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Public Service Announcement for the Ladies - Weeding out the serial-messagers*

June 27 2012

Every now and then I have the pleasure to come across a lady's profile that is funny and/or insightful and/or honest, and invariably, long (eg. the babelicious Nudierudie2.)Several of them have included somewhere in the body of their profile "so that I know that you've actually read this, please include the word _____________ in the subject of your message." I think this is a brilliant idea. We often get complaints on the forums about guys who don't bother to read profiles, or crappy subject lines (actually the hardest thing to come up with), or women who simply ignore genuine efforts guys have made. These sort of tricks help in all sorts of ways, and look far better than the hostile "IF YOU'RE OUTSIDE MY CRITERIA I WILL INSTA-BLOCK YOU".So, what are your tips and tricks for cutting out the chaff? I don't think we're giving away any trade secrets here since the offenders this weeds out aren't likely to read the forums, and besides, these are just techniques to speed up your assessment, not replace it. What questions do you pose to get a feel for their personalities? Another good one that I think little_miss_angelic used to have was "what are three items on your bucket list?" I think you can tell a lot about people by things like "favourite movie", "favourite place in the world" etc. They're basically just 'getting to know you' excercises, which might be unnecessary for some ("you're hot, I'm lot, let's fuck?"), but useful if you require a 'connection'.Guys don't need these techniques, obviously. To avoid unwanted messages, all we have to do is list our sex as "male". Works with wanted messages, too!*I know it's not a real word, little red squiggly underline. English is my bitch though, I'll abuse it where I see fit.

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RHP User

12 years ago

I am psychic Mr.Driftx Hugs H

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12 years ago

Does that mean there are 58 people for 1 persons job they all complain they work too hard and winge because someone ate thier lunch None of them have a brain and could never hold down a job in the private sector And own all the short sleave business shirts in australia Just wondered hardest fuckers to sack

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RHP User

12 years ago

in Queensland wowwow...3,000 public servants will be jobless tomorrow.x Hugs H

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12 years ago

oh man they will never get work.... everytime i interview for a position..If they are Long time Public Servant ....BIN But i hope your not 1 of them

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12 years ago

In a former life I tried all the tricks (including having a cock shot as my only profile pic) still didnt weed out the idiots...it more often than not doesnt matter what you put in your profile the visual only people are going to send a message regardless. Sure those sort of questions or prompts might show that some have read your profile but there are times when I have taken the time to read the profile, crafted a message that is personalised and suiting the situation but for some reason missed that little 'if you do x I will know you have read my profile' and got a nasty response saying I obviously hadnt read their profile (even though I had addressed other points raised). As long as the message is tailored to the target audience and you meet their criteria I dont see any point in those other triggers. They just dont work Kisses Focus

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RHP User

12 years ago

Great idea Neptune, now can we work on getting the women to actually open up and read the messages too lol

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RHP User

12 years ago

Ok, so in my head this was an interesting topic, when I read it on the screen it's just sycophantic drivel. My bad.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Looking at the message,.like Hesione, and it tends to be on the mark. And it often doesn't matter what is in my profile as Focus said, they still turn up. I have experimented with different styles altogether... Still get first off "when and where " flirts and others likewise, yet others that are actually nice and well thought out. But its just a mirror.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Could not be any clearer and still the messages keep on coming.

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RHP User

12 years ago

nooooooooooooooooooox Hugs H

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'neptune_drift'Ok, so in my head this was an interesting topic, when I read it on the screen it's just sycophantic drivel. My bad. ND :) It's not sycophantic drivel actually. I found the question an intriguing one because I'd never given it any thought beyond my own profile. Still, you've got to admire a man who can publicly out himself as a driveller (new word!) and sycophant! P.S. I find stating loud and clear that I'm looking for love is a good way to keep the men at bay ;)

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RHP User

12 years ago

I find your perambulations to be neither sycophantic or drivel,but always thoughtful and well constructedx Hugs H

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RHP User

12 years ago

Its all a crock of shit Neptune. Women love the attention of all the messages and flirts.They just love to cry wolf about it.I mean they must, otherwise they would get off theircollective bums, get a membership, close their mailbox andcontact who they want.Its really so simple! and for everything else there is the husband store....lolCheers Felonius

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RHP User

12 years ago

Like has been said above. It doesn't matter what is written, you'll still get mail....I stupidly thought my wantedbabydaddy profile wouldn't get any mail at all but boy was I wrong lol but I have found that if I put up a pic and have my location as Tassie. Im back to getting a letter a week/fortnight/month if I'm lucky.....Hugs roxxy

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RHP User

12 years ago

It's not a technique that will reduce the number of messages you get in any way. It's just to give you a heads up as to which of those messages is from someone that actually read your profile. Another little tip from the "should I bother?" bag of tricks.

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Public Service Announcement for the Ladies - Weeding out the serial-messagers*

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