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Prostate massage & Pegging, what to do next

July 08 2019

Hi everyone, i just responded to a topic just now relating to Rimming, which both myself and my partner are fine to do on each other as part of our sex routine, the nice pleasurable things we do to each other before the "shagging" bit begins :) Anyway, been with my partner 29 years, and i never exposed my real passion for Anal play until around 10 years ago as i always knew my partner was not into it herself, and that was when we first tried anal sex and she hated it. Not long after that failed anal sex attempt was made, i got the courage to tell her that i had a passion for light Anal play, and when i say "light" i mean just using small average thickness vibrating dildo's and probe like toys that i can manipulate inside me to hit my prostate, which i can then achieve multiple orgasms if it is done correctly. She doesn't mind that i like this, and often as part of our sex play (toy use) she will grab one of my toys from our toy box and use it to massage my perineum and anal area (after applying the lube) and she will often tease me by inserting the toy just inside me, but she won't do it for very long, and will often pull back and tell me to finish it off by myself, which can be a bit of a let down for me, as i so want her to do it for me and have her enjoy watching me orgasm from the prostate massaging, and if it hits the bladder, well then the waterworks will begin as well. On top of the Anal play and Prostate thing, i have always wanted her to "Peg" me using a smallish sized strapon dildo that i bought a few years ago, one that has a specific shape to it that allows for prostate massaging while thrusting, but i put that thing away in a storage box as i knew that was never going to happen either. I don't want to push this with her, so in many cases now i just don't bother with my toys, and even stop her from rimming me if she tries to do it during foreplay, as it is just a letdown for me to have her get so far, them have her tell me to finish it off myself. My partner did apologize to me a fair while back for not wanting to participate fully in my anal play, and did suggest to me that if i found someone who would do this for me as part of a massage then she would be fine with that, as long as i don't screw her, which is not what i would be wanting to do anyway. I did find a few Asian girls (students) who advertise in the paper that say they will do prostate massages a part of their services to men, and if they were much older i would have been tempted to book a visit to one of them, but that seems like a very unfair thing for me to do, and if i was to tell my partner about it, maybe she may think differently than she did before and think i am a bastard. Anyway, what do you ladies out there think, would you be into sharing this "fetish" with your partner if it was something that he was into, as i don't know how to approach this any more, i have tried several times to get her to go all the way with me, but she still won't do it, even though she knows i really enjoy it. Cheers, and thanks for listening.

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RHP User

5 years ago

But we can assess the risk of doing it with someone else and of maybe ruining our relationship. Some people are so obsessed by sexual fetishes that they could maybe lose the person that means the most to them.

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RHP User

5 years ago

I would never try to force my partner to do anything that she did not like, in my case i know that she 100% enjoys going as far as she does with my anal play, and i know that she loves how much i enjoy the results when i do take over and finish it off myself, for her to not follow thru with the rest of the act i think comes down to cleanliness, as it can be a little bit messy, especially with the lube mixing with the water that is left inside me after having an enema during my shower, but that is about as bad as it gets, i go to great length to make sure that no other accidents happen during this time. I guess that i could just go to one of these Asian students and have them perform the anal play on me and pay for it, not telling my partner, and hope she won't find out, this would be a one off experience as i would never want to pay for this sort of thing on a continual basis. I could wait until we have our next sexual encounter, and entice my partner into carrying out her usual practice, and try to encourage her to go all the way and share in my excitement, and see how she feels after that, IF she stops when she usually does, i just raise the subject with her and see if she still tells me that it is ok for me to have it done elsewhere, and hope that she doesn't get pissed off with me if i did do it, citing something like "i thought you was only joking" I know it may just be a fetish, but it is important to me as i get so much satisfaction and excitement from it, and if done properly after a shower and an internal cleanout, it should be an enjoyable experience for both partners. My partner doesn't have any real fetishes or unusual sexual desires, the only thing that i can think of is that she loves being spanked very hard on her butt cheeks with a leather paddle strap that i bought a few years ago, an act that actually causes her to become very aroused the more i spank her. I cannot think of anything that my partner may want to do that i would not want to experience with her, but i will never force her to do something on me that she was not 100% comfortable with.

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OkeyDoke45

5 years ago

G'day Greg, you have already indicated in your post that your wife would be okay with you exploring butt play with another, yet you are hesitant to enlist a sex worker. Why is that exactly? I would broach the topic again with your wife, discuss it seriously with her, say ''look, I really want to go ahead with this but only if you are genuinely okay'', and if she is still genuinely okay with it - then go for it. I'm sure you would find no end of sex workers (and not just ''Asian'' by the way) who will do anything to you that they want for the right price.

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AnnieWhichway

5 years ago

Quoting 'gregpinton' I would never try to force my partner to do anything that she did not like, in my case i know that she 100% enjoys going as far as she does with my anal play, and i know that she loves how much i enjoy the results when i do take over and finish it off myself, for her to not follow thru with the rest of the act i think comes down to cleanliness, as it can be a little bit messy, especially with the lube mixing with the water that is left inside me after having an enema during my shower, but that is about as bad as it gets, i go to great length to make sure that no other accidents happen during this Perhaps go a little further with your preparation. Anal sex should not involve any mess as many including myself find it a turnoff. My preparation is done hours before play so there is nothing there. Leftover water is just as dirty as the solids. As far as a once off pay for it thing goes. Human nature would dictate if you found it that pleasurable, it would never be a once off. Sexual arousement is addictive just as are drugs. But there are a large number of people who pay for services that cannot be obtained from their partner. And many don't get caught. But there is always the chance of a shit storm if they do.Good luck

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RHP User

5 years ago

Are we not allowed to post links to Youtube, didn't see that one, as i posted a reply in another Topic yesterday about taking sex toys on holidays, and i put the same link to my Funky Rocker at the end of that topic, and now my post has vanished ? If the links are not allowed, why can't the moderators just edit the post and remove the actual link.

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RHP User

5 years ago

I posted this reply before my last one as i was not aware that we cannot post links to other websites, or to youtube, and it was deleted, so this is the same post with that link removed. @ OkeyDoke45........... i hear you, loved your response, and this is exactly the scenario that i would want to take, where i would act out my anal play in our next sex encounter, try to encourage her to go all the way, if she still hesitates and stops, then i raise the topic of having it done on me by someone else (with no other sex play involved) and see how she reacts, if she is still fine with this, then i could look at my options, but it is still a tricky situation as it won't change my partners view or her participation level, it may well force her to not bother performing any anal play on me at all, given i can get this from someone else, and i don't want her to stop what she is prepared to do, i would just like her to go all the way to the end with me. As far as engaging a sex worker to perform this for me, i can only find Asian girls here in Hobart who offer such services, least that is all i can find so far, and i am fine with Asians, as my partner is Asian as well, but paying for this would be an issue as i cannot afford to pay for this type of thing every time i get the urge, and finding a lady willing to do this just for the pleasure and no payment would be impossible i would think, not unless she wanted a favor in return. Anyway, i would rather my partner enjoy this activity with me and take it to the end, as i know she absolutely loves watching me finish myself off with the prostate play and the resulting orgasms and water works, she just won't go any further than the rimming and light toy insertion, the rest i still have to do myself, which i don't understand. @ AnnieWhichway....... I fully understand what you are saying about the preparation work for Anal play, it is not just a case of just performing anal play on someone, although it often gets portrayed in porn that it is just something anyone can do whenever they want to do it, and this is not the case, and most women that we know do not like any form of anal play, let alone anal sex, and my partner was in pain for several days when we tried it about 10 years ago, and i am not that big myself, but it was not very pleasant. Preparation can be very time consuming if you do it correctly, and starving ones self for many hours in advance is often required as well, but in our case, i find it difficult to plan well ahead for my anal play, so my routine often involves anal enemas a few times leading up to our sexual activities, hence the small amount of water left behind, nothing major, and if we end up having sex spontaneously we just have a quick wash, and off we go, but there is no anal play involved, just some rimming. For me, anal play is all about the prostate and bladder play, not the thrusting motion of normal sex, yet there is still some people who think guys who like anal play or even pegging are actually gay, another myth that seems to be ripe out there. Cheers

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