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Profiles on more than one site
June 23 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
...on multiple sites at once. Both 'vanilla', and sites like this. I guess the reason was mainly due to while I was looking for a bit of fun now and again, I was also open to the idea of a relationship with the right person too. And I (naively) thought that the 2 types of sites would be completely different as far as the people I would meet and their desires.A few years on, and I can now tell you, I have had more relationships with women I have met off this particular site alone, than with any of the others combined. Now this could be due to many reasons, but I personally think it's because people are a lot more open with themselves on here, than the other 'actual dating' sites.People are still people, no matter where you are, or what site you're tied to. The 'vanilla' sites still had/have deviates like myself on them. But maybe not as open due to the setting. Here, it seems people are still people, but just embrace a part of our lives that is fun and exciting a lot more, rather than suppress it.Yes, I like talking about general real world shit. I also enjoy talking about sex. I'm now exclusively on here, as I feel I have better conversations, with more like-minded people... P.S. - Love the new pic Astrild!
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
I never had the profiles on the vanilla sites, only the naughtier ones (RHP, Fetlife & Bi Australia) until recently that is..... I've come to the conclusion that they are all pretty much the same..... So I will stick to what I know, where I've leant the most from, where I've met a lot of friends from and what I enjoy, which is the forums of these sites.... If I meet someone, that wants what I'm looking for, that ticks my boxes, that I would give it all up for, then I will be a happy girl, if not then I'll still be a happy girl.....๐
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thank you :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
My profile is on another two vanilla sites.......I have tried to deactivate my accounts and I keep popping up again seemingly (eg guys on here saying theyve seen my profile elsewhere). I should email the sites involved but you know what, Im never on them now so I cant be bothered. RHP has been the best experience for me, so Ive moved in good and proper. Im enjoying being single with FWBs at the moment, and if I ever feel like I would like something more serious, I would hope to find that here, because Ive met a couple of lovely men and Ive enjoyed their company as well as the sex, so I cant see why RHP people shouldnt be able to meet a partner on here.Oh, and most of the guys I chatted to on the other sites are on here too
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Missb4u
9 years ago
hahahah only kidding. I'm in fetlife and a vanilla dating site. I find it's really all the same people. I think I am more leaning towards wanting a primary relationship these days rather than casual sex. Who knows where I will find it and I'm in no hurry but I'm more open to it then I have been in the past. I won't be forgoing my fuckit list though or ticking items off while I'm waiting. oh I recently went back on AMM to but will be shutting that down again. has anyone had any success with tinder? I must saying I found it a waste of time.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Apparently T is really good and even the "ugliest dudes" get heaps of sex or so I heard on the radio the other day. One bloke rang up and said he has had sex with 300 women in the past 18 mths!! I don't know. Can it be true? I have never even looked at it. Otherwise I opened a vanilla profile 6 mths ago and closed it after 3 hours. I received a few message and realised that i just hate online dating. Plus my heart is not really open to anyone new at the moment.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've honestly wondered that myself... I'm only on RHP as what I want isn't going to change depending on my audience. When I see people exclaim they're only looking for friends with benefits but then admit they have "vanilla" dating profiles as well, I can't help but wonder why??? I also agree with Doctor P, I have made some incredible friends from this site; both with benefits and without. RHP people are my kinda people it seems.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm such a dating site slut ๐ AMM, POF, RSVP, Zoosk, Tinder, swingers heaven, oasis, and fuck knows how many more that have been setup without my knowledge in their awe of my awesomeness.... What am I looking for?? Lol well....you'll just have to talk to me in a much more private setting and find out.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was on pof earlier in the year but shut it down as I like the people here made a couple of friends and the community feel. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was exclusively on RHP for 2 years, with an 8 month stint away when I became jaded lol. I have met a handful of really lovely people from here, that I have come to call friends ๐ In the last couple of months, I have come to realise that I do actually want more in my life, and set up a couple of profiles on vanilla sites. (And we all know what happened there lol) From the vanilla sites I have dated 2 guys, both one date each. Both who were emotionally stitched up and acted like I was trying to steal something from them.....neither was ready for the commitment they were advertising lol did they want to fuck me? You betcha lol did they get it? No. I really don't see much difference in any of the sites to be honest. I get hit on for sex in the 2nd message ๐ whatever site it is. Here it's usually the 1st message though lol If I was asked for a preference, it would definitely be RHP. Not for the sex but for the openness. I want to meet someone that is comfortable and open about their sexuality. And can have an honest conversation of what they need. And if it leads anywhere then great. If not I have made a new friend ๐
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RHP User
9 years ago
...is the first and only dating site that I've joined. It just seemed the logical choice really. Having my finger in multiplepies would just be diluting my efforts...or so it occurs to me.Also, I'm not keen on the idea of having different "personalities"( or profiles ) to suit different website dynamics.Which one is the real me? Obviously, I would know the answer to that...but I'm very comfortable in my skin by presentingmyself the same way across all social media that I use as I do in The Real World.I'm not several people on the living side of the computer screen...I don't see why I need to be on the other. I dislike unnecessary complication .
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RHP User
9 years ago
...for me it's spicy all the way. I'm comfortable with my desires/intentions and don't see the point in 'casting the net' any wider than the target audience (so to speak). A couple of friends (male and female) have accounts on vanilla sites as well and they freely admit to 'some inconsistencies' between their professed interests on the different sites. Personally, I'm not in favour of that type of thing and am happy just to stick with this kind of site and keep my message consistent: looking for casual sex, preferably ongoing but no relationships.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm on multiple sites. It's not the be all and end all, just a different avenue to meet different people from outside my usual playpen. I'm not wholly dependent on the online thing, it's just a different way to come to new people and experiences. Afer a while it becomes less of a game and I enjoy the chat's and forums and all that entails. If a meeting/encounter/relationship's meant to be, it'll happen. Met some people I'm still in contact with. Not necessarily with sex either. Made some good friends. I see it more as a socialising site more than a "sex"site. Would come in handy for interstate travels more I think. Wish I had money to travel more :( Never done "vanilla' though, so I can't answer entirely.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Apparently T is really good and even the "ugliest dudes" get heaps of sex or so I heard on the radio the other day. One bloke rang up and said he has had sex with 300 women in the past 18 mths!! one of my teammates is getting plenty via Tinder (as confirmed by his flatmates) apparently his "Tinder game is strong" - which is distinctly different from what I've seen of his "night club/bar game" which was doesn't seem to exist... so apparently they're very very different mediums.
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I was on vanilla sites my profile was headed with; "Warning, this man has a fully functioning libido" was brilliant, it scared off the spinsters and made the sexually functioning ladies laugh, what I did find though was yes just because people want good sex does not mean they just want to be promiscuous I mean what is wrong with dating or seeking a relationship with sexually competent and enthusiastic people ?There is definitely a set of people in both camps, I don't have a problem with it, for me it was a matter of casting the net wider, but I made sure the vanilla profile made the sexual aspect clearer to save time for both parties. I found there were quite a few sexual women on the vanilla scene who were just not quite brave enough to venture further.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm casting a wider net, and am in one other site (a "regular" one). There my profile is less sexually explicit, though I do make it clear that I'm looking for a FWB, not commitment. Funnily enough it was on that site I met my amazing couple about a year ago.
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RHP User
9 years ago
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Keepitsimple72' I've honestly wondered that myself... I'm only on RHP as what I want isn't going to change depending on my audience. When I see people exclaim they're only looking for friends with benefits but then admit they have "vanilla" dating profiles as well, I can't help but wonder why?? It's because they don't really know what they want, so they keep a foot in each camp. I laugh when people say in their profiles 'i'm happy with FWB, but I am also open to a relationship'. In life, you usually get what you focus on, so if you are confused or wishy washy, then that will be reflected in the men/women that you attract and the types of relationships you have
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tylannister
9 years ago
(Note to self based on RR's comments: Don't hit up a woman for sex until the 3rd message...) I was using RSVP for a while before coming here to RHP. In my profile there, I made it clear that I wasn't there to find my new life partner or soulmate, but that I was looking to meet someone that I could make a connection with - have that spark of chemistry with. When I first registered here, I initially thought I was looking for something different here - I thought I was looking for something casual, something NSA. I quickly realized, though, that casual sex wasn't what I was wanting. What I was looking for didn't change. If you were to compare my profiles on RSVP and RHP, my profile here is definitely angled more towards what I look for sexually while my RSVP profile is more fluffy "here are interesting things about me that maybe we have in common and we can talk about on a date." But it wasn't long after I started on the forums here that I set my profile on RSVP to 'taking a break' because I appreciate the openness and frankness here. Here, people have the guts to put sex on the table (the topic of sex, not literal, well, sometimes literal...) rather than tucking it away out of sight. Sex is an important part of the connections people make. I'd rather be somewhere we can talk about it openly rather than skirting the issue.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Great topic Astrild. I had been on and off dating sites over several years staying six months maximum. It came a point in my life that a relationship for me would only come about if I met someone with the same or similar interests in life as me (self sufficiency) but love making friends too. So I looked here as I could make friends, find a lover or that elusive relationship. I found on the vanilla sites I met more women, perhaps two a week but they were not interested in getting to know you if it wasn't some instant thing. Here I have conversations, meet females and also make good friends. The use of forums such as these give me a social circle to be part of, sure it may be online but it is what it is, very social. Love the comments and interactions from so many individuals. So for the whole package so to speak I like it here and am happy to tell others if they ever inquire.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am neither confused nor wishy washy, my needs over the last 2 years on RHP have & are changing & evolving. It's what we humans do. I wasn't ready or looking for commitment or a relationship when I joined, now I'm open to the possibilities.
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RHP User
9 years ago
RHP is my vanilla site. I come here to find the occasional stray and lead them to the dark side. I am not joking, RHP is rather tame.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Seldom log into one site, only if they send me a message. The other I keep an eye on and am at times active in discussions. People here have told me I should be on RSVP or POF because I am not into one night stands but I too have found the men on vanilla sites less honest about their intentions. I think the men here are a little more adventurous too. While I might not be into one night stands I at least want an adventurous playmate when I do decide to accept an offer.
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RHP User
9 years ago
pof , oasis , rhp , rsvp , zoosk and any other site i think are all the same when it comes down to it i have different profiles on each site but each site has offered me the same thing in return be it casual fucks , dating , chances of relationships had more wanna fuck messages from women on so called vanilla sites than rhp , rhp is for the fuck when you dont wanna fuck lets say the claytons fuck ! Cost money have to organise a merting jump through hoops be on your best behaviour and bingo ! Vanilla sites free to air just fuck and every relationship has gotta start somewhere and i dont give a fuck where it starts its the journey and destination that matters to me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ms Astrid..four years ago I decided after being celibate for a gazillions years..not sure whether I chose it or it chose me...that I wanted to experience a sexual relationship again..so I joined EHarmony...they had only just started in Australia and the only men they matched me with ,over three months.were Alaskan fishermen...who were er without wishing to be too rude,unpulchtridtudenous in the extreme ๐ณ..so then I joined Oasis and for a few years it worked for me..I rejoined recently but I no longer have the time r inclination for endless chatting ..I recently joined OK Cupid but lts of fakes and or men from the US of A...back here after a mini break but not being very proactive xxFreya..
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tylannister
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' ..I recently joined OK Cupid but lts of fakes and or men from the US of A...back here after a mini break but not being very proactive xxFreya.. What's wrong with men from the US? (No, no - don't answer that. I know the answer all too well.)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Of different sites. They're all the same really. At least on this one we all know it's just about aex. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70'I recently joined OK Cupid but lts of fakes and or men from the US of A Getting tired of the scammers there, I might check out Oasis too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I just string the scammers along...I get them onto kik and traumatise them lol it's like telemarketers but with pictures! ๐ I reverse image them, so far I've traumatised Brad Pitt, Yuvraj Singh & a U.S. Pilot that flies Italian tornadoes for the RAF Red Devils (dumb ass) lol I think I need to get out more ๐
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Fit73' Quoting 'Keepitsimple72' I've honestly wondered that myself... I'm only on RHP as what I want isn't going to change depending on my audience. When I see people exclaim they're only looking for friends with benefits but then admit they have "vanilla" dating profiles as well, I can't help but wonder why?? It's because they don't really know what they want, so they keep a foot in each camp. I laugh when people say in their profiles 'i'm happy with FWB, but I am also open to a relationship'. In life, you usually get what you focus on, so if you are confused or wishy washy, then that will be reflected in the men/women that you attract and the types of relationships you have I wouldn't necessarily agree with your statement that those of us advertising for a 'FWB' or possible relationship are wishy washy. I'm open to the suggestion of both. Why? Because I'd like to be in a relationship, but I don't need one. I enjoy my own company and am no longer prepared to just accept being in any relationship, just to say I'm in a 'relationship.' I would honestly rather be on my own. I don't want to sleep with anyone and absolutely everyone, being open to a FWB (and I do mean a genuine one) bridges that divide. And Astrid to answer your question, I started out here purely by accident. I spruced up an ancient profile as a dare to myself, after a breakup. I promised myself I would date for an entire year and not fall into a relationship under any circumstances. My undoing here was actually meeting someone who literally stopped time for me. Jumping straight into that relationship frying pan didn't seem necessary. Nor did I feel this hankering need to pester, and pressure them for anything to be instantly exclusive. Unfortunately and without any explanation they fell off that invisible cliff that so many man disappear off. And, communicating to a man that you are still open to their overtures borders between a fine line of proffering the olive branch, too many offerings and you come across as that loony tunes cartoon character. I guess for me it was the final straw. Unfortunately, you can't make someone like you as much as you do them, no matter how much you'd like to try and do so. I took a break from here and decided to try my luck on a more traditional dating website. I think the Vanilla site was actually the eye opener. I don't consider myself a particularly outrageous or wild person by any stretch of the imagination. The level of conservatism I encountered, and the almost compulsory requirement to mould yourself to societies narrow version of how you should act and be as a woman was nothing short of astounding. The further irritation was the inability of any of these men to actually grow a pair of balls and ask you out. All seemed more comfortable, and cozier with their lounge room and keyboard than a real life meeting. Seriously, if I wanted intimacy with a keyboard - I'd buy a subscription to a porn site! If I were to re-activate my profile on here or any other site it would be with the view now of simply widening my circle of acquaintances and social network rather than the assumption that I'm looking only for a FWB or relationship. The biggest revelation to me though (on RHP and Vanilla sites) was how so many people allow fear to rule their life. Asking someone out for a coffee or a glass of wine is 30 minutes of your life. The upside is you get a night out, company and a glimpse of another person's life and values. The downside, you don't click, and there's no chemistry, hence that saying nothing ventured nothing gained. The silver lining, is meeting the person by pure chance, who absolutely rocks your world. I've said this on a forum once before, but if you don't put yourself out there and put the mechanism's in place to meet people it is never going to happen. You don't meet and find that next great relationship or friendship by sitting in your lounge-room dressed in your dressing gown and slippers stuffing yourself on cupcakes night after night. It just isn't going to happen.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I had a profile on each site I could find, to cover as many people as possible. I was more interested in finding someone extra huggy wuggy back then. I went on dozens of dates, with lots of very nice women, interesting, fun, and everything a nice conservative man could want. I got rather good at the art of distancing my self as they never seemed to grab me by the goolies. They were just too nice. So I sexed up my profiles a little, still vanilla but a little more bedroom kapow. That did work and the dates moved to more playful women. But then comes the reality. Its a hard one to drop into the mix. I would wait until there was a private intimate something she shared with me. Then I would say."Thank you for sharing, I have something I have to tell you as well."They would be all ears, and there are not to many ways to say it."I am a bisexual swinger!" You have to love the long pregnant pauses as it sinks slowly in, first you can see them think "Did I hear that right?" then the eyes come back as they realize what i said. The half smile and slight squint of the eyes, now they are thinking "Joking right." I would shake my head from side to side. More looking into my eyes. Then they would look away and tilt their heads slightly down. That was when I knew I had lost them. Each fact Bi and swinger in them selves are shockers for most, combine them and it is a deal breaker for every woman I have ever met on a vanilla site. They were generally nice about it, after all they were nice people, but the discussion would go to life style and sexuality, oh hum. While when I meet a woman by chance in the real world and give them the low down the response that I want is about sex and parties. I want people that want to know about the fun a Bi swinger can have, not about how unfair the world is.. please spare me. So I gave up on vanilla sites altogether, to much wasted effort. I don't come here (RHP) for lose women, I come here for liberal minded women. I go to other sites to find the wild people. I can not enter into a sexual relationship without letting them know I am BI and that I am a swinger which for me preludes 95% of potencial lovers. i know that when I am approached they know who I am, then if they pass the image gal test, I never have to deal with the pregnant pauses again. On the weekend via another non vanilla site I went out to a private bomb fire party (non sexual) and had a great time talking about the joys a bisexual swinger can have with a can of Crisco and a box of latex gloves. Something you would not feel so comfortable talking about at a RHP meeting, something that at vanilla meet.. well... one wonders what would happen.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Good-looking God-fearing soldiers currently fighting in Iraq but looking for their true love. In Australia. They call me Dear and Pretty and expect to hear from me soon because they can tell I'm so beautiful and genuine and they sense they can trust me. Interesting how their grasp of the English is so poor. Ty, don't soldiers in your country speak it as a first language? I actually had one profile yesterday say: "I want to make clear I am not South Africa citizen, I just live here for the next year."
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RHP User
9 years ago
Look up Mike Bobrinskoy on Youtube, to see how he hilariously set up a scammer called Alexandra.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'morganaschild' Of different sites. They're all the same really. At least on this one we all know it's just about aex. I don't think this site is "just" about sex at all, and many here are looking for relationship or not looking to meet at all (like those just here for the forums). I do think we are all interested in sex here, and so I think if we're looking for people on similar wavelengths, this site has an advantage. (BTW There are plenty of swingers and people looking for casual encounters on OkCupid too).
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Missb4u
9 years ago
oasis is where my stalker hangs out regularly. Nasty nasty man. So be careful. Always different pics and a different name he has many profiles.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I had great fun with Mr Doctor Actor, who besides seeing patients was able to star in four movies alone this year according to the net. I don't know how he was able to go on dates on top of all that, but I never found out as he called me stalker and blocked me when I asked that question. :-P
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'DoctorPercival' I (naively) thought that the 2 types of sites would be completely different as far as the people I would meet and their desires. I would have assumed RHP customers were a different breed to the people you'd find on a vanilla dating site. It's interesting to find out - that it is a cultural difference found within the site. P.s. That is a great new pic Astrild
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tylannister
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Interesting how their grasp of the English is so poor. Ty, don't soldiers in your country speak it as a first language? You know, there's a push for the tolerance of other languages in the U.S., but I'm pretty damn sure you've gotta be fluent in English if you want to make it through bootcamp for any of the branches of the U.S. armed forces. (Whether or not the 'English' spoken in the military can truly be described as English because of its reliance on acronyms and armed forces jargon is another matter entirely. On a related, but completely off-topic note, my application to do my PhD program here in Australia was nearly denied because I was coming in as an international student and I had no International English Language Testing System results that I could provide. I told them that I recognized that I didn't speak Australian English, but that I had watched The Castle and was studying Kath & Kim and felt that I would somehow be able to manage.)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'tylannister' On a related, but completely off-topic note, my application to do my PhD program here in Australia was nearly denied because I was coming in as an international student and I had no International English Language Testing System results that I could provide. I told them that I recognized that I didn't speak Australian English, but that I had watched The Castle and was studying Kath & Kim and felt that I would somehow be able to manage.) That is absolutely priceless! Now, anyone up for a glass of ''cARdonnay'!
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RHP User
9 years ago
...I was watching an episode of "River Monsters" with "Jeremy Wade....biologist and extreme angler"( my hero ;) yesterday. This one was set in the Kimberley of Western Australia, searching for man eating river sharks( I love our national image :).Anyway....all the aussie's interviewed by Wade were subtitled! Marine biologists and the like. Are we really so difficult to understand on the other side of the pond?I expect it's to aid that demographic the show is aimed at.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'tylannister'On a related, but completely off-topic note, my application to do my PhD program here in Australia was nearly denied because I was coming in as an international student and I had no International English Language Testing System results that I could provide. I had to sit bot written and oral exams before they would give me permanent residency!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Freya, I just joined Oasis and I can barely keep up! Shame the only interesting guy (smokes "sometimes") said he only smokes when he drinks, after work and on weekends.
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tylannister
9 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' Are we really so difficult to understand on the other side of the pond?I expect it's to aid that demographic the show is aimed at. No, absolutely not! In fact, as a generality, Americans love Aussie accents. In an American tv show or cartoon, if they introduce a new character and want to emphasize how rugged or badass he is, they'll give him an Aussie accent. And American men totally go for a woman with an Aussie accent! Quoting 'Meander'I had to sit bot written and oral exams before they would give me permanent residency! I'm assuming you're from another nominally-English-speaking country, Mea? Yeah, that's nuts. I mean, for folks coming from non-English-speaking countries, I can understand, but even still, if all of your schooling has been in English, you should get some kind of pass. I had to explain that not only had I done all my schooling in English (including university), but that I had also spent the last 12 years writing public documents for U.S. government agencies. I damn well had better be able to speak English.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Keeps me busy enough!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander'Shame the only interesting guy (smokes "sometimes") said he only smokes when he drinks, after work and on weekends. haha, so pretty much limits it to "everywhere he is legally allowed to" ? ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
like the plague for the last few years. Decided I'd test the waters again and put a profile up, but specifying that I'm not looking for a relationship. Haven't even bothered to put any other details in the about me and looking for sections yet, but of course I straight away get guys contacting me who state in their profiles that they're looking for their soul-mate, partner in crime, the รณne' blah blah...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Once upon a time Aussies actors couldn't work in US due to there accents, was pretty funny watching them try to speak seppo. And now I can't think of an example, anyone ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
English is not my first language. ... and what Luckdragon said. Of course here I just got a message from a man who wants to meet whenever he's in Sydney (no) and is married (nooooooooooo).
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RHP User
9 years ago
Did they subtitle Crocodile Dundee for the US market?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not a native Australian and while I do come from an English speaking country, I have to admit that I had a few problems getting to grips with the Aussie accent for the first few months after I moved here. Now after being here for 17 years, it's my friends back home having issues understanding my accent lol.
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RHP User
9 years ago
A few months ago I was looking for something very specific for a one off, and I created a guest profile looking for just that. Logic behind it was that it would save me having to trawl through lots of profiles looking for my one thing... seemed easier to let people offering it to find me. Yes, yes, I'm lazy! I ended up finding what I was looking for IRL, and closed the profile down a couple of weeks after I put it up. Got a message today from a guy asking if I had another profile on here, and I was remembered it. So, curious now to know if anyone else has or has had multiple profiles on RHP? Other than couples, of course, who may have single profiles too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I understand you... I recently told my lovely platonic lady friend that I was seeing (but both looking for more), that I was in the swinging scene, as I would not get further involved with anyone without being open and upfront. I met her via RSVP (as I did my former girlfriend). As you can see, I used the word "was"...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I too had a profile on RSVP for a very short time. However I did meet a guy for coffee. He was very nice but post coffee the getting to know phew was really difficult. Mostly via text, which creates its own issues but we both led busy lives. I remember sitting down and thinking this was too hard. If you can't open up more easily then what's going to happen when we hit the bedroom? Having had poor and mediocre sex for most of my life I decided to be selfish. So I logged on here. Although my preference will always be to explore my sexual needs within a relationship. Until I meet that person I am more than happy to have a FWB. Or 2. Intrestingly the guy I had coffee with from RSVP became a paid member on here this week. And got in contact.......due to the face picture! After initially saying I had no idea who it was.....which is true, we have messaged back and forth with ease. And although we are not going to be FWB it was interesting to see how much easier communication is when sex is up front and not a taboo subject.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'jennifer102' I too had a profile on RSVP for a very short time. However I did meet a guy for coffee. He was very nice but post coffee the getting to know phew was really difficult. Mostly via text, which creates its own issues but we both led busy lives. I remember sitting down and thinking this was too hard. If you can't open up more easily then what's going to happen when we hit the bedroom? Having had poor and mediocre sex for most of my life I decided to be selfish. So I logged on here. Although my preference will always be to explore my sexual needs within a relationship. Until I meet that person I am more than happy to have a FWB. Or 2. Intrestingly the guy I had coffee with from RSVP became a paid member on here this week. And got in contact.......due to the face picture! After initially saying I had no idea who it was.....which is true, we have messaged back and forth with ease. And although we are not going to be FWB it was interesting to see how much easier communication is when sex is up front and not a taboo subject. Maybe I am after reading that, but isn't that the whole mystique, the mystery and aura of finding out what's behind the screen.The attraction to meet, inquire and get to know more about that person in Real life"what's going to happen when we hit the bedroom" gees seriously, personally i don't want to read what maybe in store from a written menu
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tylannister
9 years ago
Quoting 'Astrild' So, curious now to know if anyone else has or has had multiple profiles on RHP? Other than couples, of course, who may have single profiles too. I registered a profile here about a year ago, shortly after I first heard about RHP from some friends. I think I used some atrocious username like "Colonel_Angus" or something equally horrible. I vaguely remember putting up a pretty basic profile, but didn't really get into using it. Certainly didn't even peek into the forums at the time. When I decided to sign-on again more recently, I tried to dig up my old account, but I had apparently deleted all my emails about it and couldn't find it. Frankly, for the effort I had put into it at the time, it was no big loss.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree there is a mystique, and the getting to know each other part is great. For me the realisation was about me, and what I needed. It wasn't about who I met, or where, it was about realising who I am and not being ashamed of it. Deluding oneself. By no means would I meet someone in a bar on a night out and say " hi my name's.....And your super hot. I love sex. Now that's out of the way let's get to know each other" Although I wonder what would happen if I did
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RHP User
9 years ago
Meet Scottish men but when I do their accents make me dribble ๐.particularly if they are from Glasgo.I have however met a man for coffee from another site who was from Edinburgh ,he barely spoke.obviously my great beauty stunned him into silence ๐ณ..One of my favourite film makers is Ken Loach ,he made a film set in the Gorbals of Glasgow..that had subtitles xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm a sucker for a Scottish accent too :) We're having a maintenance shut down at work next week & I can't wait because there's a Scotsman who only comes up to site for shut down work. He's 6'2", drop dead gorgeous and, unlike the man you met, he loves to talk :) Somehow I always manage to find an excuse to 'audit' the work he's doing, just so I can get to hear him dribble on. Luckily he has no idea of the things I fantasise about doing to him, otherwise he'd be running a mile lol.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Like Stir-Stir I'm on more sites than I remember, some are absolutely laughable. You click on a profile and then the next thing "she's" online and hot for and dribbling crap in lousy English, as does the next...and the next. It's all quite educational, RHP to its credit is not tarred with that brush.I've had one site threatening me with German lawyers to pay up my renewal before I can resign from the site. BWAHHAHAHAAnyway it was a free site that got me in touch with my special lady friend, she found me among her matches.
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RHP User
9 years ago
but I like sex. I have tried a vanilla site for about 3 months but couldn't be bothered with all the crap some of the males went on with. I don't want a Mills and Boon novel I want a man with a brain and a sense of humour who likes sex and if he likes some of the other things that I do too, well, that's a bonus. I nearly cashed in my chips a couple of years ago and it gave me the insight to realise that "Mr Right" may never enter my life but while I'm waiting some "Mr Wrongs" could be a lotta fun to spend the time with.
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