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RHP - is a relationship possible?
August 30 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
Am still happy to have my little flings but am open that if the right guy comes along and of course its mutual, wouldn't say no to a relationship. I know exactly what you mean though, I am on other more conventional dating sites and because its not openly discussed the way it is on here, its hard to know from the profiles how "vanilla" they are. As far as the trust thing I have asked this also and I guess the thing is if you meet on here and form a relationship then you obviously share the same or similar sexual interests and hopefully keep each others fires lit for a long time Depends what you mean by he's seeing someone exclusively, if its just a FB he has then by all means show your interest and if he feels the same then go for it!! I'm all about "mutual" Mutual satisfaction....Mutual interest....should always come from both sides, I would never chase someone if they were not interested or were already committed .
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think there are all sorts of people here.Some want just sex others want more.I for one have dated women on RHP and have not had sex with them.Have taken them out to lunch/dinner and enjoyed their company ,if the attraction/spark is not there ,i will not go further.There are a few of us guys who would enjoy finding a lady to have a relationship with.To get to know someone,build up trust and go further if both parties are willing.I tend to find a lot of people don't want to open up and be honest in what they want.I like to know where i stand and you will know if i like you and want to go further.I have always left it for the lady to decide if she wants to go further,if not i will not push it ,its just not meant to be.I want someone who is all mine ! Stick with it OP you never know who is out there and when you will meet them.Relationships are like looking for your keys/sunglasses ,when your looking for them you never find them.When you stop looking you realise they are on your head or in the door !
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On_Safari
11 years ago
May be naive and ill-educated but YES it IS POSSIBLE!!! Have spent a week with my "vanilla" friends who are concerned about my being here.....yes it's dangerous, yes there are "predayors" and "shallow" "evil" people here on sites like this. There are also people like me, like you, like others. Much the same as the real world just diluted or distilled depending on the individual characteristics of that person. Yes it's a game of "russian roulette" but isn't "life like that anyway"? (Sigh) had a psychic read today.....my gut is still my best guide. And I will stay true to my course. Strangely "love" was not asked of nor given or discussed.....now is not time and my "lover" leaves me soon so it will be a time for me to be good to myself. Some things just take priority. Much love JayJay and to all those here I have come to appreciate for who they are to me, whether real, deserved or not. :). Indy On Safari and kicking back with the Beautiful People. xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think many people come here for their own various reasons, to have their needs and wants met.I have had many conversations with both females and males over this same topic.Who knows the right answer????1) Can men on this site be trusted given that sex seems to be readily available at the click of a mouse.Men are beautiful human beings and are just like you and I.They have the same emotions and feelings as women.They are no different.In my eyes "TRUST" in a huge word...I don't give it out freely or just hand it over.It's a huge thing for me.I believe everyone starts off as strangers and only over time it is earned.2) If you're interested in a man but find out he's seeing someone exclusively do you back off or continue to chase? What do you mean by "exclusive"? As in a loving, open relationship? Happily married? If a couple is in an "exclusive" HAPPY relationship, I back off! I mean who am I to deny two people of their happiness.There are lots of couples that come here looking for that extra spice and they can!Why not?I am looking for EQUALS, people who fit in with me and I fit in with them, meaningful REAL relationships.To me this site is not just a SEX SITE - some people do think that because it advertises as an adult site and that sex is handed out willy nilly. PFFFT to them!!My heart is open, who knows what the future brings.One day at a time...Foxy one day at a time!!FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
who I teasingly asked on her facebook if she wanted me to set up a RHP profile for her to find some sex... Damned if she didn't do it herself.... then.. two weeks later, met up with a fella.... neither of them are on RHP anymore, and have been together for NEARLY a year.. Go figure.. There is a saying "Shit happens" my addition to THAT would be.. "Sometimes the SHIT is GOOD SHIT"
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RHP User
11 years ago
The first woman I ever met from this site many many moons ago also met her other half on here as well. They have a pretty open relationship and they don't "play" as much anymore but they are 2 peas in a pod. You just have to watch them to know how in love they are. Nobody in the more vanilla world would have a clue they met on here, they are just two people who found each other and it happened to be on RHP.There are all kinds of people on here, just as there are everywhere else.....the good, the bad and the ugly (spiritually I mean)Your odds are at least as good on RHP as they are in a pub or club and from what I am hearing from other friends on more traditional dating sites, your interactions here may be more honest. That is the key really, honesty.....yours and theirs. Trust flows from honesty and communication wina little bit of demonstration thrown in. I don't see why you can't have a pretty good go at finding the kind of relationship you want, be it NSA, a true friend with whom you share benefits, a lover or a partner. It may seem I have my rosé coloured glasses on or perhaps not, but the world looks pretty funky either way at times :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
success stories from RHP.It does give hope for others looking on here.I think it has to do with POSSIBILITIES.Like someone once said to me - like buying a lottery ticket.Exactly what justforfunisall said "Open and honest communication is the key and trust builds from that".FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had a relationship with a man I met here. It ended, as relationships sometimes do, but while we were together it was a pretty normal, committed, loving thing. Anything's possible in this world and perhaps it's as simple as giving yourself lots of opportunity - being here could be a good opportunity :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
So my question for the men is, are most men just looking for FWB or are there some who are also looking for a long term relationship?Can't answer for others but I would hope they are straight shooting in their profile.As with normal dating sites there will be people who misrepresent their intentions or are just plain out scum... the fun is with sifting the wheat from the chaff.Personally I'm not looking for sex or a relationship only because I believe actively looking is as Kizza alluded to is not going to help... so if sex or a relationship comes then GREAT.. if not then no great loss.My profile reads Separated and FB/FWB (will have to recheck that in a min) because I have separated from my wife and until the divorce has been settled early next year I won't falsely advertise my full availability... until then if someone special comes along and we are compatible then I'm all for a casual relationship.Come early next year the profile will read Single and "Looking for someone special..." etc (or similar... need to engage a wordsmith methinks)Play safe, have fun and good luck with finding someone who is right for you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well said you beautiful man
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Kizz and even you my Cavey!!! lol someday some woman's going to have a bigger club (pours another drink and laughs delightedly to myself over men wanting love too, cos ya do!). There are some special men still out there, and some of us women "not equipped" with the appropriate set of knives....lol I prefer to give everyone a fighting chance and let 'em see me coming.
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leeroybbad
11 years ago
I think it is much the same on here as in the the real world just in the comfort of your own home with a few more filters.Love is found in many guises and will probably catch you when you are least looking for it. I think at least on this site people are open about sexuality, so it is good to know there are good 'normal' people out there without sexual hang ups.Trust is something that definitely has to be earned and really should not ever be broken. Can men be trusted...that's a very good question...Can women be trusted...I think it's all about timing, respect and perspective. Above all else...life's a joke...so why not have a bit of fun ;-)
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sweetgem
11 years ago
In my own experience anyway. At least most men on this site are being more upfront about what they want, unlike those vanilla dating sites where the majority of men are merely seeking sex, but they pretend to be looking for a serious relationship, but once they got you into bed they'll be long gone without a trace! So OP, you can trust the men you meet on RHP given that you've taken your time to get to know them, use your own judgement and common sense to determine if a man is telling truth or lies, etc. If I see a man's profile which says attached or married or "ask me" in the relationship status, I simple click out of it and go next! I have no more interest in attached or married man as I grow mature, so no, I won't go chasing them at all. Although I do not have time to commit to a fully committed relationship right now, I don't rule out any possibility either if the right man comes along. I won't deny a relationship if it happens, that's why I am seeking a companionship at this stage, just to keep my opportunity open.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
after reading all your comments and advice I feel much more comfortable being on here. I guess I just needed some reassurance as some of my friends have been so negative about me joining rhp. But I am of the same opinion as many of you about sites like RSVP where a lot of men claim to be looking for a relationship but all they want is sex, at least here people seem to be more transparent. Thanks again and good luck to you all, I hope you find what you're looking for.
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RHP User
11 years ago
when I say exclusive.....a friend of mine met someone from here and one of his former FWB's couldn't accept that he had met someone he wanted to be exclusive with. She continued to chase him relentlessly, posted comments in the forums with subtle hints suggesting they were still meeting up and playing mind games until my friend starting questioning whether she could trust this man. It caused a lot of problems between them and they almost stopped seeing each other. So I just wondered if this was a common thing and whether you would do the same if a former FWB met someone else or would you respect their relationship?
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RHP User
11 years ago
This Forum may interest you.http://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Any-guys-want-a-relationship-and-adventurous-Fun-40400FOXYKIZZA - You're husband materiel! mwwwwwwwwwwah
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a motto....don't trust anyone....that's it....keep living your life for you, if you wake up and there's someone in your bed, then yay you. If there's not, then you've not lost anything have you??- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Op this has been mentioned in a couple of other forums, and as mentioned then I personally don't see why it can not happen on RPH. People keep saying this is a sex site, yet it is classes as an adult dating site. I think it all depends on what you put out there on your profile. Anyway all the best in your search.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Put a ring on it !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is that a proposal??????FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Relationships aren't found , they are formed . Just as marriage doesn't keep people together , love does. Anything thing is possible if we LIVE - LOVE & LAUGH
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chevtrek
11 years ago
What is love baby don't hurt me no more. We can find it anywhere but its finding the right one to make life feel wonderful. Yes you might find it here or other sights or just walking down the road.
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RHP User
11 years ago
is possible...but probable is a different matter
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RHP User
11 years ago
I put the very same thing up on a different forum on here but from a guys point of view
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ive been seeing a lovely guy from here ( shall remain anonymous) and hoping to continue with the relationship...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jess_4U' when I say exclusive.....a friend of mine met someone from here and one of his former FWB's couldn't accept that he had met someone he wanted to be exclusive with. She continued to chase him relentlessly, posted comments in the forums with subtle hints suggesting they were still meeting up and playing mind games until my friend starting questioning whether she could trust this man. It caused a lot of problems between them and they almost stopped seeing each other. So I just wondered if this was a common thing and whether you would do the same if a former FWB met someone else or would you respect their relationship? sounds all to messy for me!!I think this sort of drama does happen on this site and in Real Life.It's all boils down to OPEN and HONEST communication.If they are not open and honest, people can get hurt.The best advice I can give you is just be a supportive friend to your friend.And be true to yourself.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ding26' Ive been seeing a lovely guy from here ( shall remain anonymous) and hoping to continue with the relationship... Ding, I am happy for you. Hope it works out for you xxFOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
A relationship is always a possibility - if two people meet and the sparks fly it won't matter one iota what the tagline in their profile said or what they 'thought' they wanted. As mentioned, relationships develop naturally.FWB or NSA is often code for "still looking but not in any particular hurry and I need to know you sexually before anything else" ... This is in fact your situation as confessed - you need to find people willing to explore sexually .. then amongst them you you will be looking for the relationship qualities you seek.I differ from many with regard to whole taken / married 'roadblock' most seem to espouse. If you are looking for a life partner / soulmate and you find them, the fact that they are married or taken simply means they are with the wrong person and you are doing everyone involved a favour. Are you here to appease other women, follow conventions and to deny yourself precisely what you are looking for or are you determined to get that which you desire and deserve ? If you can suddenly let go of someone you genuinely ache for simply because you find out they are 'taken' then you didn't really want them in the first place and were just looking for an excuse. Conversely if the subject of your desire refuses your advances because they are 'taken' then they have found what you are looking for.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If your looking too hard probably not, if however as some have said just go with the flow meet people and who knows. Most on here seek nothing further than FWB and even some who state that are confused as they only really want FBs (fuck me and see ya later). I knew a man who met his partner here they had trust issues too and are no longer here, not sure though if that means they just didnt take it elsewhere.The trust issues I found here only made me realise that you never really know people you may find someone elsewhere who may be hiding things too.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry for part two of your question....Once that man told me he was in a committed relationship as he put it I backed off.....even though he said he was still allowed to play I knew our sexual connection was strong. Only thing was a short time later we somehow resumed our sexting I hadnt planned to meet up with him and wasnt aware she didnt know...then one day I got a phone call no one answered?? and he didnt text me that day. I knew and confirmed it the next day. We ceased contact ....he contacted me again at a later stage but I said no.So I am not sure if all women will back off......sometimes they are not told the whole story....is said man is still here thye may think hes available...or if they chase him and he doesnt want it its up to him to put a stop to it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Jess A lot of men are here for NSA sex. Many men come here because, whilst they are open to a relationship, they don't want the pressure of raised expectations ...and would like to enjoy sexual relationships in the meantime. If you stay here, you need to be clear and honest with others about what you want...and also to follow your instincts. If you end up having sex, then have it purely for self enjoyment and without expectation - because it may not lead to anything further. I met my other half on a site like this. At first we weren't exclusive. Then, as we got to know each other better we decided we both wanted more than being fwb. Now we've been together almost 2 years and are trying to conceive. So I come here for forums only :). Good luck whatever you decide.
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captainkaos
11 years ago
I have been in long term relationships with a couple of women from this site. We are actually still friends. The strange thing is that they are also friends with my ex-wife now. It's funny/weird how everyone gets along so well. lol. I guess that they have the same personality. The type of person that will help anyone and will brighten a room when they walk in. Sadly there was something missing in the sex dept...... It's a very long story and I don't want to bore you with all of the details but..... Ideally I would like another long tern relationship.. I just may be too picky with the things that I desire in a woman for a long term relationship.....and no I am not talking about looks. We all live in hope though.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I strong believe it is about taking risks and the possibilities when meeting people.I've met people who I thought "Nah never going to work" or "OMF Lord this man is not only beautiful on the outside but strikingly appealing the inside."It's weird how relationships pan out and develop over time.I know there is someone for somebody, and somebody for someone.I know there is someone for me out there, he just hasn't found me yet!If we don't put ourselves out there, then how are we suppose to meet people??FOXY
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Jess before anyone else can love you :) and Bathsheba good luck with conceivingabd enjoy the moments attempting!! So glad you and your partner are happy. Indy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' Quoting 'ding26' Ive been seeing a lovely guy from here ( shall remain anonymous) and hoping to continue with the relationship... Ding, I am happy for you. Hope it works out for you xxFOXY Thanks lovely!!! Its not easy with work and family commitments, but its been good so far
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RHP User
11 years ago
No, I have no idea what other guys want, but I do know you should be careful, there are lots of crazy people out there, not just men, as you have found already, and not just online. BUTT....;) ... You could also find mr right for you, there are others on here seeking different things. Speaking for myself, I'm looking for a relationship with someone who wants to experiment sexually, that could be anything from a polygamous relationship to a traditional m/f union. Depends on the person(s). Funny thing is, I'm not that fussed about staying single either, I guess it's complicated, but I'm happy to wait for the right thing rather than settle. Looking at my profile again, it doesn't convey any of that! Anyway, meet strangers at a public place, have a trusted friend you can call to let them know its going ok, turn on GPS tracking on your phone, etc Having said all that, I do believe MOST people are basically good, and you just have to look....;) stay safe and good luck!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Iv recently just ended a relationship that started from rhp might have only lasted 5months but it was still real. We both sat down and deleted each others profiles and went from there. There is hope :) just be careful and don't believe everything you see and hear, play it smart hun - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I met someone on here and we really hit it off, in general and sexually, I would definitely be open to a relationship. That's not my main objective though, as my main objective is simply meeting new people. Having said that, there's nothing nicer than the natural progression of a relationship (too soft for RHP? :P) Personally, I am more comfortable being myself entirely from day 1 (sexually) when I'm seeing someone casually compared to the standard type of dating routine. OP, I wish you the best of luck and hope you've come across some great people :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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