M44
Really.....Just a simple message would be nice!
October 01 2012
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
I agree with you there! I doesn't take a lot to respond to someone and it is good manners! Nice profile pic too btw ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh I completely agree... I've had this happen many times where I've been cheerily messaged by a couple, then when I reply and open my PG.... *tumbleweed*. I make a conscious effort myself to reply to everyone, even if it's a short 'no thanks', and even if after talking to someone for some time I finally see their photos and know there's nothing there for me, I'll say so. Not everyone is my type, and I'm definitely not everyone's type. I much prefer blunt honesty to the silent treatment...! And please don't give me that crap about 'not having the time to reply'; if you could take the time to send me a half page email, have the decency to write one sentence! /rant
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RHP User
12 years ago
Look I agree with you...however thats people for you - people are rude on here as much as people are rude in RL You cant change people...and trust me, if they are like that hiding behind a coumputer well, you know..do you really want to play with them anyway ? No offence.... but this subject has been done to death.................you cant instill manners in people and the only person that can change in this scenario is you Im just wondering ...why post a forum on this subject ? are you trying to attract the attention of the couple/profile that hasnt responded to you or offended you ?, in all honesty, do you think they would really care ??..Im not having a shot at you, Im just wondeirng what your motivation is, to write a post when the answer is blatantly obvious ??
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RHP User
12 years ago
MsVelvetblue, Not at all am I posting this because of a couple!This is an on going thing......just gets frustrating and wondering whats the reasons or if I was alone with this one lol are my pics that bad hahahhaha
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep.
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RHP User
12 years ago
couples are terrible arent they? how dare they not answer the dozens and dozens of messages and flirts they receive every week? how dare they expect a guy to be able to impress them both? how dare they not critique a guys profile and pics? omfg .....the audacity of them! how dare they not play with young men, younger than their own children? shocking...just shocking....i dont know how they sleep, safe and warm, in each others loving arms, without waking every second minute...racked with guilt for not answering the sophisticated message that some stranger sent them earlier? i mean.... how could anyone resist a message like "heya....like yr profile an pix....wanna fuck?" or the 7 pictures of some guys penis? how could any self respecting couple not put everything to one side after seeing some strangers eenie teenie peenie? lol....
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RHP User
12 years ago
@ Naughty All courtesy rules go out the door...the same rules in RL don't seem to apply here but then how many people do you know are truly courteous in RL ? I just took a glance at your profile...its nicely written...you sound fine...can string some words together, thats always appealing... Im not opposed to tats ...I have two myself, but thats pretty intense ink your carrying and could..I stress the word could, put some ladies off....(not me but then Im like 4000 kms away and too old ) ...but there could be 5692 other reasons why people dont get back to you. Trust me, if they are that rude...you dont want to play with them anyway !!! Welcome to RHP !!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
But give me access to your pg and then I might be able to tell you what's going wrong... (or right) hahaha ... ;-)....
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RHP User
12 years ago
The thing is, you've broken the biggest rule in the book, and that is, to hold everyone else to your own moral interpretation of what's right, wrong etc. Once again I do agree with you, but just because you talk to someone on here and exchange a few messages, doesn't guarantee you anything, for whatever the reasoning is its just not the issue. The other fact is, couples ARE different to singles in the sense they don't NEED you to play, they merely are WANTING to play with another guy, and you being the intelligent, and may I say strapping young man that you are, shouldn't be worrying yourself so much about things like this.
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MissSarahCurious
12 years ago
Some people aren't good at hurting people's feelings, and being interested in someone then changing your mind when you see their face puts them in the position of "if you don't have anything nice to say...." Also, there are some times when it's hard for me to say no to someone when there's nothing really wrong with them yet at the same time there's nothing that makes me want to jump them so I think about it for a while, and then I just forget.. Nobody's perfect.Anyway, getting back to your problem, maybe it's the pics? Do you have clear face pics? Do you have douchebag hair? Giant oversize sunglasses that obscure your face? Got all your teeth?Look 10 years older than your age? Are you doing a duckface, sticking your tongue out or generally doing those "Oh man look how much fun I'm having, I'm like a *cuh-ray-zeee* party boy, yo!" Look like an asshole?Smoking in your pics?Got your arm around an ex (or otherwise) girlfriend?Standing in front of a filthy mirror?Standing in a messy bedroom or, worse, a room with an obvious feminine presence?Bad oompa-loompa fake tan?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Indigo says, "who are you? Please.....I must know!" to the man in black who simply replies.."get used to disappointment" paraphrased I know for anyone else that is a fan, but a bit of truth there. We can't change the way other people choose to act, only the way we do. So my suggestion is....keep your chin up, rant and rave for a bit and then soldier on
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi ya, Sorry to say, but most sites are like this..Its all too hard to reply, either way!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I have received hundreds of messages and flirts , ever after saying on my profile no more guys , but they continue , I have coped abuse and threats , and had one nutter follow me home after I unwisely agreed to meet him , the Police were involved in that one - sorry guys its my choice whether I reply or not , but as I said before I have bombarded by guys who cant read or dont bother to read the profile , plus guys who seem to think I'd want to meet a obese guy - yuck .Married Guys are the other problem , playing around and all of a sudden the wife cant make it for all sort of excuses , or the other ones who tell you they are allowed to play - yeah sure . So sorry I can t reply to all of them , and as a metter of fact I have stopped its on my profile - NO MORE GUYS
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi! Naughtybynight81:) Thanks for your Topic.. I'm sorry you're finding some very Inconsiderate People ..I agree with MsVelvetblue.. I Checked out your Profile It was Informative and a good read .Plus your very sexy artistic Pic maybe they wanted a look at your face he!he! .. Seriously They did you a favour because they're shown to be inconsiderate and selfish with you before you meet.Therefore you can gauge they would be as Lovers too..all about them.. On a Positive note..This way you didn't waste time so much as weeded out the undesireables..You'll find the Perfect couple soon, so don't let others Frustrate you because they don't have Manners..Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
not sending excuses at all but we are back on this site for about 2 weeks at present and there is over 140 messages in our inbox... most from people who do not fit the profile of what we are looking for. I am not going to waste 3 hours repling to them all........... If thats rude, then we are rude
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for the discussion everyone.I do relies there are thousands of guys on here hounding couples and singles....But I am talking about couples that are looking for me and message me, I am not one to hound on a couple or single female I am very easy going :) maybe to friendly part of my canadian culture hahaha :pThere are a lot of fantastic people on here tho... :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' couples are terrible arent they? how dare they not answer the dozens and dozens of messages and flirts they receive every week? how dare they expect a guy to be able to impress them both? how dare they not critique a guys profile and pics? omfg .....the audacity of them! how dare they not play with young men, younger than their own children? shocking...just shocking....i dont know how they sleep, safe and warm, in each others loving arms, without waking every second minute...racked with guilt for not answering the sophisticated message that some stranger sent them earlier? i mean.... how could anyone resist a message like "heya....like yr profile an pix....wanna fuck?" or the 7 pictures of some guys penis? how could any self respecting couple not put everything to one side after seeing some strangers eenie teenie peenie? lol.... Welcome to the Mike and Shel show,Kick, Bite. Scratch !Give him some credit FFS !At least his profile is hand written not a string of pro formas !And whats with the Assumptions about the OP's contact letter and photos Huh ? How is 31 too young ? Have you seen the OP's penis ? No, Have a shit day did we ?The couple in question have replied and requested to see the private galleries, given that, I agree damn rude !But along with everyone else, for a single guy thats the game buddy rude arrogant people !Consider they have done you a favour and spared you more wasted time !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Quoting 'mikeandshel' couples are terrible arent they? how dare they not answer the dozens and dozens of messages and flirts they receive every week? how dare they expect a guy to be able to impress them both? how dare they not critique a guys profile and pics? omfg .....the audacity of them! how dare they not play with young men, younger than their own children? shocking...just shocking....i dont know how they sleep, safe and warm, in each others loving arms, without waking every second minute...racked with guilt for not answering the sophisticated message that some stranger sent them earlier? i mean.... how could anyone resist a message like "heya....like yr profile an pix....wanna fuck?" or the 7 pictures of some guys penis? how could any self respecting couple not put everything to one side after seeing some strangers eenie teenie peenie? lol.... Welcome to the Mike and Shel show, Kick, Bite. Scratch ! Give him some credit FFS ! At least his profile is hand written not a string of pro formas ! And whats with the Assumptions about the OP's contact letter and photos Huh ? How is 31 too young ? Have you seen the OP's penis ? No, Have a shit day did we ? The couple in question have replied and requested to see the private galleries, given that, I agree damn rude ! But along with everyone else, for a single guy thats the game buddy rude arrogant people ! Consider they have done you a favour and spared you more wasted time ! are you kidding? you didnt read what we wrote and think it real? lol...thats classic...and very very clever... not. oh thats just too funny....lol...
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RHP User
12 years ago
we get what the OP says...but its been done to death..and really...nobody HAS to answer any message anyone sends, there is no code of conduct, and no standard of behavior... for us, our experience with rude and disrespectful men has been a ridiculously long and drawn out one...and we are lambasted for not responding?... ffs...we receive dozens of messages each week..... but only a handful are from people who have read our profile...and registered what it says...these we respond to, no issue, no drama... but those who are not what we seek...and that includes 31 year old young men, younger than our own 'babies'.....we refuse to answer. without any compunction or guilt...and we get that many many other couples are in exactly the same boat.....we ask for pics if theres a little interest, but if we receive a gallery that consists of 7 photos of some guys cock....interest is gone, immediately... to be asked to critique a guys profile is just another not very well thought out fishing expedition...we refuse to do this, as previously our honesty was taken as criticism, and made into something nasty.... we have tired of saying polite 'no, but thanks' to guys who really have no idea...who havent read our profile, and who have absolutely nothing to offer us....what i wrote previously was not a personal dig at the OP, as he knows full well that we have never crossed paths..it was a general swipe at all those who complain about couples...or even single women, not answering or not following up.... without first considering things like..... how much attention they already receive from all over the country....and who they are receiving the atttention from....maybe they are just 'one' of a potential few hundred who will look at ar profile on any given day, and perhaps even make some sort of contact....what i wrote previously began with an LOL and ended the same way....LOL.
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RHP User
12 years ago
mmmm Id def send you a message back, yay or nay :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh you didn't mean it ? It was all a big joke ! yeah right, silly me !You be scornful Oh My what was I thinking ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
no..you just pissed me off with your attitude..i was having a half fun dig at all those who complain about not receiving responses... until you added your 2 cents worth...well done... was your point of view that of someone who receives dozens and dozens of messages every week, from people you arent even looking for? no? thought not.... lol..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have three friendly templates for replying when I'm not interested. (Not meeting my height requirement, Just not my type, and one for married men). I find most people will actually write back to say "Thanks for replying and all the best". And the guy today that replied: "According to your profile I am your type, so you should change it and stop wasting people's time!"? There's something called a Block Button.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' no..you just pissed me off with your attitude..i was having a half fun dig at all those who complain about not receiving responses... until you added your 2 cents worth...well done... was your point of view that of someone who receives dozens and dozens of messages every week, from people you arent even looking for? no? thought not.... lol.. If that was the case then yes it would have been funny/appropriate but the Op said they replied, they were interested and requested gallery pics and then shut him down, not the same as the usual bitching but you pilloried him anyway !Nuff said.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Quoting 'mikeandshel' no..you just pissed me off with your attitude..i was having a half fun dig at all those who complain about not receiving responses... until you added your 2 cents worth...well done... was your point of view that of someone who receives dozens and dozens of messages every week, from people you arent even looking for? no? thought not.... lol.. If that was the case then yes it would have been funny/appropriate but the Op said they replied, they were interested and requested gallery pics and then shut him down, not the same as the usual bitching but you pilloried him anyway ! Nuff said. in 'your' opinion....that is....... we have done the same, and will do it again and again...we ask for a guys pics...and get a gallery of cock shots, or of totally pointless pics...and every time this happens, we give the guy the flick...i wonder why that might be?...and no...we didnt 'pillory' the guy...it was an example of the sorts of things we as a couple constantly get thrown at us... its almost like ....'how dare we say no' ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you wolf whistle a woman in the streets and she doesn't reply ...fair enough However if you spark up a conversation with someone in the street, then mid way though chatting they look the other way and walk off.... Yeah, I'd find that rude too! Of course, there's no obligation to reply, but in this situation where you've already exchanged a few messages, how hard is it? Not all us blokes are axe wielding mass murders that can't handle rejection. Not all of us need an explanation as to why either ... A simple 'no thanks' would be fine for most. Sure, I hear people say " a no reply means no thanks anyway so why bother " ... whether your on an Internet dating site or in the real world, for me, it's just the polite thing to do! However, I'm curious about the photo's in your PG though, are they that bad for people not to respond??
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