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RHP and the like......for singles.
December 28 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
Due to a lot of self discovery I now know what I am looking for in a partner The type of person I would want to be with for more than just a casual fling....and the type of person that I don't want to be with ... I guess you could also say that I may have become a little more picky..... Ok maybe a lot!!! Although unobtainable I have had a taste of what I want , of the kind of partner i want, and I won't settle for less! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
My willingness to be in a relationship is years away methinks. I'm having way too much fun.
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Missb4u
11 years ago
I think it has helped me define the type of relationship I would want and a vanilla one wouldn't cut it for me. It has also helped me grow as a person in a lot of ways as I have to deal with my own shyness each step of the way, this makes it hard to meet people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm happily single and not interested in changing that at the moment. That's why I joined RHP, I can be honest about that and still meet up with gorgeous ladies.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I learned a lot about males and I am happy about it. I also not desperate for a relationship...should it come my path I am happy to embrace it......because it has to have this two elements in it. Great communication on all levels and sex.So should this two not a line I am better off on my own....I am lucky I don't feel lonely, and after 15 years you have your quirks.
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Taby_DK
11 years ago
When I was single I loved the lifestyle RHP provided me with. It got to the stage where I had convinced myself to not let any guy in that could build to a relationship as it would kill my RHP fun. Then along comes D who managed to bulldoze his way through and bang! It was love. Not straight away mind you but after about 4 months of playing together I slowly let him in. I would not change any part of our relationship and I love him to pieces but had he not come along I reckon I would have seriously still been on RHP as a single girl. The lifestyle is just so addictive! So now we are on RHP as a couple, so in a way I still get my fix of RHP :p Taby xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Single by choice and dont see that changing anytime soon, if at all. I've already known the ultimate and I dont believe there is a man on the planet that stands a chance in light of that - relationship wise. Time will tell I guess and may even prove me wrong but until then I choose to be happy regardless.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've been wondering the same lately, does being on here leave enough 'Space' in our lives for someone special to enter?? I'm not sure... I wonder if I did not have sex available to me would I more actively seek a relationship?? Or does it stop me from jumping into the wrong relationship for the wrong reasons?? Ahhhh, it's a minefield...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71'I wonder if I did not have sex available to me would I more actively seek a relationship?? Or does it stop me from jumping into the wrong relationship for the wrong reasons?? I've wondered the same thing. And though I'm open to the idea of being more than friends with benefits, I'm not ready to be committed to only one person.
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RHP User
11 years ago
After a long marriage I am no where near ready to settle down in a committed relationship, but having a long term FWB is great.
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me i would love to be in a relationship. You know the type that makes you feel electric when you are with a special someone ,and one that drains the life out of you when you are not with that special someone. For now tho i just enjoy being single till i find that again.The good thing about dating sites is you can do just that ....Date! The Zap factor is what i seek
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think for me, I would need the honest, open communication that I currently have in order to really throw myself into a more traditional monogamous relationship. In my current life I'm comfortable saying- this is me, like it or lump it (paraphrasing) whereas in a potential relationship there are masses of compromises required to really make a go of it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hear you on the fussy/picky thing. It's like having a really great meal for lunch then being expected to eat hungry jacks or McDonald's for dinner. It's just not going to cut it hahaha.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think if you met someone wonderful, and you are open to the possibilities, being on RHP is not going to stop you from recognising the potential for something more happening. Also with the right man, I am sure you will say... RHP who? Yes the fact that you are enjoying yourself with wonderful lovers may mean that you are not actively seeking a man to have a relationship with, but I think there comes a point for everyone when they do get sick of all the searching for new lovers and they do want something with more depth and commitment. (God the c word, gives me the heebie jeebies) You will know when the time is right. In the mean time, ENJOY!! :D
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do you have to commit yourself to just one? Maybe you can have the love and commitment but have other lovers. So many different ways to have a relationship, that could work for you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why do we say settling down? Are you ready to settle down? I don't ever want to settle for anything. The implication is that you are giving up something good to settle, right? Why do relationships sound so .......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ditto :)
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Missb4u
11 years ago
You nailed it yet again! I always seem to agree with you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Why do we say settling down? Are you ready to settle down? I don't ever want to settle for anything. The implication is that you are giving up something good to settle, right? Why do relationships sound so ....... I think "settling down" and "settling for" are two totally different ideas. To me, settling down implies - in the context of a relationship - making the commitment to someone, and doesn't have any negative connotations, whereas if you settle for something, you're accepting less than what you really want and/or deserve.While not specifically looking, I'd happily settle down with the right person, but there's no way in hell I'd ever settle for anything less than I deserve. CheersJAB
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I know they are two different sayings. But still the way people say when are you doing to settle down... To me immediately brings to mind, I am not sure actually... End of freedom, the end of ex
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I know they are two different sayings. But still the way people say when are you doing to settle down... To me immediately brings to mind, I am not sure actually... End of freedom, the end of exploring, etc. I don't associate good things with settling down. Don't know why.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Guess it depends to what it is, to settle from. We have settled down a few times over the years, 20 of them. If we didn't, then we would not have been in the place at the time when the next ride came. And we have had some great lifestyle experiences, each for their own and each earns a well appreciated rest. For one reason to settle. More important the time for reflecting to where we were at, with all the reflections and people there, that became friends, good friends and it was all under one rule with respect being the only aproach to any matters, so rare there was dramas, other than the police occasionally, Noise being the debate, and one of the fellows ended up convincing the female officer to the reason that she had no reason not to have a dance with him, so we played the song he suggested and his wife sang, It was a crack up i'll tell you, The two male officers admittedly a bit young to exercise any thing much at all. Were a little unsettled by the life-sized copper crocodile in the garden next to them, and that we told them to not stand so close, as he was unpredictable, Well they didn't seem to get past the initial panic flush, perfectly natural and considering that the crock looked much nicer than most of the blokes that night. Every one of them turned up that night, as there was a guest appearance with one friend that sits at the table, you know it is going to be some conversation, that if you missed it, the next ten years you would need to listen to everyone else figure it all out, and feel just useless, for nothing to say. For a few years that sort of thing would happen weekly for it's majority, that's the lifestyle with playing as a band and with the company of many other bands, The music industry. If not for a rest it could have more serious effects to ones well being, it's a high energy game to play with a lot of tight people, so that means no one would go down for anything other than an ambulance. It is like a network for people looking out for each other as it is expected that burning the candle at both ends leads to a higher chance miss blowing one of them out and that can lead to depression, because there is just not enough of the settled down going on, so then it is hard to find the energy to give a fuck about anything for a couple or even few days. That was one time we settled for a while and rekindled what it all meant, and it meant a lot. And through it all, we have been friends as much to being in love with all the goings on. Shortly about a year settled, we ended up in this place RHP. Because if you have a bit of a look around you can see that most of the bands are still settled themselves, for us it was about ten years, some of the other folk much longer, and a fair few that enjoyed the rest just didn't get back up again, so they are dead now, but still respected never the less, because they earned it, and they did it well. And their partners were not left to mourn alone, we all looked after them. And everything was held together by feeling respected and respectable. They are very important words because they mean so much. If you can feel happy for someone that has passed, that everything was right. Then even the spouse can be happy for a good life with some pride to look at what it all was, and being sad to that is much better for a respectable lady to ease the burden. Than to being disrespected and alone, hating the bastard. (someone else's words once) Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Has RHP affected my ability or willingness to be in a relationship?... No, someone (2 people actually) outside the land of Pie has done that. . . they have triggered something in me that has me yearning for more than the "RHP lifestyle" can provide. I feel the pull of a meaningful partnership now more than ever and whilst RHP friends can provide companionship for a night or even a weekend I want more now. I have met a few ladies on this site now and whilst they are all lovely people there are only perhaps two with whom I would consider pursuing more than just drinks and dinner with, though without spending considerable time with them it would be hard to say they were my "ideal partner" just yet (I find it hard to believe many people can find "the one" without investing time and effort in getting to know someone deeply... time which the "RHP lifestyle" doesn't accommodate so well in most situations). Once talking it is getting me to shut up that is the problem, am more open and honest that I really should be... being in the land of RHP never changed that aspect... will get off my soapbox. SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's why I'm here. All care but no responsibility me. And seriously, I'm a single mum with 3 kids living in bumfuck (gosh I love that word) nowhere. I can't see anyone wanting a relationship with me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seriously though, nothing wrong with single parents. We all have a past and anyone who is going to judge your past doesn't deserve any part of your future.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'paint_me' That's why I'm here. All care but no responsibility me. And seriously, I'm a single mum with 3 kids living in bumfuck (gosh I love that word) nowhere. I can't see anyone wanting a relationship with me. Glad you added that paintme, I'll tell you why. To the last post and it was as an example for Meeka, to show that being married can truly be an adventure, and settling is moments for centring, not the responsibility other than who it is in the centre of your life. (us, Tara, myself and children) The friends each to their own for that and the responsibility to them lies within the moments when everyone is up and running. Anyone else that are alone, we all know they are right before any settling happens. (Imagine that would be a responsability you would care to in your free spirit community, songs come from dreams too. So it can be real if the energy flows to it) So it is just a difference to each as to what responsibilities are, and maybe your marriage failed because of the opposite to magnetic attractions. But don't come here and tell me that your ex's responsibility's mean you are not responsible. It would be disrespectful to let that pass and say nothing to it paintme. That is how things are, and we have friends like you paintme, actually we are going to be friends it has begun. Same with Amicus and a few. The point I am making is that we have single friends and they are maniacs too, good sorts that ride the times and are just treated with the same, respect. Loyalty is a bonding tool. And some people are just patient and content to find their sole-mate, might take 1000 years. Once they meet there is nothing can part it. Until you know it, you could easily hope it was and later find it wasn't. Miss-haps.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I couldn't agree more, why does society have such a rigid view of how life works? We are "partying" or we "settle down". Fuuuuck that, I can have my cake and eat it too by finding people who want to keep partying with me. Stay up all night, watch the sunrise, don't let the world dictate how you live your life, single or partnered. Be original. To answer the original question, RHP is helping me understand what I want and where my boundaries are, not changing me, but shaping me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Yes I know they are two different sayings. But still the way people say when are you doing to settle down... To me immediately brings to mind, I am not sure actually... End of freedom, the end of exploring, etc. I don't associate good things with settling down. Don't know why. You say the end of freedom, the end of exploring, and therefore settling down is a bad thing for you. If you were to find "the one", and feel the desire to settle down with them, would that not be the start of something new, different, maybe even better and more fulfilling? Instead of looking back at what has ended, would you be looking forward to what has started?Settling down when you're not ready to isn't going to work....because you're not ready to make any changes in your life. But when you are ready, it'll be a whole different ball game. Just a different take.. CheersJAB
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't read the terms as setting for less... I see it as settling, or stopping/pausing... I think a lot of people in here are looking around with eyes all agog going SHINEY, SHINEY... And don't allow themselves to settle and explore and appreciate the person that they are with... Or could be with... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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him_and_me
11 years ago
I was just going to agree with Just Another Bloke (and others now too) I think there is a big difference between settling for and settling down. And yes, I realise that I'm probably somewhat biased having found someone awesome to settle with. x Me
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' I don't read the terms as setting for less... I see it as settling, or stopping/pausing... I think a lot of people in here are looking around with eyes all agog going SHINEY, SHINEY... And don't allow themselves to settle and explore and appreciate the person that they are with... Or could be with... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it... What if it were called cruising, like time to cruise, cruisers. Drifting with the tides. Lets cruise for a while Baby, let the engines cool and wonder at the horizon ahead. For the singles questioning a relationship? it is done with visions, those visions can lead to destiny. One night while sleeping in my bed I had a beautiful dream That all the people of the world got together On the same wavelength And began helping one another Now in this dream universal love was the theme of the day Peace and understanding and it happened this way Remember Tick tock, tick tock, tick tock people Time's tickin' away Tribute to Stevie Ray Vaughan. Good question from Findingmemo
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