a 'well-Rounded' profile that has some thought put into it. An 'ask me' in relationship will have moving to the next profile quickly! Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
The in my own words section is first, just to see if there is something as I need to have that kind of connection and second is lifestyle as they need to be single for me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Single and non smoker. Dick size doesnt interest me unless its over 9 inches then I pass.....too big for me. Ive had a big one before and I know I am more comfortable with average! But these are the first things I look for.
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RHP User
9 years ago
With couples I look to see if they are both bi, then I look at body then fetish, then I read. If sexual and fetish preferences are blank I rarely read further.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Where they're located then are they a smoker. If I keep looking and too many ask me..... Not interested - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
But yes you covered everything we look at Taby in almost the same order ;)However we also check to see if they have used a template for their profile if they have they go to the bottom of the list and do people without pictures and nobody picks people from the bottom of the list.
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RHP User
9 years ago
how complicated things can become when we set our ideals. We might like this , then we might not like that. When you consider profiles can be and are dudded up to attract attention only complicates things further. However , it's good to see some of you ladies owning up to size is not everything. I consider myself average and state that in my profile much to the disgust of the size queens .lol. But I would rather be known as something rather than the size of my dick. How shallow. I'll pass on a profile where someone thinks their list of wants and don't is the be all and end all. However a attractive open personality where you can interact with the person is much much more comfortable where you can be both be yourself.. I'm in my 3rd month here and feel somewhat dissillusioned by some of these expectations.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Single, non smoker and guy must be straight. They are my must haves. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Its picture first - does it attract. If sunglasses or some other sleazy look, ms fr33 isnt interested... And then dick size, if too large ms Fr33 isnt interested. - Posted from rhpmobile
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ImpressMeTemptMe
9 years ago
It is so true! The things I look for being location, endowment, photos, non-smoker and if they have taken the time to write something about themselves. Bonus points are awarded for a SOH that makes me smile or laugh. I have quite particular tastes in men (sorry ladies!) so I check for those. I suppose if you are looking through profiles all the time, you create a 'system' that works for yourself to find what you are looking for.
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Badbabe469
9 years ago
Interesting read. For me it pictures first. After all we are hear for the attraction and desire to do wild things with each other yeah? So first I have a look for sexy tummies. (ohhh I love tummies) The rest I am flexible on. As for Bi or Str8.... small town I live in. Have to be careful what I put as SOO many people are narrow minded
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'll look at the stats first, attached and smoker are dealbreakers. Also location...I'm not here for penpals and I'm terrible at keeping up long distance communication so there's not much point if the guy doesn't live near me (exception to that is other forum contributors). I'll look at cock size if they have it listed, I'm another one who can't take really big cocks, even 8 inches is getting into no go territory for me because I know from past experience it will limit positions and how hard the guy can go. Then I'll read the blurbs, templates are usually another dealbreaker. Then look at pics, no pics or all cock and / or action shots generally another dealbreaker. If they don't have a face pic then it will depend on the rest of the profile as to whether I'll query that with them, but considering I specifically state in my profile that I need to see face pics I don't put up with any stalling or excuses there.
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ruby_blossum
9 years ago
AgeRelationship statusLocation ....then I will take the time to read the rest of the profile.
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MrMechanic
9 years ago
What gets me walking is expansive lists, half of which state the obvious.List of things they hate.Haters gunna hate, but I don't want to be around people with lists of "hates", IME they also have a tendency to include all the things they don't like in their conversation that I find depressing listening to.Anti anything zeal including the anti smokers, same as the above.Activists of any kind = bitter sad zealots to meAnything that looks negative Nelly and I'm gone.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I go straight to what they've written and don't look any further than that unless they've either sparked my interest or I'm bored and just viewing profiles. Cock size doesn't factor into it at all. If after reading im still intrigued, I will look at their interests and stats but only to see what they are looking for. And then if they have a face photo. Don't care about bodies (not that hot bodies aren't peeve worthy), but I'm the same as Kool. If I can't connect with the face that's it. It's not about being a model, it's just something in their look I find interesting - hard to explain.m
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discreet3000
9 years ago
If a couple profile I always check if male is straight. If not then they are not for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
smoker status followed by safe sex level then relationship status
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thought I should clarify that one! Kool - so after reading your comment I am dying to know which of our lovely forumite ladies intrigues you? Willing to share?
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Service_man
9 years ago
I have been having a chuckle on content of this thread. and most of you lovely ladies with a brain have worked it out. You are not going to have much joy with a larger dick.Pain comes to mind. Reason:According to a woman doctor in a book I read some time ago (scource I am trying to retrace) A woman has nerve ending only for the first 3rd of her vagina so the extra length does nothing except cause pain when it sometimes hit the neck of the cervix. The cervix entrance gets pushed out of the way automatically when penetration occurs.So its girth thats more important for pleasure rather than length. Is this your experience?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Cause your profile is verging on not being upbeat. Sorry. Just couldn't help myself 🤓
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RHP User
9 years ago
Usually we check a few things in order: Pics - If no pics or of a guys junk we'll usually browse somewhere else Body type - If atheltic we'll usually pass as most aren't interested and we'd be wasting our time Orientation - Big tick if woman is bi Drinking - We enjoy having a few drinks when we meet someone (though it's not a dealbreaker) Friends list - If we go through their friends list and notice its all six packs and gymbods we don't go there. Obviously not their type. And of course what they've written about themselves. If they come across as someone who takes themselves too serious and/or has a very high opinon of themselves we'll hit the next button. We'd prefer to meet down to earth people who know how to have a good time than those with their noses in the air looking down on people. Its more about enjoying peoples company and having a good time for us. Of course, a level of attraction is also required, but if someones opinon of themselves supercedes their ability to enjoy themselves we aren't interested in any way, shape or form.
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Mr_MrsAraps
9 years ago
Smoking status, location, are they a couple that have pictures of both the guy and girl (or able to provide in PG) and finally from there profile blurb do I they strike me as someone we could have an ongoing connection with outside the bedroom as well as inside as mrs and I are not into randoms or one off fucks. The exception is talking with forumers :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Leon888' I have been having a chuckle on content of this thread. and most of you lovely ladies with a brain have worked it out. You are not going to have much joy with a larger dick.Pain comes to mind. Reason:According to a woman doctor in a book I read some time ago (scource I am trying to retrace) A woman has nerve ending only for the first 3rd of her vagina so the extra length does nothing except cause pain when it sometimes hit the neck of the cervix. The cervix entrance gets pushed out of the way automatically when penetration occurs.So its girth thats more important for pleasure rather than length. Is this your experience? To answer your question, if the guy doesn't have a big dick, realistically, not many do, the skills and love of a woman's body, has to be there, pleasure comes for me through oral with less endowed partners. For penetration, I'd take a big dick any day of the week. And here's the thing, we have babies out of there, too big or at least too thick? I think not. I've had two babies and they came out just fine Too big as in length, when you start talking 10 or more inches, then yeah, the full length can't be accommodated and is difficult more for the man because be has to try to stop it going all the way in. My gspot is very shallow so I get what you're saying about the nerve endings but I've only ever had a couple of guys made me squirt through penetration, and they were large. I have changed my view on size though having found a few guys who were extremely talented in other areas. End of the day, big, small, fat, skinny, it's about the skill level
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RHP User
9 years ago
when I say they came out just fine, it hurt a bit lol and split the skin oops that's too much information
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RHP User
9 years ago
everything back to normal now, good to go
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RHP User
9 years ago
forgot I always look at age first before even opening a profile, start with the youngest
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' Thought I should clarify that one! Kool - so after reading your comment I am dying to know which of our lovely forumite ladies intrigues you? Willing to share? No...Sorry. I wasn't being ambiguous before...but of course, some people change their main pic often.Besides, I respect most of my female forumites enough that I wouldn't name names and gush on about who I think is pretty and intelligent and so on in public. That's mundane....and I'm sure they'd think so too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Pictures and... ... relationship for single profiles. ... attitude for couples. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Some love being stretched with length and girth, many cant stand it. Off topic but.... I find all sorts of different people interesting, so many profiles interest me. Smokers or here for LTR or (??) people who despite what RHP say actually are not looking for me-> moving along. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
is a photo. I love looking at different, artistic, quirky, unusual, not the usual run of the mill photos , just showing effort and new ideas. Both of men and women. If you haven't got a pic I don't even give the profile a second glance. After that I check the length of the profile. Any templates, "ask me" or a profile that shows minimum words, gets passed over straight away. IMHO if they put no effort into their profile which is about "selling themselves" then my belief is that they will put minimal effort in any time we spend together. I have tested this theory and found it to be true in my experience I also look for any negative comments about time wasters, baggage, words like nutcase etc. Tells me you have a few issues that may need addressing. I believe in starting off any potential meets full of positivity and although I'm sure we have all been on the receiving end of this type of behavior. Let it go. There are great people out there If at that point they have my attention, I look at their safe sex status. "If required" the profile is immediately dismissed and "attached" or "ask me" for relationship status is also dissed. I'm not judging, just don't need the hassle Size of penis is irrelevant. Its what he does and how he treats me long before we hit the sheets that is of more interest and importance to me. I don't have specifics about physicality, what appeals to one does not with another. I must admit I do like tall guys only cause I'm 5 8" and I like to wear heels, so taller is appealing to me, but not a dealbreaker. I do look for quirky, wit and self deprecating humour. I like words and I like to read, so the more info on a profile, the better I do look at their fetishes, but its not necessarily a deal breaker. I would prefer them not to smoke but again I'm ok with it if they are. Who am I to dictate ? I find at times TOO many friends or validations, off putting but to be honest, I'm not sure why I've also found that a verified profile is not necessarily what its made out to be. Had a unusual experience with that. And forum posts can be interesting as well. Text speak is a deal breaker, again, make a effort. IMO, its lazy.
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RHP User
9 years ago
the friends list and validations can put me off as well, depending on A. who's on there and B. how many or if they look like template validations/stamina is mentioned lol and they're a total waste of time as far as I'm concerned. Even if they are real, it's like a report card who's to say because you were into that person/them you, and the encounter went well, that it will be the same with someone else anyway, different people, different chemistry so don't see the point really. The only exception is couples looking for couples, think they can be useful there, though still wouldn't put too much faith in them. Some women have like, 700 friends if they're your friend, that's nice for you lol
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