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Relationships and age ...
January 31 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
This fascinates me and I also really want to know how men feel about the age of a partner, relationship partner that is. My dilemma is this. Obviously I hook up with much younger guys, quite often 20's and 30's, so not relationship age but interesting that I've found guys in their 40's are happy to have sex with women in our age bracket, but still I believe (and this is the bit i'd like to hear more about from men) they chase younger women as well (which is fine of course) and would choose to be in a relationship with let's say a woman in her 30's rather than early 50's like me. They admit the sex is better with older women, but when it comes to choosing a partner, i fully believe most would opt for the younger woman. Stupid in my opinion. I obviously like em young lol but if I found a guy in his 50's who turned me on, sex was great, i'd grab him in a hot second, the number of his age wouldn't make any difference. Guys, am I right assuming it matters to you 'what your mates think', does it have at least a bit to do with puffing your chest out and saying her younger age, as opposed to the concerned looks you might get lol if you said she was older? It seems to me to be about ego. All I want is to find someone who turns me on (off the planet type thing) and me them, the rest is just conversation 😯😁 but I really think i'll have more luck finding a guy in his 30's rather than 40's, guys in their 30's have quite often already had kids, not satisfied sexually, so then are gaggin for full on sexual action/satisfaction. They don't look down in age from my experience, they look up, for a very good reason 😉 I do have more concrete stuff I could add to back up my theory, but don't want to open a can of worms again. Anyway, interested to hear from the guys 😎
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RHP User
9 years ago
The age change from here to vanilla site, guessing they're younger on here? lol 😁 Makes you wonder who they're trying to kid, some look decades older than their stated age 😎
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' The age change from here to vanilla site, guessing they're younger on here? lol 😁 Makes you wonder who they're trying to kid, some look decades older than their stated age 😎 I would love to hear how the 50+ M&G in Perth went today. While I think it was a great idea, the fact that so many real 50+ members have their RHP ages listed below 50 would have stopped them going as they didn't meet the age criteria set when registering. Sadly, capturing the 50+ crowd would require advertising an event for the 40+ members! LOL This observation probably isn't going to be too popular but just saying it how I see it. I don't the age debate is confined to WA either. In a perfect world we would be accepted for who we are and we would be happy being it too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yeah, and interesting that a lot of young guys state their age as older than they really are when they're chasing an older age bracket. Can't blame them really. Anyway, I've hijacked the topic, sorry, i'll bugger off lol and let our beautiful men speak 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
...sounds fascinating. Promise I won't stick the knife in your back. I don't do that...
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RHP User
9 years ago
ummmm.. you did check of course and you are totally confident that it is ONLY males who are doing this.. aren't you ?I KNOW you said... ".. not restricted to only men...."BUT.. trust me.. Women DO do this too ....I wont bother naming or hinting at anyone because I honestly couldn't give a fig...AND...I have been personally "Outed" to a dear friend I have in the "Outside" worldAND... I accidently stumbled onto a 2nd profile of a personal associate on RHP..The delightful Dear had two profiles.. both of them almost diametrically opposed in character...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Where the male half of the couple is 85 and his partner is 57...,they have been together for about twelve years..they are perfect for each other but she is worried about his health and losing him...I think the question should be why do men or women choose much younger partners or much older partners...surely it can only work in the long term if there are many more things that they have in common other than sex or money ..interesting question though. LG xxFreya
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MrMechanic
9 years ago
over quantity perhaps
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RHP User
9 years ago
Interesting topic with excellent points of views. Will watch this with interest. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Age has never been a hurdle for me. Long term relations consist of her being same age, 2 yrs older and 5 - 10 years younger. Never seeked on age criteria ever. If the connection is there and you are on the same mental page then no reason to let 10 yrs diff matter. But of i cant figure the dynamics of 20-30 years diff that older men seem to have young trophy partners. Lucky they have curvy wallets to afford the viagra and the BMW runabouts for her to head off in to meet their lovers on the side. Oh Annie, you are such a bitch........
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RHP User
9 years ago
on vanilla dating sites that age is a restrictive criteria. Indeed men there prefer ladies who are younger than them at least as per the birth certificate..Whereas I have not come across similar attitude on RHP - may be the opposite..I have gotten a couple of flirts from men saying they are interested in meeting me cos I am a mature woman....at the ripe age of 37...little do they know that I act and live my life as a 27year old:) and my brain is usually of a 17 year old....:) but that is irrelevant on vanilla sites - there I am VERY MATURE with my age - WAY OVER the anticipated age max of 25 that a man is willing to consider as someone to settle down with...even when they are 35 or more.. I think there is a gap in the online dating market scene and that is for people who are between 32-60...this age group does not socialize in pubs..at dance festivals etc etc..and most dating sites cater for the younger generation of less than 30.. When interestingly women tend to prefer men who are older than them - from a "settling down" point of view...so my dream guy is 35-45 years old, loves the ocean, loves to spend his time active, and hmmm...loves having good sex..he would not smoke, would not have children (or would not be living with him constantly) and would not be planning to have more..and is not intimidated by some brain power :).I am taking applications :)
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chevtrek
9 years ago
As for younger guys they tend to brag and I know moreabout some ladies than I want to and I never even had sex with them.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Few have mentioned having kids and I fully appreciate age is a big factor for that, which is why i'd be chasing a guy, ideally, who had already had kids, divorced of course, and ready for some dirty fun lol Freya, the almost 30 year age gap in that relationship would be like me having a boyfriend in his 20's which is ridiculous. Not judging anyone else who would choose to do that but that wouldn't be considering his needs, children etc and the age gap when older, as you said, is amplified. I just can't imagine being happy with a mature age guy so I don't know what the answer is for me, teeny bit of compromise maybe 😃 I'm too used to spending time with younger men, so much so that I doubt i'd even be turned on by someone my age, great sex is the priority, without that, i'm not interested, like I said, everything else is conversation, i'd rather stay single and fuck randoms 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
but on RHP I would suggest men lower their age due to many females low upper limit (prefering young) and females who state a lower age. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
My opinion is I don't give a fuck what other people think. Your doing the "let's fuck this up before it even starts" overthinking it female thing.You put your big girl pants on when you came to rhp so why start worrying now what other people think ?I'm not embarrassed to be with any female that wants to be with me, in the past I've done much older than me and currently have been with a few younger than me. Sneer mongers, I snigger in your general direction.
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RHP User
9 years ago
That can mean any woman 30s up . I can't imagine anything worse than interrupting a intimate moment with either you or them wanting to talk about your do's and don't. You should sense if that person is comfortable to be with or not. If you're wanting a loving relationship , that will come naturally when the time is right.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was once accused of 'overthinking' by a guy who just wasn't into me, as I discovered. Turned out my 'overthinking' was bang on. He pulled that card to make it sound like I was the one stuffing it up, too gutless to say what he really felt. So we're not overthinking here, the question has been asked and it's being discussed. Different opinions as always, but I think your comment is a bit harsh. My observations are exactly that, but i'm genuinely interested to hear how guys of all ages feel about it, that's all. It's just out of interest, what's wrong with that? And I do have my big girl panties on 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
Never understood why one would change their age but I am a huge believer in take me as I am so what's the point of kidding oneself and others. My age preferences are much the same on any site, though I would prefer five years either way in a relationship for generational connection. By this I mean things we grew up with and certain commonalities more likely to be found. This assumption is not always correct but in general how I have seen it. Incidentally I saw an ad for the new 'Dad's Army' movie and was thinking that people after my generation may think it is a film about children who fight for their father's in some way
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am confident you are right.Changing profile age and age preferences isn’t only limited to men.I know of several ladies who also do it.I put my hand up to doing it myself when I just turned 50 and had trouble coming to terms with that. I have been told I look a lot younger than my profile age by several guys I have met here and that I could “get away with putting my age anywhere from 40-45”.After coming to terms with my 50 year milestone I actually wear it as a badge of honor now so always keep it true these days. I have been told by some that they keep their profile age at 50 or under because potential playmates don’t search in the over 50 category.There seems to be some truth in that.My profile views dropped off considerably since I’ve kept it 50+.But that’s ok with me…. I’m not interested in quantity only quality as they say. My assumption is that if people who are looking for a life partner are more truthful and if only looking for a fuck buddy then they don’t really care what they tell someone because they don’t intend on it going any further.Or they want to increase their chances of successful hook ups by showing themselves as being younger than they are. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Good point that some men may still want a family so they prefer someone who also wants the same. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hardly overthinking things!And my big girl pants come on and off as I please … LOL. The topic is about why do some people change their profile age depending on what type of site they are searching.It’s not about what age you have done but good luck to you either way.Glad to see age has no barriers for you. I was surprised at 50year old men who do not want to meet a woman aged 50 or above.So even someone of the same age is too old for them!!! LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' Having said that, I've encountered a lot of men on vanilla's sites who state they want children. Wanting a partner closer to their own age or younger would in that case make sense to me. Yes I agree. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' I was surprised at 50year old men who do not want to meet a woman aged 50 or above.So even someone of the same age is too old for them!!! LG Your overthinking it. I'm sure it's not all and I'm sure it happens vice versa. Maybe some guys who like physical outdoor stuff think a younger woman is more suitable maybe they just want young sex, maybe maybe maybe
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've walked around with your question in my head, made coffee, fed the chooks, mowed the lawn and the reason is...... "It's a how long is a piece of string" question. As many answers as there are men. For me it's because I'm fit and active - do outdoorsy stuff and too many over 50 women have had too much coffee and cake and prefer to sit in cinemas and coffee shops. But then I only have one profile on one site so don't mind me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ive met guys off here in ages ranging from 27 to 51. All great blokes. None of them looking for anything serious which is fine by me. Some of the younger ones have told me that they eventually want to settle down and have children but are just looking for fun til then. Which is how it should be, sow your wild oats and all that. If I was looking for a partner, he would be around 40. I have always been with younger men, and someone might prove me wrong, but thats my preference. I was chatting to a guy on here who was into all sorts of kinks, gang bangs, orgies etc, and I saw him on a vanilla site. He was the epitome of the white picket fence husband to be...all "Ill make you pancakes on Sunday mornings" and sunset strolls. So is he still going to pursue his kinks after meeting his vanilla girl? Id rather hook up with someone off a site like RHP. Age really means nothing to me in the grand scheme of things, Id rather have honesty.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Good post. I'm with you on this one, age means nothing in the grand scheme of things. Honesty IS far more important. After all , if it feels good and both are in tune, it can't be all that bad.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo'I was chatting to a guy on here who was into all sorts of kinks, gang bangs, orgies etc, and I saw him on a vanilla site. He was the epitome of the white picket fence husband to be...all "Ill make you pancakes on Sunday mornings" and sunset strolls. So is he still going to pursue his kinks after meeting his vanilla girl? Id rather hook up with someone off a site like RHP. Age really means nothing to me in the grand scheme of things, Id rather have honesty. Hmmm, I don't remember chatting... :p But you're right, honesty is good, but obviously a little flexibility on exact details seems to be used by many. BTW there are some previous forums on people who are on both adult and non-adult sites, so to speak. The consensus is... as 50wetfigs says... there is no consensus. Everyone is different. Everyone has different reasons for their approach to their own profile or who they are seeking (regarding age and more) on either vanilla or adult sites. For what it's worth, and as others have alluded to, some people are happy to settle down in some form or another, but realising the difficulty in finding said person, they may as well explore all their kinks while they are single and free. Also, they are not mutually exclusive: being an incurable romantic yet having naughty kinks.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' The topic is about why do some people change their profile age depending on what type of site they are searching.It’s not about what age you have done but good luck to you either way.Glad to see age has no barriers for you. I was surprised at 50year old men who do not want to meet a woman aged 50 or above.So even someone of the same age is too old for them!!! LG 3 words Leo_girl... MID-LIFE-CRISIS!! If we can pick up a "youngin", means we still got it LOL!!! But to be frank chronological age does not matter as much as MENTAL and EMOTIONAL age. I am not on any Vanilla sites, just this one. But if I was,I'd still be straight forward about my age and I would have the same search criteria +/- 10 years from my age. I guess its because I can relate to people my own age more. That and my experiences with younger ones have been less than positive.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
What's the story with women? Totally acceptable for a 50 yo woman to have a fuckship with a 25 yo guy. Reverse the roles. He's having a mid life crisis. Disgusting old perv. Put it back in your pants, you are old enough to be her father. Lol. Double standards much? Finished?.........Gawd......
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RHP User
9 years ago
Who's been watching MKR then ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway' What's the story with women? Totally acceptable for a 50 yo woman to have a fuckship with a 25 yo guy. Reverse the roles. He's having a mid life crisis. Disgusting old perv. Put it back in your pants, you are old enough to be her father. Lol. Double standards much? Finished?.........Gawd......
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inspirit
9 years ago
In reading your post, I have to wonder why you have asked these questions? Personally, I don't care to much about what others seek. It's about what I seek. If they want to mix up the truth, that's their business and to be honest, I wouldnt really notice and if I did, I would have to take the piss and have a giggle. Im only here and over there for the glossy pictures. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Haha I totally agree. I personally don't judge older men with younger women but those judgments are widespread. I've said before, when I was young, I lusted after older men, now that i'm 'older', I lust after younger men, go figure 😯 but a lot more to that than what people realise, not just the physical, much more for me, won't go into that. Always keep options open though, I never ignore a message or flirt based on the age. I just thrive on youth, they grab life by the balls lol I fuckin love that 😁
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RHP User
9 years ago
Oh and i'm having a midlife crisis, loving every minute of it. Having a boob job next week, buying the corvette the week after 😉
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cat_n_the_hatter
9 years ago
We found this site by accident really, but thought it is so unusual and subversive that we decided to join in and we follow it's dynamics since. Most people here are courageous and non conformist and I find it refreshing. People here still want to explore life, expand their experiences as well, let go of some of their fears, and be more understanding of others. So, dear Leo girl, you could be harboring a belief that you are not worthy of respect or an honest relationship. I can only tell you this. You could not be further from the truth. If a man decides to restrict himself and refuse to be with a generous human being, that suits him in every other way, because of her age, he deserves to be alone. He could be so used to living alone, that he would change his status only if someone exceptional comes his way. Also, it seems that experienced women and men, who were hurt many times before become cynical and do not open emotionally as easily as younger people. Many people believe that sexual relationship does not include emotional connection and therefore for them age is less relevant. They would not expect intimacy in sexual relationship only, but still crave for it. Those could be some reasons why majority of older men would want younger women for permanent relationship.(Ms)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' In reading your post, I have to wonder why you have asked these questions? Personally, I don't care to much about what others seek. It's about what I seek. If they want to mix up the truth, that's their business and to be honest, I wouldnt really notice and if I did, I would have to take the piss and have a giggle. Im only here and over there for the glossy pictures. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile Curiosity is my reason. In a day and age where we strive for equality I find it interesting that some don't consider another of the same age as a suitable partner. Nothing more, nothing less but an intriguing observation. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' Quoting 'inspirit' In reading your post, I have to wonder why you have asked these questions? Personally, I don't care to much about what others seek. It's about what I seek. If they want to mix up the truth, that's their business and to be honest, I wouldnt really notice and if I did, I would have to take the piss and have a giggle. Im only here and over there for the glossy pictures. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile Curiosity is my reason. In a day and age where we strive for equality I find it interesting that some don't consider another of the same age as a suitable partner. Nothing more, nothing less but an intriguing observation. LG Our ages on here are our true age but I know quite a few women our age who lower their age on RHP because they want the younger guys/girls. And the majority of women we interact with also prefer younger to much younger guys. Hence why I'd think some men lie about their ages...much the same as the women lie about theirs. Why nobody wants someone their own age anymore? Probably vanity. A lot of people on this site have a very inflated sense of self worth due to the fact they have a bigger pick of candidates than they would out in the real world and so they take full advantage of this. Kudos to them. Would it work in a relationship? Probably not but many women also use this site as a hook up site, despite so many protestations whenever its brought up. So the men lower their ages as the women are only searching for younger partners. And the women lower their ages to look more appealing to the younger guys. Broad brushstrokes? Maybe. But its the truth as I see it in here anyhow. Mr3
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
You are right. MKR was the perfect example. Cougar and her 25 yo toy boy. If it was the other way around, opinions around the table well.......a few eyerolls and backhand comments would have been on the menu. Instead, it was good on you girl
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chevtrek
9 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway' What's the story with women? Totally acceptable for a 50 yo woman to have a fuckship with a 25 yo guy. Reverse the roles. He's having a mid life crisis. Disgusting old perv. Put it back in your pants, you are old enough to be her father. Lol. Double standards much? Finished?.........Gawd...... I had at one stage girls ranging 20 to 45 and they livedwith me or near me.My now ex was 20 and I got so much flack for it but only at pleasure lounge and on here.Friends and people that I know were fine with it so seemsweird that RHP members were not.There is a big double standard on here.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Your comments offend me because they're in the third person, why don't you say how you feel about it, instead of referencing the 'people around the table'? I understand you're commenting on the double standard but are you saying we all have to fuck people our own age? Would that be a standard that sits well with you? I don't intend on changing my preferences to fit other people's standards. If it offends you or other people, that's your issue, not mine, just saying 😎
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lovman8
9 years ago
When it comes to attraction (alright lust for)to a women age is one of the last things I consider, and find myself viewing some women of all ages between about 20 and 80 as sexy and someone I'd want to and enjoy fucking. For a long term relationship there has to be a bit more then just sex so I guess I'd look for some intellectual compatibility which would probably but not necesscarily reduce the age range. However as I'm in a long term relationship and have kids and grand kids, I can't really give an informed opinion on that. As to why people feel the need to hid their true age, I don't understand because unless the encounter if a quick 5 minute fuck or blow job you are going to be found out. So why both with the hassle of lying. Oh and 'I_touch_myself2' Oh and i'm having a midlife crisis, loving every minute of it. Having a boob job next week, buying the corvette the week after 😉 Get the corvette first...........might be excitement enough and you'll for the boob job because I like your boobs the way they are!!!
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
I have a younger lover (matured 26yrs) We show affection in public do things what other people do when together. For him it's not the age thing or anything like that. We just connect. I'm happy, he's happy. However I don't see myself settling down with someone older than myself. I don't know why, I just don't. Age doesn't matter at the end of the day. I believe it's about being honest with yourself first up. If one changes their age on profiles...I question are they really being honest with their self? Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Have a large age gap, where my dad (step-dad) is younger. Makes no difference to me. I see them as an amazing couple together. It just works. If he was older, would worry me either. I've never questioned them about their age gap. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Oops... Adding the NOT makes a difference. Left that word out. ☺️ Lol. Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
The original comment may be viewed as 3rd party. Depends how you look at it. I have a condition of having more than 1 persona. A reconised mental health issue. My male persona wanted to say what was posted. Its the way he feels. He and Chev would make good friends..........nah, maybe not. Lol. I wasnt going to let him post under my name because i may not agree with what he wants to say. So i made it known. Bit weird i know. You should try it from my end. But we get by in life somehow. We have been together 40 years. But we dont bother with anniversaries.........
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
We dont have an issue with the age. He has an issue with the double standard apllied by some women. And i dont give a fuck although i kind of feel he may have included me in his reference. Try getting your head around that. ........
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nice one Annie, glad your male persona popped in, I would say there would be a shit load of men that would totally agree. You know it really is funny that women fought for way too long just for equality but when it comes to age difference in relationships it is now men that kind of need to fight for equality. I know some will argue this point but it is a societal thing to look at old man/young woman as dirty old perve or rich sugar daddy, yet not when it is old woman/young man. It is pretty obvious when comparing relative terms 'Dirty old man' in comparison to 'cougar'. Generaliasation, you betcha (which I don't generally do), but it is how I have seen it and have seen peoples reactions to this issue all through my life.
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RHP User
9 years ago
lol fair enough and intriguing, you are a fascinating person 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
has "he" got a name ? (or pseudonym)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Haha flattery will get you everywhere 👍😀
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