Questions to ask each other before stepping out

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  ha! Questions!!! what other questions!!! Can I ask a question to you two first? Within your relationship together in what ever capacity, have you had any other experience of any sort with another person? This is what I believe is the factor before asking others specific advice.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Hard to say Op without knowing what you both have discussed ? I think the biggest thing to remember when going to a swingers night is to be yourselves, take your time forming a connection with other's. Be respectful of other people's feelings and probably the biggest one is if someone says NO then take it on board. Also helpful if you form a connection within friends within rhp. Always more relaxing and less apprehension if you know someone else going. And yes I've been with a partner in the past so am able to pass a comment on this topic. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  madotara69

  8 years ago

  There's that question, then the other question, or this question, and of course them questions, but they might interfere with those questions. Good luck Mado Mado Tara xx

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  Be respectful. Very daunting taking your first step into the swinging world without know all's hopping on the soap box. That's why they are asking FFS........

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  Just relax and have each other's back. Read each other's expressions. It's the unsaid words that are important. And smile........

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  MsJonesy

  8 years ago

  Why are you interested in swinging? What scares you when you think about it? What will you do if you decide you don't want to proceed? Maybe if you individually write the answers then let the other read them. You might be surprised to find that you are more honest with each other if you have time and space to reflect on your responses rather than having to come up with an instantaneous verbal response. Read each others responses and respect their right to voice them. Discuss them honestly, respectfully and with a willingness to walk away from the whole idea of swinging. Because you must be on the same wavelength and have the same level of interest in it to make it work. If you don't there is every chance a foray into swinging will rip your relationship apart.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I wouldn't have a clue. The blank space next to me never answers back. Hmm perfect partner really 😯

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  JUST remember.. that in the heat of the moment... "Shit CAN happen"No matter what DOES happen.. always promise to go home together.. and SORT it out there... BEFORE you sleep.. and before you both fuck it up altogether... Good luck eh..

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  It might be an idea to canvas each other's best case scenarios together. And also, by necessity, your worst case scenarios. Having an idea of each other's expectations beforehand might assist in ensuring they are all realized on the night. I doubt there is such a thing as too much communication beforehand. Saves grief at the time. Or later on for that matter. Look before you leap and then enjoy the experience together. Have fun! Flirty x

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  try1ngit

  8 years ago

  We always stay together when thi gs start to happen we look to the other person and have our own little signals for each other if ihat person is comfoftable with what is happening to continue. If one partner says no then it stops immediately, no ifs buts or anything. Both need to be comfortable what is happpenig. Good luck and have fun, and don't rush anything,,,,, ever.

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  bebes5eva

  8 years ago

  Just as it's important to respect others when they say no, also remember that you can turn people down for any and all propositions, don't feel pressured to play or do anything with a couple you're not interested in. You can do it respectfully and they will understand. For our first time (not that long ago) we said that we would just watch and only play with each other.

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  Mr_MrsAraps

  8 years ago

  Is going to watch and only play with your other half (and not other people) for your first time at a swingers club an option you have discussed together? A lot lower risk for first timers. As Cavey said in the heat of the moment people may unintentionally cross boundaries. Cheers,W

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  That things didn't go terribly well for the OP at their first swingers night.....

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  MsJonesy

  8 years ago

  Or someone really did get honest with what they wrote on a piece of paper 😔

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  bebes5eva

  8 years ago

  I have so few friends as it is

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