M56
Profiles....beyond the basics and a photo - are they that important?
July 17 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
your profile would appeal to many women,nice pics,intelligently written ,no ambiguity BUT and this is a biggie, YOU ARE A GUEST....you can't contact anyone, apart from sending a flirt.Most women are guests ,they have one message a week to send. You need to upgrade so that you can be proactive in your search.x Hugs H
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RHP User
12 years ago
Gorgeous, enticing pics. Well written, clear profile. Women tend to wait to be contacted - upgrade, start contacting, send considered/cheeky/personal messages and see what happens ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
And lil bit topped it You have great pics and a nicely written profile.... But in my opinion you aren't serious as a male if you don't upgrade your membership And (this is my again my own opinion) although you clearly state what you want/need/desire and that's perfectly fine, I for one wouldn't contact as I think what your looking for is a little unrealistic.... My impressions is that you aren't flexible and that's a quite a list for a lady to live up to ....as I said just my humble opinion, but hell what i'm looking for too is also unrealistic so what would I know !!!! I hope your enjoying Perth, its unseasonably cold but if you look out your hotel room window rite now your about to see yet another beautiful amazing sunset !!
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RHP User
12 years ago
On the one hand, you say you're not needy or fishing, on the other hand, the last line of your OP is "How does an old fashioned country boy get noticed?" One thing I did do when looking at profiles, was check their history. Yours has one forum in it, and one alone. This one. You aren't a contributing conversationalist, you haven't put yourself out there in forumland to make buddies, you've just jumped in with "lookatme! Lookatme!" like so many other guys. Sure, you've done it a little more eloquently than most of them, and at least you bothered to fill out a profile, upload pics, and wait for them to clear before you started the thread, but really, it's effectively sprinkling a little glitter on the exact same "invitation" (lookatme!). I'm sure if you read this post objectively, you'll see the point I'm trying to make, and hopefully not just jump up and down and have a tanty about "heavy-handed critiques" :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
And just another thing ( I can see I'm bored on the train trip home...forgot to charge my Kindle :() You have a really unusual username and I'm sure there is a story there but for some it's hard to pronounce , hard to remember, and hard to spell Just a thought How's Melbourne treating you Ms Vagabond ? ...Perths not the same without you
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RHP User
12 years ago
love your profile name.....such a change from throbber...8inches4u....biggusdidikkus...etc
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've had many more days where I've been driving, and I've stopped at a red light, and I've looked up and gone "wow!" Green, green, grass! Trees, lights, sunrises to make an artist weep... Architecture, ponds, birds! Possums! Lol. I'd love to give you a "critique" of the nightlife, too, but my last-minute shag ended up being my follow-me-lover and I'm afraid you'll just have to come visit and find out ;) Perth doesn't get to miss me, I won't be gone long enough! :P back on topic, though... as much as it galls me to hand out "how to pimp yer own ass" fliers, you should try reading some of the other 53 gazillion forum threads *just like this one*. There, I helped :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
just in case I come across as a total bitch (which, of course, I am), I agree with both comments regarding your username. Would be a bitch to remember but intriguing :) its nice to see some originality!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'Vagabonde'One thing I did do when looking at profiles, was check their history. Yours has one forum in it, and one alone. This one. You aren't a contributing conversationalist, you haven't put yourself out there in forumland to make buddies, you've just jumped in with "lookatme! Lookatme!" like so many other guys. Let me say that as a result of my forum comments, the amount of mail I have received is exponentially more, than before I became active in these discussions. But it could just be because you're hot :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you show the folk in these here forums how good the teeth on your horse are. You'll get noticed.And the people who message you, though few, will be lovely. A sort of build it and they will come approach with some self filtering. All the "Time Wasters", as some people call them, are off banging out 2 liners to 25 other randoms..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks to you all - I'm grateful for the commentary and will make the appropriate effort/sIncidentally "ilbisonte" means "the bison"........I used it as a moniker for no particular reason; it's the brand tucked into a corner of my briefcase - it's understated but manly - Perhaps that's what I was going for at the time - who knows.it's been a fun exercise so far
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RHP User
12 years ago
definately agree with the upgrading account ... have to say that when I look at a profile and it says Guest - I don't bother looking any further ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
You need to be proactive in your approach, send messages to people that actually match your desires. The content of the notes you send should explore what is advertised in your targets profile. You really need to sell yourself in a place like this. Once a dialogue starts flowing, just build on it - important to be consistent.At first we thought, wow so many profiles to choose from, but after a while you realise they are not all for you.Also, more often than not, people will be busy with someone else, so keep your profile name active in their minds by sending interesting message every so often, that way when they're free they'll think of you.If you're in here for the long haul, you'll find patience pays off well, as you get to know people you tend to be surprised by what comes your way. Also we found chatrooms & 1 on 1 chat not too fruitful. A few messages, a phone call to verify & then actually meet up, always worked for us.btw - helps a little if you can send messages - maybe paying up may help !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks heaps mate!!! You have just saved me half an hour's worth of typing because I was just about to post the same question on here myself! I've been starting to think that I must look completely unattractive or retarded or something because I never get any views, winks or messages (or replies) either..and I am a paid up member who has sent quite a few messages to girls, only to find that my messages are still unread after a few days/weeks, even though the same girls have been online everytime I've been on here..It's really starting to eat at my sense of self-worth and confidence hahaha..I would like to know what any of you lady readers on here think?
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justswingingbi
12 years ago
There isn't a single thing wrong with your profile. ;) But as the girls above have said, being proactive is a big plus. As a couple we very rarely send messages (we too are guests) but a wink can be enough to draw a message from us. As for paying for membership, do or don't as you please, but remember it is restricting if you don't. We are fortunate to draw enough interest without paying, but a single male has an uphill battle, particularly with the "you're not serious if you don't pay" mindset. CheersMrsJustswingingbi
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RHP User
12 years ago
...I'd send you a message, OP :) I like your profile. Articulate, to the point, not pushy or sleazy. Photos are classy (loving the black and white), and not just chest/abs/package/penis photos like you always see floating around here. Read profiles carefully, and structure your emails around what you've read to engage your audience. Demonstrates attention to detail, and an interest in the person themselves as opposed to just being a fleshier version of a blow up doll.But first of all, upgrade!Good luck :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Women like/love being pursued and if you aren't able to let them know you are interested in pursuing them they aren't likely to be interested in pursuing you. Men just don't get it sometimes. you could look like or even be Brad Pitt and I doubt you would get a look. Good Luck Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'supadooper'Thanks heaps mate!!! You have just saved me half an hour's worth of typing because I was just about to post the same question on here myself! I've been starting to think that I must look completely unattractive or retarded or something because I never get any views, winks or messages (or replies) either..and I am a paid up member who has sent quite a few messages to girls, only to find that my messages are still unread after a few days/weeks, even though the same girls have been online everytime I've been on here..It's really starting to eat at my sense of self-worth and confidence hahaha..I would like to know what any of you lady readers on here think? I agree even if you send a message sometimes the woman can't even be bothered with reading it or looking at your profile. Its a cruel world so don't let the lack of response get you down mate, there are nice women out there who aren't being bombarded with flirts/messagea and who will take the time to reply even iys in the negative. Agaim good luck. Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks heaps justswingingbi! I can't believe I got a response on here at last hahaha!!! I'm glad you liked my profile, but I still don't know how to be more pro-active if I can't even establish contact in the first place?? Apart from sending flirts or messages and relying on my stunning good looks (haha), the challenge for us guys just seems to be getting noticed..I don't want to spill my heart out or act like a sex starved maniac in a first message, so I suppose I'm a little bit confused as to what you girls want to hear....but then again I am a guy after all hahahahaha
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RHP User
12 years ago
Get a sexy photo up to your main profile pic- use this as a bait to lure them into looking at your profile. Become a member and get yourself verified so now that they are checking out your profile they think that you are real.Write a well written profile information, which a lot of female here have had given you feedback already.If you are still not getting noticed- go to date finder and express your interest for any date that macthes you, go to chatroom to meet people, comment on forums.I think it's very much like the 'real world' where you have to do things and go to places to meet people. Here is the same, you may get lucky just having a profile and waiting for a hot lady/couple to contact you, but it will take a while.
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inspirit
12 years ago
be a lady at dinner over a few Bollinger's at a romantic table drapped in white and dressed with fine silver, then cab it back to the penthouse overlooking the Indian Ocean and treat you like a nympho oh your profile ummmmm.
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RHP User
12 years ago
while some women see you as someone whos not prepare to make the effort because you are a guest!!!! ha!!!! it works either way, some woman who are guest dont make the effort either.................
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a Platinum Plus member, i send messages, i have a photo,,,,, but still no replies!!!!! Does my photo look like im a freak ?? Have i beem to honest in my profile?? ..... Lots of ladies who say they want to play,,, but do they really?? Could use some help here please,, what am i doing wrong????
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RHP User
12 years ago
I do believe I have told how I stated getting a little more notice in the Chats.. quite a few years ago.. BUT, thsi is what I do.. Consider that I am little behind the black with the image I portray - ie: a fckn caveman. However, i get on the chat rooms, and have a little fun... I check out forums and SOMETIMES send a respectful comment on what I see... IF the profile shows the person as being someone of interest. I comment often on the forums, and sometimes start a new one. I check out those who comment, and every now and again, send an email on the comments made. Does it get me sexed up? Let's put it this way... IF I was all about sex every night, I would be going down the pub now, and not typing on this bloody computer. Why? Simple really.. because I dont have a problem getting laid when i go the hotel... Thank you Brewers!!! "Alcohol!!! getting caveman laid since the start of... well.. since forever I reckon.." I often read profiles...and womder WHY some of us are even on here.. OK... Women.. sick of the pub scene... happy to troll through profiles, knowing they are WAAAAY ahead on male/female percentages?? Maybe, maybe not... But boys.. look at it this way... IF you are sick of the pub scene, and looking for someone decent, then don't limit yourself to RHP... get on them all!!!!! improve your chances... get in front of more girls. IF you are looking for sex, go back to the pub and rely on alcohol, not your sexual resume. Otherwise.. be patient, and you will eventually tickle SOMEONES fancy... BUT.. FFS stop being a cheapskate.. You go the the hotel and spend $100 bucks trying to get ONE girl drunk enough to fck you.. Spend three nights worth of drinks, and become a platinum member.. then you have a whole year to impress 5000 girls.. FFS guys... stop showing your ignorance and stop showing the girls you are trying to impress that you are a sookie lah lah.. caveman.. in basic thoughts
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RHP User
12 years ago
Firstly, you have one face pic that I had to adopt a yoga position to read,secondly all your other pics are restricted, so as a guest I am underwhelmed by the grey ghosts, in other words guests can't view your penis pics. Thirdly ,your profile reads as a root and run,you are literally all over the place,here,there ,everywhere. Perhaps you could invest a bit more time in your profile, it is your best advertising tool,as opposed to the other tool. x Hugs Hesione Helpful
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RHP User
12 years ago
The in your face profile cock shot is off putting.... A cock is cock is a cock and you have to deferentiate from all the other lads on here Plus change the intro on your profile .... No one needs to know nor do they care about your failed relationships , we've all had them, and your comments come across as a little bitter Just an observation
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you for the profile tips,, i'm gunna work on it real hhard
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Well Sub your pic scares the crap out of me so i wouldnt look at your profile... And i like to see the face im meeting up with gee it could be like sub....sorry babe, Yes as a guest all you can do is flirt gets you no where... you look like you have a great body so sell the whole package i say
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RHP User
12 years ago
This is a great thread. Thanks for all the information and "tips", very informative. My wife and I have a couple's profile on here, and usually don't have too much trouble finding other couples to play with when we are looking. Since we have started getting excited by the idea of each of us playing alone I have been wondering what difference would be like when searching as a guy compared to a couple. I've not had the time to devote to searching and updating my profile yet, however this thread has proved insightful in my understanding :) Thanks again, and I hope everyone has a deliciously wonderful day! :)
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