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Rejection!!!! How do you take it???
January 14 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
Move on. It was not likely to work anyway. There are always plenty more fish in the sea willing to reject you as well lol :P
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
TBH, my first feelings are usually disappointment and sometimes anger. ButBig ones can sometimes teach us valuable things if we want to learn and also help build resilience. They will sting but lots of things are out of our control.So why focus on what didn't happen think about what can be instead? Its OK to have a bit of a pity party when it happens though. We are only human and we do get hurt, angry and sad and caught up within those feelings. Thats when I call a good, honest friend to unload to. I usually feel a bit more clear headed then. Also, I usually cry if it meant something. I find it cathartic. LOL
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PurePeony
7 years ago
1) Never burn your bridges! Sometimes, the door slams in your face not because you are the wrong person - it could be the wrong time or something totally unrelated to you as influenced the decision. It's not always about you, y'know! 😁 Develop a thick skin and don't make it personal. 2) Love yourself LOTS! If you believe you're a great person, you almost never get affected by rejection. It doesn't make you sink into dramatic depths if you truly love yourself because you believe that you deserve good things in life so maybe, whatever or whoever rejected you just ain't good enough! 😉 3) A "No" today can become a "Yes" tomorrow! I've experienced in real life, two amazing situations with regards to jobs. I was turned down after an interview once... BUT a good 6 months later, I received a call from the Manager - I didn't know that I had left such an impression on her that she created a new role in the organisation just for me! 😮😃 2nd instance, I was made redundant because a new senior executive disliked me and played bitchy politics. BUT, a good three years later, I was contacted by the Manager who now works for that firm plus another one, asked if I was interested in a similar role in the other firm. I said "Yes!" and just like that, no interview, got the job! 😄😄😄 Soooo... I no longer fear rejections! 😉 4) A positive attitude and The Law of Attraction If you are happy and attuned and well- adjusted with a winning attitude, you attract good things to you. That's why lucky people get luckier! And conversely, that's why it never rains but pours! I did a helluva lotta work to turn my life around from decades of declining health, increasing health issues, severe depression, underemployment, etc to a prosperous, happy, healthy and glowing life! Lots of work done on the self- love, self-development and spiritual level and Io and behold!... change your outlook, your life changes alongside it! The Law of Attraction has worked absolute wonders in my life and it all started with a shift from a negative, depressed, loser attitude to a winner's attitude, bright and positive! 😃 I'm a total believer in positivity now! 😉 Soooo... someone's just rejected me? It's ok, Jose! When a door closes, another one always opens in its place. Whoever's rejected me was an anchovy - my fresh salmon is arriving soon! 🤣 I now give thanks for closed doors and slammed doors because it means that wouldn't have been the best place for me, and I was rescued from wasting further time and resources on an incompatible offer. So OP, rejection can sometimes be good stuff! 😉😄
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gazpacho
7 years ago
“Next” is more of a manifesto than a mantra. Of the thousands of people you have sex with, sometimes someone does something with you that is exactly what you need at that moment in space and time. It’s very rare, I reckon, but you know it when it happens and it’s memorable. Not just memorable, more like an other worldly type connection. So rare. So, “next” is what you say until you experience that connection again. The people you fuck or don’t fuck are irrelevant until that happens. If you’re rejected by someone, then you’ve saved time. Clearly they haven’t got the ability to make that connection. Right? Hugs Gaz
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swingalingson
7 years ago
Deep...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sometimes it takes time to tell...
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RHP User
7 years ago
There was a record producer who said "no" to a record deal with The Beatles. That puts it into perspective for me :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
....get up, brush yourself ff and keep on walking....rejection just means nobody is wasting each other’s time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
7 years ago
Hire a couple of wranglers to go beat the shit out of them. Mado Mado Tara xx
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
if you know why ,it’s when you go from going awesome to 10 day old prawn heads and your left scratching your head ,that’s harder , imo - Posted from rhpmobile
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gazpacho
7 years ago
Old prawns????
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MrandMrsBrady
7 years ago
Sometimes I laugh, sometimes I think ok fair enough and other times I let it get to me...start to question myself then I get o we myself ...mixed bag really mrs u - Posted from rhpmobile
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swingalingson
7 years ago
Dont let nobody let you down or slow your stride oh no you gotta keep on gotta keep on.. Surely there is a song bout that???
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RHP User
7 years ago
I scream Fuck you with my middle finger bouncing up and down at the screen. 😎
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RHP User
7 years ago
For me at least, I dont get caught up in it. Its not personal if they don't know you. We often say no, or at least don't say yes straight off the bat, because we are time poor or busy speaking to others that we have already initiated contact with. Try again later if you wish or move on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
7 years ago
... that sometimes, one gets rejected not because they aren't good enough, but because they are too good and deemed "out of their league" and too much of a challenge on their comfort zone? 😉😄
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PurePeony
7 years ago
That's a great one! 👍 There's a famous Taiwanese rapper who made an acting appearance in Now You See Me 2, Jay Chou. He was told that he was "too ugly" to ever make it big in the music world, but because of his talent, was given the role of songwriter. He's made it BIG time since! His MTVs are er... eclectic and memorable, quite "arty", he has suave dance moves, and has since released too many albums, etc etc. But let's not forget... he was initially rejected for being "too ugly" to ever survive the Chinese pop industry! 🤣🤣🤣
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inspirit
7 years ago
People are busy, havd their own shit going on, its not a personal thing, its life in general. Gaz, yeah you're right. Have you found yours again? - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
7 years ago
Rejection comes in various forms. It doesn’t always have to be the rejection from people who I have just met, but can also be from people whom I have known for years and for their own reasons, they suddenly slow down on the contacts/interaction, and gradually shift away from the friendship radar. At my age and given my life experiences today, I find no rejections are any big deals anymore because I am well equipped with wisdom nowadays, as well as understanding that it is not me that people are rejecting. It is just wrong time wrong place and I do not always have what I want 😊 it is just life basically and like PurePeony has mentioned, love myself lots! Because when I love myself more, I would not want to hold in any negativity that would make me sad or have self doubt. Another form of rejection to me is the disagreement with my opinions on things. For example, a friend of mine posted on a social media yesterday about young kids getting cyber bully and she dreads for her child to grow up in today’s social media influenced environment, etc. I made a comment on her post saying that we, the adults, must teach our next generation to know how to fight back when they get bullied. Her partner interpreted my message in his own sense, misunderstood my point, totally didn’t agree with my view on that and started insulting me by saying that it’s people like me that make things even worse! All because I use the term “fight back” instead of “defend” and he interpreted that term as in “bully back”!......well, how did I feel when I read that someone whom I don’t even know come and throw in the insult?......it wasn’t easy to take on the insult (which is the rejection of my point of view) for the first five seconds I must admit! But instead of being reactive and lost it, I closed the app and walked away from my phone for five minutes, then returned with a calm head and let the partner know that he was been disrespectful to me with his comment, as he doesn’t know me and what bullies I had copped in my early years of settling in in Australia, as a new migrant who couldn’t speak a word of English! So, if I didn’t learn to fight back at that time, how would I survive the bullies I received from the native English speakers?!......my whole point for mentioning this incident as an example is, rejection can also be in the form of someone being disagreeing with our point of views, because they reject to react in a calm manner and reject to keep an open mind about other people’s views! 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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SeekingAdvent380
7 years ago
Perhaps change the way you are approaching people. Be a gentleman and leave any reference to sex out of your initial contact. A compliment never hurts with your greeting. Don't be presumptuous or arrogant, etc If they aren't interested theres not much you can do about it. If they are rude just ignore it. You wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyway! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Now its with a grain of Salt.................
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RHP User
7 years ago
😘 I absolutely hate telling someone I don’t feel a sexual attraction to them. And I know I’m a tough gig in that regards. It makes me feel really bad but I couldn’t do the slowly show disinterest and hope they get the message or ghosting thing I’m a bit of a straight shooter that way. In reply I have had it only twice where they have gone right off the deep end at me and I then I think phew dodged a bullet there. On the reverse side I just say thnx and wish them the best of luck. I don’t give it much of a second thought and don’t feel emotionally stunned by it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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gazpacho
7 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' People are busy, havd their own shit going on, its not a personal thing, its life in general. Gaz, yeah you're right. Have you found yours again? - Posted from rhpmobile Thanks for asking I'm making some changes, progressively, to improve my health and well being. Moved to a beach suburb and brought my orchid collection with me. Reduced workload. More international travel. I might trade in my old motorbike for a new one and go down to Victoria's Sth Coast for a while.. or something. XX
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Sawadee
7 years ago
I would feel hurt. How could they possibly do that to me ? Do they know what they're going to be missing out on by their actions ? Tongue in cheek ' I know , but plenty of truth in that. Just our way of dealing with it if it ever happens ? Truth is i'm dealing with this atm ? Just before Xmas , I backed out of a nice friendship because I could sense it was turning into something deeper so I made the break before that happened.. Why ? because of a big age difference.. and even though I made the move, feelings still linger... A case of the rejector feeling rejected I guess ?
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Dryphuz
7 years ago
Job application rejections, i've gotten so used to that they had become just another excuse to make a paper plane or spend some time cleaning out my inbox. In relationships or potential relationships i have no problems if its before things start. For example if we go on a couple of dates and i'm enjoying myself, but she's not into it, then thats fine no big deal. Also if things have gone much further, but she loses interest i might be a bit more cut up, but i wont blame them or explode if they want out. But i'm a very cynical person, so I'm pretty much always expecting the worst. The one kind of rejection i cant take is when i got to the fridge and theres nothing there i want. Or i call up for pizza and they've just closed. In situations like that you're likely to find me a dribbling, crying mess on the floor curled around a stick of butter.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Rejection is when your hand falls asleep during masturbation.
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SeekingAdvent380
7 years ago
Better your hand than the alternative. Fortunately my dick still finds me attractive - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Take it... Like a disgruntled postal worker :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Their idiots. Or; I just dodged a bullet ! Either is a win for moi ! 😉😉😜
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Dryphuz
7 years ago
Quoting 'countrytouch' Rejection is when your hand falls asleep during masturbation. That technique is called "The Stranger".
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Dryphuz' The one kind of rejection i cant take is when i got to the fridge and theres nothing there i want. Or i call up for pizza and they've just closed. In situations like that you're likely to find me a dribbling, crying mess on the floor curled around a stick of butter. Thought about comedy? Seriously. The kind of humour that might go down well in front of a microphone. All sorts of left-of-centre people function well in that environment, it helps actually to be not your standard white caucasian. Apparently it also helps on the rejection/women front. Hell, even I tried it a few times, and look where I am! Ok, still single, mmm... yes, maybe ignore my advice... :P
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
I merely remove them from my thoughts.... Doesn’t mean I like rejection though as it DOES eat away at your self worth if you let it ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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bubbles_n_flash
7 years ago
I find the best way to take rejection is to become highly agitated and passive aggressive with people that have absolutely nothing to do with said rejection or even know what is going on in you personal life. Or Suck it up, tighten your belt and move on. Either should work. - Posted from rhpmobile
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