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Punching Above your Weight
October 01 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't think it's possible to punch above my weight...I'm too heavy.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nah..I rarely get in the ring xxFreys
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RHP User
9 years ago
A humble brag! To answer your question: No, though I've wondered sometimes if a man in really great shape would look at my flab and dimples and not be completely impressed. I think that's different though?
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder I believe, Lily :-) I am not being over confident/arrogant, but I know I am not ugly in looks, even though I do not have a Jessica Alba body figure :-) but I have a bright and cheerful smile and most importantly, I have a pleasant personality which further enhances my physical appearance because, I am seen as a beautiful person in the real world by those who have come into my life :-) Some wise one once told me that confidence is beauty and as long as I believe in myself, I will always look beautiful regardless :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
When we put up photos, we obviously choose the most flattering pics. Guys are very visual, and will take a liking to the photo and expect the perfect vision to turn up. I worry when I meet someone as I think, 'the veins, wrinkles and odd facial hair doesnt show up on photos". But heres the thing....No one is perfect. And thats what makes us unique. I dont care what anyone thinks now ( I used to, like you did Lily) as Ive found that taking people for what they are can make for very sexy times and even lasting friendships. So if people think they are too good for, or not good enough for, other people, then its a real shame. I wouldnt have some of the friends I have now, or some of the lovers Ive had in that case, as I couldnt see why these younger and vibrant people would want to catch up with a 52 year old. But they did, lucky lucky me And Lily, my friend, see you very soon! xxx
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RHP User
9 years ago
And charm,emotional intelligence,self deprecating humour and genuine kindness will always trump the pulchitrudenous in my view...there is also a fine line IMO between the supreme confidence and the overly inflated ego xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Punching above your weight generally means above the "supposed" median. Average is best of the worst, equally worst of the best! Anyone with half a brain has a benchmark. Top shelf is good, easier to lower your standard than raise them. The bar can only go so low . No one remembers who came second. Compliments are good for the self esteem, if nothing else.
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RHP User
9 years ago
dislike that term so much- punching above your weight yes someone may have chosen to stay on and educated themselves..others may have spent their free hrs at the gym..but you know ..the harshest critic is our selves and it doesn't make anyone better than anyone else and when stripped down we all have a pimple or two on our arses
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RHP User
9 years ago
Definitely describes me (Mr) and proud of it :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ive punched above my weight in the past on here and other sites. Not when I first got on though. The same as you lily. But in the early days if i was shown interest by one of those " sex on a stick" guys, and I would look at their friends list and validations and freak out because they had some absolutely gorgeous sexy women on there. I would freak out and message back that I didnt think I was what they were looking for and explain why. But as my confidence grew and I got out there and had some great experiences, I did end up feeling secure enough in my own skin to meet some of these hotties.most were lovely people and very charming as well as sexy as hell. And I know I wouldnt meet these types of people unless it was through the online avenue. And I know Im not who they would take home to meet mum.( And vice versa)It was all for a physical connection only, even if we continued to see each other now and then, or a one off. What I call top shelf.
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RHP User
9 years ago
of course we all have imperfections, weather we like to admit it or not, all you can do as a person is realise this and accept the other person will also
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RHP User
9 years ago
No but I'd like to...
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Smilingwithfun
9 years ago
Understood by those who do the asking out.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...no, I don't think I punch above my weight...but I haven't set a bar either...nor do I try that hard. If anything here's hard work, then it's a chore...and that's not what I'm here for. I'm happy with my lot : )
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horneycouplewa
9 years ago
All I know is I have yet to see a profile that matches the person ...in person
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horneycouplewa
9 years ago
Just curious as 101 years old, when was that awesome picture taken lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're kidding right? I see those lovely legs of yours and I think the same thing! (That as a man I probably wouldn't stand a chance, as the OP discussed) You need to give yourself more credit. But the same applies to anyone, most people are inherently modest, and (including myself) see all of the flaws in their own bodies rather than what might be attractive. But I have another theory on that: assuming we are not attracted by our own gender, then we simply don't find ourselves (appearance) sexually attractive. But we are conditioned (if you will) by better looking versions if our own gender (from movies, models etc) to falsely learn what is desirable, and our own body falls short of that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
guilty of thinking this before.... Then a mythical creature came along and gave me some perspective.... Now; I don't really believe anyone is out of reach.....as long as I'm the best that I can be; honest with myself, and of course them, and not be afraid of not being what they seek..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Insomnian
9 years ago
I think it's all about mind set really. If you think someone is out of your reach, why? Apart from the fact some of us earn more then others, or are supposedly far more attractive, at the end of the day we are all just human, therefor our only real limits are those that we set upon ourselves.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
If someone sends a message saying that....... they're expressing low self worth. Otherwise that phrase just wouldn't be part of your thought process - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't know about punching above my weight, but definitely above my height as I'm short! I figure nothing ventured, nothing gained and I have a lot more confidence in myself than I did when I was half this age and a lot more knowledge. They can only say "no" and that's happened. I can't offer more than I have and the "wear and tear" on the bodywork is part of the package. The motor still runs well though .
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RHP User
9 years ago
I get told often that I'm exactly like my profile describes me, and that makes me relieved and extremely happy 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'countrytouch' You're kidding right? I see those lovely legs of yours and I think the same thing! (That as a man I probably wouldn't stand a chance, as the OP discussed) You need to give yourself more credit. There's a difference though between pics taken in flattering lighting and the cellulite and spider veins in the cold hard light of day.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sounds pretty bloody shallow to me. When I was 13 I went out with a really 'God looking guy' I learnt my lesson.. He was dead boring and had bad breath. No such thing as too... Whatever .... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
...is that kind of like when I look at myself in the mirror after a shower...and I'll suck my stomach in, puff my chest up and check out the guns? And then the cold, hard light of reality dawns...and I have to breathe again ; )
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RHP User
9 years ago
From my point of view looks are 1 thing, but only 1.The person inside is what is needed to be happy, the rare breed has both.A 10 out of 10 looks wise, is now my X. Happiness was/is more important to me.Have a great day, and have the x as well if you like. P.s. I`m in vic for this month Lilyorchid, just thought I`d add that. oxoxo
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting '1415andy'A 10 out of 10 looks wise, is now my X. now just baggage...
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RHP User
9 years ago
...has angles and lighting that will accentuate their good and bad points. Everyone can deliberately make an ugly face or make an unflattering pose. Top supermodels still can have body issues about the shape of their jaw, eyebrows, ears, feet, bum or whatever. Your body is REAL, and it's appearance reflects the life you have lived and experienced, how you eat, your age, your working and recreation activites, your sun exposure, stresses, injuries & scars etc. Living healthier will improve our appearance, but we still have a core shape and structure and features that can not be changed (for the most part, without cosmetics and surgery etc). It is easy to adore and love other people's bodies, the hard part is learning to love and adore yourself. As for "punching above your weight", comments I have made are purely in jest. Someone who society sees as unattractive, can often find it hard to attract someone who likes them for who they are, not based on their appearance. Likewise, someone who society sees as attractive, can also often find it hard to attract someone who likes them for who they are, not just based on their appearance. I have connected with and played with people at both ends of the spectrum. I'm not deterred to approach anyone at any (play or social) event, even the most attractive per se, as I like my banter and I think they find it a relief to talk to men who honestly want to chat and get to know them on an other-than-physical level.
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RHP User
9 years ago
you are all gorgeous as hell. I would feel lucky to spend time with any of you.
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AussieStriker
9 years ago
I think the demographics of all online dating sites makes it so that 90% of women end up with at least the opportunity to punch above their weight. For men there is virtually no chance. Comes down to the numbers that are online. Simple facts mean that men will message women they might not normally consider in 'the real world' and women will probably get inundated so much that they will be knocking back guys that they would have thought a great catch 'in the real world'. I can't see it changing either. Women are able to pickup so much easier than guys online so they do not join online dating as much as guys do. Hence there will always be an oversupply of guys to girls and that will make the choices distorted from what it would normally be.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'cwhereitgoes' Quoting '1415andy'A 10 out of 10 looks wise, is now my X. now just baggage... "Everyone's X was a 10 at some stage," I was referring to looks in general as very attractive to most.I don`t think that would be classed as everyone`s X. "Looks are only skin deep" may be better words to understand my comment. Have a great day
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RHP User
9 years ago
The patron saint of punching above your weight...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I watched one chase off a hawk on a golf course. Ive been bombarded by one for walking too close to the tree where the nest was. But they are the cutest wee things. Kind of like women. Cute but with a mighty punch!
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hotdigettydam2
9 years ago
I've only been back on rhp for a few days but having a browse through some profiles i can understand why some men feel like they are punching above their weight. I'm not sure whether this is the same for men's profiles but some women and seem to have a huge list of requirements in a man that it can come across as a bit intimidating. They may be the loveliest couple or woman you are likely to meet but it sometimes comes across as judgemental. Quoting 'Jack_Denials'The patron saint of punching above your weight... Haha so true
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Welcome back....good to see you again. I just posted it in the Anything Forum as well. 😉 Ms Foxy
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hotdigettydam2
9 years ago
thanks again and really nice to put a face to the lovely body
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