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Profiles – getting it right

September 25 2020

There’s quite a few forums on the go at the moment, ranging from being tactful when you’re not interested, being polite when you’re not interested, wondering what others like to see (in your profile and photos), validations, you name it. What it all boils down to is this: what does our preferred audience want to see and how do we engage with them? You’d think it would be simple and it seems to be the hardest formula for the majority to crack. I know I have a really hard time engaging with people who don’t take the time to fill out their profiles. The profiles are there for members to get to know one another. To me, the biggest waste of money is when a member/couple has financially invested in their membership and used one of their messages to contact me, and there’s nothing in the profile. I will politely respond, but it will be to let them know their profile (or lack thereof) is why it’s not happening for me. So, for my first forum post, I thought I’d break it down and put out a few really simple hot tips out there to help structure profiles: 1. Stop and think about who you are and what you want and FULLY fill out your profile. It’s a flag for most people out there who are genuinely trying to participate in RHP to see messages and likes from people who don’t answer the fundamental questions or write something basic about themselves. Oh. And spell check. Seriously. 2. Write something authentic about yourself while trying to attract your chosen audience. This also applies to selecting your photos. If your profile states you’re a professional and you’re DTF and you use photos of yourself with a cigarette hanging out of your mouth, looking half drunk, while hanging out of a boat and possibly holding a fish (and you’re trying to attract women for a MFF), you are narrowing your quality options. 3. Verify your profile. Seriously, take the time to verify your profile. It doesn’t take that long and it provides you with a layer of authenticity. 4. Validations. This is a mixed pot and it’s ultimately up to you. However, if you’ve had a (very) good time and the person/s you encountered more than or exceeded your expectations, the validation process is the RHP equivalent of a Google review. So give one, but be truthful. It helps others here in the Pie world have positive encounters also. 5. Genitalia photos and action shots. If you want to keep a collection of this material for RHP, I strongly suggest you keep these in a second album and issue permission/access only on request or when consent is freely given. There is legislation in most states/territories that is very clear on consensual (or non-consensual) exposure. 6. Photos depicting other people. If you have photos of other people in your album/s, I hope for your (and their) sake you have blurred their faces. Regardless of whether you have verbal consent for taking the photos, you are using the photo in an adult forum. The photo could be you having dinner, however you are using their image potentially without consent. Be careful. I’m potentially creating a rod for my back by writing this post. And no, I’m not offering to write your shit for you. However the number of messages I’ve received lately (some from forum post creators) who have virtually empty profiles or their content was dry as toast (and equally as unappetising) has prompted me to help some of you out. Do yourselves a favour. Look at your profiles, invest a little time and write a little. Quality content = quality results.

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fishmonger

4 years ago

You have made this a philosophical contest and the reality and vision of this site is far from it. You may have the time and effort to be a Shakespearean on this war footing to reform the world of its common views and plain desires but you are in an innings by yourself trying fruitlessly to make RHP members politically correct. Give this up and be Mother Thresa reaching out to the poor n needy is my humble recommendation or apply for UN job!

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MsSuperFoxy

4 years ago

Sadly you can't make or force others to do what YOU want. It is a minefield out there. It is up to you to pick and choose which profiles you want to interact with. You are the one in control and are accountable. Choose wisely.

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The_Antichrist

4 years ago

Why do people need a disclaimer in order to use a little bit of commonsense to see the advice contained is general in nature ?? The only conclusion that I would take from this is the OP actually shows potential contractors the criteria with which SHE personally uses to measure suitable applicants... If anything she’s telling people how to seduce her, not the whole world....

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Phoenix_Rising

4 years ago

I really like for people to fill out their profile without help. I like blank profiles, they tells me everything I need to know right there. What people say and how they say it is as important as what they don’t say in my opinion and while a bit of guidance can be good it can also teach people how to pretend, and that’s not good.

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RHP User

4 years ago

I like my profile and I don’t really give a shit what others think.... lol

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Tall74nHard9

4 years ago

You could boil down everything you have noted down to 2 simple words - common sense ! Some people do have it, and some don't. Also with regards to having everything spelt correctly - yes that's nice, but not everybody on site has had a proper education and do have troubles with words (and may not know how to get / use spellcheck). Not everyone here are wizzes with computers / mobile phones. As you have mentioned, there re plenty of profiles that provide precious little detail (like about 99 % of new ladies profiles). I look at it, if they can't be bothered to fill in the basics - then I can't be bothered to make contact with them. Next ! Tall

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SpunkyFreckles

4 years ago

I ignore profiles without substance, as it is generally indicative of the substance of a person's character.

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fishmonger

4 years ago

And since this thread is for training and coaching purpose yes I am single and love to mingle; However I do get my fair share of 'is english your 1st language' ' are you I****n ' 'do you drive uber' n slurs not worth our precious ears. Hence although am straight as a gun barrel, would rather prefer dick pics if you know what I mean. Stay safe....this rona has slipped thru like a dick pic lacking the efferversence so needed in depravity!

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Sawadee

4 years ago

My preference is to meet happy fun loving women who dont take themself so serious ? Ive known women who are quite good with the written word and expressing themself' but were hugh turn off's because of the demands ? Its only my opinion but l dont think we need to be so politically correct on a sex site. Not saying we should accept just anyone that comes along , but we do need to do some of the footwork and stop placing unreasonable demands ...

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Kokoflamingo

4 years ago

No effort in profiles translates to me as lazy. Hoping that just by sticking a blank profile up they will still magically attract people looking for sexy fun. It weeds out people who are a waste of time and leaves room for genuine people worth investing some time in.

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RHP User

4 years ago

Excellent advice and opinions of.p. I've actually picked up a couple of tips there. Sorry to go side topic, but I was a add, I've found the forums to be a great screening tool also (from a shopping perspective). Some awful, arrogant, rude, demeaning, nasty and smartarse comments on here (yeah, I know, welcome to the internet)😂 But, it's great that they are allowed, because it really works!

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RHP User

4 years ago

Damnnn. That’s long 🥴

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bianca_dd

4 years ago

@ Missy T I just love this "what does our preferred audience want to see...." If you were trying to come up with something to make me fall off my chair laughing, you nailed it! My preferred audience?? Love it. Love it, love it, love it. That is so good. xxxx By the by my preferred audience is the least number of dipshits I have to weed through to find what I actually want

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badboyhere

4 years ago

Thanks for the post missyt. Very thought provoking commentary and has made me assess my own profile that I need to lift my standards. Thanks to you for your input

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RHP User

4 years ago

People will only show others what they want them to see. Like in life you have shy introverted people, and you have loud extroverted people. For the ones that don’t tell you a lot, if they hit you up for a chat instead of critiquing them on their ‘lack of profile’, talk to them. I get that some ‘confident’ people don’t want to spend the time to get to know someone because they’re time is too precious. It is a bit of a game, people tend to paint themselves a bit prettier on here than what they are in real life.

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