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Q for the "Meet first, play later" crowd

March 07 2021

What's your favourite meeting arrangement? (As in what venue/conversation combo!) Do you prefer a cafe for brunch and talking brunch snobbery =P or perhaps a rooftop bar talking craft beer maybe you like the picnic in the park talking weather meeting how about hiring a board room to negotiate the terms of engagement XD Tell us your favourite meeting method and talking points!

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FeistyFatty

4 years ago

I wouldn't say I'm a member of the "Meet First/Play Later" crowd as such but I have it on my profile for 2 reasons. Its a good exit plan for unwanted invitations and I "loosely" do this at my home. Nothing turns me off more than men inviting me to meet for a meal/drink/walk (cringe, seriously)/beach day (whale watching anyone lol)...... i instantly decline and move on to someone else. This has recently become a pet hate of mine. I prefer to choose who I'm interested in persuing/meeting myself..... my own criteria, my own pace, under my own volition. When I do chat to someone who tickles my fancy initially I will invite them to my home. There I can suss them out casually, a drink/s, then let things unfold organically. I find this less stressful. Which means I'll enjoy myself more. Also has proven way less awkward to say "yeah nah, bye" then meeting at a bar/cafe. Not adverse to a ninja fuck with a hot stud either..... they often get a call back and always get a rerun in the ole "spank bank" 😘

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funtimescouple1

4 years ago

We normally meet other couples for a few drinks at a nice bar but we are happy to meet at a Cafe during the day too, if that mutually suits. The important thing is that everyone is enthusiastic about meeting and the mood is flirty. We find that a table can be a barrier and that couches are much better but unfortunately that's hard to find in bars and cafes. Treating the first meet as just a meet (unless there is a spontaneous connection, which we are always open to) and having the second meet at one of the homes can work well.

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Kokoflamingo

4 years ago

Being single, and not just looking for fuck and go guys, I prefer to meet first. A coffee or drink is fine, just to make sure there is a high level of mutual attraction. I like to meet somewhere local, and the conversation usually involves why we are on RHP and what we like to do in our spare time. Each to their own, however, but Im in your gang :)

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SpicyKale

4 years ago

Bloody 2020, it’s been so long we’ve forgotten 😳 We have a favourite pub half way between us and the city. We try and make it during the day just for a drink, if things are flowing they do good food and hey even if it doesn’t look good we all need to eat right😊 We’ve even done a couple of first meets at the local nude beach, we were going to be there anyway 🤷🏻‍♂️ We always meet somewhere first and never play on first dates

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teamaj2

4 years ago

We prefer after getting to know someone online to meet them in a bar . We have been fortunate to meet people at events held in a bar type atmosphere, rather than house parties . You are either all attracted and you click or you aren’t . Talking points ? Conversations either flow or they don’t . Most people chat about parties they may have been too , life on RHP and other websites , funny situations they have got caught up in within this lifestyle to the everyday mundane of jobs, what they do of a weekend etc . As Spicy also mentioned 2020 took the wind out of the sails so to speak . Ax

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BeccyBec

4 years ago

I'm not too fussed about where I meet people. It's simply a way to meet without committing to sex first. It's a way to suss out people and for either person to walk away if something doesn't feel right. I have had both public meetings and met people at their house (while hoping they don't kill me lol) and I have had meetings that have immediately gone on to sex, ones where I have walked away and not seen them again and ones where we have organised another time to take things further. The ones I have slept with have become more FWB than ONS which is nice.

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RHP User

4 years ago

A quick drink at a neutral location possibly a bar or lounge to confirm everything and everyone is ok, then on to somewhere where we can relax and see what happens.. 4 hour interviews are a drag.

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MsSuperFoxy

4 years ago

Not repeating myself. States in my profile. Ms Foxy

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MsSuperFoxy

4 years ago

A board room sounds kinda cool. 😝 Ms Foxy

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nightingale8

4 years ago

I prefer the doctors clinic. To ensure they live up to their proclamations of being drug and disease free. Of course!

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AnnieWhichway

4 years ago

Tried them all. Meeting in public separates the shit from the sugar. Apparently I'm good to fuck when no one knows. Meeting in public sorts the married/single and those that are comfortable in their sexuality

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AnnieWhichway

4 years ago

Forgot to answer the OP. Venue, my place, Cafe, pub, etc, depends on the lead up conversation and subsequent analysis of the other party. Early days my radar was a little off. These days, highly tuned and results 99% ok. Go with your gut feeling as your experience alliws

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BUCKnakedORCA

4 years ago

lawn bowls you can have drink, meal and at least talk about the game if it is going nowhere

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MsSuperFoxy

4 years ago

I reckon Bunnings would be great to met someone. I met someone at Ikea not that long ago. That was interesting. I walked out with hot balls. Ms Foxy

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wildcrazyloving

4 years ago

I prefer the interview style to be informal, so a short walk a talk in a public area or a meeting by the arcade games.. This allows for some playfulness and spontaneity.

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Sawadee

4 years ago

Being male lm well aware of the suspicion that surrounds men. So' l always insist on meeting at a neutral location of the ladies choice so they can feel confident l am who l say l am .. Im all for whoever l meet feeling comfortable and in no way obligated to go any further if thats the way it pans out.. As far as im concerned , we meet to judge if theres a attraction and want to take things further or not...

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RHP User

4 years ago

First meet is a basic coffee meetup for me. Have learnt not to agree to a dinner or movie for an initial meet as it can be very awkward if not hitting it off. So a coffee can be a half hour of banter and if there is no spark, its easier to bid farewell when the coffee is finished. And if its going well, then the coffee can turn into two and a second meet arranged.

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