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Profiles of men who are in committed relationships.

July 28 2013

Tom here from the AllyKats equation. I’d very much appreciate some female insights into this question. But first a bit of context. Kat and I are in a loving relationship and have been for the past 3 years. Additionally on our very first date she said “If we get together you need to know I’m never going to be faithful to you”. Well I was pretty innocent back then and I thought “Wow that’s really in your face”. I’d only ever had monogamous relationships before. But ever willing to try something new, and quite frankly being completely smitten with her I decided to say “I think I can work with that”. So in addition to each other and playing with other couples from here we’ve also had FWBs throughout our relationship and it’s been fantastic fun for both of us. I am definitely a convert to open relationships Ok so to the issue at hand. Kat’s FWB dance card is full (it always is lucky girl) but my FWBs have both left Sydney and I find myself with an empty dance card. To date I’ve been lucky enough just to hook up with the occasional model who I work with (I’m a photographer) but I’m finding the age gap is getting awkward. So I’m thinking of joining the legion of independent males on RHP and creating a separate profile and my question is this. Is it a waste of time as a guy in a committed relationship to seek a FWB here? From the profiles I’ve seen the relatively few number of women seem to prefer unattached males. Whether you’re in an open relationship yourself or single would you even bother looking at a guy’s profile when it says he’s attached? Sorry to the Forum die-hards if this has been covered before but I couldn’t find a relevant forum topic when I went searching.

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RHP User

11 years ago

There are definitely those out there who seek what you are offering. It may be that married women seeking a FWB's might be the best match for you. My experience has been that when I was in a relationship I preferred to play with others who were similarly committed and once single, other singles suited me best.- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Quoting 'karynb' There are definitely those out there who seek what you are offering. It may be that married women seeking a FWB's might be the best match for you. My experience has been that when I was in a relationship I preferred to play with others who were similarly committed and once single, other singles suited me best.- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Thanks for that - I was thinking along those lines

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RHP User

11 years ago

Personally I wouldn't have a problem having a fwb arrangement with an attached guy, my only rule would be meet the other half first for a drink, clearly,u are doing that so id say put that on your couples profile as an option of what you seek :-) people appreciate honesty and being upfront :-))

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RHP User

11 years ago

OP quote;"But ever willing to try something new, and quite frankly being completely smitten with her I decided to say “I think I can work with that”."Run dear OP run. If you are in love run and never look back... With her saying “If we get together you need to know I’m never going to be faithful to you”. she is still waiting for someone else and you will end up on the sidelines, as now all you are doing is being her mr "you will do for now."

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RHP User

11 years ago

Thanks yes I was thinking of also changing our couples profile to indicate we also play separately but I'm not sure how much interest this would generate as its mainly couples looking at our couples profile.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Thanks Blindman but after 4 years our relationship is stronger than its ever been. Kat just wanted to make it clear from the outset that "committed" relationship for her didn't also mean "monogamous" and that's worked out well for both of us :-)

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RHP User

11 years ago

Of the both of you. Hang onto that woman, she is one in a million.

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RHP User

11 years ago

You better believe it - she certainly is :-) Thanks Justforfun

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RHP User

11 years ago

Quoting 'Blindman67' OP quote;"But ever willing to try something new, and quite frankly being completely smitten with her I decided to say “I think I can work with that”."Run dear OP run. If you are in love run and never look back... With her saying “If we get together you need to know I’m never going to be faithful to you”. she is still waiting for someone else and you will end up on the sidelines, as now all you are doing is being her mr "you will do for now." I never thought that you'd post something so jaded..... I pictured you as someone more open than that.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Her gain is also yours?

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11 years ago

Quoting 'paintme' Quoting 'Blindman67' OP quote;"But ever willing to try something new, and quite frankly being completely smitten with her I decided to say “I think I can work with that”."Run dear OP run. If you are in love run and never look back... With her saying “If we get together you need to know I’m never going to be faithful to you”. she is still waiting for someone else and you will end up on the sidelines, as now all you are doing is being her mr "you will do for now." I never thought that you'd post something so jaded..... I pictured you as someone more open than that. Oh... guess that was a little jaded but it was his statement "I decided to say “I think I can work with that”. " that elicited my response and the op's post had an air of, he must conform to her demand or its the highway. I do not wish to infer as to their relationship or to eithers character but I have never seen one sided love end happily. He is, in my view and with very limited information (on my part) in danger of heart break but then even if you may know that the journey can have an unhappy end it is still worthy of the walk.OP is a lucky man, I wish them the best. Yet in a open forum one must post from both sides of the fence, would hate to look like a sycophant.So now I will do a little soul searching........ Done, way too scary in there.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Most assuredly Ms PaintMe :-)

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