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Questions from a 20yr old male virgin (1st time tips)
June 06 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
I dont even know you and Im sitting here rubbing my face in anxiety...sooooo many questions, and soooo many chances for bad info on here LOL Its not an exam is the first rule of thumb, there are no right and wrong ways , but only what feels right for you and your partner. Id suggest a little bit of google on the positions you might like or would be comfortable with. Also on a round about location of the woman's g-spot. No one can tell you how to make a woman orgasm from oral either as they can be poles apart in what does it for them (use the search function on here for a couple of great threads on oral technique and tips)But do not be surprised if she doesn't cum from oral either, many won't.. I like that you want to be the best at it all before you start, sweety I think you are going to end up being a caring and attentive lover with much to give after even just a little experiencebut cut yourself some slack here too, its all very different on paper . There is the odd chance *giggles* that you might not even make it to the condom before you ejaculate and you wouldnt be alone, that can happen to a man with years on you. Though they'll deny it to the grave The rest can be worked out through communication with your lover....if she swallows she will let you know (but never assume she does) and there is nothing wrong with having a cuddle afterwards, a chat, a laugh about how your porn moves went wrong...these are all very human things to do.Communication with your sexual partner is far more important than something anyone here can tell you (apart from this sentence) Have fun Grasshopper xxxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm trying to decide if this a gee up or not. If your for real and this uneducated, I recommend a prostiute and tell heryou have'nt a clue and need guidance.Though you never know one of the more experienced women here might take you under their wing.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
This is, ummm, the cutest thing ever?While I could write pages on each question, I'll spare everyone the horror (besides, you can't attach files to these posts so where would I upload the diagrams?)As a general rule of thumb... relax! I was a late bloomer too, and I actually didn't tell my girlfriend at the time. We went two rounds that night and one the next morning. I told her three months later about my inexperience and at first she didn't believe me! That was an ego boost, I tell ya!It's easy though because it's a helluva lot more instinctual than you expect. The entire animal kingdom has managed to figure out sex without too much difficulty for millions of years, and that's even before one of the species invented pornography and high-speed broadband!While you won't need a manual to figure out the basics, there are lots of 'guides' to cunnilingus, positions etc. on the internet that are useful. Watch some porn for ideas, but take notes from the classy stuff where both stars actually look like they're enjoying it. Vivid and X-Art are good labels. As a general rule of thumb, if a porn actress is blonde, is wearing high heels and has massive fake tits, chances are 'actual' sex won't be anything like what they're doing!Use your hands and lips to explore her body - not just tits and vaj. Nibble earlobes, kiss necks, take her hands in yours. At the end of the day, just follow your instincts - if it feels good for you, and she's making happy noises, keep doing it. You don't need to overthink it, though once you get some practice, you're only limited by your imagination (even in America, since Lawrence vs Texas in 2003!).
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RHP User
13 years ago
Put the stove on high..Fill the pot with water and bring it to the boil.After about 90 seconds you will have a nice soft boiled egg.. knock the top off it...add salt and pepper to taste.. Anything else i can help you with ??
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ok, I'll play,Tip no 1. Google is your friendTip no 2. Search for subjects of interest, i.e; missionary position, cunnilingus, G spot, golden shower.Tip no 3. Watch some porn.Tip no 4. Practice, Practice, Practice !
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RHP User
13 years ago
The last virgin I had was about your age, I didn't know. I picked him and his mate up at a country pub, said the only way one was getting any was if they both came along for the ride. He just did what I told him to do, I didn't even know he was a virgin until afterwards.Considering he hadn't done it before, he did alright at the whole DP thing with his mate...What a sweatheart he was.
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
Soooo American Pie...just make sure you have a mate there after you have cum in the cup to drink it! I hear it tastes great mixed with beer...although Stifler would tell you different! Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
stick it in and jiggle, hopefully she jiggles back.... Just make sure you cum in the cup and make her drink it... then snowball it, sharing is caring... After sex, maybe bake her mother a cake and talk about real deep shit, like quantum physics and why the sky is blue.Chicks love intellectual stuff...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Find an older woman casual, someone in her late twenties maybe,who has enormous patience and who likes you. However sex, is not always just about sex,emotions can be involved,for both of you. If you are genuine casual ,I think it is wonderful that you want to learn how to please a woman and yourself, rather than to just hope for the best. Many people,both male and female, myself included ,have had quite horrible first time sex.I wish that my first time had been with an experienced man and not a twenty-one year old boy,who was as ignorant as I was.x Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
Auction your virginity on eBay !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Try not to be too drunk. Best laugh I've had in a long time. Thanks OP!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can just tell your an ideas man....lovin it, what's your percentage? Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
Notwithstanding this could be a hoax, I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're genuine young man :) It seems like you're a bit unsure and nervous (maybe?) and also keen to make sure you and the girl you're with have a great experience for your first time. What a lovely thought x Girls are generally happy with something deep/tender/intimate or hot and naughty as hell, depending on what they're turned on by. The tend to be really unhappy with anything that makes them feel like a cheap whore (though some women love that under the right circumstances. Confusing, right?!). Anyway, some kind of connection usually matters. And foreplay is usually important. This is not just about groping her in bed before you stick it in, but more about the flirting, innuendo, teasing and cheekiness that leads you into the bedroom, where the physical foreplay starts. Being able to last helps too, and you can probably search old threads on here for some tips for that, if you're worried. Don't be afraid to ask her what she likes and if you're still not sure, ask her to show you. That can be as sexy as hell :) Finally, as many others have said, relax and keep it simple. Doing a half decent job of kissing, oral sex and penetration is not a bad start so don't worry too much about all the bells and whistles. Oh, and finally finally, lots of younger women don't actually know that much about what works for them sexually. Yes I'm generalising, but it's true that most of us learn about our bodies, what turns us on and off etc over time and through experience, so often we know more about what we want when we're a bit older. If she doesn't orgasm it might be that she can't or that she hasn't learnt how to yet. Don't be too worried about that, if that's what happens. Phew. Done. Good luck xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
We're animals. We're programmed to breed. You will be very surprised how natural and instinctual sex will be.Unless you force it. That might hurt.Just don't blow early. Chicks hate that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, not actually a internet troll, a little bit ashamedly and surprisingly enough. Just embracing anonymity.Thankyou DonTGrabThat, NeptuneDrift, and lil bit angelic and everyone else.Please keep commenting if you have any answers to my questions or things you'd like to share.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Take controll Be confident listen to her ...if she sounds like she is Lovin what your doing ..Do it some more Ask her where do you want me to cum ... tits, mouth, wherever Go nail some pussy my friend
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RHP User
13 years ago
and with all my considerable experience I have managed to find and deflower two male virgins......now in the course of two years there are three advertising thier wares on RHP? The quickest and easiest and most sure-fire way of losing your virginity, assuming that this is genuine, (which I doubt) I would watch a bit of porn and then go and pay for your first time....letting the professionals know it is your first.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thankyou kinkisthenewpink! Will take what you said on board and hopefully figure out more as I go.Quoting 'Handmaiden' and with all my considerable experience I have managed to find and deflower two male virgins......now in the course of two years there are three advertising thier wares on RHP? The quickest and easiest and most sure-fire way of losing your virginity, assuming that this is genuine, (which I doubt) I would watch a bit of porn and then go and pay for your first time....letting the professionals know it is your first. I've been thinking about doing that for a while now, but I've heard that your first time should be something you remember fondly... Still not sure if I will pay for my first time or not.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yeah dude no need to make it a financial transaction. There are a lot of women who find virgin males really cute/appealing. Some guys play the pity card but that's not very sexy, or dignified. Try just talking with some nubile-looking young things in your local drinking establishments. If it comes up (or if you can bring it up subtly and tactfully), once you convince the very skeptical lady in question you might be surprised at your success when otherwise it would be a no-goer. And for what it's worth, I was 21-and-a-half before I went there myself. The nice young lady was more experienced than I. I let her jump up top the first time. The next two times that night I took that prime position. I caught on very quickly, and so will you.
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blkcapricornday
13 years ago
Hey mate, yeah I agree with Halo, you're much better off finding someone (on here) who is understanding and really wants to be with you. You'd also be restricted to a time limit with a hooker, and the best sex has no limits. You should be upfront about your inexperience though - which really shouldn't be a problem with the right gal!As for the questions, you have lots of them and that's understandable, BUT - they are kinda pointless as you'll never be able to predict every situation. If you keep 2 things in mind though, everything else will fall into place: have a genuine attraction to your lover, and be in-tune with her (create the experience together).An understanding partner should be able to guide you with anything else. Forums and google are good for fine tuning and tips, but you'll learn most through practice :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'blkcapricornday' have a genuine attraction to your lover, and be in-tune with her (create the experience together).^That's Gold! Cheers for the replies guys, being up front to her about it sounds like the way to go from what halo is saying... I've always thought for some reason that I shouldn't to bring it up, like it would be a bit of a turn-off for her (she would want someone experienced to be with her) or she might think: "is something wrong". I guess I was just somewhat reserved in my teens and never went through the whole have-random-sex stage. (working on being more outgoing and more myself now )And also...Damn! that pussy-eating "lesson"!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would suggest a girlfriend or a pro- not so sure about a FB, ONS. Maybe a FWB hmmmm??? Good luck :)Cass xxx Oh you are 20 message me :P
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