M39
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May 08 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
Even if its a " Thank you but I dont think we are compatible " message. Its good manners. I wont answer the really crude ones though. If you wouldnt say it to a woman outwith cyberland, dont bother sending it to me. But if its a nice message Ill reply.
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twowithnolimits
9 years ago
we agree too.. whats interesting is we made a very similar post a couple of weeks ago saying the same thing and it was not approved...
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RHP User
9 years ago
...then check to see what was sent vs what has been read. There's a fair bit of fairy floss floating around out there... don't take offence. It only takes... one.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm sitting on the fence on this one. No where does it state that someone is obligated to reply. I have had plenty of no replies, but from what I've gathered from being on here, some women/couples receive stacks and stacks of messages each day, making the commitment to reply to every one quite time consuming. So whilst I think it is polite to reply, I do understand why some don't reply.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Effectively demanding a response is one thing.... regardless of how polite you may think you were. But the flip side is that there is always a reason why you didn't get a reply. Maybe they were busy, maybe they're big interested. Maybe.... they're not even real! One thing is clear though.... no reply, is the reply. Unless they reply. You don't walk up to someone and say.... HELLO HELLO HELLO HELLO HELLO get it 😄
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RHP User
9 years ago
i try to reply to all but i find it so hard to say no because i get really hurt full mark back and get call a names like loser a old bag and so drumb
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RHP User
9 years ago
For some reason that happens from time to time when a new thread seems to go missing between the post button being pressed and the mods receiving it....I'm sure there's nothing malicious about it.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Doesn't cost anything. To have manners also does not cost anything. We are all really beautiful people to a or to a certain group of other people. If we get hit up and we don't feel that spark. We try our best to at least acknowledge that person (yes even single guys. They have feelings too people) or couples or single ladies and nicely say thank you for their interest. Etc etc Thats all we ask, is to be acknowledged. Lets give it back ten fold to our fellow rhpers as a sign of respect to them and also to ourselves.... Feel the love ;) Mr K x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Unfortunately many men don't get to the end of our profile to read that 'if we don't return your message, it's a no thanks from us!' Our profile clearly states what we're after yet many send messages knowing full well they don't meet our criteria! I don't have the time to be 'respectful' when someone hasn't respected us enough to read our profile, whether the message is decent or not! Mary xx
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
My personal profile i answer all messages........well i think i have..... However with the couples profile there are so many men that dont understand the meaning of Bi and thus our criteria, that they dont deserve a response.......and dont get one. So Op, i do agree that if you meet the criteria and your message is respectable, you deserve a response. Of some description that is respectable in return. Good luck
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Effectively demanding a response is one thing.... regardless of how polite you may think you were. But the flip side is that there is always a reason why you didn't get a reply. Maybe they were busy, maybe they're big interested. Maybe.... they're not even real! One thing is clear though.... no reply, is the reply. .........not sure where you get the idea that the OP is demanding a response. ( I re-read the post and couldn't find the word demand or implication of a demand ), I read it as wondering why common courtesy isn't that common. As stated above if the disclaimers are ignored then no response is needed, however if...........Being busy only delays a response, it doesn't negate one unless you are a bit rude
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't usually reply, I get a lot of mesages and flirts and on the rare occasion when I do decide to be 'polite' it can be unsettling. I sometimes get people who just are desperate for any communication so want to keep on messaging which I don't have time for, I have a life as well, and those who respond rudely. It's not my job to nurse people, either there's interest or there's not, what difference does it make. But you can't expect women to give up hours and hours of their time being polite. You have to understand that this is about OUR enjoyment too, we don't owe you anything, it's sex, well for me it is, but so many guys live in the hope that once communication starts, you might warm to them or form an attraction. That might happen on the very rare occasion but most times not and you'd be shocked if you knew how much time already, i spend messaging, very little of which actually results in sex, which is my personal goal. It's also not just on here, there are guys who I've started texting but don't have time to meet, partly because of the time taken with communicating on here, so try to look at it in a more realistic way. I'm a realist, I couldn't care less if guys don't respond to me. I don't want to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me, I have no interest in that, and for me personally, the formality matters zilch. I do understand not everyone feels that way, and respect that, but just my 2 cents
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aussian43
9 years ago
In all the initial messages I have sent on this site, I have only ever had a handful of responses. For me it is actually more of a kick in the guts when you do get a no thanks message from a lady. It is a concrete message she has (probably) read your messages (maybe even checked your profile) and found you wanting. If you never get a response, you can always tell yourself it slipped through the cracks, or maybe she left it for a reply later. Doesn't hurt the ego as much. With the volume of messages they get, I can understand ladies not responding. And hearing stories about rejected men lashing out, I can understand wanting to avoid the conflict. When I first joined the site I had my first rejection message in the first few days. She said my photo was creepy! That hurt, but I had a new photo up in minutes :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
A lot of times, when I reply with a polite "thanks but no thanks" kind of reply, I either get a nasty message of retaliation or a pushy message debating why I'm wrong in saying no and that I should give them a chance. Sometimes I reply but if I'm not in the mood for confrontation, I prefer to just remain quiet and not reply. I agree with mischievouslad. If the message has been read but no reply has been received, there's usually a reason and it could be either lack of time or not interested. It makes it hard for the nice ones who would accept the "thanks but no thanks" reply.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Would a woman want to respond .Your profile is the same or similar to many,even hundreds of profiles If you have a face pic it's locked away. What you have written is fairly generic. So OP who are you? Q
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Should be exercised regardless where ones are! So yes, a simple "thanks, but no thanks" reply should be returned, I agreed! However, I do not agree with expectation or demanding attitude! And if, only if, you had ever considered messaging someone whose profile caught your eyes, but they were taking a break, please do not proceed to try your luck! Because you would only show that you had been disrespectful to them by ignoring their ask for not disturbing them while they were on break, even if you wrote a decent introductory message! Break means leave them alone and please respect that! Unless they make the contact first. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't have time to reply to hundreds of messages, I'm a single mum and work full time etc etc. have a busy enough life as it is! I completely agree with 'no response IS the response'. We're all adults here. Also, I reckon 80% of the men I get messages from have their pics locked and a generic profile so give me nothing I want to respond to. I also personally find silence better than rejection and agree with aussian43 in that it hurts less that way! Each to their own though! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
And proud.....I lack common courtesy, and many other things. But.... So do those who send "hi..." So do those who send the same flirt over, and over, and over again despite a message saying thanks for the flirt but I'm not meeting people right now.... So do those whom I have no interest in.... Yeah, rude, crude and proud as fuck. So.... Feel free to tell me something I don't already know about myself, all because I don't appease those egos when and how they want me to....selfish fucks. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
A woman ( wont call her a lady) saying your photos are creepy, gosh thats so hurtful and unnessesdary. What a cold hearyed human! Looks like you dodged a bullet with that kind of attitude that likes to inflict pain on a stanger
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RHP User
9 years ago
Typing reply while walking never works well for me
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Naughty_nature
9 years ago
As a single guy sending messages would like a reply even if a thanks but no thanks. Chatting with people have found that men when receiving even this response see it as a chance to start a conversation and will then send multiple message hoping for another response. So I accept a non response as an answer the only beef I have is a profile that states if we have the decency to message you have the decency to reply even if with a not interested but then fail to apply that standard to themselves. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
template messages that tell me nothing of the person who sent it and is nothing more than a collection of phrases, nothing personalized in them, I simply ignore... I put into correspondence the same amount of effort the other party has. If they send me a one liner message I send back a one liner message - fair is fair.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Suggested replies to this message from last night? 'New flesh here, let's not Fk around. Do u want fun?' Haha don't get me wrong, the flesh part is a turn on, I have that written in my profile, but respect isn't there. Saddest part about this message is he looks mighty fine. Poor thing, if only he knew what he could have been on the receiving end of, he might have addressed me like less of a dick 😯
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry op, you said 'decent' first message, of course this last one doesn't fall into that category 😟
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RHP User
9 years ago
How do you go replying to those novel length first messages? lol 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
Even if they are not in our preferences and they put in a effort we reply.However they need to put in effort, if it's a one line email we ignore it if they do it again they get blocked. This site is full of dreamers, schemers & time wasters so we don't waste time on them & after 5 years of swinging they become easy enough to spot.
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RHP User
9 years ago
We reply to most even if it's "thanks but no thanks". Sometimes messages can get lost in the inbox when we haven't had a chance to review the profile together. After a couple of days a message can drop back a page or two and be forgotten. Must go back through the inbox to sort the hidden gems from the fools gold..... Mr D
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lovman8
9 years ago
People have a lot of reasons for not replying to messages and that's their choice. It's your choice to decide if you are going to be upset about not getting a response.That said there are a lot of nice genuine women here and I more often than not get a polite response to messages.
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aussian43
9 years ago
Quoting 'Deep_Purple' A woman ( wont call her a lady) saying your photos are creepy, gosh thats so hurtful and unnessesdary. What a cold hearyed human! Looks like you dodged a bullet with that kind of attitude that likes to inflict pain on a stanger I am actually grateful that she did respond to me in that fashion. How many other ladies may have seen my profile and silently thought the same thing?
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aussian43
9 years ago
Quoting 'Deep_Purple' A woman ( wont call her a lady) saying your photos are creepy, gosh thats so hurtful and unnessesdary. What a cold hearyed human! Looks like you dodged a bullet with that kind of attitude that likes to inflict pain on a stanger I am actually grateful that she did respond to me in that fashion. How many other ladies may have seen my profile and silently thought the same thing?
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RHP User
9 years ago
the message is polite and there has been effort put into it I will reply. Sometimes its a template reply but its still something. It is frustrating if they come back with a rude reply or try and convince you why you should talk to them when you have already made your decision but i would rather know that I've replied and that they are the ones with the problem / bullet dodged than for me to know that i didn't reply to them.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Initially OP I was determined to answer all my messages, because I thought that was the "right thing to do" if someone took the time and effort to message me That attitude lasted about a week after coping various degrees of abuse when I replied with a template message that said this (if I as rejecting them) "Thankyou for taking the time to contact me. I have read your message and viewed your profile but do not believe we are a match. Good luck with your search" The messages I got back ranged from "Can you look at my profile and tell me what is wrong with it, as I'm not having much luck " "What's wrong with me ?" to "Fuck Off C^(^^, if your so good you wouldn't be on here" and a myriad of entertaining and insulting messages in between Even tonight, I've got a abusive message from one who I've rejected who told me that I hadn't even bothered viewing his profile. I had, I just happen to be in stealth mode and he then told me I should meet with him then. I reminded him that irrespective I have rejected him , but apparently No still means Yes in so many guys eyes. Nope, I no longer feel any obligation to be polite and justify myself and my decision making to anyone anymore, especially a soulless, picture less profile on the other end of a keyboard. If the message or the profile does not match my criteria, I no longer feel the need to be nice. I didn't want to be this way, but this is the way I have become. Yes, that's my choice and I'm ok with it.
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MnauMnau
9 years ago
There is no right or wrong. What's good for me doesn't have to be good for you. The profile info means NOTHING. And it doesn't matter what it says. Some profiles are Seeking:Man,Woman,Couple,Groups,Couple (FF), but in profile text they have "Not interested in single males and you will be blocked." Or Single Woman 40 years old, and in profile text "I'm 38 and looking...my partner might join us" And some profiles contradicts even more. There is one female profile, that constantly comes up when I'm doing a match/search - "with photos, is online, is looking for me". As she is a "Guest" I've sent her 2 messages, 1 flirt and expressed few interests in DateFinder. She did not responded once. At the end, It's her choice to be fucked by 8+" cock, that she might be still looking for or she can lower her fulfilling needs and picks soMEone with 6-7" and be fucked on regularly basis. So that gives me few options/ideas - she is not interested, and move on. - write your self a note against the profile, "Don't bother to send any messages", and move on. - Block their profile, and move on. - its RHP's fake* profile... just to get people to sign in. I usually send 2-3 messages, 2-4 weeks apart, If I don't get any reply, I just move on. Think of the situation as this; You walking down the street, you like someone and you say (1) hi. If you don't get response, it can be because of many reasons (didn't hear, ect). Next time you see the same person, you say (2) hi again. You might get WTF look, ignoring you or Hi back. If you keep saying to the same person hi after WTF look and ignoring you, something is not right, with you. The choice is yours. When receiving a message, you have 2+ options - don't reply back at all (ignore and/or block sender) - reply with a message (and block sender) The choice is yours. The oldest Unread message I've sent is from 17.01.2016. - Reason unknown. If I don't block the sender I can expect more messages or requests to come. Everyone deals with it their own way, you have to find yours.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If a man does make the effort to write a message that isn't rude or a creep even if your not interested , all it takes its 20 seconds to say thank you but your not what I'm looking for ... Simple ... Not being up myself many ladies do message me and yes strange things as well however I never ignore always message back . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Unfortunately though I don't get any
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RHP User
9 years ago
Because the theme on RHP is sexual, it probally differs from say a more vanilla site where I imagine manners would be more common. I see many of the female posts here saying they don't have time to reply , yet the replies to this post suggests time is not the problem. . ? The posts in question have much more content than , Thank you , but no thank you. In fact 20 times longer..
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not only was her comment meant to hurt,it clearly is untrue..your only fault really is that you live in Gladstone😈 Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not only was her comment meant to hurt,it clearly is untrue..your only fault really is that you live in Gladstone😈 Q
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aussian43
9 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' Not only was her comment meant to hurt,it clearly is untrue..your only fault really is that you live in Gladstone😈 Q Well, the photo she was referring to is long gone, so she may have just been honest. What is wrong with Gladstone? It is a lovely town! :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry it may have seemed like I demanded a reply, that isn't the case. Just was wondering if a reply would be nice. However I do understand single women would get inundated with messages and it's makes it time consuming. Wasn't judging anyone :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Can someone please explain what it means when a message shows highlighted Red. In my Inbox, the "You are invited" message from a venue comes up highlighted Red, which I assume means "Do not respond to this message". In my Sent box Green highlighting means Unread, but occasionally I get a Red highlighted message that is Unread. Does that mean "Deleted without opening". At first I thought that it might mean "Blocked" and I went "What the...?", but I am not blocked. Please clarify.
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soretongue
9 years ago
Slightly off topic, I'm wondering from ur most recent profile pic how much work r u doing in ur new job? I knew u moved down south but ur looking more tanned? I look forward to ur impolite msg.. or not..n we're back on topic 😜
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'MnauMnau' There is no right or wrong. What's good for me doesn't have to be good for you. The profile info means NOTHING. And it doesn't matter what it says. Some profiles are Seeking:Man,Woman,Couple,Groups,Couple (FF), but in profile text they have "Not interested in single males and you will be blocked." Or Single Woman 40 years old, and in profile text "I'm 38 and looking...my partner might join us" And some profiles contradicts even more. There is one female profile, that constantly comes up when I'm doing a match/search - "with photos, is online, is looking for me". As she is a "Guest" I've sent her 2 messages, 1 flirt and expressed few interests in DateFinder. She did not responded once. At the end, It's her choice to be fucked by 8+" cock, that she might be still looking for or she can lower her fulfilling needs and picks soMEone with 6-7" and be fucked on regularly basis. So that gives me few options/ideas - she is not interested, and move on. - write your self a note against the profile, "Don't bother to send any messages", and move on. - Block their profile, and move on. - its RHP's fake* profile... just to get people to sign in. I usually send 2-3 messages, 2-4 weeks apart, If I don't get any reply, I just move on. Think of the situation as this; You walking down the street, you like someone and you say (1) hi. If you don't get response, it can be because of many reasons (didn't hear, ect). Next time you see the same person, you say (2) hi again. You might get WTF look, ignoring you or Hi back. If you keep saying to the same person hi after WTF look and ignoring you, something is not right, with you. The choice is yours. When receiving a message, you have 2+ options - don't reply back at all (ignore and/or block sender) - reply with a message (and block sender) The choice is yours. The oldest Unread message I've sent is from 17.01.2016. - Reason unknown. If I don't block the sender I can expect more messages or requests to come. Everyone deals with it their own way, you have to find y Wow. I don't even know where to start with this. I'll put it in point form, might be clearer, not something I normally like doing, but wanted to clarify a few things for you 1. She's 'looking for you' = random profiles the website matches with you or has come up on your feed. She's not ACTUALLY looking for you. They may use your preferences and hers, to do that, but she herself hasn't made the choice to express interest in you. 2. You sent her 2 messages, a flirt and put a thing in datefinder, and you think she's fake because she never responded? 3. Why are you blocking women just because they don't reply to your messages? Don't get me wrong, I'm a big blocker, love it, but what have they done wrong AND why wouldn't you want them looking at your profile, who knows, if they keep looking, no might become yes lol, never burn your bridges especially with the numbers thing. Crazy to be blocking women, anyway that's your choice, a strange one IMHO Your final comment gives 2 options when you receive a message BOTH involve blocking the sender ?? Very confused by this. I only block if I don't like the person or they've annoyed me somehow, not purely for not being interested? 4. The unread message you refer to or unread messages in general are most times read. Did you know that? I quite often read messages on the mobile and then hit the back arrow which takes me back to the inbox with the message still showing as unread, but I've read it of course. There are some messages I haven't read that eventually get pushed down, down into the dark murky depths of my inbox Most messages get read though, they don't always show as being read though. 5. Cock size ?? You're kidding me right? I'd hope for your sake not many women read that and you might want to start using your big head, the one where your brains are 6. the picky notes about stats and profiles are just more excuses for not taking no for an answer, well, when applied here Summary She's just NOT into you, NOT fake, her lack of response is a NO, and no DOES NOT mean yes. Thank you for displaying a perfect example of what we've just been saying and why we don't reply to messages, because of people feeling entitled like you Get it
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RHP User
9 years ago
when I said I hit the back arrow after reading messages, I meant the back arrow on my device, not the icon directly above the message box. If that is used, the message will then show as read. Just wanted to be clear on that. My message above is harsh, however you need to understand that we women deal with that kind of pushy behavior on a daily basis. You're not entitled and here's the thing. We have choice and it is our right to exercise that. I will never have sex with anyone I'm not attracted to, rather do the job myself, there it is. Too bad so sad
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RHP User
9 years ago
I always try to think of the other person that has sent the message (not they i get many lol) and that i would like a reply either way. The other bug bear of mine and the reason i have not gone into chat for some time know is because you can say hi to people and they just ignore you...... Hope you all have an awesome day xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Replying to a polite message is simply good manners. Sure, no need to respond to offensive messages and flirts. It doesn't take much effort to simply type "no thanks" or "sorry not what I'm looking for" if someone takes the time to send you a message.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Aries55' Replying to a polite message is simply good manners. Sure, no need to respond to offensive messages and flirts. It doesn't take much effort to simply type "no thanks" or "sorry not what I'm looking for" if someone takes the time to send you a message. It takes even less effort to simply ignore the people that cannot read but message you anyway.You guys (not all) just don't get the message, nobody is required to reply to a message if you are not what they are looking for. It really is that simple and the more you whine about it in the forums the easier it is for people to have a quick look at your profile see what you've been posting on the forums and get a better idea of what you are like attitude wise and no even bother with you. There's at least 200+ exact same threads on this exact subject, put your effort into standing out above the other 10000 single male profiles and you may just get somewhere instead of another shitty whining thread on why you are ignored in the first place.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have not had an issue with not getting replies. even when I message some whos preponderances I clearly do not meet. When I do send a message out side of preferences I acknowledge that right from the start. Mu opening message is always polite and will reference the profile I am responding too. It is important to understand that some people dont not even see non matching messages. There is a setting so you only see messages that match up to what you want. So when you get the message that says you do not match and you send any way just remember this the recipient may never see your message... LC
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' How do you go replying to those novel length first messages? lol 😉 and write about the same length :) I have done that :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think the other side of the coin is that not everyone is online every single day. I find it annoying when someone messages and then re-messages me to remind me of my lack of response after 24hr or 48hrs... I might be offline or might be busy with something else putting RHP to a lesser priority on the list (I know the shock horror?!) so have some patience..at least a week
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'soretongue' Slightly off topic, I'm wondering from ur most recent profile pic how much work r u doing in ur new job? I knew u moved down south but ur looking more tanned? I look forward to ur impolite msg.. or not..n we're back on topic 😜 Was taken while on holidays in Santorini about 15 months ago. Trust me I'm working the hours at my new job, but not sure why you felt the need to state "ur impolite msg". Your point ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
It bothered me originally that women would flat out ignore my well thought out messages. I think it's common for men to feel this way and also natural. After spending some time in this wilderness I started to learn how it works better and I would prefer that women didn't waste my time and patronise me with a template rejection reply. Women that are able to turn a rejection into a positive human interaction are awesome but there are several good reasons why many don't bother as will be supplied in this thread. There are several defenses to the negative emotions incurred from having your messages ignored that I have learned. 1) Don't put much effort into your approach messages, until you get some investment from them why invest much of your time yourself? It's still possible to create positive interactions without putting much effort into every message you write. My experience says the actual content of your message is not that meaningful, spend spare effort taking better pics. 2) Approach people in person as well as online. Women are nicer in person (sadly its often because they are scared of you) But still it helps balance the distorted reality found online. Do your part to create positive human interactions here too, even if things don't go your way. It feels good. 3) Stay with it and you will accumulate some success. Give these lucky women amazing sexual experiences and then the emotions generated when rejected skew more towards pity towards them for missing out rather than wounded ego for you. 4) Over time you will also possibly get a few approach messages of your own. Notice how you handle that and discover how saintly you yourself are. 5) Work at creating positive human interactions rather than trying to score fucks. Positivity is contagious. A cliche'd topic but always fun, thanks for posting OP. Hope I am not too condescending. Good luck.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I had a scan through and indeed the Red ones are Platinum level. Although Green in Sent definitely changes to white when the message is read. Great insight. Thanks. BTW - the following prompted me to investigate further... My favourite of all time: "Weird, usually the fat ones are more grateful for the attention". Get too many of these, OP, and you learn not to respond. "Fat ones"...really!!....What the...? You are look just fine. You are an attractive woman and they clearly have an over inflated opinion of themselves. Perhaps they should take a long look in the mirror. Arseholes.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Silence is polite... it is the occasional belligerent message I find annoying... why bother... if you do not like a person or have an issue... simply be silent or ignore them.I do!
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soretongue
9 years ago
wrong choice of words on my part. would u accept distracted by ur profile pic? 😍
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RHP User
9 years ago
okay here is a perfect example of why I don't usually reply. I did to this one tonight, very rare for me to reply at all if I'm not interested, and this should give you some idea why. Last reply I'll ever send btw Messages me saying he likes my forum posts, surprising I know so I replied in a happy tone thanking him. Get another message again saying how he loves what I write, but do I actually meet people? (there's the first clue sherlock, they try and put that guilt trip on you, have you feel sorry for them, tactics). Note here that I wasn't remotely attracted, few pictures in a pg only, no public, and there was a reason for that IMHO. Anyway I reply saying 'Hi, yes I do, of course, but if you're expressing interest, I'm going to decline. Thanks and have fun. I appreciate the compliment about the forum too, thank you xx' His reply? Yep I thought as much ............... all talk...!!! Funny there are a few people now saying this about you......."no one even knows her"............ Full of shite Yep, you don't want to know what I said after that Such a dick, he'll probably be happy to see himself being talked about here. What a loser
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RHP User
9 years ago
obviously not last reply I'll send, but last reply unless interested, just wanted to clarify and for your information, to that dude, I had sex yesterday, hours of fun with a friend I've been playing with since last year, long term fuck buddy. Not on my friends list, I keep him as my dirty little secret. He's hot, kinky and VERY horny. So when was the last time you had sex dude? A fair bit longer I would imagine
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RHP User
9 years ago
FYI. If you block someone, and then later reconsider and contact them, they will not be able to respond unless you go to your blocked list and unblock them.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I did, try again, I'm on it
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Service_man
9 years ago
I do appreciate a reply even if it no thanks. I am intelligent enough to know that you can be attractive to everyone. I do like a face shot in general profile as I am attracted to a woman's eyes first. Don't get the get the idea of just breasts profile image . I have seen a lot of breast when I was being nursed. LOL However I did an experiment on another site by putting up a different profile and the few women who said no thanks then contacted me first --- so a lot is in the way you introduce yourself and perceived image.
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Service_man
9 years ago
That should be "can't be attractive" --it is late....zzzzzzzz
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rsv6565
9 years ago
call me babe. would like to catch up
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RHP User
9 years ago
If a guy has put a little effort into writing a message, Ill respond even if its a thanks but no thanks. But send me a "wanna chat" or "Hi" etc then I'm sorry but Im not going to waste my time 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Are you hitting on the Sydney girls?
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RHP User
9 years ago
We all lead very busy life's and yes we all realise that things move at a fast pace these days, I have always try to return replies when I get them , and don't mind sending messages to guess that state will reply , the part that gets us upset is when you get a couple/person viewing you 3 or more times a day for weeks on end so you send them a nice message asking if there interested or wish to meet, and no reply just keep viewing your profile not sure why you would want to reveiw a person profile 3 or more times a day , then when you check they have read you message but still no reply , !!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I Totally agree.It takes no time to send back a "thanks but no thanks"I understand that some guys get abusive when they are told no and those guys should have their profile cancelled.A little communication would stop a lot of us sending message after message to another member .Without a reply you never actually know whether they could be interested or not.A quick reply is just good manners.Just my 2 cents worth.
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RHP User
8 years ago
This was last attempt to get back into the game but I don't think I will even get close to meeting anybody. I need to accept that i'm going to be completely alone my entire life which is heartbreaking but it helps me to actually completely give up on myself which I have been wrestling with for a while now. I can concentrate soully on making myself completely numb
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RHP User
8 years ago
As a guy that does send the odd message, I would appreciate a reply as a sign or manners. I do realise that the women I message don't just get the one that I send though. The one thing that I don't get is when you message someone that's online as you write it but it never gets read. Are people not curious? I look at the sent folder. A message can be unread as a person is on and offline numerous times. But........I'm getting off topic. I'm all for replying
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'Fifolonely' As a guy that does send the odd message, I would appreciate a reply as a sign or manners. I do realise that the women I message don't just get the one that I send though. The one thing that I don't get is when you message someone that's online as you write it but it never gets read. Are people not curious? I look at the sent folder. A message can be unread as a person is on and offline numerous times. But........I'm getting off topic. I'm all for replying A lot of the women on here due to the amount of messages they receive have their inbox set to reject any that are outside their preferences. So they may not see them if you are1 year outside their looking for range. Tarts like me, well, we read them all.......although still doesnt guarantee an answer.
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Missb4u
8 years ago
It is possible to read messages without it showing you've read the message to.
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RHP User
8 years ago
that no reply is a reply........ once I hit send I go into my sent items and erase the message......
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RHP User
8 years ago
When my profile is active, I get 10-15 messages every single day. More one Fridays and Saturdays. I don't have the time or desire to reply to that many. I reply to some, but not tacky ones, or ones with only a few words, or if the person is not who I'm looking for. My profile states I'm not interested in smokers or attached men or couples, yet I still get messages from those people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MnauMnau
8 years ago
After initial contact from a couple, Ive replied nicely and politely that I'll get back to them as I had different agenda at the time (traveling OS). Ive received nice and polite reply back. After 3 months I've sent them another reply that I'm back in OZ, but unfortunately for me I've overlooked their reply. Ive noticed it after 3-4 months. So I've replied back and genuinely explained and apologized to them. I've received not so nice reply and being blocked. So, dear couple I guess you watch certain topics and this one might be one of them. I did apologized to you for not replying. It was honest and respectful explanation and reply from me. Even being blocked, I don't have anything against you and based on your reply I'm not judging you. Most likely you had a bad experience previously with someone, maybe. But not everyone is the same. Would you rather be ignored or acknowledged? Do you feel the love now?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think I've just realised why so many men are not getting replies to the messages they send to women. I discovered this just recently and I'm guessing it's because they are messaging inactive profiles. I recently searched out all the married women in my area and made short list of of possible women to contact. Of the 12 I messaged only 2 have been read, neither has replied. None of the 12 were outside of my search criteria and as far as I can tell the vice versa is true. If I was outside of their criteria then the message would probably be filtered but I don't think this is the case. It's also apparent that the 10 who have not opened the messages have not been online recently so it's possible they have simply abandoned their profiles here.Despite all this my reply rate is still a fairly healthy percentage so I guess it pays to be selective who you message and what you say. Only some of my messages are of the "looking for you to be a possible lover" type, many are just chatting about things to do with the forums.
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RHP User
8 years ago
We will reply to everyone who sends us a well-written message that sounds like they read our profile, and who are within the realms of what our profile says we are looking for. This is going to sound bitchy, but it is starting to really annoy me... If someone messages us who is definitely not who we say we're looking for - delete. If someone messages us with a one sentence message, like "hey how ru" - delete. If the message is written like a teenager's text message - delete. If the spelling, grammar and punctuation is rubbish - delete. Autocorrect isn't an excuse - proof read before sending. The worst culprits are guys, which is ironic, because you'd think that with such a competitive market the guys would be putting in effort to make them stand out from the other thousands of guys. You get one chance at a first impression. You also have the advantage of being able to write up your profile well, put up some good photos, and to think about what you're going to write in your message. If someone is too lazy to make that effort, then they are not our kind of people. There's a good chance they're probably lazy, selfish and unimaginitive in bed, too. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes I always try to reply politely and say thanks but no thanks all the best etc but have had guys call me a slut and say that I've been rude by replying politely to them so go figure?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Kay1987' Yes I always try to reply politely and say thanks but no thanks all the best etc but have had guys call me a slut and say that I've been rude by replying politely to them so go figure?? - Posted from rhpmobile I can Vouch fr Kay :) Very polite and a nice person to boot :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I totally agree mate, I always make sure I am polite and courteous and I would expect the same in return however alas there aren't too many ladies out there that do reply. - Posted from rhpmobile
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