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"Punching above your weight"
October 18 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Above my weight! Its supply and demand, women have crap profiles as well but never have to worry about a man contacting them. they can have no picture and not be a member at all, and still get what they want. Men Well they all struggle here, even the hotties But you are right, in every way, its about putting up a good profile to catch the few women However putting a big effort in, a lot of guys still end up with zero.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Betty,love your profile pics,just gorgeous.I can sooo totally see what you mean,how ridiculous that those faceless fools would contact a pulchritudinous babe such as you....x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well there's no harm in trying, even if it is due to an inflated ego. I tend not to go for people that I think are out of my league (I'm not THAT cocky ha), but when contacted by someone out of my league and they continue/amp up the interest after seeing my photos, I can't help but be ridiculously flattered. Curious though as to why you've posted this in Couples' Corner, though?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Blokes who go to the rhp social events have much better chance of picking up - so hard to convince people with pics and profiles in here. Most guys are just slack :) People who put the effort in can certainly punch above their weight :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think its common sense really although most will go after someone because they like or want them regardless if they are good enough or not. When i come across a woman that is out of my league i don't pursue it but happy to be polite and chat. I know if a woman is out of reach so i prefer not to waste her time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have wanted to ask this too - but feared coming across as a conceited twat ! I want to ask some guys who message me " what exactly are you bringing to my party!!??" I wouldn't pick up a shabby dressed average looks, short older man in a bar , why would I fuck you on here!!?? ..........I get that we ( women) on here seem easier to fuck , but really !???
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RHP User
12 years ago
well said Bety... I totally agree with all you are saying. I spend most of my time answering to people with "go back and read my profile again" I have put an age preference in for a reason and have explained exactly what I want and dont want. So hats of to you darl for making this a topic of discussion. Hopefully people will read and take note. Bidelicious xxxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris'I have wanted to ask this too - but feared coming across as a conceited twat ! I want to ask some guys who message me " what exactly are you bringing to my party!!??" I wouldn't pick up a shabby dressed average looks, short older man in a bar , why would I fuck you on here!!?? ..........I get that we ( women) on here seem easier to fuck , but really !??? Oh delicious i'm still waiting for my message LOL.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have wanted to ask this too - but feared coming across as a conceited twat ! I want to ask some guys who message me " what exactly are you bringing to my party!!??" I wouldn't pick up a shabby dressed average looks, short older man in a bar , why would I fuck you on here!!?? ..........I get that we ( women) on here seem easier to fuck , but really !??? i hope i didnt leave that impression delish???
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RHP User
12 years ago
What did you expect?? A website that had men on display for YOUR availability?? A conceited judgemental little girl is far from sexy.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
Without knowing who has been punching above their weight in her direction.... Sure if it were some truly average person/couple you could throw it back on her but we haven't seen what she has. On a side note I am also curious as to why this is in the couples corner.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you put the effort in you still have so many who message that have not even bothered to actually read whats there, so at times I think what's the point.Then you have so many that go way over the top and apply to much effort into lying its not funny. Placing photos that are 20yrs old and information that they feel is going to snag them the pick up and then are rude when you meet up and are slightly annoyed by the fact they are nothing they say they are. I mean come on, surely they must realise if they go to the trouble of following through with actually meeting up that these little details will be noticed!I have always been upfront and honest and always try to keep my photos up to date as much as possible but I think attending meet and greets are the way to go as people online are not always the same people in reality.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Betty.you finally put up your pics,it was just a tad hypocrical not to have any . I like to see who is chatting to me but there are more important things to me.The message is very important ,text messages phone calls all paint more of a picture than a photo.x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
To explain...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Firstly, thank you for the topic. It does, I must admit take a whole lot of moxy to construct a thread like this. You describe the men that are contacting you as essentially 'bogans' who am I to argue with that?? Not I. But looking at your profile pics yourself, how do you expect to command any respect with those? You make issue of these guys not putting in ANY effort to have "decent pics" and the two pics you have, one of which shows only your arse swallowing a thong, and the other, I'm still trying to figure out which way was is up, perhaps you should have a look at the lack of effort yourself have taken before labelling guys, be it some or all, as the proverbial 'bogan'. In my honest opinion by the way, not that you asked for it, but I'll volunteer it, you give off easy. Sorry to say, but you're attracting these men on your own. Secondly, lets just have a look at a hyperthetical situation. Take my lifestyle for example, I start work at 7am, and finish at midnight 5 days per week. Saturday, I may finish at approximately 6pm. This gives me 24 hours before I start work again to be at my destination ready for Monday delivery or pickup. In that 24 hours, I may spend 10 hours of that asleep, leaving 14 hours, to catch up with friends, wash clothes, spend 4-5 hours washing the truck, and also preparing paperwork from the end of the week and in preparation to start Sunday. On top of the said routine, you're expecting men like me to display "decent" pictures, that have been carefully crafted and designed to appease your standard?? Please, not all of us have that availability, but are wearing your proverbial 'bogan' label. Beauty IS in more than just a photo, and unfortunately, SOME men also don't bother approaching women as to them, EVERY woman is above their weight through their eyes. I do realise that looks play a majority role in a persons selection criteria, but to label them as a proverbial 'bogan' is nothing short of conceited, and judgemental in my eyes. Chris
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RHP User
12 years ago
That you really do need to drop the expectation that men that are 'perfect' in your eyes are just going to drop at your feet, and the instant click of the mouse when you signed up. Remove that, and you may go alot further than you are already.
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RHP User
12 years ago
(MrBoomdynamite) So i guess with your winning attitude your date book must be full. Please tell me more about how u work soooooooooooo hard and long hours and etc...ect..I have this teaspoon (or truck) of cement for youI suggest u might need a career change as it looks like your hating the trucky life.Dont be hating on the girl. i think it is ment to be some advice. Clearly your luck hasnt been that great but hey there's always the trucky lunch time specials at the local bothels.Keep trucking on!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for everyone's feedback so far, nice to see I'm not the only one with these thoughts Unfortunately no matter how this topic was brought up, it is inevitable that it will make me sound a little conceited... (hardtruckin2011) so in reply to your comment, how bout i reverse the question?? "What did you expect?? A website that had women on display for YOUR availability?? - this can be turned both ways hardtruckin2011.... Why should women be expected to put so much time and effort into looking after themselves by being well presented, keeping fit, making sure there hair is done and makeup on..... when males tend to let themselves go and not even put an ounce of effort to take a photo that is remotely flattering?? hardtruckin2011, Paradisepair & amuse_bouche I posted my topic in Couples Corner for 2 reasons:1. I like meeting up with couples (as stated in my profile) and wanted it in their direction due to the amount i have seen lately doing just what was outlined above.2. I wanted to hear diverse comments on the topic and thought the best result would be in this forum (As couples tend to flood my inbox looking for a single female)I joined this site and have listed what I am looking for.... It is really that simple....DeliciousCpleBris well said " what exactly are you bringing to my party!!??" I wouldn't pick up a shabby dressed average looks, short older man in a bar , why would I fuck you on here!!?" If this makes me conceited than so be it.... I take a lot of pride in my appearance and have worked hard to get here! This gives me the right to expect the same standards in return.... does it not?? I am really gob smacked at the LACK of effort people have, but still expect "there desired outcome or fantasy" This is about attraction and sex, would it kill you to look after yourself, take some pride and well take a step back for a sec and ask yourself "If the roles were reversed and you were approached by your profile.... would you respond???I am interested in hearing if anyone else feels the same way? OR for those of you "reaching high" why should I respond when you won't even try to match the effort i display or put in??
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RHP User
12 years ago
I see nothing in any post about men needing to be perfect. Shit man all she's asking for is some effort...the same in which you'd expect from women... or even a tranny..if thats your thing....BBTWyou photos scream bogan. Just thought you should know
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe you should give profile advice we are thinking after looking at your 2 " decent profile pics" and amazing 6 lines describing yourself. Really shows what you mean about making an effort. The fact that you have not made an effort to verify yourself is the icing on the cake .
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would have to say Im always punching above my weight, and its funny that, after seeing my profile, ( and not seeing a body of adonis with a 10 inch member ) most people would say I shouldn't be so picky, and be realistic about who Ill actually get in contact with. But lets turn it on its head for a sec, If I see a hot woman on a profile on rhp, but she looks vain or conceited in her gallery , then I straight away make a judgement call on those pictures attached to that profile, and its not completely fair for the woman, as I can get a feeling from something visual that was aimed at something completely left of centre to what they were trying to demonstrate on their profile, and I make a judgement call on that respective of my own experiences and memories.I myself, don't contact women that I think are visually hot just because of their photos, I contact women and couples that sound like people that I can relax with, maybe build a trust base with and enjoy the times we all spend together. Sometimes they indeed maybe very attractive, and alas, there are a large proportion of guys on here just looking for size 8 to 10 lingerie models to get their end wet with. Tuscan had a great point in saying there are lots of hot guys that miss out for the actions of the majority of wankers out there , but think for a second, how many average nice guys have their credibility smeared from the actions of the brainless penis's with legs, and dont have a chiselled body to fall back on as a " Plan B "
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Mr_DarkChocolate
12 years ago
pretty much agree wholeheartedly with everything hardtrucking just said right there but i'd also like to add ur whole profile scream's, well let me just post it "About MeSexy and outgoing looking to spice up my busy life Looking for single guys, girls and the occasional couple (must be in a committed relationship) Not interested in a relationship just hot kinky times ;) I am Looking ForHot and outgoing people who don't want strings attached No time wasters, straight to the point ... Just want to have fun!" ahh... coupled with ur two unflattering pic's it 's well... how did u put it "slapped together in a min" i'd suggest u take fifteen minutes out & write up something a lil more substantial & then talk about somebody elses pic's, profile & call them bogans
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Splicey
12 years ago
Profiles can be whatever you want them to be and in that regard I don't think it's a bad thing that people don't create profiles to my liking. I know that a good profile doesn't make a good person and I am sure there are plenty of people we would get along with who we would dismiss when looking at their profile.I do find that people automatically think because you're into swinging that you will fuck anything that moves.I'm picky. I will remain picky when looking for people to play with and I won't just go for anything because we share the same outlook on sexual relationships.I'm aware I'm not everyone's cup of tea and maybe my husband isn't everyone's either, but just because we sign up here doesn't mean everyone becomes our cup of tea.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your absolutely right .... Beauty is in the eye of the beholder In the meantime can I have some glasses lol Some people take the time and make a lil extra effort in their profile Each to their own Nothing says one (being single or couple) has to, but surely it's in ones owns best interest I do hear what tour saying though A picture paints a thousand words, and a nice story yo go with it certainly adds in your favourite By the way, love your pics X
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RHP User
12 years ago
Firstly may I draw your attention to the fact that I used my circumstances as an example of not just my profession(which I might add I enjoy despite the time constraints it imposes), but other guys or girls, or even couples, that also have very limited time to "put in the effort" for the appeasement of the OP's desire to fulfill her fantasies. It takes time to meet those that people that are suitable no matter who you are, and what you're looking for. I don't hate the OP, I know nothing of her, but to be judged BY the OP and labelled 'bogan' right off the bat, shows a distinct level of disposition to those who HAVE these certain time constraints, in my mind. As for my luck so far on this site, I have met many people on here that I would very much consider my friends. Guaging my success based upon sexual encounters is in my opinion irresponsible, as for some people, me included, there's more to life than an orgasm. My teaspoon of cement is most deserving to the OP in my mind, as clearly the OP is frustrated at the amount of attention she is receiving by these 'bogan' style profiles, and the thread is testimonial to that. So a little word of advice OP, if you get a 'bogan' flirt, or message, try this "delete, and block." You can't help those who CHOOSE not to make their profile as enticing as yours, acceptance is the key, not dissidance, with which is singing in the OP. Chris
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Splicey'Profiles can be whatever you want them to be and in that regard I don't think it's a bad thing that people don't create profiles to my liking. I know that a good profile doesn't make a good person and I am sure there are plenty of people we would get along with who we would dismiss when looking at their profile.I do find that people automatically think because you're into swinging that you will fuck anything that moves.I'm picky. I will remain picky when looking for people to play with and I won't just go for anything because we share the same outlook on sexual relationships.I'm aware I'm not everyone's cup of tea and maybe my husband isn't everyone's either, but just because we sign up here doesn't mean everyone becomes our cup of tea.
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RHP User
12 years ago
but think for a second, how many average nice guys have their credibility smeared from the actions of the brainless penis's with legs, and dont have a chiselled body to fall back on as a " Plan B
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RHP User
12 years ago
We just have our criteria and would hope that can be interperated as keeping a eye out for couples similiar to us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Trash.. is anothers treasure...Why must we always be Judgey McJudgey....I'm not completely happy with my appearance, but I do feel it's about attraction that takes it to the next step. I'm flattered when people see our pics and want to keep discussing a meet-up :-D Why are we picking on photos??? Photos are just one moment in time... meet up with someone and then decide whether they're a "bogan" or not.. who knows.. the "bogan" may actually be the best you'll ever have!Mrs C xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bloody man bashing week ?Bety, I resent being tarred with the same brush as everyone else ! Fuck you, I'm special, I have my own league !Insert graphic of "the finger"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't confuse a good profile with bull***t !We can't count the number of times the profile has pics of a gorgeous supermodel with:1. soft focus to hide the wrinkles2. Loads of make up to hide the skin blemishes3. Arms up in the air to pull the breasts up4. Stretched out to get rid of the flab5. contorted pose to hide the ugly bitsThen you meet them without the 6 inch heels, make up and posing and she is plump wrinkly flabby freckled, and up herself, just like her pretentious husbandWe prefer the real profiles not the Photographer Model shoot makeover onesWhile you keep looking for supermodels we will already have met some real people and have had loads of fun and sex.
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RHP User
12 years ago
its a sad fact of life that many will 'punch above their weight', and its also a sad fact, that if they tried a little harder and set out with a little more thought...and preparation, it wouldnt be this way. presentation is the key element many never ever get...take some great photos...or pay for someone to take/edit some of you..... write a decent profile, send intelligent messages....be creative and be polite...its not rocket science....or is it?
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goldcoastcple69
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' its a sad fact of life that many will 'punch above their weight', and its also a sad fact, that if they tried a little harder and set out with a little more thought...and preparation, it wouldnt be this way. presentation is the key element many never ever get...take some great photos...or pay for someone to take/edit some of you..... write a decent profile, send intelligent messages....be creative and be polite...its not rocket science....or is it?that is so true ....ive seen this so many times... and it always comes to mind when i see glamour pics that look like airbrushed magazine shots. nice eye candy but dont expect a person to look like that all the time lol... regarding the post , i dont know, i think theres abit of truth on both sides, maybe some shouldnt be so conceited and some should try abit harder to put an effort in...my wife always gets angry when she dresses up with makeup etc and i come out wearing yesterdays shorts and thongs lol
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goldcoastcple69
12 years ago
sorry i was meant to quote the sexybuns lol
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Well im short to so im not punching to high either Kelly Who.... I use to dress up just to go on cam and as to going out ive been really slack there as well because half the time guys dont even show up.... Hard truckin your funny and fun in the room but my advise if its not nice dont bother saying anything at all.... i have a trukin friend who is the same as you but when he turns up to go out he smells and looks great... Del... so whens this party ill bring whatever you want cause it will be shit loads of fun thats for sure.... Have meet some good eggs again in here glad im back ;-)
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
And now this is why i usually only meet people from the cam rooms as its as close to meeting in real life... trukin i wasnt bagging you either btw i also think that Betty has only just done this profile and changed it to suit not fussed on her photos either.... ok not saying any more till i get invited to the party Del
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think, that with the example you've given, essentially is the point that I was making. I have my going out clothes as well, but what I was taking issue with was being considered as a bogan because the photos in (for example) my profile don't include me showing them off.
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Your a truck driver not a bogan.... agree that half the time the pics arent even them thats why they dont show up... cam rooms with cams on is the way to go hey trukin..... Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'I think, that with the example you've given, essentially is the point that I was making. I have my going out clothes as well, but what I was taking issue with was being considered as a bogan because the photos in (for example) my profile don't include me showing them off.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And you know it ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Thesexybuns'Don't confuse a good profile with bull***t !We can't count the number of times the profile has pics of a gorgeous supermodel with:1. soft focus to hide the wrinkles2. Loads of make up to hide the skin blemishes3. Arms up in the air to pull the breasts up4. Stretched out to get rid of the flab5. contorted pose to hide the ugly bitsThen you meet them without the 6 inch heels, make up and posing and she is plump wrinkly flabby freckled, and up herself, just like her pretentious husbandWe prefer the real profiles not the Photographer Model shoot makeover onesWhile you keep looking for supermodels we will already have met some real people and have had loads of fun and sex. Hahaha, so true!!! Obviously not always, but there is certainly a significant percentage of the online community that do this. On one hand, can't blame them, acne (or any of a number of unappealing lumps, bumps, etc) is not a strong selling point. On the other hand, a bit of good old fashioned honesty and *gasp* character can go a long way! I wouldn't rip on you for thisthread betyboo, I have heard countless stories from women who put in a huge amount of effort into looking great (and looked great in real life), getting hounded by rude louts, who would never have the courage to make the same approach in real life. By the same token though, similar stories of internet "Fabios" being equally rude, boring, and selfish in bed. That said, I'm a fan of punching above my weight, have met some great friends and as well as having met my now ex-wife. If I didn't punch above my weight, I would have missed out on those (mostly) wonderful 4 years with a stunningly beautiful (and intelligent) woman. It's all about the connection, I for one prefer a bit of intelligence over just looks as sometimes it's nice to be able to have an actual conversation with breakfast. ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
ok.. whilst the OP profile MAY leave a little to be desired - insofar as - it does put her in the "Those who livein glass houses shouldn't throw stones" category" her point is quite valid albiet a little conceited. For the guys here who think they have been called "Bogan" here is an exercise... find a female and sit with her over the first week of her making a profile on here.. construct it with her even.. make sure it is very specific. Make is so it leaves absolutely NO DOUBT as to to proximity, sexual proclivities, ages.. the lot.. Then watch the crap roll in. I did it recently (not the first time) for a FWB, and it was pretty spectaular to see the flirts and messages. hardtrucking: you have gone a little further with your contributions to the forums, and you may get on the chat rooms, but, even then, most of the persons who look at your profile would not think to check the little section which tells them you contribute to forums. Her reference to "Bogan" was only how she termed the flirt "You're hot; let's fuck" and rightfully so :) Having said that... IF the sender was close to her, with HOT HOT male photos... she MAY have decided to fck the Good looking bogan.. her choice! When your lifestyle choices put you at the lower end of the assumed evolutionary equation, you have to develop some smarts or face extinction. Which.... I have learned to. somewhat!! :) When I was in the stated age range of the OP, I was happily partaking in the pleasures of exceptionally well engineered ladies and couples - and then.. would I have seriously considered a 53YO sex partner? Probably not.. and why should I have? I had a lot of choices.. and honestly... whilst sometimes, grabbing a meat pie from the road house is quick and easy... I do love a kilogram steak "Stone grill" just thoughts... again caveman
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RHP User
12 years ago
We need to talk privately...would you mind me approaching the bench your honor?
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RHP User
12 years ago
WELL SEE WHAT YOU MEAN , MYSELF I NEVER BIGHT OF MORE THEN I CAN CHEW AND I CAN CHEW ALLOT IF IT WASN'T FOR MY SPELLING MISTAKES AS THERE IS GOOD REASON FOR THEM , HEY I MIGHT GET MORE LADIES INTERESTED IN ME NOT FOR MY LOOKS OR MY FINANCES , BUT FOR ME THE PERSON I AM ...DAS
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seriously betybootylicious judging by the appearance of your own profile you may have to heed your own advice. Lets be honest the 2 areas where it asks to write about yourself and what you're looking for does not leave much scope to do a mills and boon on it which is probably why you yourself have written what you have or did you just not put enough thought and effort into putting something alot more appealing up. As for pics lets take your own pics for example. Everyone knows that specific camera angles will make an image appear alot more flattering then in real life but as you mentioned ... clearly it was sexy at the time. Who gives a rats what kind of pics people put up yours included. It is so disproportionate the comparative numbers of men and women on these sites that a woman can have a potato as a profile pic and she will still get hit on.I think you're being very naive to think that every single guy that contacts you will come from the perfect mold that you aspire to find in a play mates profile. This is an online sex/swinging site that is open to anyone who has a computer so that alone should indicate to you that your expectations should come down a cog or two.It's the nature of the beast. Once you realise what your dealing with you will inevitably be alot less disappointed and able move on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I see the "punching above one's weight" thing being partly about appearance but also attitude. It makes me uncomfortable to have to do but I find I often have to make a judgement call about whether or not I meet someone based on the very limited information in pics, profile and messages. And I don't like to be dismissive like that, but I also don't have time or energy to meet everyone whom I already suspect I'm not attracted too, for "just in case". I hold no tickets on myself but attraction is a strange thing, if its not there I'm not interested. It's not really about the profile, its the person. But I guess the key is to show enough of your personality and looks in a profile that would interest others. As an aside, this site is very much "its all about me me me me". Which is fine, we are all her advertising and trying to get the experiences and people that we want. So it doesn't occur to some people that they should make an effort because its all about what they want. That attitude is fine (really) but its probably not going to get any action in the real world.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris' I have wanted to ask this too - but feared coming across as a conceited twat ! I want to ask some guys who message me " what exactly are you bringing to my party!!??" I wouldn't pick up a shabby dressed average looks, short older man in a bar , why would I fuck you on here!!?? ..........I get that we ( women) on here seem easier to fuck , but really !??? Ladies please accept my apology on behalf of poorly dressed, average looking, short and older men,....I'm so sorry ......we should have known better.....we shouldn't have being sucked in the by the relative anonymity of the internet to get above ourselves......Gotta go.......my dentures are playing up again.....:)))
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey rejection can really knock you down for the count. But mees get in the corner take my poppers and get ready for another bout. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Europian getting rejected :p
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inspirit
12 years ago
in all honesty here who really gives a flying toss if you punch up or down or even around for that matter. I do all of it and it's fun. Absolutely no harm in trying is there....We there yet
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' in all honesty here who really gives a flying toss if you punch up or down or even around for that matter. I do all of it and it's fun. Absolutely no harm in trying is there....We there yet Well said! That's really what it's all about, nothing ventured, nothing gained! ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
amen!! i could have put it better myself :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I meant i agree with hardtrucking2011
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RHP User
12 years ago
This thread has got me a little confused, it seems there are 3 categories in play- 1)people who put so much effort into their profile that they come across as desperate 2)people whose profiles are just right, said baby bear(betybootylicious) 3)people who just don't seem to care and are undeserving of female attention 1) maybe they're not desperate they're just thorough 2)perfection doesn't exist, hate to bust your bubble 3)maybe these people do care, but aren't interested in deceiving people with airbrushed, posed, bullshit photos It seems to me, people just can't win. I'm personally no work of art and in most of my pics I've had a few bevvys, purely because I won't get in front of a camera unless I'm half cut. So I would be judged on 2 fronts. Possibly an alcoholic AND crap pics. I guess I wasted my membership $$$ lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree totally. If I see another cock pic I think I'll gag !!Or is that If I see another cock ??Anyway, I reckon the rule is, if you want to be serious, show your face ?Sex is for fun ! Don't feel guilty about it ?Enjoy the freedom .... yummy !!
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RHP User
12 years ago
To 'betybootylicious' I am so pleased that you posted on this topic. I have been feeling the same way about some profiles and have wanted to put this topic out there. Thank you for your comments, you put it very well and you have said everything that I would have said too. I agree with you totally. So...... to all those out there who have the half-hearted, low effort profiles.....make an effort and you WILL get noticed and receive responses. S xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't quite get the whole 'puncjing above your weight' idea... Attraction is very much down to the individual and hard to quantify or predict. Would the OP, hypothetically, be attracted to me? No idea (although I do quite like her photos, despite what some others have said - but I guess that's the whole point). I do however agree that some of the profile photos on this site could do with some work ... particularly the guys that photograph themselves nude except for socks... :o Having said that, sometimes it comes down to how good you are with a lens. I look in awe at some of the arty profile shots on this site & wish I had some as good to post, but frankly I'm no genius with a camera so my profile pics are rather more ... basic ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can we let go of the punching above, below and anywhere in between? I like to kiss above my height. But below can be pretty awesome too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'goldcoastcple69'sorry i was meant to quote the sexybuns lol all good...hope u didnt mean us with the airbrushed thing.... Shel looks that way, even when in her hi-viz yellow shirt n jeans.....and never goes anywhere without full hair n makeup etc....none of our pics are 'edited' other than cropping, greyscaling or blurring for privacy.....
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goldcoastcple69
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'goldcoastcple69'sorry i was meant to quote the sexybuns lol all good...hope u didnt mean us with the airbrushed thing.... Shel looks that way, even when in her hi-viz yellow shirt n jeans.....and never goes anywhere without full hair n makeup etc....none of our pics are 'edited' other than cropping, greyscaling or blurring for privacy..... No , i was meant to click the reply with quote above your post ..quoting sexybuns. i didnt even see your pics before i quoted lol but nice pics anyway.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When you see some one who you think is Punching Above their weight...Ask your self this: What is that the other person knows about the "Weight Challenged Person" that leads to the attraction...there has to be something. LC
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Sparetime01
12 years ago
how do you respond when people are punching below their weight? I wish hot people would stop messaging us..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Sparetime01' how do you respond when people are punching below their weight? I wish hot people would stop messaging us.. I often think the same and get rather freaked out if some extremely good looking man/female flirt or message me. I start going into surely they clicked the wrong profile or maybe were drunk at time of scanning through profiles But at the end of the day everyone sees something different within that we ourselves often miss, so I guess to respond back with a simple 'Hi how are you' is the safest bet and go from there.Unless of course you take the 'omfg are you blind' tactic and scare them away completely. I generally will reply in a jokey manner to most of my correspondence to which some get it while others are not quite sure how to take it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
hi! Betybootyliscious..Thanks for the topic.. I don't feel anyone is out of reach.I'm not interested in their wealth status other than appreciate them for achieving their goals.. If we're meant to cross Paths we will I Connect within them and embrace our Journey together for however long we share it.. I always treat others as equals appreciate our contribution to eachother. As for Unkempt Pics or downright Nasty ones and Lazy Auto About Me.Those in your face tacky flirts too. I tell them they're not giving themselves any chance of success..If I'm able but most are Guests not a good start anyway.. Yes I've been approached by them as have we all..I generally explain that if they want more than a snowballs chance in hell! of any Interest then I suggest a few things..In the Main their very appreciative and do so.. Rarely does a complete Moron get abusive.even then it doesn't bother me at all I just giggle think.Well if it's working for you Ummmm not then great Good Luck! (thinking you'll need it) ha!ha!...Cheers Lu :)
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montyv12
12 years ago
to be short and up front we always want better than what we currently have or are doing at the time and are looking for the surprise that learks out there yeah shore enough guys don't put a lot of effort in most of the times but lets face it we come here to find sex and don't really care for much else yes i want a stunner but don't want to wear a suit just for a chancenot into acting as someone I am not and just for a night of fun when i see this written i consider my reason for being here maybe re name this as wish book face books brotherI will stay the same as i do alright the people that return my messages are normally not time wasters are keen for real meats and don't have any super high standards and we end up having a ball quite often each person has a different out look on life and what may or may not turn them on but to expect that people care how they are being foreseen i think that make no sense and short sighted YOU MAY BE MISSING THE BEST SEX YOU HAVE EVER HAD if its a thing of attraction yeah ok but the hotter a chick is generally the higher the maintenance and the harder to please
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RHP User
12 years ago
you have 2 photo's and a profile containing 6 lines ...tell me, when do i start feeling inspired ... boring
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RHP User
12 years ago
if you want to have fun and good sex... you do have to make some judgements fairly quickly of profiles. So yes..more than 2 red flags and we move on to NEXT!! Who has time to hand feed couples or singles who "have no idea" what sensual/attraction/flirting and style mean? However, we have found these sexy things dont always come from the "hot" people or the best profile. looks are important ...but mean nothing if they dont know what to do when its play time.. Never overlook the plainer/older/younger/newbies /shorter guy/ married/ tall chick /single guys etc..... as they could be something amazing B
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know that short,pudgy balding man who put that story about,he liedx R
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RHP User
12 years ago
I did notice that MLx R
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some of these posts had me laughing so hard I actually did a nose snort... very surprising, considering it doesn't generally happen!! Someone mentioned that if a lady had a potato for a profile pic she'd still get hit on... I am going to test the theory. Just wondering, should I make it a curvy potato or... anyway lets see...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't see what the hoo ha is all about, if you don't like then send a polite declining message (or don't) and then "NEXT PLEASE".
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was going to ask you about that ,I thought it must have been Kiwi Day but I was obviously mistaken...of course it's a potato...silly mex R
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Saskia72' Some of these posts had me laughing so hard I actually did a nose snort... very surprising, considering it doesn't generally happen!! Someone mentioned that if a lady had a potato for a profile pic she'd still get hit on... I am going to test the theory. Just wondering, should I make it a curvy potato or... anyway lets see... You know you're going to get inundated with carrot photos !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not a bad idea... now, this may lose me a few posts, but I am in fact a kiwi... Haha 50z' you're probably right!!! I'll let you know, I can say however, the spud has generated quite a bit of interest, who'd have thought??
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RHP User
12 years ago
Saskia, I've gotta say...that's one hell of a sexy potato :p love it!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
HAHAHAHA!!! Please let us know if my theory is right. Sexiest potato on here by the way. lol!
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RHP User
12 years ago
OKay official stats Yesterdays mesages 19, flirts 15, Today messages 7, flirts 9. So that is quite a downturn, also considering Fridays are usually busier. So there you have it. Does Coodi have a carrot up? hehe, lovely, but I do prefer cucumbers.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Saskia I can confidently say that your 7 messages and 9 flirts is alot better then any guys daily responses. So I recon your doing quiet well for having a potato as a profile pic. To get 1 flirt with a potato as a profile pic confirms my belief.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Messages have dried up enormously last couple of days... Not a bad thing, seems we can give you men a little more credit hey? Maybe it's just the wrong food... a couple of mangoes maybe, cucumber...that may be a little suggestive... hmm
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm surprised you don't have more guys trying to get you in the sack.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Neptune I hope you have 'sense of humour' noted (and highlighted) in your profile. Just pondering, with all those other potatoes in the sack, would that be classed as an orgy? Could well end up steamed and mashed potato! Ok, I have yet to put 'just plain silly' on my profile.
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RHP User
12 years ago
and he totally said yes! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, in all aspects of life. Don't be so quick to judge a book by it's cover; it might just be the best book you ever read. That being said, I DO agree with putting effort into your profile and not using the drop-down tab RHP profil generator *does my head in*
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RHP User
12 years ago
potato head...they see the potato,they are intrigued ,they click,and there you are ,all gorgeous...phtttt ...still reckon it's a Kiwi....~smile~
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RHP User
12 years ago
Besides we ate it last night, so would be false advertising to have it up, I'd only have to tell people it's no longer available.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Even if I missed the pic in question :P OP, pot/kettle/black is a personal pet hate. Hypocrites are my least favourite kind of people. As for "punching above your weight"... well, lets just say, He Who Weighs With Helium Floaties Knows Not How Hard He Falls.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tis sad to think one day long from now nobody will lust after your tender flesh, and those who you would ignore now will be objects of desire.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'honeybee0086' and he totally said yes! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, in all aspects of life. Don't be so quick to judge a book by it's cover; it might just be the best book you ever read. That being said, I DO agree with putting effort into your profile and not using the drop-down tab RHP profil generator *does my head in*
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011' Quoting 'honeybee0086' and he totally said yes! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, in all aspects of life. Don't be so quick to judge a book by it's cover; it might just be the best book you ever read. That being said, I DO agree with putting effort into your profile and not using the drop-down tab RHP profil generator *does my head in*
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RHP User
12 years ago
hard trucking - i agree with you, for the most part - but single guys on RHP have virtually no chance in reality. Couples more often than not dont want single guys and are almost hostile toward them (esp Boomdynamite - massively uncalled for). Hard trucking, I wouldnt bother looking on here for a sex partner or even a partner - this is fantasy land for a lot of people, it's all a game on this site. Once again though, its people sitting behind the safety of a screen being rude to complete strangers. Then there is the judging a book by its cover - if a photo is all you are going to go on, then you arent the person for me (i have a face pic, but its set to private) - i am worth more than a photo.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As an experiment it was a little unbalanced, I did (very briefly) toy with the idea of removing or making private the other pics. But couldn't be bothered... anyway, potato gone, messages quadrupled. So make of it what you will people.
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RHP User
12 years ago
At the start of this thread my argument has always been about referring to the guys on here as bogan like. Which to me, is just unacceptable and conceited, given that op is far from standing out from the crowd with her profile. However, the key point to this thread I wholly agree with, despite belief to the contrary. The key point to this thread is a re-occurring issue with HOW men approach the women on here. If a woman were to approach you with messages that simply read "I want your cock right now, cos I'm horny and you'll do" surely you can agree that that's hardly lady like firstly, but if it were to continue over and over again, it would surely infer your personality down to just being only useful for your cock. To be honest I'm more than and I expect more than that. So the key to success is simply this, be WHO you are without lowering your standards for the sake of getting your end in. If a profile is vague, then move on. If you run out of profiles that interest you, then it's time to wait, and be patient, as you're only selling yourself short if you don't.
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MissSarahCurious
12 years ago
but when one in four guys will send you a half assed message and include a filthy-mirror pic of himself still in dirty clothes, obviously not having showered after work, with a hat on to cover his greasy hair, pants shoved down a little bit to hang his hairy balls over the waistband and his wild 70's style bush half obscuring his semi-flaccid dick and says "good enough" but expects a girl to show up looking like a pornstar I think the OP's tidy g string pic counts as making an effort.Nice ass, honey!xx Sarah
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RHP User
12 years ago
I get sick of people that don't read the profile and just look at the photoplus cock shots, are so...how can I say...dull and they get blocked automaticaly
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Thesexybuns'Don't confuse a good profile with bull***t !We can't count the number of times the profile has pics of a gorgeous supermodel with:1. soft focus to hide the wrinkles2. Loads of make up to hide the skin blemishes3. Arms up in the air to pull the breasts up4. Stretched out to get rid of the flab5. contorted pose to hide the ugly bitsThen you meet them without the 6 inch heels, make up and posing and she is plump wrinkly flabby freckled, and up herself, just like her pretentious husbandWe prefer the real profiles not the Photographer Model shoot makeover onesWhile you keep looking for supermodels we will already have met some real people and have had loads of fun and sex. Well bloody said sexybuns..........its about that word "FUN" why we swing,, everyone should get over the crap of pics and profiles and get out there and meet people. What's that saying "don't judge a book by it's cover".......it works both way's. I've seen woman wet themselves and jump straight into the sack (I'm talking to you Mrs Frisky.....lmao) because the guy made her laugh so much she found that attractive....ummm...actually don't most woman find humour a bit of a turn on....(get back on track Troy...) just saying theres more to "attraction" than pics and a few words,,, neither of which sum up any person on here. Get out "THERE" and off of here and live the style instead of talking about it, and judging people. One last saying before i go **To "ASSUME" is to make an ASS of U and ME** stop assuming people are bogans and go and find out for yourself!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
What does high means? High on sexual acrobatic high on what? I believe you know nothing about the person just by reading a profile…..look at mine. it’s just the start to entice them, the start they contacting us. And be honest, most men do the contacting, we just sit here in our little web and wait. And why…..because we can? I don’t say any nasty things about the males on RHP. Why is it we as women are so harsh to them, because we have the pick? We are sitting in a pool that’s overflowing….Ok lucky for us. But do we have to be nasty, I don’t think so. Some men have crappy profiles yes and some men don’t read what you have to say, yes. Still this is no reason to think this person is a shit guy, sometimes it is just the opposite, and sometimes he is a shit guy. So it’s called, what, get over it, does it make a difference to anything? What I can see also is, we as women want so much from men. I think some just don’t know anymore. Yes I don’t like the once either who ask only,,,,can I fuck you, now , I am coming over., now Ok is stupid, but then why react in anger, laugh say, no. its ok, he gets it. Maybe he ask you again..so what if, it’s in a way cool. Be happy he ask again, because we would be soooo devastated when they wouldn’t ask us, wouldn’t we? Ok maybe because I am not getting hit 50 times a day, because I am not a stunning woman, so I have time to answer most flirts and massages, or maybe I am just a nice woman. Nonetheless I believe everybody deserves a change and when you chat with some you will be amazed what some have to offer, even the profile is shitty and stupid. Just enjoy this site, enjoy the interaction on here, enjoy the bliss of being a women on RHP, we get so much more on here then most males. Litonya
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'jamt0069' Hard trucking, I wouldnt bother looking on here for a sex partner or even a partner - this is fantasy land for a lot of people, it's all a game on this site. Most of us on here are the real deal, verified and sometimes validated. I'm all about fun and games, but haven't been called a game-player yet. (And no, that's not a challenge).
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RHP User
12 years ago
But I have also found that it is alot about CHEMISTRY.I am normally a T&A man. love women with huge tits and nice asses. love long legs, and wild. love 69, love being sucked off, love to 'explorer' a womans kinky side.Recently met some little minx (size 6), that is an A cup, and small ass. The wind would blow her away.I have been absolutely flipped over her. she is a straight sex kind of person, and while she can fuck all night, it is just straight sex.I dont careThere is some kind of attraction we both have to each other, and cant get enough of each other.There has recently been problems in my life where I couldnt be with her the way I wanted (or she wanted), and she has since moved on. while we try to keep in touch, and i am trying hard to keep her in site, i can tell she is trying to pull away from me.one of the reasons i am here is to try and 'find' myself all over again, as she has really damaged me (she probably thinks the same that I damaged her).Like they say, looks are only skin deep.
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RHP User
12 years ago
after 7 years in here changing my profile left , right and center (pic's,log in name and description).nothing works unless people look at profiles .Most females will have more hits on there profiles in 10 min than i will get in 6 months ( i took a break from here and had only 3 people look in that time)i just think people just judge to much on a profile with out speaking to the person.now using chat and a web cam.. if your not a regular in there... good luck trying to speak to anyone
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