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March 11 2015

I just want to remind everyone to READ some ones profile before messaging. Like i explicitly state what kind of messages i want to receive, and to not send flirts in my profile. Yet I get non stop messages and flirts ignoring it. You are wasting your time if you are not reading some ones profile. I have had snark when I respond to one sentence messages with "please read my profile and resend this message in terms of the guidelines i state." You are paying money to be on here and send messages. Read the profile.

Comments

  • TheLuckyOne

    TheLuckyOne

    10 years ago

    I realise it must be frustrating for you but why let it get you that worked up? Just delete them and move on. I'm sure you have bigger and better things to worry about! 😀😀

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Miss BBW.... most guys can't read..... while they're busy edging. Sure, its annoying, but, add them to the block list and you're exercising your filter.

  • tipper930

    tipper930

    10 years ago

    I agree with Jerseygirl I'm sorry to say...... I wouldn't even bother raising an eyebrow, it's not that hard to just delete them......I put quite an effort into a message if she has put an effort in her profile. The messages will have compliments, flirts, teasing, humour, politeness and respect in them in some form. A high % don't even reply back, I just laugh to myself thinking you don't know what your missing and move on........ It's cyber world and you shouldn't take things to heart or be too sensitive.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Agree totally just forget ,delete move on. There seems to be a large number of people that cannot seem to get past looking at the pictures. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    that even though you have taken time out to write a profile that reflects you, including your wants, needs, desires and also what you don't want, this means little. Your profile is not your profile, its for their viewing pleasure especially if you have pics Your profile writings are a nuisance. The words get in the way of the goal It means that prospective hookups have to take like 2-3 minutes out of their day to read and get to know a little of you to decide whether they want to get to know a whole lot of you. This is 2-3 minutes of their life they will never get back, and for many, this time out takes far too much effort (which makes you wonder what their like in bed) so its much better for them to just fire off a blanket message that suits them to one and all and hopefully your profile and subsequent reply will fit in with them. Simples. But as JerseyGirl said. Just shake your head, delete and move on. There is always another message

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    don't be surprised if you find that people don't take a lot of notice of your request. I don't use a mobile to access RHP but a lot of people do, and if my 12" laptop will only show the upper half of a profile, I suspect a lot of people on phones might not see much further down the profile than your pic, decide that it's worth a try, and send you a flirt or short message without checking the rest of your profile. Lazy, I know but some people are programmed for the scattergun approach, and think that if they send their daily allowance of messages every day, sooner or later some poor desperate person will respond. I browse through the forums whenever I login, but a lot of people don't, and making a request to respect the wishes expressed in your profile via the forum is really not likely to be seen by the people who are ignoring those wishes. Not trying to criticize you or put you down, just trying to suggest a couple of reasons why not everyone will accede to your profie requests.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    When did people do as they are told?...perhaps if you threaten them with my little paddle they just might...xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    OMG no I just send messages. I do read the profile but only once I have decided to message and I message because your profile says you are female. What else the profile has to say means nothing really, as it can not apply to me, I am special, unique, the exception to every rule . The rude ones are the ones that do not understand how their lives are just empty without me, those that can not understand why I don't need to follow the rules. This is me we are talking about, don't mistake me as one of the unwashed masses and get ready for the best of everything my 3" limp, beer gutted, balding, toothless body can provide, and my selfish, cynical mind can imagine.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Oh seriously?? You call that a problem? You dont have to pay and you have your pick.. please chill out, you could be a man then you'll know frustration!

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    According to the latest media chit chat, with exception of few, most are all doing the same thing, purely based on physical attraction is the kicker, personality later on after the initial get together. So if you put up pics of yourself at your worst, the messages will follow accordingly, you are creating your own problem. Apparently..... don't shoot the messenger Mado Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Chill and enjoy the experiences...stop trying to control everyone and you may enjoy your experience more. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    Actually scrap that bit about shooting the messenger, I'll take a smack from Miss Freya's paddle please.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I hear you, but unfortunately most of the people you are aiming your message at don't read the forums any more than profiles I think. Here's the five step survival manual: Open message, roll eyes, block, delete, next.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'myprofileisreal' Oh seriously?? You call that a problem? You dont have to pay and you have your pick.. please chill out, you could be a man then you'll know frustration! Things may turn around for you when you stop looking like you're having a wiz on the wall.

  • QLDtwo4fun

    QLDtwo4fun

    10 years ago

    Sorry I was so attracted to that line in your profile I forgot what else you wanted and why we are too old to fit your criteria. So I sent you a wink and a pro forma message.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Great big deep breath. In and out! Now, relax. Try and look at it on the other side of the fence, the message you want these gentleman to send, may not be the type of message any of these gentleman wish to write. Doing something, even sending a message to someone is never a waste of time. However, sitting inert like a frozen Rabbit in front of oncoming headlights is. My last point, is whilst you are busy rejecting all these would be suitors because they haven't written the message just the way you want it written, you may be loosing out on some fantastic experiences. It's impossible to know someone simply from one or two messages sent back and forth. The same as it's impossible to know, if you are going to like someone solely based on their photo. It's a whole package. The message makes up about 10% of a person, as does the photo. The remainder comes from a persons sparkle, their eyes laughing when they speak to you, their smile. Their laugh. Their intelligence, their character, as in are they actually a nice person to hang around. No-one likes being bossed around and being told what to do. Telling a man he MUST message you in a certain way, is almost the same as asking him if he'd like a drink and he says, he'll have a coffee and you say No because you only make cups of tea and he must have only what you make. That little tune that goes.... "Run, Rabbit, Run Rabbit, run, run, run.....' That's what men will do!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It's rare to discover a male personage has actually read the profile. Get good with the delete and ignore buttons... (Ignore button is very hard to find at first. Gets easier with time) 😗 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • 6exxy

    6exxy

    10 years ago

    All the best to ya!😏

  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    10 years ago

    It takes about 50 times more time to read a profile compared to sending a wink. I don't know it is a good logic but someone may think wink is less wasteful.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ReallyQuoting 'Paintmegold' It's rare to discover a male personage has actually read the profile. Get good with the delete and ignore buttons... (Ignore button is very hard to find at first. Gets easier with time) 😗 - Posted from rhpmobile Really? I read them all.. Im a time management type of guy. Perhaps the ones that actually do message you haven't read it and the many that have swiftly move on.. But if you believe it your way it cant be you! can it? lol such sourness on a site thats meant to be fun..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You women are cruel.... 😡

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ...willysnuts 8/ This is RHP mate... We've ALL got 12" laptops here... OP... If they can't read, then they can't read... Next. Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...

  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    10 years ago

    Put right at the top of your profile in bold. ----NO WINKS NO COUPLES NO ONE LINERS----

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    Great vent but the bus just doesn't stop. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Most profiles are a sales blurb on what someone once thought they might present themselves to catch the eye of someone. Once you start to chat you find out who they are and what they really want. If you use the app then all you see first is pictures and your tag line, send a message from this screen and you don't get to read. Of course people can go to the profile and then message but hey why not ask someone direct....isn't that polite ? Most girls only look at the photos any ways LOL

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Blindman67' OMG no I just send messages. I do read the profile but only once I have decided to message and I message because your profile says you are female. What else the profile has to say means nothing really, as it can not apply to me, I am special, unique, the exception to every rule . The rude ones are the ones that do not understand how their lives are just empty without me, those that can not understand why I don't need to follow the rules. This is me we are talking about, don't mistake me as one of the unwashed masses and get ready for the best of everything my 3" limp, beer gutted, balding, toothless body can provide, and my selfish, cynical mind can imagine. Actually I mostly read a profile when they reply saying 'Fuck me now', obviously I do little reading these days LOL

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    OP. I know it is frustrating but dont let a few illiterates and disrespectful people ruin your experience here. You, as an adult, have the power to decide w how your rhp experience turns out for you. You could mop and shake your skinny carrot against the high heavens above and swear at them. Will change anything? . NO. So let it go, be positive and enjoy the ride. Laugh it off and just shake your head otherwise you'll sink in the rhp quicksand without a trace and even worse, without a bonk. Lol. . Like any journey there will be bumps and distractions but keep your wits about yourself and your sense of humor. This is just one of them. The choice is yours. Best wishes. Xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Don't you know there are children starving in Africa! Every day someone somewhere will get useless flirts, messages that don't meet the criteria, but the great thing is you don't need to care you can ignore and delete move on and wait for the message that will strike you and be everything you want it to be, so get your knickers out of a knot, have smile and enjoy the rest of rhp 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Take it easy on the girl. For goodness sake. You all need to get a handle on tje situation and not get your knickers in a knot. Ironic. Lol. You all don't need to nail her to the cross for venting. Everybody breath. Now that is better, right? Cheers all. X

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Again... mine meant no harm , wrote it with a smile! Sounds like you need to take a breath lily 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ana123. Contrary to some peoples beliefs, you are entitled to express your opinion in these public forums... Knock yourself out sunshine :) Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Ahhh.... Nah! Lol

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    troll

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'rupamohan' It takes about 50 times more time to read a profile compared to sending a wink. I don't know it is a good logic but someone may think wink is less wasteful. So are you saying reading a profile is more time-wasting than sending a flirt? If someone found reading my long profile a waste of time, a date with me would be like never-ending hell!

  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'rupamohan' It takes about 50 times more time to read a profile compared to sending a wink. I don't know it is a good logic but someone may think wink is less wasteful. So are you saying reading a profile is more time-wasting than sending a flirt? I am saying on behalf of others who may think in this way. I rarely share my mind in these forums. If someone found reading my long profile a waste of time, a date with me would be like never-ending hell!

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' If someone found reading my long profile a waste of time, a date with me would be like never-ending hell! IF someone found reading my profile an ordeal.... there wouldn't BE a meet. DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    The poster has a valid opinion... In my opinion. How's the breathing going ? Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Okay. I have opened my profile again and in the first day I have received three messages. Two from blokes looking for NSA telling me they are keen to swing and I won't be disappointed, and another from a couple even though I am only looking for men. This is my profile below. I thought from this profile I shouldn't get any messages at all. I suppose the below is not clear? What do you all think? About Me I am only here for the forums, besides I am looking for love and plenty of strings so move right along. ;-) Happy to receive messages from forum friends.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Put your tits away, they're in the way of your profile. :-P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    "Hey how are you" from a couple, who are too young and too short, and who only practise safe sex sometimes. Next.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Two new messages... "can we see your private gallery" and "are you married" Sigh.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Put your tits away, they're in the way of your profile. :-P Okay. You are probably right. Hmmm what pic should I put up now?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Okay, I can see that opening my profile again is going to be challenging. This is a few lines from a message I just received from a handsome young man. i love seeing and trying new things hehe ill mever say no to anything inless i have tried it atleast 2 times hehe, i can also get quite wild when in the bedroom hehe so watch out OMG, the temptation to tell him what wild can really mean is SO tempting. I.... MUST.... RESIST.... MY CONSTANT NEED TO CORRUPT PEOPLE!!!

  • TheLuckyOne

    TheLuckyOne

    10 years ago

    You must love getting messages like that! hehe. All these sexy, sophisticated men of RHP banging down your door hehe. How can you resist? hehehehehe

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    This is a tips and advice section. I am not "worked up" but thanks for trying to gaslight me :) I am giving tips and advice. If you cant handle tips and advice don't read the section.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    This isn't a vent its a tip for people to use the website better to have a better experience. I am not asking for advice on how to use the website, I am having a fine time. I am just letting others know that I would have replied to more messages if they had simply take the 30 seconds to read through my profile, as is the point of the forum.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'myprofileisreal' ReallyQuoting 'Paintmegold' It's rare to discover a male personage has actually read the profile. Get good with the delete and ignore buttons... (Ignore button is very hard to find at first. Gets easier with time) 😗 - Posted from rhpmobile Really? I read them all.. Im a time management type of guy. Perhaps the ones that actually do message you haven't read it and the many that have swiftly move on.. But if you believe it your way it cant be you! can it? lol such sourness on a site thats meant to be fun.. Not sure why you even bothered posting its obvious you think women on here get it easier than men. There are positives and negatives for both genders on here. Just saying

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    See what I mean. The broom sweeps.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Don't put any pics up at all. You won't get so many " Nice tits/arse - Wanna fuck?" messages. As a grey ghost, you will no longer get hundreds of messages and flirts. But then the few messages you do get are more likely to have looked at your profile.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Haha. I get you. I haven't had time to read the rest of the posts. The filth some people want to stir to get attention so I just skip and ignore his posts as not worth engaging. Sad life he leads when stalking me in the forum.. Let some critters remain where they belong. Sweep them back under the bridge I say. Lol.

  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    10 years ago

    May be only 5 in 100 members come to forums. Moreover what makes you think those who don't read profiles will read forums. A mass appeal at some social media may work. Hope this helps. Good luck lady!!!