Rejection

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  For you, that might be true. So I would suggest to do and say what you would like done to you. How would you like the other couple to tell you that they find one of you 'unattractive'? Perhaps do that... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  ...''Thanks but no thanks'' is really all you need to say, or ''Sorry but you're not what we're looking for right now'' is really all you need. It happens all the time out here in the Land of the Single Male and a polite ''no'' is fine. LOL...I doubt you need to say that one of them looks like a hat full of dirty diapers? Best of luck...... CM

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Attraction and connection is very important. The more people you add to the equation, the more difficult it becomes to capture these things for all parties involved. After all it's supposed to be a fun experience right? So you definitely have the right to not feel guilty if you don't find one half of the couple attractive. This being said, consideration of the other couples feelings is also important. If you wouldn't like to hear something about yourself, then definitely don't say it so someone else. A simple 'thanks but this probably isn't for us right now' is all that's needed. Courtesy and manners costs nothing 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Curioustwo88

  8 years ago

  We try to always respond, even to people who don't meet our requirements I.e single men. We usually just say "thanks but you're not what we are looking for. For us we treat people how we'd like to be treated. We're all adults (we'd hope) and can handle a polite no thanks. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I've face pics in one private album and my more risqué in the other these days. I've done sometimes where I've opened up my face pics first and said along the lines of 'If these look fine we can open other pics, if not that's fine as well'. I think if you're willing to put yourself up for rejection firstly it makes it easier to (politely) then be the one to reject if you want to. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  langton11

  8 years ago

  and like mentioned above, the standard thanks but no thanks etc is suffice, albeit a little awkward after having already started to walk the that as it were. The one partner letting the team down is the bane of my existence and 70%+ of the time it's the damn male that keeps dropping the ball, sort your shit out guys or I'm never going to get to hook up lol.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  That's poor rejectee's. Close to 20 pages on many poor rejectee's on the No replies thread. If all took theirs in the same stride you have RHP would run much more smoothly. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  behind the scenes, 'the real thing' (sorry just having a coke) can in fact be something entirely different, can't think of anything clever to say there 😄 Although I haven't hooked up with a couple on here, I have considered it and communicated with some when I was open to that, and also found I would find one attractive and not the other, though age was the biggest issue for me, most couples I spoke to were much older than I like. It gave me a deeper understanding of how incredibly hard it must be for couples, where all 4 people have to be attracted, an almost impossible task, as Langton pointed out. Regarding face being opened, if they are being opened after communications are underway, meaning after a few messages have been exchanged, I honestly feel like you owe them nothing, particularly when the wife is pimped out and further pictures reveal the male half is gross, carefully hidden away in pg. So I would agree a polite rejection if you feel the need to do that, or no reply if they appear to have structured it deceptively. You are in control, don't feel obliged to be polite if that deception is there, I wouldn't 😃

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  You should probably delete the other comment by Fit_Geek then mods, which refers to CM's now deleted comment.

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  noeleena

  8 years ago

  Hi . I,m well used to that and over a life time of 59 years, nothing new. age now over 69. I would rather people say why I,m rejected so I can improve what my fail points are, I,m a tough woman and have had to work through a lot of issues and become tough so I could get through life , and now here I go again. this time I see my fail point and why, more so when it comes to any thing sexual, so I,m working through it . Some ... well many know my issues and others I tell then straight off what it is and why, most accept and ask me Lots of ?? s and I,m more than happy to explain . those who cant be bothered they go . As to photos all around the world so nothing to hide and no different from the one I have here. maybe I,m just too well known. and my name,and apart from all that I,m coming to age is the major issue for myself. or is it for others and maybe that's what I have to learn and understand , and from comments here, Sorry I don't have an answer only what I see going on, oh I did see one detail those ...NOW... who reject others because of age will find its going to catch up with them and maybe they will know what its like for us, they wont want to of cause yet it will, so dare I say who,s the pretty one then. ...noeleena..

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  OTT response, imo... On topic... I agree that you should be considerate and polite, as per suggestions above.

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